Funny, I've come full-circle with the whole "making her cum" thing too.
At first, I was desperate to make every girl cum, because I thought I "needed" to, or I wasn't a "real man". Whatever that meant.
Then I improved myself, worked on my sex/dating life, and had a bunch of options. At this point I started saying, "Real men don't give a shit if she orgasms - I am all that matters! Screw whether or not she enjoys herself." Yeah, I was kind of a dick.
Finally, I reached a point of true satisfaction with my sex life and who I am. I'm in a really good place, I've met a tonne of really awesome girls, and I've had my needs met. I'm satisfied. So now when I meet girls, I WANT them to have a good time - I have a lot of love to give. And I absolutely want them to orgasm, because it makes me feel good to see them feel good.
There's no childish, insecure feelings like "A real man doesn't need to make a girl cum!" No, you don't have to make a girl cum if you don't want to. But I do want to, because it's a hell of a lot of fun.
Great article mate.