Thanks for your detailed reply. I realised I am not leading enough sometimes in my messages. I could work on that.
" but I only use texting for two things - building enough comfort to invite a girl out to a date, and then logistics around the date invite. "
How do you determine how much comfort to build before asking her out on text? I know its a question that has many variables but it is something I am experimenting on. Is it exchanging a certain amount of text? Cover a few topics? What she did over the past few days, try to connect with her on it by sharing what you did too? Try to talk about something exciting, and then ask her out when she is laughing?
Following chase's article "14 simple ways to text a girl", I send my date invite after the icebreaker text. That never worked for me in cold approaches; (the rest of the texts in the article works very well for me though). instead what I do is I try to trade minimum 3 texts overall with the girl before I asked her out and it works better, for me.
I have no idea why its a minimum of 3, so I like to compare my experiences with others who are really good. Also, I find that if the girl does not return my first icebreaker text, I will never get anything out of her from subsequent texts. Is that the case for you as well?