I can so relate to this post Chase, it really hit me back in college as I realized that the hottest girls ran in the most exclusive groups. Seeing pictures on social media of them at sorority formals with a select set of guys and then realizing I was not one in that crew bit at me for a very long time and made me miserable. In many ways I'd say it i the main thing that is frustrating me right now in life as someone in his 20s out of college, learning how to play that game and get into those kinds of circles.
On one hand they say build it and they will come but I almost feel that is tougher to get a handle of this sort of a dynamic once you are outside of a high school or college environment. It is less clear what groups the hottest girls are running in and how to be a part of those groups.