This cleared up a looooot of group situations for me, so thanks for that.
I didn't fully get how to build legitimacy (or deal with losing it, other than acting like you're not). Value/ Compliance and attainability with girls, but how does that translate to groups?
How do you build legitimacy without becoming part of the group (hierarchy)?
Time and effort spent would be my first guess, but you put that on your list of "monumental efforts".