You just explained some questions I had with some dancing places (swing, Latin, ballroom and etc.)
The regulars, the dancers, were always tough for me to get because I never bothered to build any status. Other than being able to dance, of course. That alone wasn't enough.
Meanwhile, the girls who showed up and would likely never be seen again would glom onto me. Some were also out to be seen girls but their version of high status was different .anyone who could dance was high status to them .
Grrr I need to get back to the city lol
Thanks Chase, this article just explained a lot! Including at coffee shops and other places like that.