Cluster b women and their abusive conduct make them enemies of your self esteem. And they can turn on you and ruin your good name, and blame you for the damage they cause. Could you include a blurb about them?
Also unhealed trauma/pain might make some people more risk averse and self-protective. Thus they play the red card, and it’s all unconscious. And while change is possible, a person has to have strong desire to not remain the same and it takes effort to change. Someone who plays the black card might be understanding of the social dynamics at play behind the link between abuse and current behavior patterns. The question for a budding light bringer seducer black card player is: when to cut your losses and move on vs trying to save someone else?