Behavioral Shaping: Get Your Girl to Show You Only Her Best Side | Girls Chase

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You mentioned attachment styles in your article, but I’m wondering if there’s any others on this site? It is a paramount concept that alot people don’t know about. I used to be avoidant, due to past abuse and I just had an unconscious fear of intimacy and vulnerability. It took a lot of inner work and exposure therapy for me to develop the confidence to just be more open and warm and certain of what I want, and give less of a fuck about rejection. I’ve become warm and accepting of others and more encouraging, and I find it’s so much more easier to connect than it was before when I was aloof and more cold and distant. Also I noticed a pattern with my exes. They all more or less behaved as the anxious attachment type with me...I don’t know if that was their natural predisposition, or if it was my avoidant style that induced it in them. Unfortunately, they’re all disgruntled. And it hurts me to look back on it, but it wasn’t something I could control. They don’t seem to get that. 

 

It could be worthwhile to your readership to do an article on attachment styles and how their interactions might make or break a relationship. Like I know for sure putting an avoidant (me) with an anxious (exes) leads to drama, neuroticism, sometimes abuse (verbal and even physical when they get upset enough) and a toxic relationship.