Might be an attainability thing you're seeing, as I suspect it is
with Ozzy above. People in general are becoming less socially savvy...
makes for more delicate egos as a result. A woman scorned will look for
ways to humiliate you (like try to push you into an orbiter role). You
don't even need to say anything to scorn her - if she looks at you and
her first instinct is, "That guy would reject me," she is immediately
into 'scorned / auto-rejected' mode. Tantrums are another clue this is
what you're dealing with - problem isn't they think they're out of your
league; rather, it is they think you're out of theirs.
Younger women have inflated egos, but it serves a purpose in
value-sorting. We aren't borning knowing whether we are a 3 or a 7 or a
10; we have to figure this out by how a large number of other people
react to us. So you end up with a situation like this:
Except that in younger women's case, in a casual sexual environment,
girls who are 6s are getting attention from men who are 10s. It takes
time for them to realize the 10 males will not commit to them. In the
meantime, they assume that since male 10s want them, maybe they are 10s
After enough 10 males pump and dump / refuse to commit to them, they
start to auto-reject 10s, and begin to think maybe they're 9s. If
enough 9 males won't give them what they want, they move down to 8s.
Eventually they discover they're 6s.
Goes the opposite way for men. If you're a male 7, you may struggle
to get girls who are 5s much of the time when younger. Get older
though, and suddenly the 6s are friendly. Older still and now the 7s
your age are friendly. Get still older and now even some of the 8s want
to date you. Etc.
And of course you can speed this process up with game, fundamentals,
etc. However, there is a sorting process going on, and while you may
'know' a girl is a 6 and ought to act like a 6, she can't go just off
one guy's impression. You may think she's a 6, but that guy over there
who is just as attractive as you might think she's an 8. Another guy
might only think she's a 4. And so and so forth.
Each person must collect numerous reference
points to determine what his/her actual 'rank' is, and what sort of
mates she can realistically hope to hang onto.
Quite cool you were near-pro in football. I doubt there's much/any
difference between the kind of conditioning you were in and the
conditioning the guys who did make pro were in. The discipline required
to get into and maintain that kind of shape is huge. Even if you don't
use the power/skill from it post-football, the discipline alone must
have come with lots of big plusses.