Interesting article Alek.
I would like to share my story of how I met my LT girl and would like your opinion as well as Chase's if you guys have the time. My situation is very unique and contradicts much of what you write here on GirlsChase. Having said that, I found this website a few months ago and have learned a lot in terms of relationship management, sociology, and female/male psychology.
Approximately 4 years ago I flew to a city 500 miles away from mine to visit a friend for a week. During that time, and near the end of the trip, we went out with a group of his friends and that's when I met her. We hit it off amazingly: flirting, touching, laughing. It wasn't love at first sight per say... but as the night went on I fell head over heels and just could not bring myself to make a move out of pure nervousness.
It gets worse.
That night somehow we ended up sleeping in the same bed and I didn't do anything. In the morning we ended up cuddling but I still could not make a move out of utter fear. I felt like a total pussy.
Two days later, I flew back to my home town, the whole time thinking how stupid the entire situation was that I'd suddenly developed this little schoolboy crush on this girl that I'd just met! I said to myself repeatedly how ridiculous I was being and I deleted her number on the flight back.
A week went by, and I still could not stop thinking about her. Unfortunately for me, her number was etched into my brain as it was very easy to remember... so I picked up the phone and called her. She seemed quite surprised but not off-put. We chatted for about 30 minutes or so and when I hung up the phone I knew I had to have her. I became obsessed to a degree. However, given the logistics, I was not being totally foolish. I continued to see girls in my home town but I would make it a point to call her weekly. I would initiate our conversations 90 percent of the time. And I never told her my feelings. Personally, I thought once enough time had passed I would just get over her and we could be friends or something. I really had no idea what I was doing with this girl. Anyway after a couple months of talking I would push her a little bit to come and see me in my city. More and more as our conversations progressed.
Oh, and I forgot to mention, that she had gotten a boyfriend by this time. But I still didn't care. I was just so infatuated.
A few more months went by and she broke up with her boyfriend. Shortly after she took a bus to come and see me! Talk about investment! We had an absolute blast for the weekend, but no sex. Which totally makes sense to me now since I had clearly thrown myself deep into BF territory. The second time was much better and it finally happened. She came twice more after that before I made the trip to go and see her. Anyway it has been 3 years now that we have been in a relationship. Half of which was long distance before we moved in together. Obviously this sounds cliché, but she is the perfect girl: absolutely gorgeous (to me anyway), totally faithful, amazing homemaker (although I had to turn her into one), and I'm still very much attracted to her and her to me.
Anyway, I thought I would share my story, since I believe it is quite the exception rather than the rule. And given both of your guys copious amounts of experience I would like to get your view on things. How did this all fall into place despite all the rules I had broken (not moving fast enough (tortoise speed in fact), the distance, the provider role I slotted myself into, the amount of investment I put in beforehand, and many more).
I would also like to mention that at the time we were both in our early twenties.
Your input would be appreciated guys.