Telling Women You're NOT Boyfriend Material | Girls Chase

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Chase: as this is my first posting, let me preface my remarks by saying that over the past months I have developed enormous respect for the intelligence and effiency of your problem-solving approach, the sheer amount of effort that has gone into it, and the way you combine academic rigor in your references with deep, cutting analysis and thousands of hours of real-world experience. I have read perhaps 150 of your articles and every single recommendation that I have tried works as advertised; I feel sure the rest will fall into place as I press on.

Moving swiftly to the matter of disqualifying oneself as a candidate for a committed relationship: how soon in an interaction do you believe I should typically reveal the existence of my wife? In the past, I always liked to get this out of the way as soon as seemed natural—e.g. "Do you have a bicycle?" "No, but my wife has one"—but this sometimes sent the girl into what I now recognize as auto-rejection. On the other hand, women don't like being lied to and I favor your principle of being upfront about the nature of my interest. My focus here is really on cold approach (day game, which I now vastly prefer anyway), as I imagine that anyone in my social circle will either know my relationship status or discover it very soon.