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More Tools to Help Conquer Your Fear of Approaching Women

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If you want to get laid, approach lots of girls. Sounds simple, but what if approaching women terrifies you? These tools will help you conquer your fears.

Approach anxiety is the #1 problem every guy thinks he has.

I say “thinks he has” because once you get over your irrational fear of striking up conversations with attractive women, a whole world of dating possibilities bloom. But you can’t even seed that journey if you’re too afraid to approach.

#2 is knowing “what to say” to girls.

The two are connected.

You don’t approach because you don’t know what to say – you don’t know what to say because you don’t approach. It’s a paradox with a very simple and logical solution.

Tony DeppAbout the Author: Tony Depp

Tony is one of the most veteran day game experts around. He began to pick up women in the mid-2000s, when he posted on the famed seduction forum mASF... alongside other old hands like Chase Amante and Alek Rolstad. Over the last 10 years Tony has coached hundreds of students to meet women during the day. He has two published books out on seduction: one on his journey, and one on doing awesome at day game.



Ben's picture

You're really good at putting yourselves in the shoes of the guys who are new and not experienced in pickup. You was that guy at one point but you haven't completely forgotten what that was like. I would say the three biggest things that stop me from approaching are lazyness, doubt and ego,but of course the other three things play a role. I dont wanna leave my house to go talk to random girls who likely dont have interest in me and will look at me strange, I don't believe that I have it in me to cold approach a lot of girls over a large period of time to get good and I don't wanna exert a lot of effort for women who are difficult for me to get and not get enough in return. I'm aware that there are no alternatives to game tho.There is one voice in my head that believes that I have the resilience to cold approach and get girls and the other voice saying that cold approaching sucks why bother doing it. That voice has always beaten the other one. Approaching just feels like a chore you don't wanna do until you've done it a few times. Good article T

Tony Depp's picture

I can put myself in a newbies shoes because I was one. Also, I've taught hundreds of students live in bootcamps, and I hear the same excuses and fears over, and over. We're sort of like robots. 

Anonymous 's picture

Great article Tony!

I wanted to know what if you don't think you're good enough to get women because of your job and money?

Not saying I need the highest paying job or a lot of money, but I don't have a career, my job isn't anything career wise, just a job, and I'm struggling now with money.

It makes me think women don't want me and I should approach, but I really want to tho.

How can I get over this and improve with women?


Tony Depp's picture

Well, maybe your in an area with very career oriented women? I've never made much money. I usually get by on less than 30k a year and have always done fine, especially with younger women. Sure, you can't afford a nice car or a glorious beachside condo, but you can still use your charm and cold approach skills. I can't even tell women what I do. I just I'm in "Marketing." 

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