While
it certainly may entrap you, the I/A double-bind can be countered – or
even better, using the strategies here, entirely avoided.
Welcome to Part 2 of our series about the investment-attainability double-bind.
Contents
1. Effective Ways to Beat Double-Binds
2. Avoid the Situation Entirely
3. Ineffective Double-Bind Strategies
4. More Double-Bind ExamplesIn Part 1, we talked about why the double-bind happens:
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A woman stalls courtship to seek more information through a man’s investment, but this kind of investment reduces a woman’s attraction to him.
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A woman stalls courtship when a man seems unattainable, which means he seems very attractive but she hopes to rope him into a commitment by making him invest more before sex.
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Both these elements combined create an unwinnable scenario for either party – by the time a man has invested enough to seem attainable to her, he has also killed his attraction and she no longer wants what she once wanted.
Now let’s dive into strategies to counter the double-bind – and ways not to.
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Double Bind 5 Dates
I have gone out with a girl 5 times and she always rejects when I invite her home. She keeps claiming she really likes me and texts me every morning and sends me snap chats every night. I am afraid if I don't sleep with her soon it won't happen at all. How should I proceed to stop her from rejecting my proposal to come home with me? I normally sleep with girls within 2 dates.
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