I've been putting in 17 hour days, 7 days a week the past 2 weeks for a new business of mine I just launched, and I've been training a lot of new salesman recently for it, and it's forced me to talk on a number of great sales and psychology points. It's been a lot of fun, and I'm even finding myself training my staff with a number of terms from the pick up world that I've developed (if only they knew!). Anyway, now that I've got some breathing room again to get back to things like the blog here, one of the more interesting points I've touched on recently with the staff has been why you should never say no.
My sales guys are a little rough around the edges. One of them used to be a Texas car salesman. One used to sell suits in Wales. Another is a German guy with an unflappable ego who believes he can do anything, but he's never had anything to do with sales before.
Anyway, one of them I listened to while taking him through some drills several times told the mock client he was speaking to "no."
She asked him if he could do something, and he said "no." I corrected him, and he said, "We will not." Argh.
Because, you see, both in sales and in seduction, "no" is a big no-no -- and what I want to talk about with you today is why you should never say no.
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Great article. I've always
Great article. I've always came from the principle I once read a while back that you _should_ say 'no' almost purely out of principle to any requests made by the girl, but this refines it a notch up.
If a girl gives you a command
Is the refusal to carry the bag because, well, who wants to carry a bag? Or is it strategic?
I often enjoy being helpful and would personally not mind carrying something for a girl, but as someone new to PU arts, I am left wondering if that is impeding my success with women.
comments above..
Lads, don't analyse it as "PU Artistry" so much. It's not strategic, manipulative or some kind of "under the radar" seduction, it's about positive expression. This is positive for you personally as well as the energy you share with the girl you're talking to, and positive for the impression she has of you.
How to use (or avoid) the word "No" is well used (as Chase says) in sales and marketing, media training and politics. Listen to the language that politicians use on TV for instance. The ones who win you over, the ones who you warm to, they're the ones who use positive language far more often. The ones who don't and who use negative language more are often the ones who lose the debate and the election.
Try it for a day. Just think for a second before you say what you're about to say and for every negative thing you're about to say, be it
"I won't" or
"I can't ..." or
"I don't like" or
"that's awful",
make the effort to rephrase it. The above could for example be rephrased as:
"May I suggest ..."
"I am better at ..."
"I would prefer ..."
"It would be better if ..."
Or something similar along those lines. Try it for a day, and reflect on both how differently you feel about your day, and how differently people respond to you. Any people. It may be subtle at first, but trust me it will all be positive.
Really?
It’s so hard to stop saying these things completely.... did you fully take them out of your vocabulary or do you still catch yourself using them sometimes? Also i understand this will help your interactions with everyone but by how much cause I don’t want to adopt this mindset which is kinda hard and only get a slight benefit
Hmm..
Hmm.. Very interesting..
I don`t usually say no to women, because quite frankly i rarely get the chance to.
Almost every girl i meet here i make the moves, she just says yes, no or maybe.
I haven`t seen such conservative girls anywhere else.
Thanks for the update.
IT really is a heads up article.
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