Your body positioning when you approach a new girl tells her a
lot about you, fast. If you want to make sure you send the right
signals, you want to get the positioning right.
Since lately we’ve been discussing non-verbal seduction, I decided to go a bit further and discuss the actual tools for non-verbal seduction. These upcoming posts will cover in depth some commonly known tools, but they will also discuss some oftentimes disregarded tools that are actually vital – remember that with non-verbal seduction, the devil lies in the details.
To illustrate this properly, I’ve decided to make today’s topic about positioning.
We will base our analysis on clubs and bars, but the exact same principle applies for parties and day game. The reason I use the club is because positioning is more important in this atmosphere and has more nuances in typical night game spots.
By positioning, I am referring to your body’s position relative to the female with whom you are interacting (or trying to interact with, if we are talking pre-approach) – where your body is facing, your distance from her, and even the particular spot where you’re standing can be a big factor. We will discuss all three phases of body positioning in three sections covering three broad seduction phases, namely:
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The Pre-opening (before you engage)
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The Post-opening (just after you engage – often described as the “hook-phase”)
- The Seduction Phase (I am not only referring to when you are making out, or back at your place, but the phase where you have opened, she is hooked in, and you have some rapport, and preferably you are in isolation with her)
Let us now discuss how positioning works during the first phase.
Comments
Great
Just Great article all in all. Would you mind writing some field reports with actual examples what happened and what has been said in what kind of manner?
Andreas
Thanks man.
I have written some reports on this blog in the past (let me know if you want some links), and i plan doing it again. However I wanted to finish my series on non-verbal seduction before sharing a report - in which case the report will work as a "put it all together" type of post.
Also I am kind off busy with exams will the 16th of Januaryt, which means I won't head out until then - making me unable to write reports. But it is coming, I promise!
-Alek
Amazing
Alek,
Splendid post. I am really looking foward to any of your non verbal tios. They are definitely impactful!
Bond
Bond
Thank you! Yes a lot more is coming. The upcoming articles will be about non-verbal techniques.
-Alek
Great article
Terrific article! Btw I'm currently trying to wrap my head around non verbal communication in general.
Ervin
Thanks! More articles to come!
-Alek
Changing her body positioning
Hey Alek,
Happy new year bro :)
Taking the example of girl who talks over her shoulder, if the offset frame is bad, how do we change her body language?
Or how do we change ours to change hers?
To a better offset frame
Thanks,
Lawliet
Lawliet
Well if she talks over her should, just walk further away and try to re-engage later.
However this is most likely due to either:
- Her not being interested in you - what-so-ever.... nothing to do here
- Her not being ready to meet someone... YET.... in this case walk away and try again later
- Your approach is somewhat off in terms of delivery (body language and overall vibe). See my article on opening posted a few weeks ago.
-Alek
Hands gestures
Alek,
Great article, Alek. Apparently, you can be sexy by using your hands around women. Particular hand gestures are fun and interesting to use. If I may ask, do you know any particular hand gestures that can be used?
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