Book Excerpts: Being Attainable to Women

For my first few years actively learning how to get girls, there was one thing I struggled with above all else: how to be attainable. Value I understood; be an attractive, high-value man, and women will want you. Investment was straightforward enough; get people putting in more work, and they'll come to value you more highly.

But how the heck did attainability work? I couldn't get my mind around it. I got the concept logically, but emotionally I was still checked out.

I had no clue how to really be attainable. I couldn't even figure out how to tell if not being attainable enough was my problem... or if I was coming across lower in value, or I needed to get more investment.

The excerpt I chose for today's excerpts post covers some of the ground floor stuff on attainability. This selection is from my eBook, How to Make Girls Chase: Every Tactic and Technique You Need to Get the Girl(s) of Your Dreams, and in it, we go into the four essentials you need to know to properly manage your attainability (and keep from sending women into auto-rejection [you're too unattainable] or just friends [you're too attainable]).

Chase Amante

Author

Chase woke up one day in 2004 tired of being alone. So, he set to work and read every book he could find, studied every teacher he could meet, and talked to every girl he could talk to to figure out dating. After four years, scads of lays, and many great girlfriends (plus plenty of failures along the way), he launched this website. He will teach you everything he knows about girls in one single program in his One Date System.

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Posted by Smit (not verified) on Sunday, 29 December 2013

Man, I just can't stop reading some of these articles. It's like epiphany after epiphany.

I started reading about pickup about a year ago and it actually made things worse for me when it comes to women. I never had a hard time attracting women and friends but I just had a hard time actually going for their invitations without seeming desperate so I usually acted like I wasn't interested. Something I learned when I moved around a lot as a kid.

I met this cool girl about six months ago. It went really fast and I liked her a lot and she was really into me. The sex was amazing, same interests, same background. I just went overboard on the unattainability part, somehow thinking I had to be someone else to attract her to me, which she already was. All this pickup theory going through my head After a while she just couldn't believe I was into her. All the teasing, not relating to her, just being an asshole on purpose. I'll spare you the details but it was a lot of drama which in my eyes was unnecessary. In hindsight I can see that acting like you're too unattainable is really destructive. Not only with women but also with making friends.

She's gone now. It still stings a bit. Not because I feel that she was "the one" but I regret not seeing where things could have ended up. Wish I had read this sooner though but I can already see some of these principles working for me when it comes to women. Lesson learned...thanks for sharing this.