Relationships

Welcome back to the freaky deaky parade, my friends. Here’s the rundown:

• In our first article, we discussed how all women are freaks, and why they therefore also love kinky men.

• In the second article, we covered some introductory techniques, like dirty talk and spanking.

• And in the third article, we stepped up our game a bit with some bondage, choking, and other more risqué techniques.

Now? Well, I’ve been quite graphic with this series, but this article will blow the rest away.

But before I get into the slimy details, let’s recap why you should do these things with women, even if you’re not that kinky yourself.

Open relationships can be great fun and very freeing – but sometimes they’re dicey to run. In this interview Caleb Jones (Blackdragon) discusses how these work, and the rules you have to follow.

Varoon interviews Caleb on the following subjects:

Welcome back,

In the first article of this series we learned that all women are dirty little freaks.

In the second article we covered some ways you can spice up your sex life.

Now, we’re going to get even kinkier.

If you’re reading this, then you’re down to get weird with me.

Before we begin, let’s review what we know so far (see Part 1): all women are nasty little vixens deep down inside, even if they maintain a pure appearance (women are too complex for the binary thinking of the Madonna/Whore complex).

In this article, I’ll explain in excruciating detail how to get your lovers boasting about their sex with you to all of their friends.

It would only be fitting, then, if we start with precedent. And really, you want to...

A year ago, I talked about women’s back pocket mentality: keeping a man in reserve, his appetite wetted for them, thirst for them unquenched.

It’s part survival instinct, part choice maximization... the best position for a woman is to have a flock of interested men waiting for their shots with her, for a variety of reasons (most women greatly fear becoming unwanted or undesired).

Today I want to introduce you to back pocket mentality’s close cousin, the ‘holding pattern’. This is a more serious version of the phenomenon, where a woman strongly implies sex or a relationship is on the table and coming very soon, without delivering.

This is used when a man is on her shortlist, but she wants to experiment with others first. Just because you’re on her short list doesn’t mean you’ll get her – and all the time you devote to her while she enjoys other men and “makes up her mind”, you’re killing her attraction and respect for you.

“Any good dreams last night?”

“How was your day today?”

“You’ll never believe what happened to me.”

There are normal little communication bits and pieces you’ll encounter in relationships. They seem pretty small and trivial, and superficially they are.

However, these little questions or statements – called ‘bids for connection’ by Professor Emeritus John M. Gottman, Ph.D. – have big impacts on relationship health.

That’s because any time you make a bid for connection, or a gal you’re with makes one toward you, it goes one of two ways:

• You or she accept the bid (Gottman calls this ‘turn towards’)
• Or you or she ignore the bid (Gottman calls this ‘turn away’)
  

How often these little bids are turned toward or away from makes a world of difference, it turns out.

Recently had a discussion with one of our forum members about some odd behavior he was seeing from a former girlfriend who works in his office.

They’d had a friends with benefits relationship for about half a year, before she broke things off with him to enter a committed relationship with another man.

What confused him the most, however, was that this girl had seemed to like him more, yet she still went off to date the wrong guy anyway. Her new guy has some pretty big downsides, too: he’s jealous and controlling. He’s forbid his girlfriend from having any contact with her ex from our forum, and monitors her phone calls and texting.

What this forum member asked me was, “Why would she date this guy when she already had me?”

The answer, of course, was that he wasn’t available for the kind of relationship this girl needed – so even if he would’ve been her first choice for that role, he simply wasn’t an option she could choose from on the shelf.