Pickup

If you've been reading this site a while, I'm sure you've seen me recommend again and again that you move girls to get them committed to the interaction with you.

You might have wondered exactly what that meant though, or exactly how to do it.

It's a surprisingly simple piece of advice - "move girls" - but it makes a huge difference in how your interactions go. In fact, it's hands down my favorite exercise to do with coaching clients. Typically we go out, work on a little basic opening, some initial conversation, and then, the meat - I tell a guy, "All right, next, I want you to start moving these girls."

I've seen this called "isolation" in some places, "extraction" in others. It's been given lots of longwinded technical explanations, like you need to move women in order to get them away from their friends, who'll interfere... or something like that.

This is not so. Friends don't make much of a difference. What DOES make a difference is getting girls to commit to talking with you - and following your lead.

And that's necessary for a couple of different reasons.

If you’ve read the post about how to seduce women, you know that improvement happens gradually, over time, and by jumping from one so-called plateau to another.

That’s why it is important to constantly improve yourself in order to achieve dating success. Today we will talk about a specific formula, so you know just EXACTLY how to do that.

As Tony Robbins says – you either grow, or you die!

• If you hit the gym every day, you will become stronger… but if you don’t work out, you won’t stay the same… you’ll lose a little bit of muscle mass every single day.

• If you stop making more money, you don’t automatically conserve your wealth – you have expenditures to worry about, and inflation is eating away at your cash too.

• If you practice the guitar, you get better at it – but if you stop for a while, you don’t maintain your skills… you get more and more rusty, until you suddenly start making mistakes in songs that were once easy.

Ignacy Paderewski, a Polish pianist, is famously quoted with the words: “If I miss one day of practice, I notice it. If I miss two days, my wife notices it. If I miss three days, the audience notices it.”

At the same time, improvement is very gradual and often invisible… until a sudden leap to the next plateau occurs. It is important to stay dedicated ESPECIALLY when you’re not seeing any results… that way, they are GUARANTEED to come eventually.

If you move to a new country, you may not understand anything in the foreign language at first. Then, some day, you will wake up and think to yourself – “Wow! I understand everything!” The gradual improvement was not noticeable.

Rather, you made a leap to the next plateau.

And, it’s the same with your skills with women. Work on them consistently, expect gradual improvement, don’t be discouraged when you seem to be getting nowhere… and just keep going.

In Epic Movie Seductions: Part I and Epic Movie Seductions: Part II of this series, we discussed the Pickup Scenes in “Vicky, Cristina, Barcelona”, in “Office Space”, and in “American Beauty”.

Today we’ll discuss one more scene from a movie that absolutely NAILED the perfect pickup!

This movie seduction also shows a normal guy, approaching a hot girl, in a normal, every-day situation… and KILLING it!

Watching these scenes is one of the best ways to learn, because…

Monkey see, monkey do!

Let’s jump right in.

In Epic Movie Seductions: Part I, we discussed the movie seduction in the film “Vicky, Cristina, Barcelona”.

In that one, we looked at a smooth, confident approach a man made on two women sitting at a table, and the rock solid frame control he used to hold his own in the face of a defiant woman.

Today we’ll discuss more scenes from Hollywood movies that absolutely NAILED the perfect pickup!

They show a normal guy, approaching a hot girl, in normal, every-day situations… and KILLING it!

Watching these scenes is one of the best ways to learn, because…

Monkey see, monkey do!

Let’s jump right in.

Fiction is fiction… and a lot of movies and TV series aren’t very helpful for aspiring seducers. They may have true ladies’ men in the lead role, but they’re also too unrealistic or too different from normal situations to be at all educational. Thus, the impracitcality of modeling your real world seductions off of the average movie seduction.

In “Entourage”, for example, the protagonists are too famous and popular for you to ever apply what they do to your dating life… and in “Californication”, the women usually approach Duchovny… how are you going to imitate that?

Annoying!

HOWEVER, there are four scenes from Hollywood movies that absolutely NAILED the perfect pickup!

They show a normal guy, approaching a hot girl, in normal, every-day situations and KILLING it!

Watching these scenes is one of the best ways to learn, because…

Monkey see, monkey do!

The first of these four movies is “Vicky, Cristina, Barcelona” – let me walk you through the pickup scene step by step, line by line, and analyze every behavior and every frame.

If you only learn from Juan Antonio’s mindset in this movie, your skills with women will improve significantly… and some of his lines aren’t bad either.

I recommend you read this article now to get the idea, then get a hold of the movie and watch the scenes we’re talking about… then come back to this text and read it once more, to really drill the lessons deep into your subconscious mind.

When was the last time you saw a stunning girl during the day and didn’t know how to approach her? The thought perhaps dancing around in your head, you too hesitant to ask it… “Are you single?”

Maybe it was on your way to work you saw her, or while doing your shopping or riding the subway…

Maybe she was just your type, and you realize that if you JUST approached, your chances of her becoming an affair or a soul mate would at least increase from ZERO to POSSIBLE... But you didn’t know how to go about it?

This is your play-by-play.

And, there are many ways to skin a cat… but this is the one that has worked best for me, after a decade of refining the process.

Let’s jump right in.

Have you read Gene Simmon’s auto-biography “Sex, Money, Kiss”?

If not… I highly recommend it. Gene Simmons has slept with over 3000 women… and whether that is your goal or not, you can probably learn a thing or two from somebody who has that much experience with dating.

One of the most striking comments in his book is that he only became a musician for one reason: He realized that rock stars get a lot of female attention… and he wanted that too.

I’d say if that was his goal, he did pretty well!

According to Simmons, any musician who claims he didn’t get into music for the girls is either lying or gay!

Now, as the late Sigmund Freud would say…

“Duh!”

According to Freud, many of our behaviors are motivated by our drive to replicate… whether we’re consciously aware of it or not.

Or in the words of Dex from the movie “The Tao of Steve”:

“Look, men try and chase success for one reason - to impress women. That's the only reason why they write books, they build companies, they compete in sports and all that. And the problem is in life, if you could figure out how you could get laid without achieving anything, you could lose your motivation altogether.”