Newbie to the board.. Learning the game and enjoying but need to get this one out my system because one, I really need to see whats up with her and two, I really want to have sex with her.. Im messing this up so I have come to the board for help.. I will take any and all suggestions, and I am really want to change up what im doing.
I like this girl. It been about a year and to be completely honest, Ive been a bit of a pussy about the situation.. I never escalated physically besides some small wrestling and some other small stuff.. No kissing, nothing yet.. I seem to have this problem when I really like a girl, I tend to shy up.. Been when IDGAF, it comes naturally.. But this girl just does something to me. We get a long really well and man, I just have a good time with her.. I want to say im in the friend zone but I cant because she is really really hot and cold with me. One day she will come over and be flirty and play fight with me, and another she will be cold as ice and just pull away.
I asked her about this a couple weeks ago and she said didnt like talking about relationship stuff and she just likes it when we chill and vibe... I never brought up any talk about a relationship, I just wanted to know why she acts like she likes me one minutes, then chills out the next.Even admitted she had feelings for me. I have come to the conclusion and accepted this is mostly my fault and Im ready to change that. I really want to change the narrative whether it fails or not and just go for it. I havent gotten anywhere by being scared and chill, so I need some help. Im ok with failing with this girl even if it means never talking to her again because I need to do this for my own growth.
When we talk we just talk.. We talk about the job and stuff in our lives. I am supportive of her career and the things she does and she always lets me know she appreciates its.. We never bring up other men or women with each other.. And weve never called each other friends.. I dont think we can really do that because there is just that feeling something else is there.. I know this sounds a bit crazy, but I know it and were we are by ourselves,there is that oddness. It just something you feel but cant explain. Im not blinded by this one girl because I am seeing and still sleeping with other girls..
I dont have much time.. Hell, my time may have already passed but fuck it, i have to try to change what im doing. We are supposed to hang out again on wednesday or thursday but even before then I want to start being clear about my intentions but I dont even know where to start. We text through out the day but I dont know how to flirt with her through text.... I just play it safe.. I guess I am afraid of it not being natural or be too sudden of a change. And when I see her this time, I want to escalate and try to make a move...
I am open to everything because this is extremely delicate.. But I have to do it.. So Im all eyes on what to do, when to do it, and how to do.. Even if it falls.
Thank You
I like this girl. It been about a year and to be completely honest, Ive been a bit of a pussy about the situation.. I never escalated physically besides some small wrestling and some other small stuff.. No kissing, nothing yet.. I seem to have this problem when I really like a girl, I tend to shy up.. Been when IDGAF, it comes naturally.. But this girl just does something to me. We get a long really well and man, I just have a good time with her.. I want to say im in the friend zone but I cant because she is really really hot and cold with me. One day she will come over and be flirty and play fight with me, and another she will be cold as ice and just pull away.
I asked her about this a couple weeks ago and she said didnt like talking about relationship stuff and she just likes it when we chill and vibe... I never brought up any talk about a relationship, I just wanted to know why she acts like she likes me one minutes, then chills out the next.Even admitted she had feelings for me. I have come to the conclusion and accepted this is mostly my fault and Im ready to change that. I really want to change the narrative whether it fails or not and just go for it. I havent gotten anywhere by being scared and chill, so I need some help. Im ok with failing with this girl even if it means never talking to her again because I need to do this for my own growth.
When we talk we just talk.. We talk about the job and stuff in our lives. I am supportive of her career and the things she does and she always lets me know she appreciates its.. We never bring up other men or women with each other.. And weve never called each other friends.. I dont think we can really do that because there is just that feeling something else is there.. I know this sounds a bit crazy, but I know it and were we are by ourselves,there is that oddness. It just something you feel but cant explain. Im not blinded by this one girl because I am seeing and still sleeping with other girls..
I dont have much time.. Hell, my time may have already passed but fuck it, i have to try to change what im doing. We are supposed to hang out again on wednesday or thursday but even before then I want to start being clear about my intentions but I dont even know where to start. We text through out the day but I dont know how to flirt with her through text.... I just play it safe.. I guess I am afraid of it not being natural or be too sudden of a change. And when I see her this time, I want to escalate and try to make a move...
I am open to everything because this is extremely delicate.. But I have to do it.. So Im all eyes on what to do, when to do it, and how to do.. Even if it falls.
Thank You