FR  Girls asking YOU out

Hey guys,

Yesterday I decided to do some daygame after taking a break for a couple of weeks. I have had a couple of FB's who have been taking up my time, but my inflow of new girls has become a trickle. Thus, the topic of this post.

The girl

I was walking down the street with a timer going. This is a method for day game that I highly recommend: setting a timer and telling yourself that you have to approach one girl every 6 minutes (10/hour) or every 10 minutes (6/hour).

I see a cute blonde walking her dog and strike up a conversation. I tell her she's cute so I wanted to meet her; she smiles and we exchange names. I do some playful banter asking if she's walking her dog so cute guys come talk to her. She laughs.

Im just getting warmed up so I keep the interaction short and ask for her number. She gives it to me and I keep on going about my business (Im almost up to 6 minutes! lol). Pretty short interaction without deep diving so I didn't expect the number to come to anything.

Texting

I shoot her a text a couple hours later:

Me: Hey K! it was nice meeting you today -BigS
[the next morning]
Her: Hi BigS, it was nice meeting you too! Would you like to go to dinner with me this weekend?

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I was pleasantly surprised by this text, however, I didn't know what to do! I always thought that I was supposed to be the dominant male and her asking me out so directly kind of short circuited my game.

However, I read a GC article on what to do when girls ask YOU out and it basically said to stay cool and stay congruent with how you acted previously. I decided to stay cool and even though I was uncomfortable, allow her to lead the pull.

Me: yeah I could do that! which days are you free?
Her: How about Sunday?
Me: sounds great! location?
Her: Does ______ work for you?
Me: yes! what time works for you?
Her: 7 is best for me see you then!
Me: great! see you then

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I was so worried before this exchange that I would lose my position as the dominant male. However, afterwards, left with a new date, I realized that allowing an eager girl to lead the pull IS being a dominant male because you get a date out of it.

This has never happened to me before and I am guessing that it is not that common, so hopefully you guys can learn from my experience and be prepared!

Cheers,

BigS

Good work BigS! When it's not so damn cold outside up here in the northeast I will utilize this timer method for sure.

Científico

Gotta love a girl who takes the initiative. It will be interesting what the dynamic is once you are at dinner. Got a plan for "Let's get drinks after" ?

What you gonna do when the check comes?

Fuck This,

Thank you for forcing me to plan out my logistics more, haha.

I would say that my plan is to order drinks with dinner. If she still has energy and needs some warming up, I will propose drinks afterwards at a different location.

If its on, I would use a yes ladder and propose we do something fun, or I "check out your place for 10 minutes" right before we get the check.

What would you do?

Cheers,

BigS

Well what happened?

I like asking girls what they are good at....part of my deep dive. If they claim to make a real good mojito margarita or manhattan or some other cocktail it is always a segue to "well show me how good your Bartender skills are at your place."

In college, a strawberry blonde who snuck me into a bar said she cooked a real good steak so I brought a steak to her apartment to see, and a bottle of wine....Alas I was girlfriend hunting at the time and did not pick up the hint of why I was in her apartment.....This recurred a couple times in college before I learned about escalation windows.

When they lead then up your escalation. Take their arm in your arm when you walk. Hug her to reward her, and emphasize a point. Lots of eye contact...

Fuck this,

She wound up flaking... hate that. But i took Chase's advice and said "no worries" and kept her number for future reference.

I actually met another girl in Rome who lives in Paris. I had flexible travel plans and she told me to come to Paris, so here I am.

I will write a FR/LR about this soon, but she has been leading the date logistics for Paris over text. I have been following and keeping/trying to keep it cool. Like I said, Ill write a FR soon.

On a side note, I really like your methods for pulling. I think they sound natural and "no big deal"-y, which is good. I am thinking of using your "lets go somewhere more private line" sometime.

However, I bought this Paris girl a bottle of wine on our first date, ske kept it, and now says we should split it tomorrow. We'll see if thay bottle happens to be at her apartment... I hope so

Cheers,

BigS