I met a girl (20) on Tinder. First date started out great then rapidly turned South.
When we finally met after a few days of interesting conversation and flirting she was totally into me. She tried very hard to impress me and made sure I wasn't bored. We don't live in the same city but our distance isn't very far so she wanted to make sure she took me to all the hot spots. We made out several times that night but as the night went on she started to drink more and more. Eventually she ended up hugging the toilet at the club. And as I was trying to chaperone her out of the club a few male aquaintances she knows we're trying to "take care" of her and "drop her home" of course I couldn't have that so I took her back to my place to sober her up and she crashed and spent the night.
In the morning she freshened up and had some coffee, then we started to make out and ended up in bed. I myself was a bit hungover and tired from toting her body at 3 A.M trying to find a taxi the night before that I just could not do anything more than foreplay (disappointing). She had plans in afternoon so she left a few hours later after resting a bit.
On my way back home we texted a bit. She said that she doesn't know why but when we were on the bed about to have sex she didn't feel any sexual urges. She said it's weird and can't explain why but that's just how she felt. But she said that she wanted to go along with it because she felt as if she owed me for coming to see her and taking her out and protecting her that night. She says she feels safe around me and looks forward to hanging out with me again.
Fast forward a couple weeks later and I hit her up to see her again. I was flirting with her, when she said that she thought we spoke about this already. (I misunderstood what she meant, I though that she just wasn't in the mood to have sex because she was still hungover and groggy) Apparently she meant that she's not comfortable doing anything sexual/romantic with me at all.
So of course I cancelled the second date because I don't know how to interact with her now, nor do I want go out of way just to see a friend. I think there's something that switches a woman's feelings toward you when you see them in such a horrible state. Or maybe there's something wrong with this part of her personality? She admitted that she's never had a stable relationship, doesn't know what she's attracted to and says she gets tired of people easily. (A red flag maybe?) Thoughts?
When we finally met after a few days of interesting conversation and flirting she was totally into me. She tried very hard to impress me and made sure I wasn't bored. We don't live in the same city but our distance isn't very far so she wanted to make sure she took me to all the hot spots. We made out several times that night but as the night went on she started to drink more and more. Eventually she ended up hugging the toilet at the club. And as I was trying to chaperone her out of the club a few male aquaintances she knows we're trying to "take care" of her and "drop her home" of course I couldn't have that so I took her back to my place to sober her up and she crashed and spent the night.
In the morning she freshened up and had some coffee, then we started to make out and ended up in bed. I myself was a bit hungover and tired from toting her body at 3 A.M trying to find a taxi the night before that I just could not do anything more than foreplay (disappointing). She had plans in afternoon so she left a few hours later after resting a bit.
On my way back home we texted a bit. She said that she doesn't know why but when we were on the bed about to have sex she didn't feel any sexual urges. She said it's weird and can't explain why but that's just how she felt. But she said that she wanted to go along with it because she felt as if she owed me for coming to see her and taking her out and protecting her that night. She says she feels safe around me and looks forward to hanging out with me again.
Fast forward a couple weeks later and I hit her up to see her again. I was flirting with her, when she said that she thought we spoke about this already. (I misunderstood what she meant, I though that she just wasn't in the mood to have sex because she was still hungover and groggy) Apparently she meant that she's not comfortable doing anything sexual/romantic with me at all.
So of course I cancelled the second date because I don't know how to interact with her now, nor do I want go out of way just to see a friend. I think there's something that switches a woman's feelings toward you when you see them in such a horrible state. Or maybe there's something wrong with this part of her personality? She admitted that she's never had a stable relationship, doesn't know what she's attracted to and says she gets tired of people easily. (A red flag maybe?) Thoughts?