Turning your personality around, has anyone done it?

comic1

Rookie
Rookie
Joined
Sep 28, 2018
Messages
1
Hi all. I'm a guy of 28 years. All my life I've never had any chance with women. Mostly because I spent first 26 years of my life in a backward and conservative area of a Conservative country (Pakistan). Around 2 years ago I moved to Dubai, working a lower middle class job. Here I've had a chance to at least interact with women on a regular basis although not enough interactions to really pickup/court a woman. Hopefully, soon I will be moving to Canada. Now whatever interactions I have had with women, I know I just don't come across as an interesting person. Like never have interesting stuff to say, I've got great sense of humor but since I'm not really comfortable around women, I never really have a chance to show it. I have difficulty establishing rapport and to build a deep connection.


This is partially due to my background, being from a middle class family from a third world country you don't get a lot of chance to travel, meet different people, enjoy too many activities and obviously they have an impact on your personality.

Now I know I need to make some drastic changes in my personality. How do you become an interesting person? How to start with it?

Further, to develop the personality, do you recommend any books that had a profound effect on your personality. Has anyone here really turned their personality around and have gone on to become a charming interesting guy from being a dull and boring person?
 

Regal Tiger

Cro-Magnon Man
Cro-Magnon Man
Joined
Mar 16, 2015
Messages
1,018
Hey Comic! Welcome to the boards!

To answer the question of your title, yes, I have changed drastically in the past few years. My personality is quite different from what it was. And it's not because I set out to change it, it's an adaptation. And it's not all completely healthy.

I strongly urge you to not try to change who you are.

However I do urge you to build on yourself, which is a little bit more into what your question is in your post. Add stuff to your personality that makes you more attractive.


Here are some articles to help get you started:
https://www.girlschase.com/content/secr ... -deep-dive
https://www.girlschase.com/content/begi ... and-dating
https://www.girlschase.com/content/how- ... ner-effect
 
Top
>