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Hey guys,
Went out for the second time with a girl I know from my work today. She's a virgin, not sexually experienced at all (she's only seen a dick, never touched one), and her last relationship was a few years ago. She's a cute girl who can be a bit shy (but is getting better at being more outgoing). She lives with her grandparents and her grandma knows about me and she tells her friends about me, but I'm a secret from her grandpa. Anyways, I had her come to my place (my parents place) and drive with me in my car to a nearby frisbee golf park since it was super nice today and we had previously talked about it.
We had good conversation and I wore shorts since it was nice out (and I had planned on getting somewhat sexual). We teased each other as we played and then went and got food at a nearby eatery. She talked a lot and seemed to be having fun, but after a while I started to get kind of bored. My dad also was bugging me to introduce her, which I wasn't thrilled about because I don't want to set the wrong expectations not having had sex with her yet. Plus my parents are aware that I've been going out on dates with different girls. So I took her back to my place and introduced her to my parents.
My dad asked her a bunch of questions and I just stayed quiet (I get really drained around my parents - real testosterone killers), but it went well. Afterwards, I showed her around the house and she pet my dogs a lot, but it was awkward. I took her to my room and expected to get a little sexual finally being isolated together, but after a few seconds she just quickly left - no sexual tension.
We went for a walk and throughout her talking, she commented how she found it funny that I touched her butt and body a lot. She doesn't mind my touch and bumps into me a lot. But she doesn't get me sexually excited, doesn't touch back in a sexual or enticing way, and doesn't tease me sexually - more like a friend. I don't want to hold this against her considering she's not experienced in any way. But I do hate putting all this time into her for it to feel platonic to me. Anyways, she said she wanted to get home before it got dark.
So I walked her back to her car, drained and frustrated we didn't do anything sexual at all. Also frustrated at my parents and myself for not having a better plan or more aggressive plan in place. I gave her a hug and she left. I've been feeling like crap since.
It's probably my own fault for not being more dominant and taking the lead stronger. But I think it was also that I had to introduce her to my parents and that just killed the mood for me. That's likely why I feel like crap in addition to not accomplishing my goal of being sexual (my goal today was to get her to touch my dick, maybe get head or a hand job, something simple). I'm unsure if I want to keep putting time into her, if I should give it one more date and really push for something sexual, or if I need to somehow tell her my needs aren't being met (taking into account Chase's article).
What do you guys' suggest? Thanks for the advice!
Went out for the second time with a girl I know from my work today. She's a virgin, not sexually experienced at all (she's only seen a dick, never touched one), and her last relationship was a few years ago. She's a cute girl who can be a bit shy (but is getting better at being more outgoing). She lives with her grandparents and her grandma knows about me and she tells her friends about me, but I'm a secret from her grandpa. Anyways, I had her come to my place (my parents place) and drive with me in my car to a nearby frisbee golf park since it was super nice today and we had previously talked about it.
We had good conversation and I wore shorts since it was nice out (and I had planned on getting somewhat sexual). We teased each other as we played and then went and got food at a nearby eatery. She talked a lot and seemed to be having fun, but after a while I started to get kind of bored. My dad also was bugging me to introduce her, which I wasn't thrilled about because I don't want to set the wrong expectations not having had sex with her yet. Plus my parents are aware that I've been going out on dates with different girls. So I took her back to my place and introduced her to my parents.
My dad asked her a bunch of questions and I just stayed quiet (I get really drained around my parents - real testosterone killers), but it went well. Afterwards, I showed her around the house and she pet my dogs a lot, but it was awkward. I took her to my room and expected to get a little sexual finally being isolated together, but after a few seconds she just quickly left - no sexual tension.
We went for a walk and throughout her talking, she commented how she found it funny that I touched her butt and body a lot. She doesn't mind my touch and bumps into me a lot. But she doesn't get me sexually excited, doesn't touch back in a sexual or enticing way, and doesn't tease me sexually - more like a friend. I don't want to hold this against her considering she's not experienced in any way. But I do hate putting all this time into her for it to feel platonic to me. Anyways, she said she wanted to get home before it got dark.
So I walked her back to her car, drained and frustrated we didn't do anything sexual at all. Also frustrated at my parents and myself for not having a better plan or more aggressive plan in place. I gave her a hug and she left. I've been feeling like crap since.
It's probably my own fault for not being more dominant and taking the lead stronger. But I think it was also that I had to introduce her to my parents and that just killed the mood for me. That's likely why I feel like crap in addition to not accomplishing my goal of being sexual (my goal today was to get her to touch my dick, maybe get head or a hand job, something simple). I'm unsure if I want to keep putting time into her, if I should give it one more date and really push for something sexual, or if I need to somehow tell her my needs aren't being met (taking into account Chase's article).
What do you guys' suggest? Thanks for the advice!