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Glad to be back after a long break and be sharing this with you guys. I have been busy the past few months and hardly get the chance to browse the web anymore.
This is the long game where the rewards are not as immediate.
The age old perception is that Facebook is dead, that it is all on Instagram now but I realized that Facebook is actually alive and kicking, its not just for grandma anymore. While Instagram is the go to social media when it comes to coolness, the reality is that Instagram is kind of a risky investment for social life due to the follower to following ratio. Most of the time the perception is that if you have more people you are following than the number of followers, you aren't really all that cool. Instagram is kind of an investment sort of deal where you follow someone hoping they follow you back and if they do not, then you risk having more people you are following than the number of followers.
Facebook is relatively simple, everyone wants more "friends" and adding a "friend" means you both win because you both have an extra friend, it is a different deal than Instagram. Now because of this situation, people are more likely to accept a friend request on Facebook than follow someone back on Instagram.
Here is what you will need in order for this to work.
1. Be under the age of around 35, ideally under the age of 30.
2. Have gone to either a big high school or a big college. Only exception to this is if you are deeply involved in a hobby or scene (say EDM?) that is huge and has a lot of people your age in it.
3. A relatively decent and well put together Facebook profile that says "I am not a lonely hermit that sits at home all day taking selfies".
4. Live in a big enough city or college town, not a boring bumfuck town without much going on in it.
Here is what I did.
I went to a pretty big school on the East Coast, large sports programs and all. After realizing we had alumni groups for Facebook, I joined them and posted every now and then. Slowly over a span on a couple months, I started sending out a few friend requests. I sent them to a variety of people from hot girls to cool guys to people that just looked like kind people. To my surprise a vast majority of people accepted and I decided to keep sending them to the point the amount of Facebook friends I had grew to about 800. Now I would post funny statuses here and there (you can Google these), non-political and nothing about race, gender or religion. I found my statuses were getting a few likes from people I had just added, some of them hot girls,
My school has a big alumni presence in NYC so whenever an event was scheduled at a bar, it popped up on my Facebook notifications tab. Then I started to realize that they also informed you who was going to be at the event based on your friend's list, naturally I went to events where 50+ of my friends were going to attend. If they were alumni meetups and something more daytime during the weekends, there was already built in rapport I had with a few people going who read my Facebook statuses.
I managed to get laid once by doing this but I had so many more options, it is just that online dating and my photography hobby have been going so well for me that I had to pick and choose. If I was the aggressive old me from back in college who would cold approach more often, I would probably gotten laid at least 4 to 5 times using this method but that old me is still taking a break.
For the first time in my life, I was plugged in.
After college you are not around as many 18-21 year olds as you used to be or people concentrated in the same age group as you. What this did for me was to help me avoid MeetUp events filled with old people coming off of a divorce that I could not relate to, girls who were lost with what to do with their social life and that one creepy older dude who always goes to the MeetUp events to hit on women.
My old alumni and a lot of the recent alumni from fresh out of college were going to certain bars and spots in the city, taking part in certain activities and I was not even as aware of it. Once I was plugged in and keyed in, I was slowly starting to get called to a couple parties, including one on New Year's Eve where I brought a Bumble date and had a few girls interested in chatting with me based on some funny statuses I wrote. What I found was before some of the other parties, I also made a few guy friends open to going out to chill with me and even wing with me. It really brought me into the whole happening crowd, I was plugged into where the parties were at and what big events the party crew was going to hit up.
I also noticed I saw quite a few girls, a couple of them hot, repeatedly in some of these activities and events. One of them was this tall dark haired girl at my alma mater who was in a sorority, one party she is grabbing my arm and just throwing herself at me wanting to dance, I can't dance. I had run into her about four times before and kept the whole ordeal a bit soft, not being as aggressive as I used to be.
Given my photography hobby, I also put up pics and high quality photos, linked them to my Instagram account, and they managed to get quite a few likes. One of them got about 70 likes which I am not as used to on Facebook. It became a way for me to market myself and I noticed some girls who were repeatedly liking my statuses and pics were interested, so I messaged them with either a hello or something simple like a hi. Some of them wrote back and we chatted a bit here and there, especially after I liked their stuff back. I have had a couple ask me what I do on the weekends and one invite me out to some underground music event. It has been an extra arm for me to use to get more lays, at this point I am hitting on a lot of cylinders.
So here is what you do.
1. Add all of your former classmates from either high school and especially college, people are more open to respond to friend requests than following someone back on Instagram. You want to go after people in your age range or very much near it.
2. Join all relevant groups, especially alumni groups or any local group a lot of your friends are in.
3. Turn on notifications for all events in the area.
4. Start updating your status with relevant high quality pics and funny posts (you can google these).
5. Start attending all relevant events.
6. If a girl likes more than one post of yours, message her with a hi and also like some of her stuff back.
7. Keep going to all relevant events, you will see some of these people over and over again.
8. Social opportunities abound, you will also pick up where a lot of people in your age group are going to and what they are liking in a given city.
This is the long game where the rewards are not as immediate.
The age old perception is that Facebook is dead, that it is all on Instagram now but I realized that Facebook is actually alive and kicking, its not just for grandma anymore. While Instagram is the go to social media when it comes to coolness, the reality is that Instagram is kind of a risky investment for social life due to the follower to following ratio. Most of the time the perception is that if you have more people you are following than the number of followers, you aren't really all that cool. Instagram is kind of an investment sort of deal where you follow someone hoping they follow you back and if they do not, then you risk having more people you are following than the number of followers.
Facebook is relatively simple, everyone wants more "friends" and adding a "friend" means you both win because you both have an extra friend, it is a different deal than Instagram. Now because of this situation, people are more likely to accept a friend request on Facebook than follow someone back on Instagram.
Here is what you will need in order for this to work.
1. Be under the age of around 35, ideally under the age of 30.
2. Have gone to either a big high school or a big college. Only exception to this is if you are deeply involved in a hobby or scene (say EDM?) that is huge and has a lot of people your age in it.
3. A relatively decent and well put together Facebook profile that says "I am not a lonely hermit that sits at home all day taking selfies".
4. Live in a big enough city or college town, not a boring bumfuck town without much going on in it.
Here is what I did.
I went to a pretty big school on the East Coast, large sports programs and all. After realizing we had alumni groups for Facebook, I joined them and posted every now and then. Slowly over a span on a couple months, I started sending out a few friend requests. I sent them to a variety of people from hot girls to cool guys to people that just looked like kind people. To my surprise a vast majority of people accepted and I decided to keep sending them to the point the amount of Facebook friends I had grew to about 800. Now I would post funny statuses here and there (you can Google these), non-political and nothing about race, gender or religion. I found my statuses were getting a few likes from people I had just added, some of them hot girls,
My school has a big alumni presence in NYC so whenever an event was scheduled at a bar, it popped up on my Facebook notifications tab. Then I started to realize that they also informed you who was going to be at the event based on your friend's list, naturally I went to events where 50+ of my friends were going to attend. If they were alumni meetups and something more daytime during the weekends, there was already built in rapport I had with a few people going who read my Facebook statuses.
I managed to get laid once by doing this but I had so many more options, it is just that online dating and my photography hobby have been going so well for me that I had to pick and choose. If I was the aggressive old me from back in college who would cold approach more often, I would probably gotten laid at least 4 to 5 times using this method but that old me is still taking a break.
For the first time in my life, I was plugged in.
After college you are not around as many 18-21 year olds as you used to be or people concentrated in the same age group as you. What this did for me was to help me avoid MeetUp events filled with old people coming off of a divorce that I could not relate to, girls who were lost with what to do with their social life and that one creepy older dude who always goes to the MeetUp events to hit on women.
My old alumni and a lot of the recent alumni from fresh out of college were going to certain bars and spots in the city, taking part in certain activities and I was not even as aware of it. Once I was plugged in and keyed in, I was slowly starting to get called to a couple parties, including one on New Year's Eve where I brought a Bumble date and had a few girls interested in chatting with me based on some funny statuses I wrote. What I found was before some of the other parties, I also made a few guy friends open to going out to chill with me and even wing with me. It really brought me into the whole happening crowd, I was plugged into where the parties were at and what big events the party crew was going to hit up.
I also noticed I saw quite a few girls, a couple of them hot, repeatedly in some of these activities and events. One of them was this tall dark haired girl at my alma mater who was in a sorority, one party she is grabbing my arm and just throwing herself at me wanting to dance, I can't dance. I had run into her about four times before and kept the whole ordeal a bit soft, not being as aggressive as I used to be.
Given my photography hobby, I also put up pics and high quality photos, linked them to my Instagram account, and they managed to get quite a few likes. One of them got about 70 likes which I am not as used to on Facebook. It became a way for me to market myself and I noticed some girls who were repeatedly liking my statuses and pics were interested, so I messaged them with either a hello or something simple like a hi. Some of them wrote back and we chatted a bit here and there, especially after I liked their stuff back. I have had a couple ask me what I do on the weekends and one invite me out to some underground music event. It has been an extra arm for me to use to get more lays, at this point I am hitting on a lot of cylinders.
So here is what you do.
1. Add all of your former classmates from either high school and especially college, people are more open to respond to friend requests than following someone back on Instagram. You want to go after people in your age range or very much near it.
2. Join all relevant groups, especially alumni groups or any local group a lot of your friends are in.
3. Turn on notifications for all events in the area.
4. Start updating your status with relevant high quality pics and funny posts (you can google these).
5. Start attending all relevant events.
6. If a girl likes more than one post of yours, message her with a hi and also like some of her stuff back.
7. Keep going to all relevant events, you will see some of these people over and over again.
8. Social opportunities abound, you will also pick up where a lot of people in your age group are going to and what they are liking in a given city.