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Not starting from square one here... but since moving up to highschool from junior high, it seems the majority of my rep has been diluted. I’m still at very least loosely friends with everybody popular in my grade, but the older ones may not know of me as-well. At least that’s the vibe I’m getting.
Mainly, it seems the highest form of value at this point is to have the popular seniors adore you... I have friends who are friends with these people, yet I have no classes with any of them and idk just never seem to be in the right place right time. I think there are parties that are open invite on the occasional weekend, should I go to one of these and try to warm up to ‘em.
I suppose social media presence would be a valid route to take, but idk the first thing about how to have an interesting Instagram account that gains a lot of followers. How to get pictures, what to do, where to go.... honestly I really need to develop my life-style and social circle, and that should be a lot easier now that I’m 16. I have pretty good fundamentals at this point and am allied with people of importance in my grade level, and some in junior year, but not really any in the senior class.
Also how do you at invited out to stuff? People will come to stuff if I were to invite them and my people that I consider a little closer than the rest invited me to stuff before, but they are currently all very busy bc our priorities are far different.
How necessary is conformity in a social circle?
For example, I don’t drink or do drugs, and that’s a large part of what the “cool” people talk about and do when they are out. Probably a main reason if not the only reason I don’t get invited to stuff often. To be part of the proper crowd... do you need to partake in the same activities as them?
For example: a new hot girl joins your work or school or whatever. It takes her a little while to establish herself, but once she finds friends... it’s with the drunks and stoners. You don’t like to drink or smoke so you never really got close with the group she is currently hanging with, is it ness scary to be close with her group, or not? Also this leads to the question of how important is it to have her friends approval? And finally, Do you need to have a group you hang out with outside of school to have value?
Mainly, it seems the highest form of value at this point is to have the popular seniors adore you... I have friends who are friends with these people, yet I have no classes with any of them and idk just never seem to be in the right place right time. I think there are parties that are open invite on the occasional weekend, should I go to one of these and try to warm up to ‘em.
I suppose social media presence would be a valid route to take, but idk the first thing about how to have an interesting Instagram account that gains a lot of followers. How to get pictures, what to do, where to go.... honestly I really need to develop my life-style and social circle, and that should be a lot easier now that I’m 16. I have pretty good fundamentals at this point and am allied with people of importance in my grade level, and some in junior year, but not really any in the senior class.
Also how do you at invited out to stuff? People will come to stuff if I were to invite them and my people that I consider a little closer than the rest invited me to stuff before, but they are currently all very busy bc our priorities are far different.
How necessary is conformity in a social circle?
For example, I don’t drink or do drugs, and that’s a large part of what the “cool” people talk about and do when they are out. Probably a main reason if not the only reason I don’t get invited to stuff often. To be part of the proper crowd... do you need to partake in the same activities as them?
For example: a new hot girl joins your work or school or whatever. It takes her a little while to establish herself, but once she finds friends... it’s with the drunks and stoners. You don’t like to drink or smoke so you never really got close with the group she is currently hanging with, is it ness scary to be close with her group, or not? Also this leads to the question of how important is it to have her friends approval? And finally, Do you need to have a group you hang out with outside of school to have value?