TL:TR
- Great Indicators of Interest upon Gym sign up
- Lack of opportunity to invite and dragged this for 3 months
- Looking needy during a "spell" season, low reputation and the gym, and looking like cheap complaining costumer
- Invited out today, was shot down in a true sweet way. Like if she really wanted too, but something bigger was holding her back
- Worth another move?
Back in mid October I was just back from Algarve vacations where I had lots of fun with some hotties.
Confidence was high, and I was looking fit and tanned too!
As I was signing up for this new gym, the front desk hottie was giving me those glittery sparkly eyes, touching her, like a kid looking at a candy store checking me out.
She was super nice and all smiles.
I've tried the same day inviting her out just on the front desk with a bold move.
But everytime I was going there, someone would just get in line on jump on my conversation. felt like people knew what I was up to, and wanted to ruin it.
There were 3 staff members and they do shifts and work backoffice when gym is running slow. So, I never knew when she was there.
As I was trying to meet her, I think it became obvious among the staff I was trying something with her.
Time went by, and I wasn't getting any action with other girls, started checking out some leg squatting booties moving around, and looking somehow needy.
On top of that, her colleague kinda hatted me I complained about some gym problems. And she's just that kind of chick who hates her job, expects a paycheck at the end of the month and despises "complain about everything costumers".
Given all this, I assume the image she had of me when signing up, had probably changed, with me looking like a needy cheap annoying gym member.
I tried to do some hot and cold, being super cool when checking in one day, and just ignoring she was there the next 2 days.
I felt today the time was right, as the gym was closing a 2pm, and she was the one closing it up.
So, on my exit, there was just the cleaning guy at he gym, and I stopped by the front desk and asked for advice to grab a after gym snack. Tried to tell 2-3 jokes before asking her out for a coffee.
She said "Sorry, I really can't" with the sweetest smile, and tone of voice.
When I asked her to drop her number and do it another day, I've got the same reply, and just said goodbye and walked away.
Should I have insisted and asked what was the reason why?
Maybe do some more warm up to create rapport before asking out.
I've got the feeling she wanted too, but something was holding her back.
Boyfriend would be obvious. but I think what really shot me down was not doing it in the beginning, days after signing up. And after that looking needy, cheap costumer and having no social approval from her coworkers.
I'm obviously meeting tons of girls whenever I have the chance to go to Downtown, and will not suffer from another "Onitis" crisis like i did almost ten years ago.
But I do like this chick, and if there's anything i can do to try to get her to go out with me, I'll do so.
Any ideas guys?
- Great Indicators of Interest upon Gym sign up
- Lack of opportunity to invite and dragged this for 3 months
- Looking needy during a "spell" season, low reputation and the gym, and looking like cheap complaining costumer
- Invited out today, was shot down in a true sweet way. Like if she really wanted too, but something bigger was holding her back
- Worth another move?
Back in mid October I was just back from Algarve vacations where I had lots of fun with some hotties.
Confidence was high, and I was looking fit and tanned too!
As I was signing up for this new gym, the front desk hottie was giving me those glittery sparkly eyes, touching her, like a kid looking at a candy store checking me out.
She was super nice and all smiles.
I've tried the same day inviting her out just on the front desk with a bold move.
But everytime I was going there, someone would just get in line on jump on my conversation. felt like people knew what I was up to, and wanted to ruin it.
There were 3 staff members and they do shifts and work backoffice when gym is running slow. So, I never knew when she was there.
As I was trying to meet her, I think it became obvious among the staff I was trying something with her.
Time went by, and I wasn't getting any action with other girls, started checking out some leg squatting booties moving around, and looking somehow needy.
On top of that, her colleague kinda hatted me I complained about some gym problems. And she's just that kind of chick who hates her job, expects a paycheck at the end of the month and despises "complain about everything costumers".
Given all this, I assume the image she had of me when signing up, had probably changed, with me looking like a needy cheap annoying gym member.
I tried to do some hot and cold, being super cool when checking in one day, and just ignoring she was there the next 2 days.
I felt today the time was right, as the gym was closing a 2pm, and she was the one closing it up.
So, on my exit, there was just the cleaning guy at he gym, and I stopped by the front desk and asked for advice to grab a after gym snack. Tried to tell 2-3 jokes before asking her out for a coffee.
She said "Sorry, I really can't" with the sweetest smile, and tone of voice.
When I asked her to drop her number and do it another day, I've got the same reply, and just said goodbye and walked away.
Should I have insisted and asked what was the reason why?
Maybe do some more warm up to create rapport before asking out.
I've got the feeling she wanted too, but something was holding her back.
Boyfriend would be obvious. but I think what really shot me down was not doing it in the beginning, days after signing up. And after that looking needy, cheap costumer and having no social approval from her coworkers.
I'm obviously meeting tons of girls whenever I have the chance to go to Downtown, and will not suffer from another "Onitis" crisis like i did almost ten years ago.
But I do like this chick, and if there's anything i can do to try to get her to go out with me, I'll do so.
Any ideas guys?