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Hey all,
So I read two of Chase's articles on false rape accusations and while Chase did mention you shouldn't be overly paranoid and that the chance is small, I'm wondering what the chances are for my particular situation with this girl I'm casually having contact with.
She mentioned in one of our first conversations that she was abused by some of her former boyfriends. Now according to Chase, this is a major red flag. So on top of that, I met her through social circle game. We've been having some personal conversations already and she actually knows quite a lot about me. This might also be a problem. She could seriously damage my reputation in our social circle, which is based around academics. I'm not sure how people in my country would respond to a rape accusation, but I'm thinking it could lead me to be kicked from my study, maybe even damaging my reputation in more serious ways. I'm not strong enough to take up the whole system by myself, or financially independent enough to move elsewhere and start over, although emotionally I could probably do that.
On top of the casually mentioning a history of abuse, she's also in a fucked up home situation. She manages quite okay, but it's definitely fucked up. Now there's some redeeming things about her, for instance she does see a therapist and she does take medication. She talks about the dynamic between her and her therapist and socially dominating her therapist, so she's sort of aware of that . She mentioned her being arrogant while on coke, but how she knows that the confidence is fake. She once told me honestly about a conversation with what I deemed a PUA using negging, telling her that she was totally fake and how that did work on her, yet she knew that it was just a trick and didn't take the bait. She's just a walking paradox: she's edgy, but responsible too.
I don't know what I have on my hands. Is this a fucked up girl just managing her situation really well through honest self-reflection and seeking proper help? Or is it too much craziness, will she get too clingy and dissapointed leading to bitterness leading to seeking revenge, leading to a rape accusation.
Now I've already had sex with her on the first date. However after the third date I noticed she was withholding sex, so I cooled things off and said I wasn't looking for a relationship. Apparently I played my cards well, because she kept on being interested, everytime I reached out she responded and was open to meet or have flirty contact. She also spoke out when she said she was hurt by me cooling things off, which is mature in my eyes. I think I unintentionally also kinda got attached to her in a minor way. She's beautiful, I think the most beautiful girl I've had sex with so far, this might blind me.
I just don't know. I'm really up for a relationship with a mildly crazy girl, but as a beginner my judgement isn't that good yet when it comes to craziness. I have no experience with craziness. I think eventually I would settle for a shy excited girl and be happy, but at this point in my life I feel emotionally ready to handle a turbulent, yet fun relationship. I just know that I consider the risk of a false rape accusation a real one, especially knowing she could hurt my reputation, and destroy my academic career, which at the moment is the only major investment in my future I've got going for me.
So let's say she is really too crazy and a danger to my reputation. In that case I decide to let her down. I could play my cards by saying there's something serious in my family situation that happened, which caused me to get depressed or something. This would work because she knows about my family situation as well as me knowing about hers, so she would just come to see me as a weak man who can't handle some drama (my family situation has actually stabilized over the last two years, and my relationships to my parents and brother have improved, but she doesn't know this). This is fine by me, as long as it doesn't lead to a rape accusation. I don't even care if word gets out of me being weak or whatever, even gay I wouldn't care about.
However (!), I have sort of kept her on a leash for the past half year, keeping her hopes up in some way I guess, I initiated our last contact and proposed to meet. Ditching her now would be pretty rude, and her seeing me as a weak man might then in turn lead to sex regret (from our first date) and a belated rape accusation. I am flirting with danger here. What to do, what to do...
So just wondering upon reading this, what judgment call you guys would make. I appreciate all the help!
So I read two of Chase's articles on false rape accusations and while Chase did mention you shouldn't be overly paranoid and that the chance is small, I'm wondering what the chances are for my particular situation with this girl I'm casually having contact with.
She mentioned in one of our first conversations that she was abused by some of her former boyfriends. Now according to Chase, this is a major red flag. So on top of that, I met her through social circle game. We've been having some personal conversations already and she actually knows quite a lot about me. This might also be a problem. She could seriously damage my reputation in our social circle, which is based around academics. I'm not sure how people in my country would respond to a rape accusation, but I'm thinking it could lead me to be kicked from my study, maybe even damaging my reputation in more serious ways. I'm not strong enough to take up the whole system by myself, or financially independent enough to move elsewhere and start over, although emotionally I could probably do that.
On top of the casually mentioning a history of abuse, she's also in a fucked up home situation. She manages quite okay, but it's definitely fucked up. Now there's some redeeming things about her, for instance she does see a therapist and she does take medication. She talks about the dynamic between her and her therapist and socially dominating her therapist, so she's sort of aware of that . She mentioned her being arrogant while on coke, but how she knows that the confidence is fake. She once told me honestly about a conversation with what I deemed a PUA using negging, telling her that she was totally fake and how that did work on her, yet she knew that it was just a trick and didn't take the bait. She's just a walking paradox: she's edgy, but responsible too.
I don't know what I have on my hands. Is this a fucked up girl just managing her situation really well through honest self-reflection and seeking proper help? Or is it too much craziness, will she get too clingy and dissapointed leading to bitterness leading to seeking revenge, leading to a rape accusation.
Now I've already had sex with her on the first date. However after the third date I noticed she was withholding sex, so I cooled things off and said I wasn't looking for a relationship. Apparently I played my cards well, because she kept on being interested, everytime I reached out she responded and was open to meet or have flirty contact. She also spoke out when she said she was hurt by me cooling things off, which is mature in my eyes. I think I unintentionally also kinda got attached to her in a minor way. She's beautiful, I think the most beautiful girl I've had sex with so far, this might blind me.
I just don't know. I'm really up for a relationship with a mildly crazy girl, but as a beginner my judgement isn't that good yet when it comes to craziness. I have no experience with craziness. I think eventually I would settle for a shy excited girl and be happy, but at this point in my life I feel emotionally ready to handle a turbulent, yet fun relationship. I just know that I consider the risk of a false rape accusation a real one, especially knowing she could hurt my reputation, and destroy my academic career, which at the moment is the only major investment in my future I've got going for me.
So let's say she is really too crazy and a danger to my reputation. In that case I decide to let her down. I could play my cards by saying there's something serious in my family situation that happened, which caused me to get depressed or something. This would work because she knows about my family situation as well as me knowing about hers, so she would just come to see me as a weak man who can't handle some drama (my family situation has actually stabilized over the last two years, and my relationships to my parents and brother have improved, but she doesn't know this). This is fine by me, as long as it doesn't lead to a rape accusation. I don't even care if word gets out of me being weak or whatever, even gay I wouldn't care about.
However (!), I have sort of kept her on a leash for the past half year, keeping her hopes up in some way I guess, I initiated our last contact and proposed to meet. Ditching her now would be pretty rude, and her seeing me as a weak man might then in turn lead to sex regret (from our first date) and a belated rape accusation. I am flirting with danger here. What to do, what to do...
So just wondering upon reading this, what judgment call you guys would make. I appreciate all the help!