This is a question for the boards less about picking up a girl but handling/managing face in your social circle. Recently parted ways with a former girlfriend in a rather sour breakup (10 months together). It was a major eye opener to me as looking back the reason was undoubtedly my own neediness. The issue that I am dealing with/trying to deal with now is not my ex herself but the fallout from a social circle standpoint. I had several friends of mine who were single (and some that were not) that outright told me they thought my ex was hot and I was an idiot for not locking her down yet.
I've now had one person hint to me that they would like to try to take a shot at a relationship or hookup with her. This person is not a particularly close friend of my own but is close with a number of friends of mine who I would consider myself closer to. In one thought I believe this shouldn't bother me - the relationship is over and there should be no mind over it. On the other hand I do feel if I am asked outright or bothered about it again, how I handle the situation, particularly in front of the girls that are apart of the social circle I'm in, could have an impact on the view of: "Is he an insecure, bitter man or is he secure and moving forward with his life?"
My initial reaction is to keep my response as unemotional as possible - saying "Do what you will" but I'd love to have some perspective on this. This girl came in to my life I believe in large part to the changes I made in my life due to my time on girls chase but it's clear I still have a lot to learn.
I've now had one person hint to me that they would like to try to take a shot at a relationship or hookup with her. This person is not a particularly close friend of my own but is close with a number of friends of mine who I would consider myself closer to. In one thought I believe this shouldn't bother me - the relationship is over and there should be no mind over it. On the other hand I do feel if I am asked outright or bothered about it again, how I handle the situation, particularly in front of the girls that are apart of the social circle I'm in, could have an impact on the view of: "Is he an insecure, bitter man or is he secure and moving forward with his life?"
My initial reaction is to keep my response as unemotional as possible - saying "Do what you will" but I'd love to have some perspective on this. This girl came in to my life I believe in large part to the changes I made in my life due to my time on girls chase but it's clear I still have a lot to learn.