Girl #1: In the dining hall. There was a table with food, but nobody was there. I sat at the table, eating my food. After sometimes a girl came.
=> This "preemptive approach" was good, because it was looking like she approached me, not I approached her.
Me (flirty tone): That pizza looked delicious
Her (smile): I got here before, but when I come back you're already there (good sign, she justified).
Me: What's your name?
Her: I'm ______
Me: I'm ______, nice to meet you.
I hold her hand, squeezed it a little bit. I found out she had been here for 3 month, and she was a freshman. I avoided the "What's your major?" path, because she looked tomboyish, so I went for the "What are you doing in free time?" path. I found out she was a hard party girl, I related a little bit. Turn point:
Her: Where do you get this shirt?
Me: Salvation Army.
Her (playful tone): Good morning Salvation Army. Your shirt is so cool.
Me: Of course it's cool (Agree & Amplify)
3 seconds silence.
Her (quiet tone): Are you single?
Me (think a little bit): Not now.
Her: I'm single too
Me (put my arm on her, looked in her eye, joking tone): Let's hook up.
3 seconds silence.
Her: What are you doing tonight?
Me: Why not going out with me and found out (Chase's Invitational Technique)
Her: I'm on birth control, we can't have sex tonight. (Probably a good sign, she was thinking about sex)
Me (slowed down, looking into space): You don't need to.
Her: Where are we going?
Now, from this point on I was going badly:
Me: Hollywood. I know a few cool place.
Her: It was too far, I can't go to Hollywood.
Me: How about Westwood, just a couple of walk.
She thought very hard, probably about 10 seconds.
Her: What are we going to do?
Me: Let's grab an ice cream.
Another 10 seconds
Her: I have homework tonight, let's do it tomorrow
Me: Homework can wait. You only live once.
Another 10 seconds.
Her: I'll go grab an ice cream.
Then she left, took an ice cream, and she return. From that point on it was going downhill. I tried polarizing as a pattern interrupt, then building rapport, then inviting her to my room, but it failed.
What I should have done:
This girl was clearly a thrill seeker, living in the moment. Therefore I should go for public sex in novel environment, like an empty classroom. Remember the black girl, near #600, I almost had sex with? I pulled her successfully to the back alley because it was a novel environment. Like:
Me: You know the Astronomy building?
Her: (some respond)
Me: (seed intrigue)
Then go to the Astronomy building, enter an empty classroom, and public sex.