Hello,
I just registered because I have really simple and important question after devoted reading of the blog. How can I not hurt girls when I lead it to casual relationships or even one-night stands?
I ran into that question because of few things:
Usually, I come up against some girls with instant interest in me, these girls usually are with low value (and I think this is the main reason that they have instant interest in me without even trying to evoke it)
From my perspective, I do not want to date these girls for a long-term relationship
but even if they less pretty or even low value – I still little bit attracted in them for casual things. Till now I usually just dismiss these girls because I don't want to hurt them when taking things to the casual. I know that girls like casual things too (and even really enjoy being with me in ONE). but, when it happens with these girls it usually look like they SEEK long-term relationship with me, probably because I'm high value compare to them (I think I GOOD at reading those signals of what they really want).
I just think if there is a way to be sure not hurting them and taking them to bed?
I trying to avoid moving too fast because they have low self-confidence and also I DO NOT want to sleep with these girls (or with any one) before I tell them explicitly that it's a casual thing (exception: if I'm a traveler or other reason so it's obvious).
I think it's best to do it in the first "date", so it's still moving pretty fast (tell her explicitly and in the same "date" and then try to escalate) but also harder to refuse to (tell this when I meet her – "date" is investment from her side) but, I don't know HOW to tell this. Do I need a reason? Her to blame, Like: "You are too young for me so it's couldn't work for long-term" or me to blame "I don't like long-term" or "I don't have time for long-term right now".
It looks like her to blame is dangerous for auto-rejection or for even take it as flirty statement and not seriously. Should I blame myself? (What will hurt them if they find out I will enter long-term in the near future and cut contact with them of the causal)
the situation I described is valid to any type of girls. Not just the ones who had low self-esteem – this is just the common type I encountered. I usually just waive these easy options or even middle ones (whether they are low self-esteem or high ones) because I don't know how to set the expectations properly.
I read all the articles about how to not hurt girls and how to set expectation properly, but, it's doesn't really answer my question.
I be happy to get some way to set the expectations properly in a SIMPLE WAY (preferred verbally, so I covered) and preferred in the first "date" (meeting after taking of the number) though I would like to hear new perspective. (Chase, l like to know what you think, and even if you think it's deserve a post you are welcome to publish)
Thanks
I just registered because I have really simple and important question after devoted reading of the blog. How can I not hurt girls when I lead it to casual relationships or even one-night stands?
I ran into that question because of few things:
Usually, I come up against some girls with instant interest in me, these girls usually are with low value (and I think this is the main reason that they have instant interest in me without even trying to evoke it)
From my perspective, I do not want to date these girls for a long-term relationship
but even if they less pretty or even low value – I still little bit attracted in them for casual things. Till now I usually just dismiss these girls because I don't want to hurt them when taking things to the casual. I know that girls like casual things too (and even really enjoy being with me in ONE). but, when it happens with these girls it usually look like they SEEK long-term relationship with me, probably because I'm high value compare to them (I think I GOOD at reading those signals of what they really want).
I just think if there is a way to be sure not hurting them and taking them to bed?
I trying to avoid moving too fast because they have low self-confidence and also I DO NOT want to sleep with these girls (or with any one) before I tell them explicitly that it's a casual thing (exception: if I'm a traveler or other reason so it's obvious).
I think it's best to do it in the first "date", so it's still moving pretty fast (tell her explicitly and in the same "date" and then try to escalate) but also harder to refuse to (tell this when I meet her – "date" is investment from her side) but, I don't know HOW to tell this. Do I need a reason? Her to blame, Like: "You are too young for me so it's couldn't work for long-term" or me to blame "I don't like long-term" or "I don't have time for long-term right now".
It looks like her to blame is dangerous for auto-rejection or for even take it as flirty statement and not seriously. Should I blame myself? (What will hurt them if they find out I will enter long-term in the near future and cut contact with them of the causal)
the situation I described is valid to any type of girls. Not just the ones who had low self-esteem – this is just the common type I encountered. I usually just waive these easy options or even middle ones (whether they are low self-esteem or high ones) because I don't know how to set the expectations properly.
I read all the articles about how to not hurt girls and how to set expectation properly, but, it's doesn't really answer my question.
I be happy to get some way to set the expectations properly in a SIMPLE WAY (preferred verbally, so I covered) and preferred in the first "date" (meeting after taking of the number) though I would like to hear new perspective. (Chase, l like to know what you think, and even if you think it's deserve a post you are welcome to publish)
Thanks
