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Copying my intro post from another thread I started:
"Well, I'm back. Things sadly did not work out with the former GF and things have officially come to an end right around the 1 year mark. Thursday was one of the most stressful days of my life due to a lot insanity I'm dealing with at work. I'm brand new to a management position and I'm coming in during the middle of a major transition, a huge project, and a lot of staff turnover. On top of that my best friend's mom died last week and I had to take Monday off to attend the funeral, which not only added to my emotional burden but also put me further behind at work.
I was in the office from 8 AM until 7:30 PM on Thursday, and got home just in time for my girlfriend at the time to stop over and tell me she didn't want to see me anymore. Our relationship has been on the rocks for a while now, so it wasn't completely unprecedented, but needless to say it wasn't the timing I would have chosen. I'm not going to lie to you guys, I definitely broke down and had to step into a conference room a few times on Friday, it's been a really rough week for me.
But ultimately I think its going to be for the best. We were limping along and the relationship wasn't headed in the right direction, nor do I think that was realistically going to change. Sometimes its better to rip the bandaid off and be done with it, and I'll give her credit for being the one to do that, even though its put me in a lot of pain right now. I've always found that the best solution for a sudden absence of girls in my life is to go out and find more girls. So even though I'm nowhere near emotionally ready for a relationship I'm gearing up to get back on the saddle and get back into the game.
I think I previously boasted that I could take my Tinder system and have two girls I was seeing on the regular within 2-3 weeks. I'm going to give myself a little bit more wiggle room then that. Tonight is UFC 229 and I'm going to complete my monthly ritual of getting together with a bunch of guys to watch the fights. My goal is that by the time UFC 230 rolls around on November 3rd, I have two girls in my rotation. That gives me just under a month to land two fish that meet my standards and keep them on the hook. I'm not sure if I'll be able to do it or not, but it gives me something to shoot for. Based on past experience I estimate it will take ~6 dates to get to that number, and it might take me 20 girls I end up messaging to get those 6 dates. Those are very rough numbers of course.
The first challenge is going to be getting up the motivation to get started again. I've installed Tinder and started swiping, but I'm not sending any messages yet, which is a necessary first step. The other challenge I'm anticipating is that as my standards have increased it becomes harder and harder to find girls that meet them (and it is of course harder to get dates with those girls as well, due to all of the other men chasing after them). My goal is to post updates of some kind in this thread, although I can't speak to how frequently that will happen."
"Well, I'm back. Things sadly did not work out with the former GF and things have officially come to an end right around the 1 year mark. Thursday was one of the most stressful days of my life due to a lot insanity I'm dealing with at work. I'm brand new to a management position and I'm coming in during the middle of a major transition, a huge project, and a lot of staff turnover. On top of that my best friend's mom died last week and I had to take Monday off to attend the funeral, which not only added to my emotional burden but also put me further behind at work.
I was in the office from 8 AM until 7:30 PM on Thursday, and got home just in time for my girlfriend at the time to stop over and tell me she didn't want to see me anymore. Our relationship has been on the rocks for a while now, so it wasn't completely unprecedented, but needless to say it wasn't the timing I would have chosen. I'm not going to lie to you guys, I definitely broke down and had to step into a conference room a few times on Friday, it's been a really rough week for me.
But ultimately I think its going to be for the best. We were limping along and the relationship wasn't headed in the right direction, nor do I think that was realistically going to change. Sometimes its better to rip the bandaid off and be done with it, and I'll give her credit for being the one to do that, even though its put me in a lot of pain right now. I've always found that the best solution for a sudden absence of girls in my life is to go out and find more girls. So even though I'm nowhere near emotionally ready for a relationship I'm gearing up to get back on the saddle and get back into the game.
I think I previously boasted that I could take my Tinder system and have two girls I was seeing on the regular within 2-3 weeks. I'm going to give myself a little bit more wiggle room then that. Tonight is UFC 229 and I'm going to complete my monthly ritual of getting together with a bunch of guys to watch the fights. My goal is that by the time UFC 230 rolls around on November 3rd, I have two girls in my rotation. That gives me just under a month to land two fish that meet my standards and keep them on the hook. I'm not sure if I'll be able to do it or not, but it gives me something to shoot for. Based on past experience I estimate it will take ~6 dates to get to that number, and it might take me 20 girls I end up messaging to get those 6 dates. Those are very rough numbers of course.
The first challenge is going to be getting up the motivation to get started again. I've installed Tinder and started swiping, but I'm not sending any messages yet, which is a necessary first step. The other challenge I'm anticipating is that as my standards have increased it becomes harder and harder to find girls that meet them (and it is of course harder to get dates with those girls as well, due to all of the other men chasing after them). My goal is to post updates of some kind in this thread, although I can't speak to how frequently that will happen."