engaging a woman verbally for the first time) in-and-of
itself is a necessity, something that must be done 96% of the time when
you want to meet a girl (if we imagine that about 4% of opening is done
by women themselves). It’s unavoidable and inescapable. Different types
of openers can net you different results – with direct
openers being of course the flavor of opening that typically offers
the most bang for your buck.
But outside the words used in the opener itself, there are in fact a
few other things you can do with your openers to have them serve you
Enter pre-opening. A term I coined to give name to a handful of small
nonverbal gestures that net big returns in opening percentages and
This is stuff that will get more girls opening for you, more
eagerly. If you want women falling all over themselves when you first
say hello, outside of making changes to your clothing, hairstyle,
posture, eye contact, voice, and other fundamentals, this –
pre-opening – is the way to do it.
There are several categories of pre-opening I’d like to cover here,
so rather than spend a lot of time talking about the how and why, let’s
just dive into them and hash that part of it out as we go.