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id=\u0022comment-7097\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/7097#comment-7097\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Wolf\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Wolf\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Wolf\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Wolf\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/7097#comment-7097\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EDoubtfulness\u0026amp;Can\u0026#039;t control laughing\/smiling \u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EWolf (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 10 February 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/when-course-correct-socially-and-when-not\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHello Chase, i was just wondering do you ever have any strong doubts or anything? You seem like such a confident guy that\u0027s confident in the positive light of things instead of negative. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027m just curious though, I wanted to know how Can I get rid of doubts and stop doubting myself. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u0027s like I doubt myself and think very negative instead of positive. I have just a few questions I\u0027d really appreciate you\u0027d answer.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E1. How can I not doubt myself against other guys and not fear them or feel intimidation?\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n2. When picking up how can I think of positives instead of negatives?\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n3. How do I really think positive instead of pretending to be positive, how can I make it real?\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n4. How can I stop this laughing habit I have? I truly do like to laugh but it\u0027s like a nervous laugh or I smile when facing confrontation. How do I get rid of this smiling habit and control it?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThanks appreciate it Chase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/922\/7097\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-7106\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/7106#comment-7106\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/7106#comment-7106\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EDoubts, Laughter\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 10 February 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/when-course-correct-socially-and-when-not\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/7097#comment-7097\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EWolf\u2013\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESure, but I broom them pretty fast these days. Doubts are when\nyou\u2019re in a novel situation where you don\u2019t know what to do\u2026 once\nyou\u2019ve acquired enough experience in a given arena, the doubts\ndisappear. Once you\u2019ve decided to do something and taken action, the\ndoubts also disappear.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo, on the rare occasion I have doubts, the thought process is\nalways, \u201cOh, crap, doubts; I need more experience here, and better\ninformation.\u201d Then I try to get better information. If I can\u2019t do that\nfast enough (usually that means within 10 minutes or so), then I just\nmake a judgment call and get action in gear; one way or another, once\nyou\u2019re in action you\u2019re going to know very quickly whether you made the\nright decision or not and get experience that will inform your future\ndecisions.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnyway, I\u2019ll talk about that a lot more when I do the article on\nbeing decisive.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf you\u2019re doubting yourself against other men, you need to get\nexperience teaching yourself you can handle them. So, if you\u2019re afraid\nthey\u2019ll best you socially, you need to go toe-to-toe with other men\nsocially and work to get better at besting them until you reach the\npoint where you simply can\u2019t be bested. Nightclubs are great for this.\nIf you fear physical violence, I\u2019d suggest a martial arts class; Krav\nMaga is highly practical, and gets you a lot of real experience in\ncombat-like situations that helps assuage much real-life doubt you\u2019ll\nface.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOn thinking positive, check out these posts:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cul\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/how-overcome-depression\u0022\u003EHow to Overcome\nDepression\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca\nhref=\u0022\/content\/threats-and-opportunities-difference-these-make-seduction\u0022\u003EThreats\nand Opportunities: The Difference These Make in Seduction\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca\nhref=\u0022\/content\/how-victim-mentality-can-stifle-your-life-%3F-and-luck-women\u0022\u003EHow\nVictim Mentality Can Stifle Your Life \u2013 and Luck with Women\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENervous laughter... you really just need to get comfortable in those\nsituations. The more you try to control it, the more it\u0027s going to come\nout.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThat said, I have heard the tip before of (litearlly) biting your\ntongue to keep yourself from laughing. I recall using it once - in 8th\ngrade, while interviewing a very serious priest, in a very tiny room,\nin a chair that even the subtlest movement caused a loud farting sound,\nfor 40 minutes. My tongue was very sore after those 40 minutes, but I\u0027d\nonly managed a couple of snickers throughout the entire interview.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/922\/7106\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-7099\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/7099#comment-7099\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/7099#comment-7099\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EEarning social respect\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EAnonymous (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 10 February 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/when-course-correct-socially-and-when-not\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHi Chase,\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nI\u0027ve been reading your articles and correcting myself so long. But I\u0027ve a big problem,i feel i am a weird,socially uncalibrated person. People do not give me much value and sometimes they get annoyed with what i say. I have many smart friends who are very good with women and also with men. I am also a pretty smart guy who scores about 99% in any IQ Test. But I can\u0027t relize what is my problem,why people dont give me respect..??? I see people are always having fun with each other,but i just can\u0027t join them because i don\u0027t know what to do,how to talk directly to them..and why people don\u0027t stay close to me they either dont make eye contact with me?is there any thing wrong with my vibes??I note I am a fucking handsome guy.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nPLEASE HELP ME OUT BROTHER.I KNOW ONLY YOU CAN HELP ME.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt would be better if you write an article about earning respect from people.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/922\/7099\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-7107\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/7107#comment-7107\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/7107#comment-7107\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ESocial Respect\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 10 February 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/when-course-correct-socially-and-when-not\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/7099#comment-7099\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EAnon-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYeah, that\u0027s a tough one. When you don\u0027t know what the problem is\nand can\u0027t really put your finger on it. Have you been tested for\nAsperger\u0027s syndrome at all? I\u0027ve known some guys who had this - it\u0027s\nbasically an inability to learn things intuitively, and only\nmechanically. You get super powers for learning things piece-by-piece,\nbut you simply can\u0027t pick them up without breaking them down into\ncomponent parts. I\u0027ve known a few guys like this who became really\ntalented at pickup, simply because they were able to break it down into\nenough repeatable, learnable chunks, get them all down, and just run\nthrough their processes with women methodically and get results. These\nguys sometimes are the most prolific guys you see once they get it all\nfigured out, actually, although there\u0027s always still something a little\noff about them (it gets better with time as they figure more and more\nabout social rules out, I\u0027ve noticed).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf it\u0027s that, you want to start breaking socializing down into\nbite-sized chunks and learning one nuance at a time. You can pay\nattention to what other people are doing, and start mimicking it\nyourself. I had to do this when I started working to be more social,\neven though I have normal \/ above-average empathy and intuitive\nlearning abilities, simply because I\u0027d been an outsider for so long\nthat by the point I began everyone else was far more socially advanced\nthan I was and it was the only way I could catch up.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnyway, I\u0027ll put an article in the queue for earning social respect,\nalthough my guess is you may have a more root-level problem of simply\ngetting better at reading social cues and nuances and responding the\nappropriate way to them.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EMeantime, check out these articles as something of a primer on some\nof those areas:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cul\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/conversationalist\u0022\u003EThe Conversationalist\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/how-not-be-creepy-guy\u0022\u003EHow to Not be the Creepy\nGuy\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/how-make-friends-master-key-new-friendships\u0022\u003EHow\nto Make Friends? The Master Key to New Friendships\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/922\/7107\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-7112\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/7112#comment-7112\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Inferno\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Inferno\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Inferno\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Inferno\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/7112#comment-7112\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ESoft or weak?\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EInferno (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 10 February 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/when-course-correct-socially-and-when-not\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey chase, i remember from a previous article you had mentioned differnces from strong and soft, i was wondering , what is the difference between soft and weak?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/922\/7112\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-7117\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/7117#comment-7117\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/7117#comment-7117\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ESoft vs. Weak\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 10 February 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/when-course-correct-socially-and-when-not\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/7112#comment-7112\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EInferno-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ETo a certain extent, it\u0027s a matter of perspective. The firmer you get, the more \u0022softness\u0022 tends to get perceived as \u0022weakness.\u0022 And the softer you are, the more \u0022strength\u0022 tends to get perceived as \u0022hardness\u0022 or \u0022stiffness\u0022 or \u0022extremity.\u0022\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOn the other hand, there\u0027s a real difference between \u0022soft\u0022 and \u0022weak,\u0022 too. A soft person you could generally define as someone who isn\u0027t very pushy, doesn\u0027t impose a lot, and is very considerate \/ thinks for others a great deal. Meanwhile, a \u003Cem\u003Eweak\u003C\/em\u003E person is someone who\u0027s a pushover, who doesn\u0027t stick to his or her guns when challenged, and who gives up rather than fights. Soft and weak are more commonly found together than, say, soft and firm, or hard and weak, but they\u0027re not necessarily always together. I\u0027ve known some very soft people who were also very firm about what they believed in and what they were willing to do and not do and put up with and not put up with, and some seemingly strong people who were weak when it came to letting people take advantage of them or having to stand firm with their beliefs.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/922\/7117\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-7113\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/7113#comment-7113\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Slightly Confused\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Slightly Confused\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Slightly Confused\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Slightly Confused\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/7113#comment-7113\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EThanks\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003ESlightly Confused (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 10 February 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/when-course-correct-socially-and-when-not\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EThank you for the article.  I have always wondered how to manage corrections since they vary so much and, at times, it feels like you are having to decide between being factually right and maintaining your integrity.  You broke it down very well and brought up very good points I hadn\u0027t thought about, such as the importance of being specific when correcting yourself.  \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd glad I could help.  Your articles provide a lot of reasonable answers to problems that I have run into before.  I appreciate what you do.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/922\/7113\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-7118\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/7118#comment-7118\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/7118#comment-7118\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ERe: Thanks\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 10 February 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/when-course-correct-socially-and-when-not\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/7113#comment-7113\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EGlad to hear the breakdown was useful, SC. Corrections are a weird, sticky place that are hard to figure out... mostly because they\u0027re a kind of random and uncommon thing to deal with. How often do you really need to correct yourself? Difficult to get much practice on or sit down and study much.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnyway, thanks again for the operant conditioning correction and the article idea here - it\u0027s nice to get a well-worded correction request rather than an impassioned, angry, accusatory response... which is what you see a lot more often on here (most of those never make it past moderation, though).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/922\/7118\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-7114\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/7114#comment-7114\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022break_bread\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022break_bread\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022break_bread\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022break_bread\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/7114#comment-7114\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EHello chase,\nI\u0026#039;m among the\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003Ebreak_bread (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 10 February 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/when-course-correct-socially-and-when-not\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHello chase,\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nI\u0027m among the top staff in hierarchy at my place of work. The situation today made me correct my staff in a really non gracious way. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAfterwards it felt awkward to engage in convo with the team. I guess I was still emotional cuz I cut into the convo, spoke with shakey eye contact and generally got intuited from people that they were uncomfortable. So I did the best I knew...left the scenario.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThis post really helped me get to the grit of probably how better to handle such.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EPainfully, one of the staff is new and I was looking at getting together with her soon. (we had exchanged numbers and she hadn\u0027t had time earlier. I didn\u0027t even expect to see her at work today)\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nWould you recommend going on with the seduction even after making\/seeming so mugged today?.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/922\/7114\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-7119\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/7119#comment-7119\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/7119#comment-7119\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ESeducing an Employee After a Management Snafu\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 10 February 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/when-course-correct-socially-and-when-not\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/7114#comment-7114\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EBreak Bread,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESounds like an ugly situation! I\u0027d recommend you find some way to boost your value back up in a hurry in a way that she\u0027s able to witness before moving forward with her, but the clock\u0027s ticking. If you wait for too long after she starts to know you better and better, your place in her life will become \u0022set,\u0022 and you\u0027ll be a fixture simply as her boss. There can \u003Cem\u003Esometimes\u003C\/em\u003E be ongoing flirtations that produce fruit... but these are only in the instance where the woman is more interested than you are, and it sounds like the opposite\u0027s the case here.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFind a way to demonstrate cool, confident power that she sees, and then move things forward with her after that. Women are attracted to a strong boss... but not so much to a weak one. So, be the strong one.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/922\/7119\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-7115\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/7115#comment-7115\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022sne\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022sne\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022sne\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022sne\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/7115#comment-7115\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003Epushy\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003Esne (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 10 February 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/when-course-correct-socially-and-when-not\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003Ei just drop it here, because it seems I am kind of lost. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E1. \u0027bout me\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n2. problem\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E1. I am very accomplished 26 old guy, career-wise. I leave alone, I have few \u0022go-through-fire\u0022 friends, job which I love, in accordance with passion and talent. Actually I am able to find common ground with most of people who ever were stained with ambition. I do alot of things, from skateboarding to playing guitar and martial arts. Seems like high value, huh? However, I know that if I would been loved, I could accomplish alot more (torn between actual high value, and \u0022may it be\u0022 higher value). I beat depression in few days after reading your insights, I am not afraid to start talking to strangers. I learn extremely fast. I dont know anyone who can understand as much as I do as fast, nor anyone who has so high moral standards that they feel responsibile for all what happends around them. And compelled to act as savior, hero, and protector to anyone. Maybe it seems like ego. But its who I am, I am always helping, going to great extent, pulling the heaviest weights, taking the most heat on myself in way to protect others. It seems stupid, however its who I am, I always find a way to be a hero, knight, king. However its seems unwanted, undesired, unrewarded. I dont do those things to be rewarded, I just want to be loved and love back. Apparently its seems so unbelivable, unrelatable... And here comes the problem:\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n2. I actually am able to get cell phones, but girls are flaking. Or we set up meeting, and I am comming off as pushy. Could you please help me with control of \u0022pushy\u0022? I dont want to have one-stands, I want relationship, full of love and understanding. With a girl with whom I can have children. I dont care for \u0022meaningless-sex\u0022. I want love which brings rest of my 95% capabilities from shadow, to be the best man I could be. I dont want to have 5 years of meaningless fckin... yeah that would be cool. However I always aim for end game. And the End Game for me is good, healthy relationship with passionate person with ambitions, dreams and courage to fullfil them. And also have the kids in meantime :D\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EPlease notice, that I am asking you for \u0022how to not be pushy\u0022, and not \u0022how to be addictive\u0022.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nAddictivness could work too. But its not my way. And if I change. I am afraid I become bad person, I wouldnt like that. I just want a \u0027clear shot\u0027 for true love. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI hope that I made myself clear, however if you would like some more info about me to help me better, you have my email. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/922\/7115\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-7121\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/7121#comment-7121\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/7121#comment-7121\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ENot Being Too Pushy\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 10 February 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/when-course-correct-socially-and-when-not\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/7115#comment-7115\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003ESNE-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u2019s hard to say for sure from your comment what\u2019s happening, but you sound like a guy with strong opinions who thinks very highly of himself, which is very healthy and good. However, you can run into problems with people when you project expectations that they treat you a certain way or respect you a certain way but you haven\u2019t yet learned how to convey the value you have in a way that makes them \u003Cem\u003Enaturally\u003C\/em\u003E come to treat or respect you that way on their own.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf you\u2019re getting called pushy, that means you\u2019re not getting women comfortable enough and you\u2019re asking for more investment than they feel ready to give. This isn\u2019t really a bad problem to have\u2026 it\u2019s a lot easier I think to tone down pushiness than to dial it up (which is the problem most men face starting out).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u2019ll put it in the post queue, but for now I\u2019d say focus on first identifying where specifically women are telling you you\u2019re pushing (what things are you saying or doing immediately before they tell you this?), and then finding either more inviting ways to deliver these requests or demands (see: \u201c\u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/%E2%80%9D\/content\/tactics-tuesdays-command-women-and-have-them-listen%E2%80%9D\u0022\u003ETactics Tuesdays: Command Women (and Have Them Listen)\u003C\/a\u003E\u201d), or building up more feelings of warmth and connectedness before you do (see: \u201c\u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/%E2%80%9D\/content\/secrets-getting-girls-art-deep-dive%E2%80%9D\u0022\u003ESecrets to Getting Girls:  The Art of the Deep Dive\u003C\/a\u003E\u201d and \u201c\u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/%E2%80%9D\/content\/what-does-she-want-8-things-you-must-ask-her%E2%80%9D\u0022\u003EWhat Does She Want? The 8 Things You Must Ask Her\u003C\/a\u003E\u201d).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYou\u2019ll probably find that either asking in more inviting \/ less pushy tones (as in the \u201cCommand Women\u201d article) or building more connectedness first removes a lot of what women are thinking of as pushiness from you.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/922\/7121\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-7126\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/7126#comment-7126\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022sne\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022sne\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022sne\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022sne\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/7126#comment-7126\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003Epushy\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003Esne (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 11 February 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/when-course-correct-socially-and-when-not\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/7121#comment-7121\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003Eyes, it seems you are right.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI do those things to be able to build connection \/like lets talk somewhere in private, dance etc\/, but I could improve way I do it. To make girl actually want it, not force it.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nNow I see it more clearly, thank you. When she actually says, that I am pushy, its because she face choice to either submit or refuse. Submitting is not dynamic which I want. And she is risk-averse, so yeah. When she actually refuse me we are on same page... Joke on me. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E-sne\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/922\/7126\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-7116\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/7116#comment-7116\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Leo\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Leo\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Leo\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Leo\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/7116#comment-7116\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ESexual Beginner\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003ELeo (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 10 February 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/when-course-correct-socially-and-when-not\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EChase,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ECollege freshman here. I have my fundamentals and pick up techniques down to a very good level due in large part to this fantastic website and your e-book material. However, once I am getting intimate with a girl, I start getting a bit nervous and hesitant, but mostly just thus not fully sexually aroused (which compounds the nervousness).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI don\u0027t suffer from any particular anxiety. At all other times, I am confident, cool, and relaxed. I would guess that the expectations (cliche, or not cliche) that come with loosing virginity coupled me being older than most guys who loose it is leading to this. I might be psyching myself out, but I\u0027m not sure how to stop it. Any tips or techniques for the sexual beginner?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ECurious to know your thoughts, as always. Can\u0027t wait for the updated site to debut, too.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ELeo\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/922\/7116\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-7122\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/7122#comment-7122\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/7122#comment-7122\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EPsyching Yourself Out Prior to Sex\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 10 February 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/when-course-correct-socially-and-when-not\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/7116#comment-7116\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003ELeo\u2013\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThat one\u2019s pretty common; it\u2019s nothing to feel bad about. Although yeah, it can be pretty maddening.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u2019s basically a case of being too \u201cmechanical\u201d in how you\u2019re looking at sex\u2026 you\u2019re working so hard to make sure everything happens right, you follow your process correctly, and you take all the right steps and measures that you don\u2019t get the emotions switching on and arousal coursing through your veins\u2026 and then it\u2019s getting to be time to perform, and you can\u2019t perform, and you get even more logical trying to figure it out, which gets you even farther away from being ready to perform, and then the girl just gets frustrated and wants to go.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhen I went through a stretch like this when I was working on getting physical escalation down to a \u201ct,\u201d I lost a number of really beautiful girls whom I had in various stages of undress because I was \u201cthinking too hard\u201d and trying to get everything perfect\u2026 and ended up without an erection because of it. The solution I eventually came up with was that I was going to stop worrying about it, just get girls\u2019 clothes off, get my clothes off, and then we\u2019d be there naked together, even if I was completely limp and unaroused, and I\u2019d just start running my penis across their naked bodies and focused on the sensation and enjoying it until I \u003Cem\u003Ebecame\u003C\/em\u003E aroused.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOnce you have a girl naked, she\u2019s in no hurry to get out of there if you\u2019re not ready immediately\u2026 you can take time to get in the moment and enjoy her. Take as much time as you need, really. She wants sex with you much more than she wants to get up and go.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYou can also tell girls you need them to help you \u201cget ready,\u201d and have them perform oral on you until you\u2019re excited and hard once the two of you are naked and you\u2019ve been fingering them a while. Just allow yourself to relax and enjoy and don\u2019t worry about how long she has to do it for as she does it. If she\u2019s very excited about having you inside of her (and she will be, once you\u2019ve been working her manually for a few minutes, and all of both of your clothes are off), she\u2019ll do whatever it takes to get you hard enough to have you get you in her.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOn the new site \u2013 I\u2019m excited to premiere it! It\u2019s nearly finished at this point\u2026 will make an official announcement sometime within the next week or so of the expected go-live date.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/922\/7122\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-7125\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/7125#comment-7125\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Mark \u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Mark \u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Mark \u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Mark \u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/7125#comment-7125\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EHey Chase, I was wondering if\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EMark  (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 10 February 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/when-course-correct-socially-and-when-not\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey Chase, I was wondering if you would consider yourself an existentialist. I know that term is somewhat ambiguous, but I am interested in what you have to say.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nMark\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/922\/7125\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-7129\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/7129#comment-7129\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/7129#comment-7129\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EExistentialism\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 11 February 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/when-course-correct-socially-and-when-not\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/7125#comment-7125\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EMark-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThat\u0027s sort of a random question! But, anyway...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EExistentialism seems to be based on a very \u0022personal\u0022 view of things. i.e., there is no intrinsic meaning in existence, so there is only the meaning you make for yourself. On the other hand, I consider the question of personal meaning as completely irrelevant. If a sauropod lived a life it considered meaningful 90 million years ago, is there any ripple effect of that today? Does anyone now remember, or care? Whether the sauropod considered its life meaningful or meaningless is as irrelevant now as whether that sauropod had a scar above its left eye or not. The only one who ever cared was that sauropod, and it\u0027s long dead and forgotten and doesn\u0027t care itself anymore anyway.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EConversely, I think there \u003Cem\u003Emay\u003C\/em\u003E be meaning in things, but we cannot know it until we know how things end (to determine whether it was all for nothing, or whether our accomplishments, whether genetic or other accomplishments, endure). However, if things end, that wipes everything out and thus destroys all meaning. Thus, there is only meaning so long as things endure... therefore, to me, the \u0022meaning\u0022 we face is a universal one: assuring the endurance of, at minimum, existence, and above that, life itself, Earth life, animal life, human life, the lives of our close kin, and, eventually, our descendants.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo I suppose I would say that we exist because we exist, and if our ancestors did not reproduce and ensure the continuance of life, we would not exist. Therefore, the meaning of life is an intrinsic one: the meaning of life is found in its continuance. If it is utterly erased, though, then it has never meant anything. So existence must necessarily be about furthering the cause of life, and furthering its existence and protection from erasure.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/922\/7129\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-7133\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/7133#comment-7133\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Mark\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Mark\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Mark\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Mark\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/7133#comment-7133\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EInteresting, but doesn\u0026#039;t that\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EMark (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 11 February 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/when-course-correct-socially-and-when-not\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/7129#comment-7129\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EInteresting, but doesn\u0027t that more suggest that all meaning is relative? In other words meaning is only present at a temporary level, since each person values their own life accomplishment as more meaningful than the next. Therefore once that person is gone, their own personal meaning begins to fade, and the impact of their life on others fade as generations pass. Or do you think there is a higher meaning that we are not aware of?\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nMark\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/922\/7133\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-7175\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/7175#comment-7175\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/7175#comment-7175\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EMeaning\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Wednesday, 13 February 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/when-course-correct-socially-and-when-not\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/7133#comment-7133\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey Mark-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhat I was saying was that whatever an individual person values his or her life at is meaningless in and of itself. So, if Guy A values his accomplishments as way more amazing than Ancestor #2,486,379 that came before him, from a universal perspective that valuation is meaningless in and of itself.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf you view the continuance of life as the purpose and drive of all biological organisms, and their contributions to that as what lends meaning to their existence, then the \u0022meaning\u0022 is really just in supporting the continuation of life. So long as life exists, everything that\u0027s contributed that and helped life - even by challenging it and making it stronger - has been meaningful.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHowever, if life is ever completely extinguished, then everything that\u0027s ever happened retroactively becomes meaningless.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThat is to say, assuming life continues on indefinitely, your and my lives, if we contribute to that, are meaningful, necessary, and good. If life is ever totally extinguished, than nothing we do now matters because the future will be the same regardless (total annihilation).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOur lives are either meaningful, or they aren\u0027t, but we don\u0027t know whether they are or not right now; thus, the most sensible thing to do is do your part to contribute toward the continuation of life - if life never dies out, you will have led a life filled with meaning; if life ever does, then it won\u0027t matter whether you did your part or didn\u0027t.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThere may be another universal meaning besides the mundane - global reports of near-death experiences all have almost exactly matching descriptions (meeting \u0022beings of light,\u0022 feeling utterly at peace, and \u0022knowing\u0022 what everything was all about), and people taking LSD or psilocybin also recount similar experiences. However, there\u0027s no current way of knowing whether this is some actual real phenomenon external to the individual\u0027s body, or if this is some artefact of the brain that\u0027s ubiquitous among human beings and that\u0027s simply how the brain reacts to nearly dying \/ going on an acid trip. If it isn\u0027t anything external, there\u0027s only the mundane. If it is external, then there\u0027s the question of whether this is something beyond the mundane, or something that depends on the mundane (as some partial consciousness that lives on in some global consciousness-field or something that only continues to exist so long as life exists, for instance).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnyway, those are just my current thoughts on \u0022meaning,\u0022 existence, etc. I think most people are far too afraid of uncertainty, and need to construct a lot of false certainty just to try to escape it. 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