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id=\u0022comment-96428\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/96428#comment-96428\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022SonnyK\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022SonnyK\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022SonnyK\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022SonnyK\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/96428#comment-96428\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EMen becoming more massive can work partially\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003ESonnyK (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Friday, 26 September 2025  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/article\/why-do-men-have-approach-why-wont-women-approach\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long 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So if men en masse become more passive to some extent women like become more active. I take your point that it\u0027s never going to near how men will pursue women but it\u0027s considerably different in the aforementioned countries from what i hear and what people say.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/4535\/96428\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-96470\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/96470#comment-96470\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/96470#comment-96470\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EAssertive Women\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Tuesday, 14 October 2025  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/article\/why-do-men-have-approach-why-wont-women-approach\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/96428#comment-96428\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003ESonnyK-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYeah, it happens to some extent.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWomen in Japan are a bit more aggressive now too due to the collapse in so many men approaching (huge numbers of older Japanese now have never had sex). Aggressive women were also a big thing in Lebanon in the mid-2000-naughts when all the men fled the country due to the war (they didn\u0027t to be conscripted).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut yeah, aggressive approaching women do not really come close to compensating for the lack of male approaches, mostly just due to simple biology.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/4535\/96470\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-96430\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/96430#comment-96430\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Thirty Something\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Thirty Something\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Thirty Something\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Thirty Something\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/96430#comment-96430\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EFemale Choosiness \u0026amp; Age Gap Shaming\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EThirty Something (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Saturday, 27 September 2025  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/article\/why-do-men-have-approach-why-wont-women-approach\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHi Chase. Excellent post on why men have to approach women to get laid. If a male having successfully reproduced before meeting a woman is one of the greatest aphrodisiacs there is to a woman, is approaching a woman as a single thirty or forty something without kids the greatest killer of attraction there is? Allow me to follow that question up with the topic of age-gap shaming among Western women. What is the source of age-gap shaming among younger women? Is it related to women\u2019s choosiness? Is the Frankfurt School the cause of it? Is there evolutionary pressure from older women to convince younger women they should age-gap shame older men to \u201cman up\u201d and date women their own age? Relating to your dogged follow up series, what does one do when the first response a girl gives you to your follow up is, \u201chow old are you?\u201d I recall how in your article walking the line, you had to guide a woman through the peer pressure she was feeling regarding getting together with you. Would you have to do something with younger women every time they reject you for being much older than them, and could you give an example of that? Thanks.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/4535\/96430\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-96471\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/96471#comment-96471\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/96471#comment-96471\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EAge Objections from Younger Girls\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Tuesday, 14 October 2025  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/article\/why-do-men-have-approach-why-wont-women-approach\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/96430#comment-96430\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EThirty Something-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENo, it\u2019s not an attraction killer \u2014 unless you let it be!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EJust like how being a celebrity is an aphrodisiac\u2026 but not being a celebrity is not an anti-aphrodisiac, unless you start explaining to her about how you really hoped to be a celebrity but never made it.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAge gap shaming when it is younger women doing it is a way of fending off more approaches from undesirable men. Think about any kind of approach shaming:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cul\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EMen ogling women\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EMen catcalling women\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EOld guys hitting on women\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003ECreepy guys hitting on women\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u2019s all aimed at men the woman does not find attractive from that guy\u2019s category, not others.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf she\u2019s into you, she wants you to ogle her, and will be flattered if you cat call her (of course, she would much rather you actually approach her). If you\u2019re an attractive older guy she will be happy you talked to her and there is no age gap shaming.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u2019s important to understand that women split their suitors into \u201cmen I want \u2014 yes!\u201d and \u201cmen I don\u2019t want \u2014 ew!\u201d and for the men they don\u2019t want, they will pick whatever rejection excuse is near at hand \u2014 too short, too old, too fat, too broke \u2014 even if the very next guy they end up dating (i.e., one they find desirable) is shorter, older, fatter, broker, etc.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhen you hear a younger girl talking about \u201cEw, dirty old men!\u201d just realize she is talking about out-of-shape, weird, sloppy, unsmooth older men. She is not talking about an in-shape, sharply dressed, silver tongued older slayer. To her, those two men are like different species; she does not even mingle the two in her mind.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u0026gt;\u0026gt; Relating to your dogged follow up series, what does one do when the first response a girl gives you to your follow up is, \u201chow old are you?\u201d\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ETreat it as a windup to rejection. Women don\u2019t ask interrogation questions in response to normal texting unless they are winding up for an excuse to reject. It doesn\u2019t matter if they are 27 and you are 23, 27, or 37. If you answer the question with an age, you either lose outright or go into the \u201cmaybe I will let him be my boyfriend but ONLY IF he does everything right\u201d box.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI will say this: after a few years of trying everything possible to respond to \u201con the spot\u201d text interrogations like that (typically after a girl agreed to a date, gave her number, then I sent a nice text with consideration, something about me, a schedule check \u2014 then the whole response is \u201cWhat are you looking for?\u201d or \u201cWhat job do you work?\u201d or anything like that), and finding that every possible answer always led to some fruitless back-and-forth, I just switched my default to \u201cghost\u201d every time a girl sends something like that.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf you\u2019re meeting enough women, you don\u2019t even care about it. \u201cLol, she is sending me interrogation questions\u2026 all right, never mind then. I\u2019m not gonna play that game.\u201d\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E(Personally, this is one of my pet peeves \u2014 you sent her a really nice message and she sends some BS like that back, ignoring the entire message, trying to dictate the flow of the conversation. Nuh-uh.)\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe funny thing is maybe 30-40% of the time the girl double texts after a while trying to explain herself: \u201cIt\u2019s just I\u2019m asking because blah blah blah,\u201d generally because (if you sent her a cool text, and she just ignored it all and interrogated you), she will start understanding that she is behaving in a socially awkward way.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThen it is up to you if you want to respond to that or not.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E(For me, it depends how much her explanation makes sense \/ seems genuine. Responding to those in a way that leads to a date gets a bit complex though \u2014 there is an entire frame control aspect to it where you need to disqualify yourself but in a way that triggers her to chase after you. It\u2019s a pretty niche subject though and not really something you should be running into a whole lot\u2026 if you are seeing it with age, you need to do a better job of addressing age in your sets while you are in-person with girl so you stop having to firefight it over messages.)\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/4535\/96471\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-96480\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/96480#comment-96480\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Thirty Something\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Thirty Something\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Thirty Something\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Thirty Something\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/96480#comment-96480\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EAddressing Age in Person\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EThirty Something (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Tuesday, 14 October 2025  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/article\/why-do-men-have-approach-why-wont-women-approach\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/96471#comment-96471\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHi Chase. Thank you for your response. In your opinion, what would be the best way to addressing my age in my sets while in person? This is how things usually go:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHer: \u201cHow old are you by the way?\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nMe: \u201cThirty-eight.\u201d \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E[Awkward Pause]\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHer: \u201cWow, you give off a much younger vibe. I would have figured you were much younger.\u201d\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nMe: \u201cWhat about yourself, how old are you?\u201d\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nHer: I\u2019m 23.\u201d\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWould better addressing my age be like a preempting that a girl would have a negative response?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHer: \u201cHow old are you by the way?\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nMe: \u201cThirty-eight. I know, I know, I\u2019m old, I might as well already have one foot in the grave. I should invite you to my memorial. You can talk about how young and handsome I looked for my age.\u201d\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nHer:  [Laughs] \u201cNo, no, you\u2019re not old.\u201d\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOr perhaps I would redirect and not answer until a later date?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHer: \u201cHow old are you by the way?\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nMe: \u201cI\u2019d prefer you get to know me first before I start taking about my age, or ethnicity, or anything like that. I\u2019ll let you know by date number three.\u201d\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EMaybe I throw it back on her?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHer: \u201cHow old are you by the way?\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nMe: \u201cWe just met and you\u2019re already sizing me up for a relationship? [Laughs]\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nHer: \u201cI\u2019m just curious.\u201d\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nMe: \u201cI bet there are a lot of things you\u2019re curious about, but I\u2019m not an open book like some guys are.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EMaybe I just lie? All\u2019s fair in love and war right? When Odysseus says to the Cyclops, my name is Nobody, we recognize that he is telling him a lie. By tricking the Cyclops by thinking his name was Nobody, Odysseus ultimately succeeds in escaping captivity. Or when Odysseus used a Trojan horse to sneak soldiers inside the impregnable city of Troy.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ELie not as a sin, much less a crime, but as a clever ruse which can allow me to bed a girl, penetrate the city of Troy.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E[Post coital conversation]\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nHim: \u201cHey, I want to talk to you about something.You know how I told you I\u2019m 27? I\u2019m actually 38. I was just messing around when I first met you, but now I think that after hanging out with you so much I can tell I\u2019m really into you, and don\u2019t want to keep this a secret any longer.\u201d\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI would really appreciate your feedback as to how to setup a narrative or frame for addressing my age in person. I fear a girl may be rejecting her conception of what person my age is before even giving me a chance.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/4535\/96480\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-96481\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/96481#comment-96481\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/96481#comment-96481\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EIn-Person Age Tests\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Tuesday, 14 October 2025  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/article\/why-do-men-have-approach-why-wont-women-approach\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/96480#comment-96480\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EThirty Something-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI probably ought to do a standalone article on this, since it comes up so often.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe best way to deal with age in my opinion, if you do not want to lie, is to be the one asking and getting her to qualify:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYOU: \u0022Wait, how old are you?\u0022\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHER: \u0022I\u0027m 24.\u0022\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYOU: \u0022Oh my God, you\u0027re a baby!\u0022\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHER: \u0022I\u0027m very mature for my age!\u0022\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe simpler way is to just lie by telling her to guess then going with whatever age she guesses (because she will tell you what age she WANTS you to be -- some age that is \u0022acceptable\u0022 to her).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThat is a case of \u0022it\u0027s not lying; it\u0027s flirting.\u0022 Though if you end up in a relationship with her later you will have some untangling to do.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EJames Cruse has a good write up of various strategies in \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/www.skilledseducer.com\/threads\/stickied-simple-technique-for-age-gaps-younger-or-older-daygame-nightgame-social-circle.28534\/\u0022\u003Ethis forum post\u003C\/a\u003E, too.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/4535\/96481\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-96431\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/96431#comment-96431\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/user\/31407\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Walter\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Walter\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Walter\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Walter\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/96431#comment-96431\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ENatural roles\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/user\/31407\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/user\/31407\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EWalter\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 28 September 2025  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/article\/why-do-men-have-approach-why-wont-women-approach\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EI agree that almost all men will have to approach women if they want to get laid. But what science still \u0022fails\u0022 to explain is this: Why do most women eventually settle for men (husbands and fathers) anyways if they are supposed to pick the best genetics? In pretty much all 3rd world countries, couples aren\u0027t getting married because women pick the best genetics or because men approach women, they only get together for financial reasons and due to status\/marriage arrangaments. Most women are most likely miserable in those marriages. And it\u0027s not much different in the western hemisphere either since most women settle for guys who either have resources to provide and\/or make good husbands. So wouldn\u0027t women want to pick the men they think have the best genetics for their offspring instead of waiting for guys to approach them who they will most likely settle for anyway? Let\u0027s keep one thing real, the so called high vale males aren\u0027t going to approach most women either. That\u0027s why the natural aspect of picking the best genetics is totally ignored by women in the mating process IF you want to use natural roles of men and women as an argument. I would say at least 90% of all women worldwide don\u0027t marry the guy they actually desire\/are attracted to. They get get married to the guy they need due to social programming. Also I don\u0027t think feminism even plays a main role in this topic at all, it\u0027s just that most men use feminism as an excuse for their reason to not approach women. The main reason (s) they don\u0027t want to approach women is because they are scared of rejection and some of those reasons are shown in this part of your article, especially points 4 and 5:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E1\ufe0f\u20e3 Ask yourself: \u201cWould it be cool to have that girl naked in my bed?\u201d\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n2\ufe0f\u20e3 IF YES: go talk to her. Does she talk back?\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n3\ufe0f\u20e3 IF YES: flirt with her a bit. Does she flirt back?\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n4\ufe0f\u20e3 IF YES: ask her on a date. Does she agree?\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n5\ufe0f\u20e3 IF YES: take her number down.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EMost guys, in my opinion, have made bad experiences after setting up dates. They either get shot down (mostly), flaked on or it doesn\u0027t go nowhere after the date is over. So whether it\u0027s manly to approach or not, whether it\u0027s our duty as males to be aggressive or not doesn\u0027t even matter since men simply don\u0027t feel comfortable doing all the work anymore.  if approaching women were naturally imprinted in men then there wouldn\u0027t be any need to discuss this topic at all. In fact I most men in the past were no different, they had no clue how to talk to women let alone game them. Both my grandpas didn\u0027t have to approach their future wives, their families did all the \u0022work\u0022. My dad was introduced to mo mum and so where most people in the past. All this \u0022men aren\u0027t men anymore\u0022 is one of the biggest lies ever told to younger males these days. I have approached more women in my life than my dad and grandpas combined, I am pretty sure of that. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EPlease, don\u0027t take this as criticism, I truly like reading your articles and I like challenging some  of your views, it\u0027s not personal. 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Because it is probably different from how they are determining it themselves.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI will tell you this: if you took a hillbilly loser with \u2018bad genetics\u2019, but who was phenomenal in the sack and had incredible frame control, and you put him in a relationship with a young, fertile supermodel with \u2018top flight genetics\u2019, as soon as that hillbilly loser had his hooks in her, fucking her brains out and frame controlling the shit out of every attempt she made to act up, she would be head over heels in love with him, forever (or until he got too tired of her shit).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWomen and men alike, as well as chimpanzees, frogs, birds, and every other sexually reproducing organism, go through a satisficing process. They select the mates their brains determine is the best available option for them that balances out all their different reproductive considerations. Brains put a LOT of work into making this decision and it is among the highest computation decisions an organism will make.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EMost are not having to really \u2018settle\u2019, either.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/flowingdata.com\/2017\/11\/01\/who-is-married-by-now\/\u0022\u003E29% of American white women are married by age 25.\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E58% of them are married by age 30.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E74% are married by age 35.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EGenerally speaking, higher caliber women marry younger (though not SUPER young these days). If she is unmarried at 30 she is headed into \u2018leftover\u2019 territory. Most women do not even reach the point where they are having to decide whether to settle or not. They get a guy they like and rope him down.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cblockquote\u003E\u003Cp\u003EAlso I don\u0027t think feminism even plays a main role in this topic at all, it\u0027s just that most men use feminism as an excuse for their reason to not approach women.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/blockquote\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYeah, guys fear rejection.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut guys have always feared rejection.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EGuys have always gone for dates but been shot down, stood up, and so on.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo why are men complaining they need to approach women now?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhy weren\u2019t they complaining about it in 1980 or 1950, when men also got shot down and stood up?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cblockquote\u003E\u003Cp\u003Emen simply don\u0027t feel comfortable doing all the work anymore\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/blockquote\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhy though? What changed?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cblockquote\u003E\u003Cp\u003EBoth my grandpas didn\u0027t have to approach their future wives, their families did all the \u0022work\u0022. My dad was introduced to mo mum and so where most people in the past. All this \u0022men aren\u0027t men anymore\u0022 is one of the biggest lies ever told to younger males these days.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/blockquote\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYes, meeting people was easier in the past due to third places. These are mostly gone now.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E(That said, both my grandfathers approached my grandmothers. At least one was a cold approach!)\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cblockquote\u003E\u003Cp\u003EI have approached more women in my life than my dad and grandpas combined, I am pretty sure of that.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/blockquote\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFolks like you and me are not representative of the general male population.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/web.archive.org\/web\/20250805093533\/https:\/\/datepsychology.com\/risk-aversion-and-dating\/\u0022\u003E45% of men aged 18 to 25 have NEVER approached even one woman in person for a date.\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI hear from guys all the time saying things like, \u201cDoes cold approach really work? Do you really suggest I try it?\u201d\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EDudes are very insular these days.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cblockquote\u003E\u003Cp\u003EPlease, don\u0027t take this as criticism, I truly like reading your articles and I like challenging some of your views, it\u0027s not personal. That\u0027s how I learn and adapt my views too when I think about this whole topic.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/blockquote\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EDuly noted, man!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ECheers,\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/4535\/96474\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-96780\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/96780#comment-96780\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Delammain\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Delammain\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Delammain\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Delammain\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/96780#comment-96780\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EGross\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EDelammain (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Friday, 13 February 2026  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/article\/why-do-men-have-approach-why-wont-women-approach\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EThis is one of the grossest articles Ive ever read from you chase. the Bulljive alpha male check to see if you have a penis jab is very performative and soap opera levels of cringe.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThen men who ask for women to approach aren\u0027t expecting the women to automatically adopt all male roles. 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