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id=\u0022comment-91796\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/91796#comment-91796\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Xander\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Xander\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Xander\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Xander\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/91796#comment-91796\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EGuide for better calibration for autistics and non autistics men\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EXander (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 6 December 2021  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/article\/why-autistic-people-struggle-dating-mind-blindness\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EDear Chase,\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nThanks for this article. I don\u2019t know if this is related to my previous posts, after all people with autistic behavior can\u2019t judge right, hahaha I am just joking. Anyway, based on facts written in article and videos watched, I guarantee the inability of guys like me to calibrate to women are not lack of emotional and basic social awareness. Maybe only 5-10% of facts were true for me. In fact, I have meet people described in article and I know what you are talking about. Some other things that influence calibration are more likely.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nMany times, before girl would reject me, I knew she will reject me and just went for escalation to have my conscience clear to know I tried. I (and probably guys like me) see all the time when girl is interested or uninterested. In fact, girls pretty much all the time are neutral or give me subtle signs that don\u2019t want me. My judgments are right because all those girls rejected me. Problem is that I haven\u2019t meet interested girl in me since from high school.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nQuestions are simple (and hope last so it doesn\u2019t take off your time): are there major causes except psychological that affects guy\u2019s ability to calibrate with women that are dissimilar to him? What practically autistics or non-autistics guy can do to avoid miscalibration issues from very beginning? Also, are there and what are differences in calibration strategies for autistics and non-autistics guys?\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nSimply, I am hard working, good looking, (maybe too) honest, generous, sensitive and ambitious guy, socially successful that constantly meets women that are not so similar to him and who are non-forgiving and writes him off too quickly. Also, due to lack of attainability, those girls often intentionally look for my unattractive traits claiming I am unmasculine, unsexy and boring no matter what I do (and often end up with even more unmasculine, unsexy and boring man than me).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/3671\/91796\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-91803\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/91803#comment-91803\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Ms. Jonathan (Foodgod)\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Ms. Jonathan (Foodgod)\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Ms. Jonathan (Foodgod)\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Ms. Jonathan (Foodgod)\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/91803#comment-91803\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ENot everything is about \u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EMs. Jonathan (F... (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Tuesday, 7 December 2021  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/article\/why-autistic-people-struggle-dating-mind-blindness\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/91796#comment-91796\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003ENot everything is about \u0026quot;micro tactics.\u0026quot;  Change your environment (AKA move).  Then test girls there.  It\u0026#039;s possible that you\u0026#039;re just \u0026quot;fishing in the wrong pond.\u0026quot;  Some dudes can pull cute girls in Place X, but get nowhere in Place Y.  See whether your failure is specific or general.  If you bomb \u0026quot;everywhere,\u0026quot; then you can go back to \u0026quot;game.\u0026quot;  That said, I assume you\u0026#039;re mostly the problem, since you\u0026#039;re doing weird shit (such as escalating on a girl who\u0026#039;s shownnserious indicators of no interest).  Lastly, you might be misjuding guys who got what you couldn\u0026#039;t.  They may not be more girly, unsexy or boring than you.  Your subjectivity is possibly clouding your judgement.  (When somebody\u0026#039;s rejected for a job, for instance, he\u0026#039;s likely to characterize a successful job applicant as \u0026quot;less qualified,\u0026quot; even when that\u0026#039;s hilariously wrong).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/3671\/91803\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-91797\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/91797#comment-91797\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022gringo\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022gringo\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022gringo\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022gringo\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/91797#comment-91797\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EFascinating. I sometimes\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003Egringo (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 6 December 2021  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/article\/why-autistic-people-struggle-dating-mind-blindness\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EFascinating. I sometimes wonder if I suffer from mild autism or if my low empathy is attributable to some other aberrance, psychopathy even. I struggle with longer-term\/committed relationships, avoiding them for the most part as I find women\u2019s emotional needs quite burdensome and the closeness that results from managing them well, rather useless. Emotional outbursts positive or negative, are often purely reassurance that I have an effect on them. Harsh, I guess.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ERegarding its effects on long term relationships and pick up, how does the low empathy of an aspie defer from that of psychopath and vice versa?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/3671\/91797\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-91800\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/91800#comment-91800\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Uriel\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Uriel\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Uriel\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Uriel\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/91800#comment-91800\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EA curable condition?\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EUriel (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 6 December 2021  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/article\/why-autistic-people-struggle-dating-mind-blindness\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003ESuperb article, Chase. I really wished I could have had this many years ago.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u2019m pretty sure that when I was 10 years younger I could have been diagnosed with Asperger and reading this I have to say that I did identify with several, but not all, of the experiences Aspies have with my past self like obsessing over small details, having a monotone voice and discussing often over words definitions.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe thing is\u2026 as I developed my social skills (in no small part with the help of this site and your programs), I have been able to \u201cwake up\u201d my \u201cmind theory\u201d.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nNow I am pretty good detecting subtext and people intentions from their voices and body language.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nFar from perfect though\u2026 my intuition is not the best and my friends know me as the \u201cimprudent\u201d\u2026 but you would not believe I ever struggled with akwardness.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EPerhaps I was a border case but it left me wondering\u2026 does Asperger gets cured or at least managed?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFor me, it feels that as I get older and exposed to more and more social situations, my mind has been able to compensate something that lacked in its early years.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nPerhaps it is not a \u201ccondition\u201d and rather an \u201cunderdevelopment\u201d?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/3671\/91800\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-91801\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/91801#comment-91801\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Bill\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Bill\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Bill\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Bill\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/91801#comment-91801\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EI wanted to write this as I\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EBill (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 6 December 2021  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/article\/why-autistic-people-struggle-dating-mind-blindness\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EI wanted to write this as I really enjoy your work Chase and really never saw an article about my disability coming to light here but I am happy nonetheless.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI would say most of this article was insanely well written.  It was able to diagnose autism without being super vague and get to the issues that most men with autism suffer from.  I have experienced  a lot this and to see it written out was gratifying to see.  Chase,  I always felt your content was better then all the other seduction gurus content cuz you could break down anything frames, fundamentals, escalation, how to not be bitter man that even a monkey could learn.  \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhen speaking about why aspies cannot get the women they want: I\u0026#039;d also agree with your assessment that its because of the hotter women\u0026#039;s higher standards thing.  Cuz most hot girls will not put up with the traits aspies exhibit (which understandable if your hot and you can choose top dudes why choose a dude who has these issues unless their the Savoir type?) so most aspies do not have a chance there. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnother idea I agree with is how aspies will follow rules even if it does not make sense.  This is clear with short term seduction strategies and long term seduction strategies as they are completely different.  Short term seduction you want to create that \u0026quot;chaotic\/alluring\u0026quot; seduction feel to attract the women in but, as you said, you cannot keep doing that long-term as it just makes the woman insure about the relationship and your feelings about them.  A lesson I have had to learn a lot, many times.  Or like showing too much affection more of a long term aspect during the short term.      \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI would say the only part I disagree with this article is the part about autistic should tell their girl that they are autistic.  IMO they should NOT tell their partner they are autistic.  From my experience, even when the woman is converted, they hardly know how to handle the information and will make very little effort to change or understand it even when actively trying to use good communication or other resources (as like 90% of people out there).  Plus, most aspie guys will not know if the woman is converted and will tell a woman before she\u0026#039;s ready most likely causing her to eject (Which is understandable).  Thus, I found it better strategy for autistics to say their symptoms and describe them without saying your autistic.  Like if they are honest without the kindness say something like \u0026quot;I am honest to a fault\u0026quot; or \u0026quot;I am a straight shooter no bs with me ;)\u0026quot; or if they are crafting a persona of one of cockiness \u0026quot;I\u0026#039;m just honest some people just can\u0026#039;t handle the truth\u0026quot;.  These help the woman understand the dudes issues without being put off by the label of autism as I have seen many times.  Though,  I do agree if they are going to be a time he should tell them but I would say leave that till a more serious relationship (living together, planning a future together, possible marriage, etc).  Everything else just do not tell.    \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThough as an autistic dude, I am an enigma.  Like I am autistic no doubt but I have a fairly high intelligence (tested by different professionals) and so I also have a high awareness about me.  Meaning, I have a better sense of people and their boundaries then a lot of aspies I know.  Again,  this is not arrogance on my part, I know this from experience by the fact people will commonly be shocked when I tell them I am autistic, they generally will not believe me and some have even argue with me over if I am or not!  This self awareness led me to push myself to try and \u0026quot;fix\u0026quot; my issues and into myself a drive that I will overcome various stuff.  It sometimes works sometimes doesn\u0026#039;t, but it made me so I am alright at seduction Hell, when I meet up with other dudes I am generally better than them at it.  \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhich leads to a heavy social cost though.  The better I became at socializing\/masking, the more \u0026quot;scripts\u0026quot; get added to my head and the \u0026quot;power\u0026quot; I have to use in order  to act on them.  I mean I know I do not have to act on every one but I know that I will have to act on most of them to work in a social function.  But It becomes almost overwhelming to consistently remind myself \u0026quot;ask this person how their day was.  Once they tell you relate the story to one thing from your life and then go back to themselves. If they still talk about it ask more who what when where why questions until person is tired of talking\u0026quot; \u0026quot;while doing this make sure to smile here, show frowny face when something sad happens, Show sexy eyes when you make a smooth comment\u0026quot;  etc etc (I just wrote this all out and it sounds like I am some sort of a psychopath lol).  One of the things I am not sure your aware is if an autistic person does this for too long they can get autistic burnout which leads to them essentially sliding back in everything and becoming worse off in all aspects of their lives (social, physical, mental, everything it really sucks).  \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI guess after writing all this I do have a question which is what should I do? One issue I seem to keep coming back to is the more \u0026quot;in state\/confident\/self assured\u0026quot; I am\/become the more I get a slight boost in social interaction\/understanding, but it comes with me showing more of my more quirky side as well...and that leads to more disasters.  But the more I \u0026quot;suppress\u0026quot; my true self and do everything \u0026quot;correctly\u0026quot;  the more I tire out\/burnout.  So should I just adopt more of a \u0026quot;be myself\u0026quot; mantra or continue trying to do this seduction thing with the possibility of burnout? Cuz I am not sure anymore myself.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/3671\/91801\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-91805\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/91805#comment-91805\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Hardcut\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Hardcut\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Hardcut\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Hardcut\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/91805#comment-91805\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EThis is fascinating...\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EHardcut (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Wednesday, 8 December 2021  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/article\/why-autistic-people-struggle-dating-mind-blindness\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey Chase, you know what fascinates the most about your site and you is the knowledge you have on any subject. I can\u0026#039;t come to terms with the fact that you\u0026#039;ve acquired so much knowledge about every damn thing. I\u0026#039;ve been a follower of your site for a few years now. Truth be told, I used to get bored reading long articles since I was looking for quick solution to issues that I face with pickup and I\u0026#039;d have to go through a whole article to get to that nugget. But in the past couple of years, I read them thoroughly for few different reasons:\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n1. I like the way you write\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n2. My quick fix solutions that I used to get in the past was just a bandaid to some issue I\u0026#039;d be facing but reading your articles (sometimes I read it a few times). No I\u0026#039;m not reciting like a Bible ;) gets to the root of the problem and equips me to several different circumstances.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n3. It\u0026#039;s so much better to get a completely different perspective and I realise where you\u0026#039;re coming from\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u0026#039;s fascinating man! I can\u0026#039;t believe you\u0026#039;ve experienced so much in life that you have answers to any damn thing. It makes me keep my hopes alive about cold approach since I become skeptical about it from time to time when things go south for long stretches and nothing works. It\u0026#039;s not about getting girls but more about the experiences we gather doing cold-approach and meeting people. I was doing pretty well but after covid, I\u0026#039;ve been struggling having long dry spells\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnyway, this comment was just a token of thanks for some of the work you\u0026#039;re doing. Keep helping bro!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/3671\/91805\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-91807\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/91807#comment-91807\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Gaurav\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Gaurav\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Gaurav\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Gaurav\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/91807#comment-91807\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EChase\u0026#039;s journey\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EGaurav (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Thursday, 9 December 2021  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/article\/why-autistic-people-struggle-dating-mind-blindness\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EI was going through one of your articles and I saw your goals when you started PUA journey:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u0026quot;There was a thing I set out to do early on in my journey into seduction. I couldn\u2019t then have put it into words. But I knew what it looked like. I wished:\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nTo be a guy women pined for, instead of the one doing the pining\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nTo be able to walk into a room and seduce the woman I wanted\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nWomen to expect nothing from me yet desire me just the same\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nWomen to be genuinely surprised if I chose to keep them as girlfriends\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nTo be a man the normal rules of dating did not apply to\u0026quot;\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ECan you talk about how you palnned to tackle each of these goals? And how did u achieve it step by step? \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBig fan!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/3671\/91807\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-91808\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/91808#comment-91808\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022jefferson\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022jefferson\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022jefferson\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022jefferson\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/91808#comment-91808\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EWarmth in voice\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003Ejefferson (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Friday, 10 December 2021  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/article\/why-autistic-people-struggle-dating-mind-blindness\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHi Chase,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EA little off topic here, I had a question voice. I\u0026#039;ve been watching your videos on GCTV and I noticed how your voice has a certain softness and warmth to it. It\u0026#039;s like the edges of your.voice are nicely polished, with no harsh edges if that makes sense.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI wonder if it\u0026#039;s always been like that or if you actively worked on it, and if so, how did you do it?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/3671\/91808\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-91824\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/91824#comment-91824\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022T k\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022T k\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022T k\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022T k\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/91824#comment-91824\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EA role model, damaging\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003ET k (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Thursday, 16 December 2021  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/article\/why-autistic-people-struggle-dating-mind-blindness\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHi Chase,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI look up to you as a role model, your words have always held a lot of power to me. Now to read this article as an Aspergal person, with your characterisation of Aspergers, I find incredibly upsetting. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAs someone who self reflects often, and has had contact with a wealth of people with Autism, to varying degrees, I can tell you definitively that while plenty of the things you said here are true, plenty are certainly not. It\u0026#039;s not true all autistics feel no empathy, nor that we ALWAYS believe we are right, nor that we all have \u0026quot;mindblindness.\u0026quot; I literally intuit other people\u0026#039;s emotions on the daily to lots of success. I can read people well, as people have pointed it out to me multiple times. My aspie friend at uni is the most empathetic person I know. Id say the issues with social fluidity is correct in my case, as is some body language cue problems.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWith the utmost respect, this article reads as incredibly hurt and ignorant - but I get it. Many people with Asperger\u0026#039;s do show many traits that you\u0026#039;ve listed. Many are just downright nobheads - I propose that the reason it seems like so many to you is because of the type of aspies that tend to be searching for men\u0026#039;s dating advice.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u0026#039;m not asking you to do anything. Just wish to be open, offer an alternative perspective (and to be honest, for the emotional release as yeah, someone I look up to is stating shit that\u0026#039;s at odds with my identity and what i\u0026#039;ve worked so hard to improve.)\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EApologies for any offence caused. This isn\u0026#039;t intended to be a personal attack.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EPeace n love,\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nT\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/3671\/91824\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-91825\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/91825#comment-91825\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022T k\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022T k\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022T k\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022T k\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/91825#comment-91825\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003Ere my previous comment\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003ET k (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Thursday, 16 December 2021  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/article\/why-autistic-people-struggle-dating-mind-blindness\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003Eokay i\u0026#039;ve re read the article. I had a very emotional response I think. Perhaps you\u0026#039;re not stating that all Aspergal men are like x, just listing common traits.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ETake care,\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nT\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/3671\/91825\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-91831\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/91831#comment-91831\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022admiralty\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022admiralty\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022admiralty\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022admiralty\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/91831#comment-91831\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EHey Chase,\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003Eadmiralty (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Saturday, 18 December 2021  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/article\/why-autistic-people-struggle-dating-mind-blindness\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey Chase,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhat makes a man attractive to women fascinates me. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI wonder what\u0026#039;s your take on Ted Bundy?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENot only did the guy have fans while he was on death row (apparently women sent him love letters and tried to sneak in the courtrooms to get glimpses of him) but he had no problem isolating women without violence (altho he did use violence as well, I suppose for practical reasons)\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHe was charming enough to lure them in his car for a ride, before isolating them and committing those monstrous acts. And some of those women were truly beautiful girls\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOne of his rare survivors says that she got in the car because he was handsome and nice and low key expected him to isolate her and kiss her (which he obviously didn\u0026#039;t do. She\u0026#039;s a survivor, by the way, because she managed to jump in a river flowing downhill while Bundy was busy getting some tools to finish her from his car)\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI guess what I can\u0026#039;t wrap my head around most is why a dude like him, who had attraction working his way, would even have to go that far. He could have been pulling threesomes with the college babes, with their full consent if he chose to.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/3671\/91831\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-91839\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/91839#comment-91839\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022adamsmith\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022adamsmith\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022adamsmith\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022adamsmith\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/91839#comment-91839\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EChase\u0026#039;s Facial Hair\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003Eadamsmith (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Wednesday, 22 December 2021  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/article\/why-autistic-people-struggle-dating-mind-blindness\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey Chase,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI dig the facial hair you sport in the \u0026quot;How to reach the hook point\u0026quot; video on GC TV.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EMay I ask what\u0026#039;s the name of that facial hairstyle and how do you style it?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd would it look good on a darker (brown) skinned man?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/3671\/91839\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-91847\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/91847#comment-91847\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022adamsmith\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022adamsmith\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022adamsmith\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022adamsmith\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/91847#comment-91847\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EHi Chase,\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003Eadamsmith (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Saturday, 25 December 2021  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/article\/why-autistic-people-struggle-dating-mind-blindness\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHi Chase,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWonder what you think of that guy\u0026#039;s fundamentals: \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=lG_5_NWPs60\u0022\u003Ehttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=lG_5_NWPs60\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHe\u0026#039;s one of the founding members of the pua industry apparently.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u0026#039;m digging his presence, hand gestures and voice. His voice seems to have all the qualities you describe as a sexy male voice.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/3671\/91847\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-91898\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/91898#comment-91898\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022adamsmith\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022adamsmith\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022adamsmith\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022adamsmith\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/91898#comment-91898\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EHi Chase,\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003Eadamsmith (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Saturday, 1 January 2022  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/article\/why-autistic-people-struggle-dating-mind-blindness\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHi Chase,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u0026#039;ve read your articles on flirting and I\u0026#039;m trying to become a flirtier guy but I feel like i make some calibration mistakes sometimes.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u0026#039;m trying to correct them.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI wanted to ask you, what are the mistakes you see most men do when trying to flirt with women and failing?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhat is it the majority of those men usually get wrong?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESome insights on this would be really cool\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/3671\/91898\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-91905\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/91905#comment-91905\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022adamsmith\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022adamsmith\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022adamsmith\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022adamsmith\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/91905#comment-91905\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EHey Chase,\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003Eadamsmith (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 2 January 2022  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/article\/why-autistic-people-struggle-dating-mind-blindness\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey Chase,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI went out recently with a friend of mine who\u0026#039;s a natural with women. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWe don\u0026#039;t usually go out, partly because my skills with women is nowhere close to his and it\u0026#039;s not that interesting for him (he never said it but i know it lol)\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut we\u0026#039;re friends and i helped him out many times in various ways.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI needed him to do something specific for me.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI asked him if he could observe my interactions with women and point out the things i\u0026#039;m doing wrong (I\u0026#039;m not having much success with girls these days)\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAfter he gave me the typical response literally all naturals give (\u0026quot;Just have fun! Talk to them! Be yourself!),  I persisted and told him to assess me the same way he assesses his students. (He\u0026#039;s a very successful math tutor and has the ability to point out where the math logic of a student is failing and what he should do to course correct)\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo we went out and I tried to run my usual game.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI didn\u0026#039;t take anyone home, but made out with a chick. Was a pretty fun night overall.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHe told me something was not quite right but he wasn\u0026#039;t sure what, so he would think it over and explain it to me the next day.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ECome the next day, he told me something along the lines of \u0026quot;Dude, you do pretty well overall, you can flirt, you have no problem going over to women and talking to them. But the problem, I think, is this: you\u0026#039;re not subtle. Your compliments, the way you\u0026#039;re touching them, the things you\u0026#039;re saying, your flirting, they\u0026#039;re all not so subtle. If it were me, I\u0026#039;d be more under the radar type.\u0026quot;\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENow, this guy is definitely excellent with women but is not a coach. He could not answer when i asked him why is being not subtle a problem, he just said it would feel better if I was more subtle.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo, I wanted to ask you Chase, how important is subtlety? I\u0026#039;m not sure if you\u0026#039;ve talked about it before, I just made a Google search of \u0026quot;subtlety girlschase\u0026quot; but didn\u0026#039;t find any specific articles related to it.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd before that friend mentioned it, I never even thought about it.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EMaybe the guy misread the situation as well, and maybe my problem was not that.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/3671\/91905\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-91916\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/91916#comment-91916\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous guy\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous guy\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous guy\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous guy\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/91916#comment-91916\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EDenton Fisher Aspergers?\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EAnonymous guy (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 3 January 2022  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/article\/why-autistic-people-struggle-dating-mind-blindness\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey Chase i\u0026#039;m not sure how well you know Denton Fisher since he hasn\u0026#039;t contributed to the site in a while,but I heard rumours that he has asperger\u0026#039;s himself too and he\u0026#039;s a full blown successful dating coach who\u0026#039;s slept with all kinds and qualities of women which is really impressive if he does have aspergers. He speaks really fast and could be considered a bit of a oddball,but it\u0026#039;s part of his charm socially. Do you know if he has aspies? I understand it\u0026#039;s probably not something you diagnose among your writers lol\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/3671\/91916\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-92443\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/92443#comment-92443\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Hikesam\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Hikesam\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Hikesam\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Hikesam\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/92443#comment-92443\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ETo teaching Aspies and Aspies learning\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EHikesam (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Thursday, 16 June 2022  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/article\/why-autistic-people-struggle-dating-mind-blindness\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EDear Chase,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESpeaking as an Aspie who knows other people on the spectrum, thanks for this article and all your work in the field.  This is a good breakdown with excellent tips and some excellent advice for all.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAutism and Aspersers is beyond our control whether we have it or not; it\u0027s like people who are born blind, born deaf or how no person has any control over their place of birth or who their parents are.  It\u0027s no more our fault than it is women\u0027s fault that they rarely say only what they mean and mean what they say in relationships haha.  It\u0027s also been recently theorized that the problem with Autism is less mind blindness and rather the double empathy problem - it\u0027s just as hard for neurotypical people to understand us as it is for us to understand them (though sometimes it\u0027s in Aspie\u0027s favor, as we are required to navigate non-autistic society while neurotypical people are seldom required to navigate around Aspies).  \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI see why it\u0027s hard for seduction coaches to teach people on the spectrum, as the very ability required for learning the skill is impaired.   Teaching people on the Autism spectrum social skills is like teaching visually impaired people how to paint or hearing impaired people how to play a musical instrument.  Or for an acting example, it\u0027s the difference between giving an improv actor tips or giving an actor a detailed script.  While neurotypicals it\u0027s usually, as you said, tweaking one or more parts, for Aspies it\u0027s often like building it from scratch.  \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESpeaking as someone who\u0027s been learning your methods (and seen improvement - been  getting more numbers and dates in the past six months than in the previous few years, COVID lockdowns nonwithstanding -  though I\u0027m not where I want to be yet), watched your videos, brought several of your books and has Aspersers himself... I\u0027d like to offer a few suggestions on teaching Aspies seduction skills; \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E* Treating it like teaching cooking; Just like how recipes have ranges of times and temperatures (eg; \u0022leave the cake in the oven for around 5 minutes at 300 degrees Celsius\u0022), framing the lessons in a similar ways makes it easier to process.  Giving ranges is good because, for me, giving a margin of error leaves room for the unexpected (eg; disruptive people, external events, women feigning disinterest) I think this is mainly due to the following point.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E* Numbers really help; Not everything in life can be quantified or broken down into a formula, but giving Aspies numbers to work with helps (such as your article about eye contact where you give numbers of seconds and percentages for how long to hold eye contact).  Breaking it down into seconds, percentages, even degrees (eg; what angle to tilt our heads), really explains the mechanics.  \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E* Make it binary where possible: While not everything is black and white, some things are.  Breaking it down into a list of \u0022dos\u0022 and \u0022don\u0027ts\u0022 where it can be done helps.  Yes, it\u0027s simplistic, yes most people don\u0027t do it this way and yes we Aspies can be hard-nosed about our ways.  I think it can still help (\u0022when she says \u0027X\u0027, you say \u0027Y\u0027\/don\u0027t say \u0027Z\u0027).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E* Focusing on non-verbal gestures; The big one, and for both Aspies and those who seek to teach them.  Teaching Aspies how to read others\u0027 non-verbal signals and send out our own non-verbals is great for both parties (for any fellow Aspies reading this; I recommend we take acting classes as a supplement to what we learn here).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E* Canned lines help; I used canned lines as a fallback option; If I see a cute girl but nothing jumps out at me to say, I can\u0027t think of something to say or there\u0027s not enough time to make an observation (eg; she\u0027s going past on the street and I see her out the corner of my eyes), having a canned line or two to fall back on helps, like directions and lines in a movie script.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E* Dealing with Disruptive people; Life is chaotic and sometimes we approach and others disrupt us (maybe another guy tries to cut in, maybe her friends intervene).  Your articles about dealing with the competition and groups were a big help for me.  \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E* Dealing with her pets; Correct me if I\u0027m wrong, I haven\u0027t seen an article on that from GirlsChase.   For example; approaching a cute girl with a big dog (let\u0027s say a Mastiff or Doberman), you go up to her and the dog gets agitated and seems to dislike you.  This is doubly so for Aspies sensitive to loud noises which can include dogs barking (not a problem for me personally, but it can be for some).  How do you deal with a woman\u0027s pets if they seem to dislike you and\/or you\u0027re allergic to them?  I think the best solutions are letting her know ASAP if you\u0027re allergic to any of her pets and learning how to deal with animals (including a worst case scenario like how to defend against a dog attack).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThanks again for the work you and the others seduction coaches have done, Chase.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/3671\/92443\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-92655\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/92655#comment-92655\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022John Daley S.\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022John Daley S.\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022John Daley S.\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022John Daley S.\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/92655#comment-92655\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ENeurotypical site\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EJohn Daley S. (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Thursday, 4 August 2022  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/article\/why-autistic-people-struggle-dating-mind-blindness\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHello, just curious about a couple things:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E1. Why are you using anti-autism hate sites while also citing pro-autism sources at the same time? This is confusing; this article is at war with itself.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n2. Why isn\u2019t anyone else talking about this? Are you filtering comments against this?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/3671\/92655\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-92723\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/92723#comment-92723\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022D\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022D\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022D\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022D\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/92723#comment-92723\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EBol***ks\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003ED (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Wednesday, 10 August 2022  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/article\/why-autistic-people-struggle-dating-mind-blindness\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EThis is quite frankly utter sh**e. I have a diagnosis of autism, not AS. I feel empathy for people, I just struggle to express it. I don\u2019t think I\u2019m always right. Sometimes in the heat of the moment sure I can get defensive and it\u2019s not until after the occasion when I\u2019ve had a chance to think and reflect that I realise I was wrong, and I will go and apologise to the person I was conversing with. To essentially say that myself and millions of other people shouldn\u2019t exist and not be in the gene pool\u2026.that\u2019s akin to a genocidal line of thought. A lot of what you put was very ableist. Shame on you.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/3671\/92723\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-93530\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/93530#comment-93530\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/user\/24626\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022qwerty777\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022qwerty777\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022qwerty777\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022qwerty777\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/93530#comment-93530\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003E\u0026quot;The following are normal\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/user\/24626\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/user\/24626\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003Eqwerty777\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Saturday, 15 October 2022  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/article\/why-autistic-people-struggle-dating-mind-blindness\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003E\u0022The following are normal everyday behaviors among neurotypicals: lying about their feelings; avoiding sensitive subjects that are glaringly obvious; leaving important words unsaid; pretending to like things they don\u2019t like; pretending they\u2019re not feeling an emotion that they\u2019re clearly feeling; using language to hide, obscure, and skirt crucial issues; attacking people who frighten them without ever realizing they\u2019re full of fear; stopping all forward progress on a project without ever realizing they\u2019re full of anger and grief; and claiming that they are being rational when huge steamy clouds of emotion are pouring out of them. Neurotypicals are often emotionally exhausting.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd here\u2019s the big ugly secret: Neurotypical behavior isn\u2019t empathic \u2014 in fact, it\u2019s often counter-empathic and filled with noise, static, emotional absurdity, and confusion.\u0022\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/karlamclaren.com\/autism-acceptance-month-empathy-in-action\/\u0022\u003Ehttps:\/\/karlamclaren.com\/autism-acceptance-month-empathy-in-action\/\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/3671\/93530\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-93531\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/93531#comment-93531\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/user\/24626\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022qwerty777\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022qwerty777\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022qwerty777\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022qwerty777\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/93531#comment-93531\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003E\u0026quot;In fact, people are looking\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/user\/24626\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/user\/24626\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003Eqwerty777\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Saturday, 15 October 2022  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/article\/why-autistic-people-struggle-dating-mind-blindness\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003E\u0022In fact, people are looking into these ideas. Neuroscientist Ilan Dinstein found that autistic adults had normally-behaving mirror neurons, and he is focusing further research on what he calls \u201cnoisy brain networks.\u201d And cognitive neuroscientist Gregory Hickok has identified eight problems in the mirror neuron theory.\u0022\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/karlamclaren.com\/empaths-on-the-autism-spectrum-part-2\/\u0022\u003Ehttps:\/\/karlamclaren.com\/empaths-on-the-autism-spectrum-part-2\/\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/3671\/93531\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-93834\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/93834#comment-93834\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/user\/24626\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022qwerty777\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022qwerty777\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022qwerty777\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022qwerty777\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/93834#comment-93834\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EMirror neurons seen behaving normally in autism\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/user\/24626\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/user\/24626\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003Eqwerty777\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 12 December 2022  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/article\/why-autistic-people-struggle-dating-mind-blindness\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/www.newscientist.com\/article\/dn18837-mirror-neurons-seen-behaving-normally-in-autism\/\u0022\u003Ehttps:\/\/www.newscientist.com\/article\/dn18837-mirror-neurons-seen-behavin...\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe problem is not \u0022lack of empathy\u0022 or \u0022lack of theory of mind\u0022(which is the \u0022scientific\u0022 and \u0022politically correct\u0022 when talking about sensitive issues). The problem is a delayed development of sensitivity for context.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nread Peter Vermeulens book \u0022Autism as context blindness\u0022 \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Autism-Context-Blindness-Peter-Vermeulen\/dp\/1937473007\/ref=sr_1_1?crid=8RBIHJRDU0IM\u0026amp;keywords=peter+vermeulen\u0026amp;qid=1670842013\u0026amp;sprefix=peter+ver%2Caps%2C760\u0026amp;sr=8-1\u0022\u003Ehttps:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Autism-Context-Blindness-Peter-Vermeulen\/dp\/19374...\u003C\/a\u003E  and his newest book \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/www.amazon.co.uk\/Autism-Predictive-Brain-Absolute-Thinking\/dp\/1032358971\/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3P2153CWOW9MY\u0026amp;keywords=peter+vermeulen\u0026amp;qid=1670842079\u0026amp;sprefix=peter+ve%2Caps%2C194\u0026amp;sr=8-1\u0022\u003Ehttps:\/\/www.amazon.co.uk\/Autism-Predictive-Brain-Absolute-Thinking\/dp\/10...\u003C\/a\u003E    \u0022 Shedding new light on the predictive brain and its relation to autism, the chapters lead readers to the inevitable conclusion that many of the current interventions used in connection with autism urgently need updating and outline possibilities for revising. \u0022\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/3671\/93834\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-93865\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/93865#comment-93865\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/user\/24626\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022qwerty777\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022qwerty777\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022qwerty777\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022qwerty777\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/93865#comment-93865\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003Eit is common to say that\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/user\/24626\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/user\/24626\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003Eqwerty777\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 18 December 2022  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/article\/why-autistic-people-struggle-dating-mind-blindness\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003Eit is common to say that people with Asperger\u0027s \u0022lack self-awareness\u0022, but according to the American psychologist Tascha Eurich (you can find her on YouTube and Instagram and she has also published a book called \u0022Insight: How to succeed by seeing yourself clearly\u0022)then only 5% of \u0022ordinary\u0022 people can be said to have self-awareness. \ud83d\ude42\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut to the point! The autism specialist Peter Vermeulen says in his book \u0022Autism as context blindness\u0022 that he will argue that people who are on the autism spectrum have \u0022theory of mind\u0022 (the professional word for empathy) but that this is not always activated by the pre- conscious and subconscious processes that activate empathy in those who are \u0022neuro-typical\u0022.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFortunately, there is a correlation between age and sensitivity to (social) context (some people apparently outgrow the Asperger diagnosis \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/forskning.no\/psychologie-psykiske-lidelser-barn-og-ungdom\/noen-blir-nesten-helt\u0022\u003Ehttps:\/\/forskning.no\/psychologie-psykiske-lidelser-barn-og-ungdom\/noen-b...\u003C\/a\u003E -kvitt-symptomene-pa-asperger\/398626 ) and Vermeulen also says that people within the autism spectrum have no problem using context on a conscious level (but since this takes time, this method does not work in the real world where one is often dependent on understanding situations in fractions of a second!!). Vermeulen has actually published a new book which most likely has researchers and specialists as target group (\u0022Autism and The Predictive Brain: Absolute Thinking in a Relative World\u0022) in which he says that many of the interventions that are practiced now need updating!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EUp until now, there have been 4 hypotheses to explain autism\/aspergers. 1. the hypothesis of weak central coherence (a strong \u0022central coherence\u0022 in the brain makes you sensitive to context!) 2. the hypothesis of executive dysfunction (not only people with Asperger\u0027s\/autism who struggle with executive functions!). 3. The hypothesis of a lack of \u0022theory of mind\u0022. 4. The hypothesis of \u0022The extreme male brain\u0022 (professor of psychology, Simon Baron Cohen has written a book about this).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHypotheses 1 and 2 are probably the strongest. I\u0027m open to hypothesis 4 too!! It is a known truth that women in general are more empathetic and more socially intelligent than men in general!! \ud83d\ude42\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo much exciting to learn about empathy (e.g. that it is not necessary to FEEL the other\u0027s pain in order to behave compassionately\/empathically), Asperger\u0027s psychology and social intelligence (which is another name for \u0022emotional intelligence\u0022) . The terms empathy and emotional\/social intelligence are umbrella terms, i.e. they cover several things\/components.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EUnfortunately, there are some who HATE people with Asperger\u0027s, but I would like to link to an interesting YouTube video where Karla Mclaren talks about the feeling we call hate: \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=qRB-EZiiDQ8\u0022\u003Ehttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=qRB-EZiiDQ8\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/3671\/93865\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-93866\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/93866#comment-93866\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/user\/24626\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022qwerty777\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022qwerty777\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022qwerty777\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022qwerty777\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/93866#comment-93866\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EAutism, empathy, and the mind\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/user\/24626\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/user\/24626\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003Eqwerty777\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 18 December 2022  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/article\/why-autistic-people-struggle-dating-mind-blindness\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EAutism, empathy, and the mind-blindness of everyday people\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/karlamclaren.com\/autism-empathy-and-the-mind-blindness-of-everyday-people\/\u0022\u003Ehttps:\/\/karlamclaren.com\/autism-empathy-and-the-mind-blindness-of-everyd...\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u0022 it is a normal feature of human nature to be unempathic toward people who are not like us.\u0022\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003Eyes exactly: that it is normal for people NOT to have empathy for people who are different from themselves. Empathy is not the same as \u0022I understand you, you are just like me (are in the same life situation or have been in the same situation, etc)\u0022, but \u0022you have a different opinion than me, different experiences, a different way to understand the world, but I can still understand you because I can put myself in your situation (without necessarily having to agree)\u0022.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=mbrVfIlCfJA\u0026amp;t=1572s\u0022\u003Ehttps:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=mbrVfIlCfJA\u0026amp;t=1572s\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003Elisten to what Peter Vermeulen says from 25.15 He says that he has seen that people often set higher standards for social\/emotional behavior for people on the autism spectrum than they have for themselves. He asks: Are you always polite? Are you always empathetic? Very interesting that he says this because Karla Mclaren says \u0022I can tell you that NT social behaviors are often-hilarious failures. NT understanding of emotions and empathy is also very iffy, which is why I wrote my books.\u0022\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/karlamclaren.com\/welcome-to-the-empathic-autistic-community\/\u0022\u003Ehttps:\/\/karlamclaren.com\/welcome-to-the-empathic-autistic-community\/\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAccording to Simon Baron Cohen, people with ADHD and schizophrenia can also show \u0022forms of mind-blindness\u0022 (there are 2 forms of \u0022context-blindness\u0022, people with Asperger\u0027s or autism have problems with unconscious association, while people with schizophrenia are unable to suppress inappropriate associations. Interestingly enough, I found an article on psychology today that says that people on the autism spectrum need to become more \u0022psychotic\u0022 while people on the psychosis spectrum (schizophrenia - the term is partly outdated) need to become more \u0022autistic\u0022. found unfortunately not the article again now...)\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOf course we Aspergers are not angels, but we are not demons either! \ud83d\ude42\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\ud83d\ude42\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EKarla Mclaren says \u0022People with asperger syndrome may have trouble organizing all of the incoming social and emotional data.\u0022 Exactly, and this is most likely at the pre-conscious and subconscious level. To organize (social) information in fractions of a second. The solution to a problem lies in you understanding the problem well enough, I say. \ud83d\ude42\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/3671\/93866\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-94372\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/94372#comment-94372\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/user\/24626\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022qwerty777\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022qwerty777\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022qwerty777\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022qwerty777\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/94372#comment-94372\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003Ehttps:\/\/www\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/user\/24626\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/user\/24626\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003Eqwerty777\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 20 August 2023  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/article\/why-autistic-people-struggle-dating-mind-blindness\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/www.thriveautismcoaching.com\/post\/the-double-empathy-problem?fbclid=IwAR3Hjx0WeNvUBR-qwzUbjcn87WYzIagyrSr-j9lRSONxJcCCnfTmjNe5UOk#:~:text=The%20%22double%20empathy%20problem%22%20is,but%20rather%20a%20mutual%20issue\u0022\u003Ehttps:\/\/www.thriveautismcoaching.com\/post\/the-double-empathy-problem?fbc...\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u0022For a long time, many theories and assumptions about autistic individuals have been based on the idea that they inherently lack empathy and struggle to connect with those not on the spectrum. However, the double empathy problem suggests that this perspective might be oversimplified, if not entirely misleading. \u0022\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/3671\/94372\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-94504\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/94504#comment-94504\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Flux\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Flux\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Flux\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Flux\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/94504#comment-94504\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EUncharitable intentions\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EFlux (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Wednesday, 11 October 2023  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/article\/why-autistic-people-struggle-dating-mind-blindness\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EWhat do you mean when you say \u0022uncharitable intentions\u0022? I\u0027m high-functioning and people tend to hate me or eventually hate me and the reasons so far seem inscrutable. I try to be nice and personable but I\u0027m thinking maybe I do this. Can you give examples? It would really help.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/3671\/94504\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-95252\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/95252#comment-95252\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022J.\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022J.\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022J.\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022J.\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/95252#comment-95252\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EIt would have been incredibly\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EJ. (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 15 July 2024  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/article\/why-autistic-people-struggle-dating-mind-blindness\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EIt would have been incredibly helpful to list some things for improvement in the \u201cHope\u201d section, which really didn\u2019t seem very hopeful or have much, if any, good advice for improvement or things people with AS could actively work on. You seem to have a not so subtle disdain for people with AS\u2026I can understand the frustration as my mother has it, but if you\u2019re going to make an article about it, it would have been 100 times more helpful to list what guys with AS could do to improve or specific things to work on. This article feels like one big vent.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/3671\/95252\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-95368\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/95368#comment-95368\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Adam S\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Adam S\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Adam S\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Adam S\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/95368#comment-95368\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EAgreed\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EAdam S (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Tuesday, 3 September 2024  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/article\/why-autistic-people-struggle-dating-mind-blindness\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/95252#comment-95252\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EThis article is more pedantic and tone deaf than the autistic people it tries to characterize.  If you struggle with autism and relationships, I recommend talking to a licenced therapist.  Not a guy who writes for a website called \u0022girlschase\u0022.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/3671\/95368\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-95371\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/95371#comment-95371\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/user\/24626\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022qwerty777\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022qwerty777\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022qwerty777\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022qwerty777\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/95371#comment-95371\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003Eyes, the author of this\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/user\/24626\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/user\/24626\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003Eqwerty777\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Wednesday, 4 September 2024  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/article\/why-autistic-people-struggle-dating-mind-blindness\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/95368#comment-95368\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003Eyes, the author of this article base much of the misinformation here on material found on hate -sites. One of those hate -sites(I dont want to mention its name)is fortunately deleted from the internet. :-)\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003Ethat said, there is still a lot of misinformation about the nature of empathy. Please read this article: \u003Ca href=\u0022https:\/\/www.psychologytoday.com\/us\/blog\/on-emotions-and-empathy\/202403\/why-trait-empathy-is-the-wrong-measure\u0022\u003Ehttps:\/\/www.psychologytoday.com\/us\/blog\/on-emotions-and-empathy\/202403\/w...\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd as you say: a licensed therapist with the correct understanding is more relevant for a person with aspergers than a dating coach. A dating coach may help, but the real solution with long term effects is to be found in: cognitive behavioral therapy, dialectical behavioral therapy and self -development.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ETo understand aspergers syndrome(a part of the autism spectrum disporder)correctly I strongly recommend you to read \u0022Autism as context blindness\u0022 author: Peter Vermeulen\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/3671\/95371\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-95372\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/95372#comment-95372\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/user\/24626\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022qwerty777\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022qwerty777\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022qwerty777\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022qwerty777\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/95372#comment-95372\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EI have to reply to my own\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/user\/24626\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/user\/24626\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003Eqwerty777\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Wednesday, 4 September 2024  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/article\/why-autistic-people-struggle-dating-mind-blindness\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/95371#comment-95371\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EI have to reply to my own comment here: The article I linked to above needs nuance. I think it is naive and dangerous to say \u0022People dealing with sociopathy, psychopathy, and narcissistic traits are also exiled from empathy, even though people in each of these groups can and do empathize.\u0022 Such people have the kind of \u0022empathy\u0022 that is required to manipulate people. 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