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id=\u0022comment-88331\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/88331#comment-88331\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Tomas\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Tomas\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Tomas\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Tomas\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/88331#comment-88331\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EQuestion\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003ETomas (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Saturday, 4 May 2019  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/how-woman-s-self-esteem-issues-can-make-her-bail-out-courtship\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHi Varoon,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI have a story and wonder whether it\u0027s related to self-esteem.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI met a woman. She was not very attractive, but still decent looking and nice. I had only one hour time for her. We were walking in the park, sitting, talking etc. She felt embarrassed to look into my eyes, but the talk was good.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EActually, I wasn\u0027t turned on, but I still liked her. I took her hand and kissed her. She reciprocated passionately and almost threw herself into my arms. We talked and kissed more. Then, the hour was over. She offered me to visit her at her place next time and explained me where she lived,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EShe texted me first, some two hours after the date, very kindly.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENext morning, she appologized in a text that actually, she hadn\u0027t felt the right spark with me and preferred not to meet again.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EVaroon - I am an advanced seducer and the stories like this one do happen. What\u0027s the common reason for this incongruent behavior? Wasn\u0027\u0167 there really a spark for her? Or there was, but she felt she made herself too easy for me? Or was she afraid I\u0027d leave her after sex? What do you think?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ERegards, Tomas\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/2967\/88331\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-88340\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/88340#comment-88340\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/user\/17639\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-17639-1473603434.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Varoon Rajah\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Varoon Rajah\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-17639-1473603434.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Varoon Rajah\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Varoon Rajah\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/88340#comment-88340\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EMoving Too Slow\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/user\/17639\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/user\/17639\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EVaroon Rajah\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 6 May 2019  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/how-woman-s-self-esteem-issues-can-make-her-bail-out-courtship\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/88331#comment-88331\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHi Tomas,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe long and short of your story is that yes it is completely related to self esteem - in fact, it is a factor of attainability, which is what the whole self esteem thing comes down to.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThere actually WAS a spark for her - you just didn\u0027t move fast enough with her, and that\u0027s what killed it for you. What you\u0027re basically saying is that you liked her, and she liked you. In fact, she liked you a lot! All her signs were indicative of a girl who is super into you - reciprocating passionately, throwing her into your arms, you talking and kissing more, and her even talking about coming to your place. She also texted you two hours after the date,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027m not sure what you did about any of these things - the clearest thing to me here is that you should have moved fast. You should have gone to your place, to her place, and you should have escalated to sex and had it quickly. On the alternative, you could also set up the next meet as soon as she texted you back - basically she\u0027s showing you a LOT of interest, so you have to match her investment and lead to the next step.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut, it sounds like you didn\u0027t - and instead she basically backwards rationalized the whole thing as you being much higher value than her, and not available for what she wants - and thus she\u0027s going into autorejection and backing out of it because she doesn\u0027t want to find that out later. She\u0027s knows you\u0027re higher value than her, and she knows she\u0027s not going to get what she really wants from you long term. Rather than find that out later on in the process and get hurt, she\u0027s cutting herself from that possibility to protect her self esteem.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo to answer your questions:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cul\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EThere really was a spark from her to you, which you didn\u0027t capitalize on.\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EShe probably felt she made it too easy and you wouldn\u0027t reciprocate when she did, so she rationalized that you don\u0027t like her as much as she likes you.\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EAll girls are afraid of a guy leaving them after sex, though - that\u0027s just something you must internalize for women. They all have that fear.\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/2967\/88340\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-88344\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/88344#comment-88344\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Tomas\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Tomas\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Tomas\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Tomas\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/88344#comment-88344\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EThank you\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003ETomas (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Wednesday, 8 May 2019  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/how-woman-s-self-esteem-issues-can-make-her-bail-out-courtship\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EThan you for the answer. Varoon. The main problem here is that sometimes you just cannot move quicker.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ETomas\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/2967\/88344\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-88347\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/88347#comment-88347\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/user\/17639\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-17639-1473603434.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Varoon Rajah\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Varoon Rajah\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-17639-1473603434.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Varoon Rajah\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Varoon Rajah\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/88347#comment-88347\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ELogistics\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/user\/17639\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/user\/17639\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EVaroon Rajah\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Thursday, 9 May 2019  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/how-woman-s-self-esteem-issues-can-make-her-bail-out-courtship\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/88344#comment-88344\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EI am a huge proponent and fan of making sure I have proper logistics and waiting for the right context before actually meeting a girl. There was one time I actually stalled on a date with one girl for four weeks just to make sure that we actually had the appropriate time to meet - she kept suggesting times that were, say, in the afternoon and away from my area, then telling me she only had two hours before having to meet another friend for whatever, or had other plans.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThose were all no-go\u0027s and I simply told her that we can reschedule for another time when she\u0027s more available and free.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFinally we met four weeks later in HER area (less ideal) but at that point it was doing that or not having it at all, and she had the evening free. And, that night we ended up grabbing drinks, then going for tapas somewhere, then driving to her place where we made out in my car, and FINALLY because she wasn\u0027t showing any signs of leaving the car, I just started driving to my place and we had sex that night.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo - I always recommend meeting girls with proper logistics so that you CAN move quickly. I hope that\u0027s helpful for you, Tomas - it sounds like girls really like you off the bat, so you just need to set it up so that you can capitalize on it. Remember - you\u0027re the man, you\u0027re the leader, you tell the girl when and where to meet, and you set up the seduction. She\u0027s just a passive player who will follow you and hope it works out.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/2967\/88347\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-88479\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/88479#comment-88479\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u00221984\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u00221984\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u00221984\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u00221984\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/88479#comment-88479\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EDo girls take a hit to their self esteem when a guy doesn\u0026#039;t cum?\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E1984 (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 9 June 2019  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/how-woman-s-self-esteem-issues-can-make-her-bail-out-courtship\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey Varoon great article as usual. Your series on self esteem is very illuminating and I can\u0027t wait for the rest of the series.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo having ED makes the girl\u0027s self esteem drop because she doesn\u0027t know if a guy truly like her. What about a guy not cumming despite prolonged sex or blowjob? Does her self esteem take a big hit as well to the point of auto rejection? I\u0027m asking since I encountered something like that.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAlso, what would you have done differently about Nora if you were to do the escalation again? What would you say (or not say)? Because I don\u0027t think the ED is within your control; seems like it was an unusual occurence.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/2967\/88479\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-88490\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/88490#comment-88490\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/user\/21127\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Coolman3000\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Coolman3000\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Coolman3000\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Coolman3000\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/88490#comment-88490\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EBRUH\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/user\/21127\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/user\/21127\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003ECoolman3000\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Thursday, 13 June 2019  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/how-woman-s-self-esteem-issues-can-make-her-bail-out-courtship\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/88479#comment-88479\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EBruh, id like a response to this one as well. In my experience, YES, cause what it seemed to be to me is that they feel you dont like them enough to cum, or they feel that you\u00a0dont find them attractive enough to cum. So they take it as a self esteem hit. That seems to me to be why the Pros on this site reccomeend that a guy cum in her pussy every time you have sex at least until you two have been together for a while, and never finish on her chest or in her mouth. You want her to know that youre into her. Women have a powerful drive and compulsion to draw sperm from men, and if they like you, then they want you to like them too. And you cumming during sex is proof of that. Here is something i did with my ex: I can literally pound away for an\u00a0hour if i wanted to,\u00a0and still\u00a0not cum. Bigger problem is, i get tired and bored. So what i do is let her ride, and take a break. I let her work for it. After about 5-10 minutes, BOOM, and ive never seen a woman more satisfied before in my entire life. Letting her ride gives me a break, and also gives her sexual power and freedom to unleash herself and dominate. Its hella sexy and adds to the experience, and thus turning me on and bringing me to climax. Afterwards, she was more into me than when we began. Point is, yeah, bro, make it a point to climax during sex, and let her do some of the work as well. 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