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id=\u0022comment-76105\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/76105#comment-76105\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/jv879\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022jv879\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022jv879\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022jv879\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022jv879\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/76105#comment-76105\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EI can\u0026#039;t stop obsessing.. your advice would be much appreciated.\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/jv879\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/jv879\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003Ejv879\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 18 April 2016  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/girls-chase-podcast-interviews-ep-11-chase-amante\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey Chase,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBig fan here. Two years ago you sent me a great email after I thanked you for your article about getting over depression when I was in Japan, and I have been a subscriber since. Now, however, I have gotten myself into a situation where I am obsessing over a girl I never meant to obsess over. I rarely ask for help, but this time it is imperative that I humbly reach out. I feel I should give some background information before I get to the point.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI picked up a couple girls during my stay in Japan. Then I came back and the reverse culture shock was a bit much for me. I fell into a year of yet more depression, drinking, and smoking pot.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENeedless to say, I didn\u0027t have much female attention during that time. I have since owned up to my misery, realizing it was my fault, and now I am clean and sober and taking charge of my life (things are so good, in fact, that I am quitting my meds). My point is, as good as things are going, I realize I now have the vulnerability of becoming too easily attached to casual sexual relationships because of my long dry spell without woman (which also resulted in accumulating loneliness) as you discussed in this podcast.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI recently have been going out and getting several numbers. Three of them ended up as dates. One of them resulted in a lay.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHaving just read your article on 8 Friends with Benefits Rules You Must Obey, I have to admit that I mucked this up big time. I have violated a huge chunk of those rules.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENow, I have slept with this girl three times now.  I met her at a Japanese-English Conversation meetup and ended up taking her home that night (she is Japanese). We had sex at my apartment, though she was only half into it. She said after \u0022I don\u0027t know why I\u0027m here,\u0022 as she lay with me, and \u0022I should go home tonight.\u0022 I finally asked her, \u0022do you have a boyfriend?\u0022 She said yes. I explained to her that whatever is going on between her boyfriend and her is none of my business. I said that if you didn\u0027t have empty spaces in your relationship, and if you were 100% content with him, you wouldn\u0027t be here. I said that doesn\u0027t make you a bad person, and it\u0027s quite common. You seem like a good person to me. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAfter that, she completely changed. She became very close to me and relaxed completely, and our next round of sex was very different. She spent the night at my place after.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWe met and had sex again a few days later. No, I did not wait a week. And yes, she spent the night with me again. I even took her out to dinner. No, I didn\u0027t pay for anything when we first hung out, but my reasoning was, now that we have had sex, now that she is \u0022mine\u0022, I need to keep her happy so I can continue to have sex with her.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ETwo days ago (Saturday), we were at the Japanese-English Conversation exchange again (it\u0027s every Saturday). She made a point to sit next to me. In order to protect her reputation, I didn\u0027t give her much attention and focused my conversation mostly on others throughout the night. I knew she used to go to this same meetup with her boyfriend, and others likely new she was taken. I also wanted to remain non-boyfriend material with my aloofness.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut then, after the meetup, as usual (though this is only my second time at this meetup), we all went to the bar to hang out and talk more. About half the meetup usually goes each week. While we were walking there, a guy I had been befriending made a point to walk next to her and talk to her a lot. He had asked me earlier on that night whether or not I had taken her home the last time, to which I had silently given a nonchalant smile and a shrug my shoulders, while slowly letting my attention and gaze drift elsewhere. I wanted to appear humble and vague, but maybe he took it as an embarrassed\/disappointed \u0022no\u0022? Anyway, as he walked next to her and talked her up, I thought, \u0022That\u0027s OK, he clearly doesn\u0027t have my fundamentals or strategy, and what\u0027s more, she already had sex with ME. Why would she ditch me for some other guy of lesser value, especially right in front of me? Besides, I am a lone wolf, an alpha male. I don\u0027t care.\u0022\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHowever, looking back, I realize that by this time I had already begun to feel possessive and insecure. When we sat down, I made sure to tell her to pull up a chair near me, to make sure she was still investing in me. I talked to her once in a while, but I mostly focused on others in the group, barely even looking at her.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EEventually, the guy from before came and sat down with her. He talked to her for a long time. He showed her stuff on his phone. He went and got a beer, and then she got a beer a bit later too. They toasted. They laughed a lot. She laughed a lot. She touched him on his shoulder a lot. She rested her hand on his chair near his shoulder. She started downing her beer (or two) at an alarming rate, letting herself get quite drunk. I said nothing, and remained cool to the best of my abilities.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut as much as I thought I was above jealousy, I received a huge slap in the face that night. In fact, I was completely taken off guard and thoroughly stunned by how completely overwhelmed I was by feelings of jealousy and hurt, as the minutes ticked by, her engagement with him never faltering.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EEventually, though I didn\u0027t move, and maybe only looked slightly disturbed, inside I began to truly panic. While they were in mid conversation, I tapped her on the shoulder, and whispered in her ear so only she could hear: \u0022Let\u0027s go back to my apartment soon.\u0022 She nodded and said OK, then continued to converse with the other guy. I soon learned via text that (for roommate reasons) taking her home at the last second like that (which I wasn\u0027t planning to do) wasn\u0027t going to fly. So, as her conversation with this other guy was dying and they began to fall silent (guess he didn\u0027t understand the concept of asking a girl home on a high point) I tapped her on the shoulder and whispered in her ear again, \u0022my place isn\u0027t going to work out, but let me take you home, so you don\u0027t have to take the bus all that way.\u0022 She said she didn\u0027t mind taking the bus, but I said I don\u0027t mind, and she again said OK. My intention here, of course, was to regain my alpha male status, having her invest in me and leave the place with me while simultaneously showing this guy that she is MINE, and in spite of all he tried to do, in the end, she is leaving with ME.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAfter the second whisper, he had (maybe sensing he was interrupting something between us he didn\u0027t know existed) excused himself and moved over to talk to some of the other guys. I slowly, powerfully got up with \u0022my girl\u0022, made a point to tell him good bye and that it\u0027s time for me to head out (to make sure he saw her leaving with me), and left without a glance back, visibly putting my arm around her momentarily as we neared the exit for good measure.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAs we left, she told me that she\u0027s pretty drunk. She was stumbling a bit. I played it as cool as I could, but the truth is I was so hurt and jealous inside, I could barely find my car. After we got in the car, we chilled for a bit, still parked. She said, \u0022are you ok?\u0022 I didn\u0027t beat around the bush. I told her right away that I was jealous. I told her how surprised I was by this feeling, and that maybe I like her more than I thought. I calmly explained that it bothered me that she was flirting with the other guy. \u0022No no! I wasn\u0027t flirting! I was just talking to him! He\u0027s just a friend!\u0022 (looked like flirting to me) I said, \u0022you don\u0027t think you would have gone home with him had he asked?\u0022 \u0022No!\u0022 she replied. \u0022I don\u0027t like him in that way.\u0022 I said, \u0022but you were drunk, weren\u0027t you? Do you think if he asked you home while you were drunk, you would have said yes, because of the alcohol?\u0022 She said, \u0022well, maybe.\u0022\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI ended up taking her to her apartment that night and having sex with her for the third time. This time I actually gave her a small orgasm, which is more than I can say for the other times (I have been diligently practicing your technique, Chase!). I went home that same night, but she did put the sticker with my name on it that came off my jacket (it was for the convesation meet-up), on her wall, which I\u0027m sure is a bad sign.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnyway, I have been obsessing over this nonstop, to a point where it is taking over my life. I haven\u0027t been this obsessive in a long time. I am usually very busy and diligent with my goals. The past couple days I haven\u0027t even showered, and have been falling behind on everything. Most of my time has been spent here on Girl\u0027s Chase reading every article I can find that might tell me what to do next and put my mind at ease. However, no article is custom-tailored to my unique situation. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe rest of my time has been spent running through the situation over and over in my mind. I am trying to keep myself busy, but it is becoming very difficult. For the record, I have been diagnosed with OCD, as well as anxiety, depression, and ADHD, and Asperger\u0027s syndrome in general from a very young age.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOne more thing... I don\u0027t want some girl to come in the way of my goals, and that means I don\u0027t want to stop going to this conversation meet-up. I HAVE to continue getting good at Japanese, no matter what. However, I will be with her there, and that guy will be there too.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFrom my research on this site, I have already found some of the things I have done wrong in the first place. Can you tell me what else I should have done differently? I am NOT willing to let depression come back again, I have been making too many incredible daily strides and am in the process of building too many amazing daily habits to fail and start over again for the 233th time.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhich leads me to my other question: what do I do from here on out, to rectify the situation, guard my emotions, and heal my wounds? What mindset should I adapt, and what actions should I take?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFinally, how do I fix my relationship with this girl and make sure that expectations and outcomes are in sync? I don\u0027t want to \u0022rest on my laurels\u0022 and make her my girlfriend, because A) She\u0027s going back to Japan in a month and a half, and B) Though I may be (against my better judgement) starting to love her, she doesn\u0027t meet all the criteria for my ideal, dream long-term relationship, even if I was willing to be monogamous in the FIRST PLACE. I know deep down I should meet other girls. But is that really all there is too it?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThank you so much for reading, and I hope you reply. Being needy isn\u0027t something I have felt in a long time, but I feel trapped and unsure where else to turn.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/2017\/76105\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-76152\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/76152#comment-76152\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Kael\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Kael\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Kael\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Kael\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/76152#comment-76152\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ERecommended Articles\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EKael (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Tuesday, 19 April 2016  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/girls-chase-podcast-interviews-ep-11-chase-amante\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/76105#comment-76105\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHi Jesse, here are some articles that have helped me in situations similar:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022http:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/master-your-feelings\u0022\u003Ehttp:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/master-your-feelings\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Ca href=\u0022http:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/cant-stop-thinking-about-her-heres-why-you-need-meet-more-girls\u0022\u003Ehttp:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/cant-stop-thinking-about-her-heres-why...\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Ca href=\u0022http:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/anxiety-men-where-it-comes-and-how-stop-it\u0022\u003Ehttp:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/anxiety-men-where-it-comes-and-how-sto...\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Ca href=\u0022http:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/how-overcome-depression\u0022\u003Ehttp:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/how-overcome-depression\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/2017\/76152\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-76242\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/76242#comment-76242\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022SilverTongue\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022SilverTongue\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022SilverTongue\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022SilverTongue\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/76242#comment-76242\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EShockingly similar.\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003ESilverTongue (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Wednesday, 20 April 2016  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/girls-chase-podcast-interviews-ep-11-chase-amante\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/76105#comment-76105\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey jv879,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027m currently in a situation that is extremely similar to what you just posted with some girl at my school. Long story short, we had sex 3-4 times the first week after the first time (took like 2 months, but I wasn\u0027t even into her all that much.. One random horny night I made a move) 3 weeks later I see her hanging out with other guys at my school and because of a loneliness bout that I\u0027m currently in and a bit of a break from meeting girls and having a regular hookup set up with multiple girls, the jealousy is there... And I know exactly what you mean about insane feelings. It makes you want to go home and just forget it all. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAfter listening to Chase\u0027s podcast, two things stuck out to me, which in turn, I hope help you.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n1. Neediness (getting way to invested and doing weird things because of your dry spell)\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n2. Scarcity (the fact that you\u0027re even shitting where you eat, in my opinion, should be a red flag for where your mind is at)\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ETonight I had a chat with a friend and realized that I need to have more things going on in my life and absolutely must focus on getting out and meeting more girls because of the goal I made: to get better with girls in general and get to 3-4 friends with benefit girls.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ERemind yourself over and over again that you have bigger fish to fry.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhen reading her responses to your questions it sounded like she was just playing with your mind because you were in such a low guarded place. What made me think this? \u0022Well, maybe\u0022\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ETests exist. You and I are failing them right now. Own up to it, grow from it, move on and never forget for in 5 years you\u0027re going to be laughing from your babe-filled-jacuzzi, if you stick to growing.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI wish you the best, \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ECheers\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EST.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/2017\/76242\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-78328\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/78328#comment-78328\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/78328#comment-78328\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EJealousy and FWB\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Tuesday, 24 May 2016  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/girls-chase-podcast-interviews-ep-11-chase-amante\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/76105#comment-76105\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EJesse-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EMight sound like a tough situation, but there\u2019s a lot of good here.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFirst, I\u2019m not clear on the boyfriend \u2013 if she actually still is with this guy or what the deal is. From the sound of it, I wonder if she just said \u201cYes\u201d because you asked. As you know, Japanese girls are normally quite reserved, and she may have just been agreeing to keep the ambiguity up.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe jealousy plotline she ran with the other guy sounds like a response to your ignoring her \/ your nonchalance in the meeting. This is what girls do (and guys do it back to girls)\u2026 if you\u2019re a girl, and you like someone, and he\u2019s ignoring you, you talk to the other guys and suddenly now YOUR guy is getting all possessive. Works wonders. And then if he says anything about jealousy you can just pass it off as you merely being friendly.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhile you were diving through the articles, if you found this one:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u201c\u003Ca href=\u0022\/content\/making-girl-jealous-dos-and-donts\u0022\u003EMaking a Girl Jealous: Dos and Don\u0027ts\u003C\/a\u003E\u201d\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u2026 that\u2019s what she was doing here.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EPerhaps not actively (it seems the guy sought her out, rather than vice versa), but she saw the opportunity and took advantage of it. And it worked.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESounds like she got fairly attached \u2013 I wouldn\u2019t worry about that. If she\u2019s leaving in a little while, it could be nice to have a short, passionate romance, then bid her farewell. She isn\u2019t staying, so there\u2019s no need to worry too much about growing too attached\u2026 you may be sad when she goes, but it\u2019ll be a pleasant short relationship.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFor a next time around, well, it\u2019s tough to avoid jealousy if you don\u2019t have too many other options yet, and tougher still if you see the girl socially and she can run jealousy plotlines in front of you \/ you have to figure out how to interact with her in public social circle situations. So, you can go into it knowing, \u201cOkay, I\u2019m likely to experience some jealousy, so I\u2019ve just got to fight it by making myself think about other girls, and NOT this girl,\u201d or you can actively look for women you aren\u2019t likely to run into jealousy-creating factors with (i.e., try to meet girls you won\u2019t run into socially; don\u2019t get into the habit of talking about other people you\u2019re seeing and she\u2019s seeing [at least not until you\u2019ve got a rotation \/ more abundance going], etc.).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIn this case though, I\u2019d just go in, enjoy spending a little time with her, and not be too worried about how it plays out. View it as a good test run for a mini-relationship, an opportunity to deal with the stress and uncertainty that comes with a novel social circle secret lover situation, and just accept that however torn up you may get temporarily by whatever happens with it, it\u2019ll be over soon enough and you\u2019ll be back to being a full-on bachelor again \u2013 it offers nothing but plusses for your learning curve, no matter how it ends up.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/2017\/78328\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-76141\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/76141#comment-76141\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022JasonCC\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022JasonCC\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022JasonCC\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022JasonCC\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/76141#comment-76141\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EThis is not the place to ask\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EJasonCC (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 18 April 2016  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/girls-chase-podcast-interviews-ep-11-chase-amante\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EThis is not the place to ask for advice about a girl. Go to the forums for that. Furthermore, the verbose prose you wrote mean nil. You\u0027re obsessing about a girl. The only solution is to meet more girls. Read the article on abundance mentality.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/2017\/76141\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-76142\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/76142#comment-76142\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022JasonCC\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022JasonCC\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022JasonCC\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022JasonCC\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/76142#comment-76142\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EFantastic\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EJasonCC (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 18 April 2016  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/girls-chase-podcast-interviews-ep-11-chase-amante\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EFantastic podcast, Chase. I\u0027ve been waiting for this one for a while!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/2017\/76142\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-76146\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/76146#comment-76146\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022EvanK\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022EvanK\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022EvanK\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022EvanK\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/76146#comment-76146\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EA couple of things about this podcast\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EEvanK (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Tuesday, 19 April 2016  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/girls-chase-podcast-interviews-ep-11-chase-amante\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey Chase,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWonderful job, man. I\u0027m glad to see you doing the podcast. There are some things I\u0027d like to get your take on that you mention in this podcast:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E1 - 43:05 - Her being aloof. You bring up a great point about why a woman might be aloof. If you move give a girl an amazing sexual time the first time you hang out with her and then she starts becoming aloof, I can see how her personal life might be a reason why. But how does one proceed in texting if this happens? You get a text from her and she responds, and then let\u0027s say you respond to hang out again but there\u0027s no response. And then you text her a few days later and yet no response. Do you recommend guys text a week or so later or just wait for her to text back? I\u0027m unsure on where chasing beings and persistence ends when you text an aloof girl.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EMy understanding is that chasing is expressed in the tone and wording of the text, like you say at 45:18 in this podcast... i.e.: telling her she\u0027s amazing and that you should go on a trip with her. But persistence is keeping the cool sexy vibe and pinging her back occasionally. Am I right about this? And can I persistence become chasing if one texts to too many unresponsive texts?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E2 - 63:18 - Winning things. Can you elaborate on what kind of things to let women win (besides letting her sleep over) and how to set this up?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E3 - While you didn\u0027t mention this in the podcast, I occasionally go on dates with women who tell me they get up early the next day or I get a vibe they aren\u0027t ones to sleep with me on the first night. You\u0027ve mentioned in an article about how some girls have a three date rule before sex, and I\u0027ve seen this a lot. That said, if you get the vibe that you probabaly won\u0027t have sex the first night, what do you think of changing that first date into an informative date and calling it an early night. I do this now, and I\u0027ve notice that it gets the girl texting me back. I think it\u0027s because I\u0027m not defeated by her in trying to bed her. And instead, I\u0027m the one ending the night early because I tell her I have to wake up early or something like that. What\u0027s your take on doing this?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E4 - Finally, if possible please expand on the second and third date in the next podcast.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EGreat topics covered in this podcast. I\u0027m looking forward to the next one.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ECheers,\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nEvan\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/2017\/76146\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-78329\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/78329#comment-78329\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/78329#comment-78329\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EText Not Working Post-Sex, Victories for Her, Cutting Dates Shor\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Tuesday, 24 May 2016  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/girls-chase-podcast-interviews-ep-11-chase-amante\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/76146#comment-76146\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EEvan-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhenever texting isn\u2019t working, and *especially* if you have a\ndecent connection with a girl (which, if you\u2019ve slept together, it\u2019s\nsafe to assume you do), call her:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Ca\nhref=\u0022content\/tactics-tuesdays-calling-her-when-texts-don-t-pan-out\u0022\u003ETactics\nTuesdays: Calling Her When Texts Don\u2019t Pan Out\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThere\u2019s no harm in just calling a girl and saying, \u201cHey, what\u2019s\ngoing on? You dropped off the map!\u201d It\u2019s more natural than trying to\nact like some guy she hardly knows, pinging her with a text every 3 or\n4 days. If you care about someone and they\u2019re not responding, you just\ncall \u2013 more natural. And often works great.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYour examples on chasing\/persistence in text sound right. And yes,\nif you\u2019re persisting too much and getting nothing back for your\nefforts, at some point it becomes chasing. However, if you\u2019re mixing\nphone calls in there, you give yourself a longer runway before that\n\u201cHe\u2019s chasing me\u201d effect sets in.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ERe: winning things\u2026 here are a few examples:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cul\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EShe wants to come over more often\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EShe wants to come over spontaneously (can she come over in an\nhour, etc.)\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EShe wants you to take a small trip together\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EShe wants you to join her for a holiday\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EShe wants your permission to tell her friends\/coworkers about you\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EShe wants you to go see a movie with her\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EShe wants to go to a restaurnat with you\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EShe wants to introduce you to her friends\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EShe wants to take you to a party\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EShe wants you to meet her coworkers\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EShe wants you to meet her family members\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EShe wants to leave stuff at your place\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EShe wants you to leave stuff at her place\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EShe wants to spend multiple consecutive days with you (e.g.,\nFriday-Sunday)\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAll of those count as her winning stuff and securing advancement in\nthe relationship.\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ERe: sensing a date won\u2019t pan out and turning it informational \/\nending it early\u2026 I felt like intuitively this would be a good play, and\nplayed around with doing it for a while sometime back, but I could\nnever get it to work. When I\u2019d meet up with these girls for a second\ndate, it\u2019d always be a little off. I was never sure if the problem was\nhers (i.e., she could sense I wanted sex, but had to put it off) or if\nit was mine (i.e., I was already sour on her after having to postpone\non Date #1, and she was picking up on it and I was creating\nattainability problems for myself).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI still feel like it\u2019s something that SHOULD work, but it just\ndidn\u2019t work out for me when I tried it, though whether for technical\nreasons or psychological reasons I couldn\u2019t tell you.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ERe: second and third date\u2026 this one\u2019s all recorded (has been for a\nmonth, actually \u2013 I need to get it to Patrick, our sound guy); can\u2019t\nrecall if we covered second\/third dates on there or not. We might have.\nIt was certainly a long-enough podcast, in any event\u2026!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/p\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/2017\/78329\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-76169\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/76169#comment-76169\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022JJ\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022JJ\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022JJ\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022JJ\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/76169#comment-76169\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EInsightful\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022http:\/\/www.girlschase.com\u0022 rel=\u0022nofollow foaf:page\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EJJ (not verified)\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Tuesday, 19 April 2016  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/girls-chase-podcast-interviews-ep-11-chase-amante\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n        So, I have my good days when I don\u0027t think at all about the ex.  I have countless suitors at my disposal all the time, i relish the variety \u0026amp; being free, single, commitment free. I\u0027m after all only 25 \u0026amp; don\u0027t want to settle down until 36-38, and as a new year begins I always push that age back last year it was 34-36 not anymore. Then there are days when I see the new formal relationship he is in, the fianc\u00e9 b\/c they\u0027re engaged now always posts photos of them up, he never does even to announce their engagement, anyway it felt terrible when she shared that news and yet another photo like a pressure on my chest. I now he\u0027s ready to settle down and she is offering him what I refused. I just don\u0027t know why i still feel hurt. I don\u0027t love him like I used to anymore when we were together 2 years ago, but I still care deeply about him even if we are not on speaking terms any longer. I just want to continue enjoying tons of men and not think of him like an ex anymore more rather an old estranged friend. I\u0027ve never cared about the others  the way I have him to me they\u0027re just there for me to blow off steam, I don\u0027t care who they\u0027re with at the end of the day. Any advice on how I could perhaps get over those residual feelings I actually am happy for him even if I think she is boring and not his type at all. I would like to be able to speak to him like an old friend one day after all we have a ton of friends spread out over the U.S. \u0026amp; Mexico we share even if we never see each other anymore we haven\u0027t since we separated which is a huge favor to me. I couldn\u0027t stand seeing him in person again at least for the time being. He divides his time between Cancun \u0026amp; Dallas now which is great since I\u0027ve been to both places, but don\u0027t like either and will never go back around those places. I\u0027m even more glad, grateful in fact that he has not been back and doesn\u0027t plan to come visit California \u0026amp; Baja anytime in the near future I don\u0027t want him or her here anywhere near me the Pacific is mine he can keep the Gulf.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/2017\/76169\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-76252\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/76252#comment-76252\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022JJ\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022JJ\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022JJ\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022JJ\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/76252#comment-76252\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EUnclear\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022http:\/\/www.girlschase.com\u0022 rel=\u0022nofollow foaf:page\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EJJ (not verified)\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Wednesday, 20 April 2016  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/girls-chase-podcast-interviews-ep-11-chase-amante\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/76169#comment-76169\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003ESo my question was very unclear, sorry I ramble on as usual. So is it worth it or possible to revert back to a platonic relationship after a romantic relationship? That\u0027s one area I\u0027m inexperienced with emotional aspects always have been my weak point. We have so many friends in common \u0026amp; they sort of pressure me to consider trying to mend the friendship with him in the future. Of course, they know now is not the right time, but perhaps years down the line or maybe we\u0027re better off remaining uncommunicated indefinitely. Although, I admit, if anyone had to forgive anyone it\u0027s him I was a bad girlfriend.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/2017\/76252\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-78331\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/78331#comment-78331\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/78331#comment-78331\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EFriends with an Ex\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Tuesday, 24 May 2016  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/girls-chase-podcast-interviews-ep-11-chase-amante\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/76169#comment-76169\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EJJ-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYes\u2026 and no.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf you\u2019re highly attracted to your ex, it\u2019s difficult to keep things platonic. There will always be that deep attraction there. And in my mind, it\u2019s primarily the man\u2019s job to keep it from re-escalating.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI can tell you personally, whenever I\u2019ve met up with exes on allegedly platonic terms, it invariably turns into them trying to maneuver us into bed, and I\u2019ve seen the same thing happen to many of my male friends, too \u2013 they meet an ex, she tries to get them in bed again.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOf course, pretty common for exes to get back together, so certainly there are plenty of times the man and woman both are willing, and then they\u2019re back to being with each other again. And I\u2019m sure there are plenty of situations where the guy desperately wants the woman back and she\u2019s not having it, but I don\u2019t have much personal experience with that, nor have I had friends deal with that that I can think of.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAs for getting over him, can you temporarily block\/remove him on social media? Out of sight, out of mind. I\u2019ve had a few exes get married, and while I\u2019m mostly relieved (\u201cOh, thank God, I didn\u2019t ruin her\u2026 she was able to find someone else!\u201d), there\u2019s that pang of possessiveness I think almost everyone deals with to some extent or other too (\u201cHuh? MY girl got married?\u201d). The funny thing is how irrational these emotions seem to be; I\u2019ve had several married women tell me straight up that it still hurt when they saw an old beau of theirs get married, even though they were already married themselves, and to men they liked better \/ were sexier \/ they had stronger relationships with. There doesn\u2019t seem to be any cure for that other than simply coming to terms with the new reality (X individual is now married), and moving on.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ERicardus has an article on getting over exes that may be useful here, too:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/content\/get-over-your-ex-13-steps-emotional-freedom\u0022\u003EGet Over Your Ex: 13 Steps to (Emotional) Freedom\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/2017\/78331\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-76228\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/76228#comment-76228\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Bboy100\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Bboy100\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Bboy100\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Bboy100\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/76228#comment-76228\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ELong Courtships\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EBboy100 (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Tuesday, 19 April 2016  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/girls-chase-podcast-interviews-ep-11-chase-amante\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey Chase,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ELet\u0027s assume we somehow end up in a longer courtship with a women. Obviously this is not ideal, but it could (and in fact recently did) happen to me. Would you recommend keeping the same relationship rules in place (i.e. keep it a FB relationship at the start, and dial down the amount of things we do together)? Or do longer courtships automatically leave us stuck in a strict provider zone wherein we would have to treat it like a an LTR from the start? \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAdditionally, you mentioned not letting her spend the night at your place if you\u0027re looking for an FB relationship. Couldn\u0027t kicking her about right after she\u0027s ehem...given herself to you cause attainability problems and ultimately lead to auto-rejection?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFinally, if we are looking for an LTR, should it always be the girl who initiates \u0022the talk?\u0022 or should we calibrate on a case by case basis as you discussed at the end of the podcast in regards to \u0022giving her progress\u0022? \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThanks for another great podcast,\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nBboy\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/2017\/76228\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-78332\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/78332#comment-78332\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/78332#comment-78332\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ERe: Long Courtships\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Tuesday, 24 May 2016  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/girls-chase-podcast-interviews-ep-11-chase-amante\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/76228#comment-76228\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EBboy-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EDepends on the tone and tenor of the courtship. If it really had a \u201cthis thing is pretty serious\u201d kind of feel to it, like you really were auditioning for a serious relationship, you can\u2019t verily shift into super casual after.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI haven\u2019t had an extended courtship since perhaps 2006, but in that case I was able to treat the relationship as a kind of FWB relationship out of the gates and still made it work. Based on my (limited) experience with protracted courtships, it would seem like so long as you didn\u2019t make it feel like you were going for something serious, you ought to be okay.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAs for kicking her out at night, if you\u2019re worried about this, the best thing to do is to try to get to sex earlier in the day, so you can still spend 3 or 4 hours together with her after sex and then send her home after this.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf you can\u2019t, still try to spend an hour or two with her after, then tell her you had an amazing time but now you must get some shut eye, and SHE must go. Then call her a cab if she needs it or let her use Uber or however she plans to get home.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/2017\/78332\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-77522\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/77522#comment-77522\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Austin\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Austin\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Austin\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Austin\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/77522#comment-77522\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EChase\u0026#039;s vibe.\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EAustin (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Tuesday, 10 May 2016  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/girls-chase-podcast-interviews-ep-11-chase-amante\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EListened, to this really enjoying chase\u0027s outlook and tone towards dating and relationships, so looking for more i listened to Blackdragon\u0027s interview. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnyone else notice that Chase seems a little more open to peoples lifestyles where as Blackdragon seems a little militaristic with his rules.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI am conflicted on this conclusion because i\u0027m trying to validate my own choices and outlook towards monogamy and relationships, which conflicts me further because i AM unhappy with the stasis of my life this moment, more on my career, much less my love life. But i am wondering if all things in life are linked to a persons core character.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo im wondering what im doing wrong and how i can change myself for the better, so basically it confuses me to hear Blackdragons rules that im not applying to my own life and im wondering if i can write him off as not for me, or if i have to write myself off as right now im failing.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhere as with Chase i get a really good vibe that while hes experienced he knows everyone\u0027s different and there are many different ways to live an awesome life.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/2017\/77522\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-78333\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/78333#comment-78333\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/78333#comment-78333\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EFlexibility\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Tuesday, 24 May 2016  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/girls-chase-podcast-interviews-ep-11-chase-amante\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/77522#comment-77522\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EAustin-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u2019d simply point out that that\u2019s conscious\/practiced.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EEverybody\u2019s opinionated \u2013 I\u2019ve yet to meet someone with expertise in a field who doesn\u2019t come equipped with strong opinions one way or the other.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHowever, if you\u2019re in a teacher role, you do better to resist foisting your opinions onto anyone who\u2019s learning from you, because people have very different opinions and different paths they want to take their lives down, and as soon as you start pushing your opinions on others too much and closing off paths to them, you make your advice bothersome\/alienating to some folks, and misleading to others.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u2019ve had enough diverse friends running diverse sorts of game (and finding success diverse ways in various other fields) that I\u2019ve become convinced that anything can work if you just figure out the right way to do it. Which makes blanket dismissals intellectually dishonest, in my opinion. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAlso, from the instructor role, not closing off paths to guys allows you to avoid having to defend indefensible positions. E.g., if I claim, \u201cAll men must do X,\u201d I\u2019ll swiftly have to deal with a bunch of guys saying, \u201cThat\u2019s not true, I do Y and it works great,\u201d or, \u201cBut I don\u2019t want to do X!\u201d or \u201cI know a guy who does X and he totally sucks.\u201d Instead of move on with the lesson, now I\u2019ve got to defend why X is superior to Y and Z, and in truth, it probably isn\u2019t always, because different people make different things work differently. Even if X is usually better, most of the time, for most guys, it\u2019s still better to qualify it, as well as to discuss when Y and Z can still be used.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/2017\/78333\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-78353\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/78353#comment-78353\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Seppuku\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Seppuku\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Seppuku\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Seppuku\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/78353#comment-78353\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EThere is good in both\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003ESeppuku (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Tuesday, 24 May 2016  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/girls-chase-podcast-interviews-ep-11-chase-amante\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey Austin,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI really enjoy reading both GirlsChase and BlackDragon blog. There is good in both.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ERegarding how to actually proceed to seduce a girl, what BlackDragon advocates is not so different from GirlsChase. For ways to meet women, BD specializes in online dating, GC is more a generalist with strong emphasis on cold approach. But for the process from first date to bed, they say more or less the same thing.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBD\u0027s particularity is its strong focus on open relationships, and relationship management. There is a lot of valuable things to learn there in my opinion, even if you don\u0027t adopt BD\u0027s \u0022militaristic\u0022 position on this. To apply this in real life, however, is definitely *advanced level*, because you need first to get to a position of abundance.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI would say it\u0027s much better for you to start with GirlsChase, what Chase and writers teach is very open and have plenty of room for you to develop your own particular style, that fits you. 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