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id=\u0022comment-33901\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/33901#comment-33901\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Moon\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Moon\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Moon\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Moon\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/33901#comment-33901\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003Ebut what happen when you are\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EMoon (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Thursday, 18 September 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/dealing-people-who-want-you-prove-yourself\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003Ebut what happen when you are new in a social circle (people still have a blurry image of you and there\u0027s no consensus yet) and someone from that circle doofus you or attack you verbally, how to respond so you can have the sympathy and respect of the group?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1533\/33901\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-34108\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/34108#comment-34108\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/david-riley\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/picture-6711_0.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022David Riley\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022David Riley\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/picture-6711_0.png\u0022 alt=\u0022David Riley\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022David Riley\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/34108#comment-34108\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EShrug it Off\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/david-riley\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/david-riley\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EDavid Riley\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Saturday, 20 September 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/dealing-people-who-want-you-prove-yourself\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/33901#comment-33901\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey Moon,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI would definitely suggest the pay grade here.  The last thing you want to do is come off as a try hard.  It\u0027s completely unnecessary.  A lot of times the concern really isn\u0027t that realistic anyway.  Just blow it off and not very about it.  If it comes to be a problem, throw it up to the group and let them answer.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EJust Dave\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1533\/34108\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-33907\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/33907#comment-33907\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/33907#comment-33907\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EMindset Shift\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EAnonymous (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Thursday, 18 September 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/dealing-people-who-want-you-prove-yourself\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EFor me the biggest impact on life an interactions was one thing:\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nAre you choosing bitterness and shit?\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nOR...\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nAre you choosing value and excitement?\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nAnd whenever I am faced with a choice it helps me to throw out dumb beliefs and then I don\u0027t need to prove myself to anyone but myself, this is when I win.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nSo this mindset shift is big. I imagine bitterness and shit as some strange continent in my world and every time I visit it - I feel bad and my life gets worse so I go there as seldom as I can. This way I see others coming to their bitter and shit continents and I stay away unhurt when they try to tear me down. It feels like being somehow strong and happy. And finally getting things done, because I can\u0027t choose to eat shit when I can eat cakes. I can\u0027t go and watch porn when I can get real girls. This is somewhat awesome when you need to prove something only for yourself and you know that any social circle is not the ultimate environment you can be in. ;)\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1533\/33907\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-34167\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/34167#comment-34167\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/david-riley\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/picture-6711_0.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022David Riley\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022David Riley\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/picture-6711_0.png\u0022 alt=\u0022David Riley\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022David Riley\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/34167#comment-34167\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EHealthy Mindsets\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/david-riley\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/david-riley\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EDavid Riley\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 21 September 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/dealing-people-who-want-you-prove-yourself\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/33907#comment-33907\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey Anon,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThat\u0027s great, I\u0027m glad to hear that things are going great for you.  When you remove unhealthy thinking from your life, your life gets better as a whole.  \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EJust Dave\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1533\/34167\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-33926\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/33926#comment-33926\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Jon n\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Jon n\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Jon n\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Jon n\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/33926#comment-33926\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ELetter Writing Help\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EJon n (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Thursday, 18 September 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/dealing-people-who-want-you-prove-yourself\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey Chase and team,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYour website has been a fountain of knowledge and interest for me personally so I just wanted to thank you before I greedily ask for advice. I\u0027ll explain the situation first and then ask you my questions afterwards.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThere is this up and coming singer\/musician who has done some tours in the US and been to Canada and the UK several times, got probably 10 million as a fan base. So I\u0027m trying to establish to you that she\u0027s not huge but she is somewhat high profile, kind of. She does receive fan letters but probably not a ridiculous amount, I\u0027d think maybe a few per week.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhat I want to do is write her a letter that will be unlike any other letter she\u0027s received. Something that\u0027s very interesting, funny, relatable, powerful, emotional, a letter with a nice range to make it an adventurous experience. I know for a fact that if I write the \u0022perfect\u0022 letter that my goal will be achieved which is my motivation. My goal is get as close to that \u0022perfect\u0022 letter as I can to become friends, because I think it would be too difficult to have my goal as trying to get into a relationship with her, for the first** letter, unless you can convince me otherwise (because I would actually like to be in a relationship with her).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E** I figure that I have one chance, it being the first letter, to NAIL that first impression and if I do it correctly she\u0027ll write BACK and if she writes back WITH questions for and about me, expecting that I reply to answer them then I have succeeded. The connection is made, if she is interested enough to want to hear my answers and enough to want to know more about me then I have her \u0022hooked\u0022.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENow to you it may seem like one of those \u0022everyone\u0027s in love with celebrities\u0022, \u0022everyone thinks they\u0027re perfect\u0022, etc... but I\u0027m going to be cliche and try to tell you why it\u0027s different in like 3 or 4 lines. I have rigorously and brutally evaluated what I want in a partner, the qualities, attitude, passion, mindset, spirit, heart, appearance, and personality as a whole and this girl for some reason knocks off every single one of the things that I\u0027m looking for.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI acknowledge that sometimes this \u0022perfect match\u0022 feeling is just discovery excitement that\u0027s only temporary. Like how a guy and a girl passionately love each other the first few months or whatever of a relationship and feel like they could get married but come a year everything is different and the magic is gone. I thought this might be it but I\u0027ve known about her and thought she was fit for me for around 2 years and that feeling\u0027s been unchanged even while I\u0027ve been sleeping with and dating other girls.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u0027s not affecting my life in a negative way, or keeping me from the women all around like it is if you have that \u0022One girl mentality\u0022 \u0022can\u0027t get her out of my mind thing\u0022 that you wrote an article about. I\u0027m trying to prove to myself why she isn\u0027t a perfect match but I can\u0027t haha The more I look for evidence to back up why it\u0027s all crazy and not worth pursuing the more I find evidence that I can relate to her and things that we directly have in common. It\u0027s one of those \u0022maybe I\u0027m that one in a million\u0022 and I want to at least give it one great try just to see (because this girl honestly could have ANYONE in the whole f**king world and she\u0027s still single still waiting), this is cheesy but with everything I know she appears to be my counterpoint.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAs any good reporter\/journalist extensively researches their client or interviewee as have I on this singer\/musician so that I can subtly and suggestively implement the the things we share, and have in common (to give me an edge) into the letter but in a sneaky way without it seeming weird that I know more about her than she does about me (AT this current moment, I want to reveal enough info about me in the first letter that by the end she\u0027ll know as much about me as I do about her.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHopefully you find this scenario unique enough to help me out, it\u0027d mean a hell of a lot and would be a huge testament to your character and willingness to help your viewers. Finally here are my questions with which I would like answered along with any other tips, advice, things to keep in mind.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EQUESTIONS:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E1. How can I remind cool, mysterious, aloof (sprezzatura, least effort) while providing her enough info about me to balance things out?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E2. I don\u0027t want to lay all my cards out on the table but I have to presume that she will only ever receive one letter from me, what sorts of information do you think NEED to be included and which should be left out?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E3. Length?: short (1500 words or less) is easy to read and easier to keep reader interested however it doesn\u0027t allow for much info\/stories\/jokes etc... Long is the more preferable choice I think for what I\u0027m trying to achieve (can\u0027t make the letter unlike any other if it\u0027s really short) but the obvious catch is keeping her interested and entertained. So what length (how long is too long?) and how to keep her interested in a long letter?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E4. How to judge if your bits and jokes that are meant to be funny actually are to others? Because humor lessens the awkwardness and tension so mine is chalk full of it. I have an excellent sense of humor and it appears funny to me but.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E5. Do you agree that to make it a \u0022one of a kind letter\u0022 that discussing, relating, sharing, and telling things to her that no one really does is important if those things have meaning to one or both of us?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E6. I feel like I should keep away from the mainstream stuff ( ex She has gorgeous but really famous hair) I have a million things to say about her hair but every other letter will talk about how beautiful her hair and face are so would it be better to omit that and tell her that some small detail not many people notice is beautiful like how she loves to wear black nail polish that it gives her a sharp enhancing look?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E7. Format and structure of the letter to best make her feel relaxed and comfortable, at ease immediately? I have all my info stories etc... all of it cut up into little paragraphs and sentences so all I need to do is order them correctly, what do you propose?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E8. How to not seem try hard but make it 100% unique, different and adventurous? (or should I really show the effort I put into it so she can appreciate it more and feel the need to return it with an equal level of effort?) Like I\u0027m thinking of putting in easter eggs or secret stuff that\u0027s fun and isn\u0027t too complicated.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E9. In this particular situation what are some of the important rules in terms of game that I should focus on in the content of this letter?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E10. How to avoid any weirdness, awkwardness with the content and or delivery of the content in the letter? What subjects and or things are best to avoid?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E11.What things do you think need to happen for her to write me back with questions? And do you think it\u0027s possible to get a girl at least a little romantically interested in you via one letter?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E12. If you had to pick one thing for me to focus on in the letter what would it be?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E13. She\u0027s kind of religious I\u0027m pretty sure, I\u0027m very very much not religious, should I just leave that out or hint\/throw it in a few times so she thinks I am. (But I would go to church every sunday for the rest of my life in a heartbeat if it meant I could be with her, that\u0027s saying a lot)\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E14. Is it difficult for you to answer these questions because you have no idea who the singer\/musician is? Would you need me to describe her through email?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E15. Would you like to read over my half done letter so far? My email: \u003Ca href=\u0022mailto:alwond@hotmail.com\u0022\u003Ealwond@hotmail.com\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESorry this so long but it\u0027s extremely important to me. If it\u0027s too much tag team it with a bunch of other writers on the website, turn it into a team challenge or something to test all your combined skill. Anyways thank you!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ECheers,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EJon\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1533\/33926\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-34168\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/34168#comment-34168\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/david-riley\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/picture-6711_0.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022David Riley\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022David Riley\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/picture-6711_0.png\u0022 alt=\u0022David Riley\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022David Riley\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/34168#comment-34168\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EForwarded \u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/david-riley\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/david-riley\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EDavid Riley\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 21 September 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/dealing-people-who-want-you-prove-yourself\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/33926#comment-33926\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey Jon,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027m going to forward this comment to Chase.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EJust Dave\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1533\/34168\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-33928\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/33928#comment-33928\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/340breeze\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022340Breeze\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022340Breeze\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022340Breeze\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022340Breeze\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/33928#comment-33928\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ERoot cause of try hard behavior?\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/340breeze\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/340breeze\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E340Breeze\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Thursday, 18 September 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/dealing-people-who-want-you-prove-yourself\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003ETo girlschase\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nI read this article as stop being try hard stop seeking validation from others.  This comes from a position of strength where we can say fuck you to other people\u0027s opinions and negativity and instead have a strong sense of self. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut it seems sometimes that america is set up in a way where a lot of people have an internal belief that they\u0027re special and better than most others, when in fact most people are just commodities.  It takes hard focused work to be better than others, being the best doesn\u0027t just happen because your mom told you so.  I\u0027ve met many people who act like elitist snobs (could be a dc thing), they only show signs of having chinks in their superior armor when they are faced with someone with superior frame control and who isn\u0027t afraid of being a real asshole.  And some people have cognitive dissonance (that they probably aren\u0027t aware of having) between their internal belief (I am amazing!!) and the external world of people\u0027s opinions (you ain\u0027t oshit, prove it). Advertisers are keen on this fact and prey on people\u0027s desire to feel important (buy my bmw and have your neighbors be in awe of you!!). \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo for your readers to implement the teachings of this article, automatically without having to think about it, one big help would be to stop seeking validation period, to have a mission and purpose in life that is greater than people\u0027s opinions.  We need to have a bulletproof idea of ourselves that doesn\u0027t fluctuate with opinions of the prevailing public.  \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo If possible, could you touch a little bit more and share some thoughts on how people should go about decoupling their sense of self worth from the feedback (negative or positive) from people around us? Some people needvalidation in order to feel special, amazing, beautiful, important.  When they don\u0027t get the validation they\u0027re seeking then they don\u0027t how to feel about themselves. This leads some people to a self-reinforcing cycle of seeking validation and they become a slave to other people\u0027s opinions and they have a perpetual hope of seeking the esteem of others by resorting to try-hard tactics such as those mentioned in this article. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFor people to fix this problem, they need to address the root cause.   but deep into the fabric of our \u0022meritocratic\u0022 society is an undercurrent of comparing and contrasting to other people.  A lot of People just aren\u0027t so sure of their self-worth these days...when having to compete for status, jobs, friends, mates, and so on.  So what\u0027s your take on how people can become more secure in themselves, and tune out negative opinions of those around us who have a seemingly incessant obsession with status and comparison?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1533\/33928\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-34169\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/34169#comment-34169\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/david-riley\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/picture-6711_0.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022David Riley\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022David Riley\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/picture-6711_0.png\u0022 alt=\u0022David Riley\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022David Riley\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/34169#comment-34169\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ENoted!\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/david-riley\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/david-riley\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EDavid Riley\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 21 September 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/dealing-people-who-want-you-prove-yourself\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/33928#comment-33928\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey Breeze,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI will let Chase and the other authors know about your request.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EJust Dave\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1533\/34169\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-34462\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/34462#comment-34462\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/34462#comment-34462\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EValidation-Seeking\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Thursday, 25 September 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/dealing-people-who-want-you-prove-yourself\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/33928#comment-33928\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EBreeze-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWell, the problem with validation-seeking behavior is that it\u0027s part and parcel with doing something new.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENot until you\u0027re already quite successful at a thing do you stop seeking validation so much.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EValidation-seeking is really a behavior of assessing how well what you\u0027re doing works. People look for approval because they want to know if they\u0027re being effective. The only people who do NOT seek validation are those who are either so crazy successful already that they don\u0027t need to know they\u0027re doing it right - they swim in an ocean of validation, and at this point, anyway, they DEFINE \u0022right\u0022 - \u003Cem\u003Eor\u003C\/em\u003E the people who are missing that \u0022switch\u0022 in their heads that makes them care about obtaining validation (like people with Asperger\u0027s syndrome, oftentimes). People who do not seek validation typically have a difficult time learning intuitively because they don\u0027t process feedback from others in a way that\u0027s useful for course correcting at an emotional level; they have to process everything purely rationally, which is inefficient from a learning standpoint (though provides some interesting benefits at the higher levels of skill development).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003Ee.g., compare the little child to the old man. The little child is so validation hungry that the first few years of his life shape what his attitude will be like toward the world probably for the rest of his days. The old man, conversely, could be booed and rejected by everyone he meets and he won\u0027t much care because his impression of himself has already been shaped by a lifetime of experiences.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhile there\u0027s no shortcut to getting over validation-seeking, there IS a way you can shorten the amount of time you\u0027re stuck with it: cram as much varied, intense, difficult experience into your life as you can handle, and force yourself to be the lost-at-sea newbie in as many varied situations and experiences as you can until you are an expert at damn near everything.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe man who\u0027s been everywhere long enough to be \u003Cem\u003Ecomfortable\u003C\/em\u003E everywhere no longer seeks much validation because he\u0027s already been through the validation-seeking stages in each of those places, and already knows what\u0027s the \u0022right\u0022 way of doing things in them and what the \u0022wrong\u0022 way is.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe other alternative is not ever investing your identity even an inkling in anything. e.g., imagine you stumble into a Brony convention and a crowd of fat, pimply Bronies surrounds you and starts jeering at you with, \u0022Loser! You don\u0027t even know who Whimsey Weatherbe is!\u0022 You\u0027re not going to care and are going to think these guys are losers. In this case, you\u0027re not in need of validation. But if you start hanging out more with the Bronies, and you start watching the My Little Pony TV show, and you start to get into this, suddenly you\u0027ll start to feel bad that you don\u0027t know who Whimsey Weatherbe is, and you\u0027ll want to prove to the Brony community that you know just as much about My Little Pony as they do. So then you\u0027ll start doing things that seek validation from that community. Eventually, when you reach a place where you\u0027re respected within it, you stop seeking validation so much because now you know that everyone else knows you are the MAN when it comes to My Little Pony. Maybe eventually you become a writer on the My Little Pony show and are responsible for some well-received episodes, and at that point, since you more or less define the phenomenon, you\u0027re free from all validation when it comes to Bronieism.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnyway, I could write more on this, and it might make for an interesting thing to talk about, if not highly actionable (aside from get more reference points ASAP in whatever you\u0027d like to be validation-seeking-free from). Maybe I\u0027ll do a piece on it, but this comment sums up the lot of my thoughts on it.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1533\/34462\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-34485\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/34485#comment-34485\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022African Boyo\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022African Boyo\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022African Boyo\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022African Boyo\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/34485#comment-34485\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EYes Please\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EAfrican Boyo (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Thursday, 25 September 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/dealing-people-who-want-you-prove-yourself\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/34462#comment-34462\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EI would very much like an article on this\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1533\/34485\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-34500\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/34500#comment-34500\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/340breeze\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022340Breeze\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022340Breeze\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022340Breeze\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022340Breeze\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/34500#comment-34500\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EOne must think one what kind of validation-seeking they\u0026#039;re doing\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/340breeze\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/340breeze\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E340Breeze\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Thursday, 25 September 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/dealing-people-who-want-you-prove-yourself\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/34462#comment-34462\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHow do you define validation?  To me there\u0027s multiple kinds of validaiton: There\u0027s the unspoken validation where you  act and then you see how people respond to you, you pay attention to their non-verbals, and you see if you can get them to comply or buy in to your frames. And then there\u0027s explicit validation where people overtly praise you, or say in-so-many-words that they\u0027re in awe of you, etc.  \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe kind of validation I\u0027m speaking about not waiting for is the explicit kind where others around you praise you and say good things about you (you can still be successful in achieving your goals even in environments where people are hostile\/indifferent to you).  I\u0027m thinking about about not seeking explicit validation (aka praise) those who dislike you, have negative opinions, or hate you, or are callously indifferent to you (even though you\u0027d like to win some people over and have them say positive things about you).  \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIn my view, people need to be aware of what validation-seeking behavior looks like, whether there are any benefits to such behavior in certain contexts, and when such behavior is detrimental to progress and how to put a stop to it when it crops up.   Not being aware of such things can lead to fear which then leads to inaction or \u0022acting fake\u0022 which then leads to stagnation\/lack of desired results.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe perspective I\u0027m thinking about is how some people let the fear of the negative opinions of others impede their risk taking and ultimately their success.  Some people so fear criticism and ostracism and standing out from the crowd that they proactively go out of their way to NOT take risks, be different, speak up candidly in group discussions, be \u0022cool.\u0022  Instead they adopt strategies like people-pleasing and stunt their growth because because it takes experience (and the good and bad feelings associated with them) to learn new effective strategies to grow and go on to be successful.  If you\u0027re afraid of other people having negative opinions of you (and you instead seek their validation\/praise), then they hold a certain power over you.  The coolest dudes around seem so cool because they (visibly) aren\u0027t seeking anyone\u0027s validation: they already know what to do to be praised (they know how to be trendsetters and get people talking positively about them even when they aren\u0027t around). But it does take WORK to get to that point both internally (beliefs, abilities, thoughts, desires), and externally (social behaviors, initiating conversations, conversational ability that leads to results, etc).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYou\u0027ve spoken very eloquently before about the moral police being \u0022level bosses\u0022 and that secrecy or frame control are viable weapons against those bosses.  But another level boss for some people is \u0022the negative opinion of others.\u0022  Some people never begin their journey on novel situations in an effort to avoid the discomfort of dealing with people\u0027s negative opinions.  This, in-part, is why (I think) so many dudes in America are beta males with women, because they fear losing their girlfriends and having to go back to level 0 and go find another woman all over again.   I blame mainstream dating advice and tv\u0027s sitcoms for much of this subservient male behavior...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut there are other contexts besides seduction that are novel for people and explicit validation-seeking-before-finding-sucess is not healthy for them at all.  For example, some of us do not live, work, or go to school in environments where the majority people that are around us share our same race\/culture\/beliefs\/ideals, or even want  to be around us in the first place.  Imagine, for example, a young black\/latino dude that attends a near all-white elementary school.  Depending on where this guy is in America, he may encounter many kids who may tell him that they were told by their parents they can\u0027t play with kids of certain races.  Should this guy seek validation\/praise from his peers, when many of those around him aren\u0027t looking out his best interests or success?  \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EPerhaps explicit validation seeking (praise\/awe) is a good strategy when others around you will help you grow, and will cheer you on when you win, and reign you in when you\u0027re stumbling out in left field.  But if you\u0027re in certain cutthroat environments where you\u0027re of one race\/gender and the majority of those that are around you (secretly) hate your kind or are at least very indifferent to your existence, they\u0027re not looking to give you explicit validation (praise\/awe) on your effectiveness.  In fact, many times, they\u0027re looking for you to fail.  So to find success in these jungles (as I like to call them), you have to blaze a trail many times WITHOUT people\u0027s explicit validation.  Because if you wait for it, you could end up expending alot of energy trying to win people over to your side while getting little in the way of returns on your investment (people still talk shit behind your back or set you up to fail).  \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESometimes in these jungles, finding success means you have to be the loudest or most creative voice in the room to be heard and understood, or you have to be much more aggressive in your frame control or pursuing opportunities than others around you because gatekeepers of a different race\/gender aren\u0027t looking to give you any opportunities.  Sometimes it means being very articulate and having to frame things in ways where you put tons social pressure on gatekeepers (professors, bosses, etc) in order to be heard and get what you want.  I suppose everyone has to go thru the normal reputation management program (focusing on being competent and delivering superior results)to be seen in a good light. But when there are stigmas associated with your race or gender, and you have to function in an environment where you\u0027re very much so in the minority, you don\u0027t necessarily start at the same starting line as certain certain others; and explicit validation-seeking isn\u0027t a path that is going help going to help you find success.  \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd also people seek explicit validation (praise\/awe) in many different ways.  For example, some people want to be held in high esteem, and be thought of as important, special, or somehow amazing.  They have a belief in themselves that they are somehow special and not a commodity and they need to be explicitly validated on this belief.  They\u0027re seeking reactions, not results.  So to support this belief\/desire what do some people do? Spend top dollar to own (and SHOW OFF) the latest trendy coat, suit, luxury vehicle, smartphone, etc to get other people to be in awe of them.  \u0022Validate my importance\u0022 is the name of the game, and some people trade their souls and their money for a fleeting feeling of being held in high esteem.  And capitalists know it and prey on it.  Some people want to be in a position where other people envy them... this gives them validation.  But is this a healthy lifestyle to live?? \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut at the end of the day, dominance is finding a way to win.... but I think people need to think consciously and critically about exactly what it is they\u0027re trying to win (is it fame? status? power? making others envious? or something more tangible and beneficial to society).  Once people know what they want, then they need to think about how they will go about finding a winning strategy to win. Validation is needed (feedback loops), but there are different kinds of validation, and seeking certain kinds of validation may be unhelpful in the overall big picture of accomplishing one\u0027s goal.  I look forward to more dialogue and\/or an article.  I love your blog man!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1533\/34500\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-34574\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/34574#comment-34574\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022African Boyo\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022African Boyo\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022African Boyo\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022African Boyo\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/34574#comment-34574\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EValidation\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EAfrican Boyo (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Friday, 26 September 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/dealing-people-who-want-you-prove-yourself\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/34500#comment-34500\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003E\u0022and some people trade their souls and their money for a fleeting feeling of being held in high esteem. And capitalists know it and prey on it. Some people want to be in a position where other people envy them... this gives them validation. But is this a healthy lifestyle to live??\u0022....This is gold I hope its explored in further detail\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1533\/34574\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-33950\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/33950#comment-33950\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Troy\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Troy\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Troy\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Troy\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/33950#comment-33950\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EReputation Management in Social Circle\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003ETroy (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Thursday, 18 September 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/dealing-people-who-want-you-prove-yourself\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey Chase and Dave,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E         When I\u0027m in a social circle situation, how do I not be a doofus? Of lately I have learnt a lot as to what my flaws are. Based on feedback from girls, these are my main sticking points:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E- Being a Terrible Listener\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n- Asking questions that get \u0022No\u0027s\u0022 regularly\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n- Being a bit too boring\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n- Following people around like a lost puppy\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E- Making lame jokes\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n- Insulting girls when my intention was to tease them and be playful\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n- Creating bad\/ awkward vibes during conversation when I don\u0027t get flirty and playful. Too serious\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E- Being a downer. Talking about negative things and making it sounds funny isn\u0027t working\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E- Talking way too fast and not loud enough\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n- When I open a girl, I have a difficulty with smiling which makes girls nervous. I\u0027ve always been insecure about how my teeth look. I\u0027m planning in getting braces to straighten them. But until then how do I feel confident smiling?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo much for feedback. In just two months I learned all of that. Self Analysis is probably\u00a0about getting enough reference points that you hear more than three persons subtly tell you what to change.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E     So with that said, now that I know my major weak points I\u0027m not sure how to fix them without being a burden on people. That\u0027s the main reason why I avoid a stable social circle environment if possible. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHowever, being at high school, it gets really difficult to fix flaws without risking being ostracized. I talk to every new girl at my school and I have seen a slight anxiety reduction. Yet at the same time they have begun to pick up that I\u0027m not the best socially savvy person. When we just met, they treated me like a king and after two weeks they are only warm at best. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E    I see these girls talking to other guys and the guy is so good at making them laugh and feel comfortable. When the girls come to me we will talk like it\u0027s its some job interview. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E      I believe that a mixture of cold approach and social circle is good. Practising with girls at school can leave a bad taste if I\u0027m not careful. How do I manage my reputation long-term? \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E      Every time I attempt to flirt in the group it ends up being awkward. Or even worse  my attempts at flirting and joking around gets the silent treatment. I can\u0027t just sit at school the entire day and not talk to anyone because that would be creepy. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E           Accepting Where I Am Now\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E    ...while working to improve. Last week a guy from school approached me when I was talking to a group of girls and put me of spot. He began telling the girls that I\u0027m acting different than how I was last year. He said to me that my personality was so different that it must be fake. So I put him back on spot by asking him to explain what he meant.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ETroy: What do you mean? How am I different?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ERobert: You don\u0027t normally act this way. You were always weird\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ETroy: Explain. I don\u0027t know what you are talking about. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ERobert: You were always quiet and weird. One time you some of the football guys beat you up and you cried like a baby. All your clothes were torn off and the girls could see your little sausage. No girl never liked you\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ETroy: Yeah! That\u0027s funny lol. I can\u0027t remember. When that happened?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ERobert : You must remember that\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ETroy: I don\u0027t. Who beat me up?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ERobert: the footballers\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ETroy: ....\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd I drilled him with questions until he went into auto rejection.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nThat brings me to the next issue. Persons in my school already know me as the shy, quiet, doofus. I\u0027m feeling hesitation to instantly start flirting with girls I was in class with for two plus years and never spoke to. Especially the guys who bust persons balls. Most people already see me as low status and I\u0027ll be stuck at the school for two more years with them. That\u0027s limits me to only the few new girls. How do I build calibration skills in a situation like this? And get over my hesitation of talking to girls I knew a long time who I never spoke to?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThanks\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ETroy\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1533\/33950\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-34171\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/34171#comment-34171\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/david-riley\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/picture-6711_0.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022David Riley\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022David Riley\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/picture-6711_0.png\u0022 alt=\u0022David Riley\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022David Riley\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/34171#comment-34171\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EThat\u0026#039;s Unfortunate\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/david-riley\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/david-riley\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EDavid Riley\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 21 September 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/dealing-people-who-want-you-prove-yourself\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/33950#comment-33950\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey Troy,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI sorry that happened to you if that actually did happen you about the football players.  Anyway, I can understand that no one wants to go through life feeling like a outcast.  Ultimately, you need to learn to relax around the new girls.  Don\u0027t put so much pressure on the interaction.  People will either like you or they won\u0027t.  That guy was really trying to make a fool out of you.  That was a good move by not overreacting or looking like a idiot.  The girls probably saw that you remained calm.  That definitely got you some points.  The more you change the more people notice.  The problem with drastic changes is people will call you out on them.   Learn to relax around the girls and talk to them about things that interest them.  \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf you haven\u0027t around see the article from Chase about being a conversationalist, I recommend you read that.  \u003Ca href=\u0022http:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/conversationalist\u0022\u003EThe Conversationalist\u003C\/a\u003E Stay strong Troy, it seems you\u0027ve been through quite a lot.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ETake care,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EJust Dave\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1533\/34171\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-33951\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/33951#comment-33951\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Craig2014\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Craig2014\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Craig2014\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Craig2014\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/33951#comment-33951\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EDealing with people\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003ECraig2014 (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Thursday, 18 September 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/dealing-people-who-want-you-prove-yourself\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EChase,\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nI always look forward to reading your articles on daily social interactions and you manage (very well) to show how your methodologies work in both seduction and everyday life.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nWith a job like mine, it\u0027s important for me to have my social game down and I love your articles on these subjects. I use what I learn on this site for seduction and the social (and extremely stressful) dynamics of my workplace.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nCan you have a section on yours site for these kind of articles? \u0022How to deal with X in Y Social Situation\u0022 type of articles?\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nIt\u0027s a great help and thanks again.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nCraig\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1533\/33951\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-34172\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/34172#comment-34172\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/david-riley\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/picture-6711_0.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022David Riley\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022David Riley\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/picture-6711_0.png\u0022 alt=\u0022David Riley\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022David Riley\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/34172#comment-34172\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EForwarded \u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/david-riley\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/david-riley\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EDavid Riley\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 21 September 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/dealing-people-who-want-you-prove-yourself\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/33951#comment-33951\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey Craig,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027ll forward this comment to Chase to see what could be done about this.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EJust Dave\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1533\/34172\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-34463\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/34463#comment-34463\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/34463#comment-34463\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EHow to deal with X in Y Social Situation\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Thursday, 25 September 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/dealing-people-who-want-you-prove-yourself\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/33951#comment-33951\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003ECraig-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHave you seen the \u003Ca href=\u0022\/pages\/social-life\u0022\u003ESocial Life tab\u003C\/a\u003E on the navigation bar above, or, alternately, the \u0022\u003Ca href=\u0022\/category\/category\/socializing\u0022\u003ESocializing category\u003C\/a\u003E?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThere are other sorts of articles mixed in there, but those\u0027ll make sorting through these a bit easier.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAs for putting together a devoted category for \u0022In X situation, do Y\u0022, I do intend to have us redo the article categories at some point since the categories we have now are a little too broad for the content on the site. However, no promises when this will be done, since in order to do this we need to come up with a new sorting system, go through ALL of the articles (about 1,000 of them) in a spreadsheet and classify each of them one by one, and then manually edit each and every article and place it into a new category. It\u0027ll be something of an undertaking...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1533\/34463\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-33953\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/33953#comment-33953\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Craig2014\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Craig2014\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Craig2014\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Craig2014\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/33953#comment-33953\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EA Quick Suggestion\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003ECraig2014 (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Thursday, 18 September 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/dealing-people-who-want-you-prove-yourself\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EBy the way, I have a suggestion for an article: job interview skills. (ie: how to show you\u0027re the dominant, efficient man they want to hire). Of course, I\u0027m sure you can make it intertwine with seduction and other social situations.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nThanks again.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1533\/33953\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-34173\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/34173#comment-34173\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/david-riley\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/picture-6711_0.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022David Riley\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022David Riley\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/picture-6711_0.png\u0022 alt=\u0022David Riley\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022David Riley\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/34173#comment-34173\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ENoted!\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/david-riley\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/david-riley\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EDavid Riley\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 21 September 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/dealing-people-who-want-you-prove-yourself\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/33953#comment-33953\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey Craig,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027ll let Chase and the other authors know about your request.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EJust Dave\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1533\/34173\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-33955\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/33955#comment-33955\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Armstrong1\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Armstrong1\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Armstrong1\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Armstrong1\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/33955#comment-33955\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EInteresting breakdown\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EArmstrong1 (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Thursday, 18 September 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/dealing-people-who-want-you-prove-yourself\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EGreat article, Chase. I especially use \u0022throw it to the group\u0022 because I have a boss who regularly tests my team and since we usually have a consensus against him, it works well. This is a technique I use regularly.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u0022Shrug it off and keep moving\u0022 doesn\u0027t seem to work so well when regularly tested by a superior but I think it works better with women. This technique is more playful and you could look like an incompetent or avoidant worker if you do this continuously in a work setting BUT that playfulness is what will come of as sexy when dealing with women.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase, I asked you in another post (I changed my name because I couldn\u0027t remember my login) about an article on moving to a new city and setting up new social circles\/new life. I will be moving in a few months to a city where I don\u0027t know anyone and I would love to hear what you have to say about how to set up shop somewhere new.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ECheers\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1533\/33955\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-34177\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/34177#comment-34177\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/david-riley\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/picture-6711_0.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022David Riley\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022David Riley\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/picture-6711_0.png\u0022 alt=\u0022David Riley\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022David Riley\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/34177#comment-34177\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ENoted!\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/david-riley\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/david-riley\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EDavid Riley\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 21 September 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/dealing-people-who-want-you-prove-yourself\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/33955#comment-33955\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey Armstrong,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThanks for the incite from a business perspective.  As far as the rest of the comment on the city situation.  I\u0027ll let Chase and the other authors know about writing a possible article dealing with that.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ETake care,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EJust Dave\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1533\/34177\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-33958\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/33958#comment-33958\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Jake Gee\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Jake Gee\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Jake Gee\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Jake Gee\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/33958#comment-33958\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EBut you can always do this...\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EJake Gee (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Thursday, 18 September 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/dealing-people-who-want-you-prove-yourself\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey Chase. You mention that if you\u0027re called out for being a doofus in a situation where you are rightfully the doofus to just bow out.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nBut that gives them an all win and you an all lose outcome.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nI would make that person calling me out for being a doofus feel like they\u0027re being too harsh. Let me explain...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESay you talk too much in a group because you\u0027ve had too many drinks or whatever. You get called out by a guy in the group. If that guy\u0027s response is harsh and although the group agrees with him, he is still sort of bringing down the mood of the group. Most people will be tolerant of someone who oversteps their bounds slightly over someone causing confrontation. So in that scenario, you can play it off like that person is being overly aggressive by laughing it off and having a \u0022Ok, man, chill\u0022 attitude. This way you acknowledge that you may have overstepped your bounds but you\u0027re minimizing the damage by coming off as really laid back and not wanting to kill the group\u0027s vibe. I\u0027ve used this before (especially in my college days when smoking weed and if I talked too much while high or something).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI know it doesn\u0027t always work but when adding a smooth, \u0022dude, chill out\u0022 vibe to your response to being called out, it goes a long way.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1533\/33958\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-34178\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/34178#comment-34178\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/david-riley\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/picture-6711_0.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022David Riley\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022David Riley\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/picture-6711_0.png\u0022 alt=\u0022David Riley\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022David Riley\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/34178#comment-34178\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EUnderstandable \u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/david-riley\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/david-riley\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EDavid Riley\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 21 September 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/dealing-people-who-want-you-prove-yourself\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/33958#comment-33958\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey Jake,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ELooking at your information you provided I could see that being a good tactic.  As far as Chase I think he presented two extremes.  What I\u0027m saying is it\u0027s possible that Chase presented would have been used in an extreme circumstance.  Your example is more a balancing in a chilled environment.  Let me know if that answers your question.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ETake care,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EJust Dave\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1533\/34178\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-34465\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/34465#comment-34465\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/34465#comment-34465\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EExtremes \u0026amp; Chill Bro\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Thursday, 25 September 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/dealing-people-who-want-you-prove-yourself\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/34178#comment-34178\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EMain thing I was going for here fellas was assessing whether you\u0027re in the wrong or he is, but I was using the extremes to paint this a little more clearly, yeah.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\n\u003Cp\u003E\u0022Okay, chill bro,\u0022 is an excellent option if you\u0027re among friends, in social circle, say, or where you know without a doubt that the guy is way out of line and everyone else there backs you up.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\n\u003Cp\u003EIf you\u0027re \u003Cem\u003Eassuming\u003C\/em\u003E he\u0027s out of line but the reality is that everybody else there is annoyed with you, you can actually just end up wearing everyone else\u0027s patience thin with this - I\u0027ve been around lots of interactions where one guy starts pissing people off, and someone starts correcting him and he goes, \u0022Whoa, whoa, whoa, okay, chill bro, relax.\u0022 And then he keeps being annoying, but a bit less so. Had he polled the group instead, and they said, \u0022Well, you ARE being a little annoying with that [X] thing you keep doing,\u0022 then he could say, \u0022Whoops, sorry about that - I didn\u0027t even realize it. I\u0027ll tone it down,\u0022 and then he will generally look cooler in front of everyone else. (one exception - if he\u0027s trying to pull a girl and she clearly likes what he\u0027s doing, even if it pisses the rest of the group off to high heaven he shouldn\u0027t apologize. Instead, just pull her out of there ASAP before the group completely turns on him and feeds him to the wolves)\u003C\/p\u003E\n\n\u003Cp\u003ESo, this one\u0027s a big calibration thing. If you\u0027re very certain you\u0027re fine and doing nothing wrong and the other guy\u0027s got issues, it can be okay to launch into this. The safer option is polling the group - at least you get a stronger read on when you\u0027re operating out of bounds socially, which will inform your future social interactions and help you better avoid being the annoying guy who doesn\u0027t realize he\u0027s being annoying.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\n\u003Cp\u003EJust don\u0027t be this guy:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cimg src=\u0022http:\/\/s2.quickmeme.com\/img\/b7\/b7e0401cb784e3ebc857c2ba4ced2b20079eb2d7c9dbf1621f8a526f01677d42.jpg\u0022 width=\u0022100%\u0022\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1533\/34465\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-34705\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/34705#comment-34705\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/david-riley\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/picture-6711_0.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022David Riley\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022David Riley\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/picture-6711_0.png\u0022 alt=\u0022David Riley\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022David Riley\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/34705#comment-34705\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EThanks for Clarification \u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/david-riley\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/david-riley\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EDavid Riley\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 28 September 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/dealing-people-who-want-you-prove-yourself\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/34465#comment-34465\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey Chase,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThanks for clearing that up.  The social circle dynamic makes a lot of sense. The meme at the end further bring this point home.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThanks,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EJust Dave\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1533\/34705\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-34089\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/34089#comment-34089\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/superdd\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022superdd\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022superdd\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022superdd\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022superdd\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/34089#comment-34089\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EHey Chase,\nI  read your\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/superdd\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/superdd\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003Esuperdd\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Saturday, 20 September 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/dealing-people-who-want-you-prove-yourself\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey Chase,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI  read your program and some of your articles. My problem is a bit off the specialty that you are offering here, but a couple of your articles which initially brought me to your site, are relevant to my problem. So I was wondering if you could offer me some advice.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI  am a man, mid thirties, attractive, currently making do with a career in medical sciences. I was always a bit shy and introverted. But my problems is not that I can not attract girls (actually girls approach me). The problem is that due to personal and religious reasons, I have always wanted to wait till marriage for sex. I have always wanted to wait for that special lady whom I could commit myself to, 100%. The problem is (special of late), the thoughts that there is no girl (in my age group) left who would be like me, who has waited and who cherishes such an ideal (in a statistically meaningful and relevant way). The thoughts of falling in love with someone who has already been intimate with many other men, is destroying\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nany romantic life I had imagined for myself. I am fully aware in today\u0027s society such feelings and expectations are ridiculed and the harbinger is categorized as a troglodyte specially in media. But I can not help it. The more I delve, the more I see these feelings are actually hard wired in my brain. It is almost like a jealousy of worst kind consuming me to the point that I have been thinking to completely let go of any romantic hope and just concentrate on my profession.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYour articles on previous sexual partners, though eye opening with great references to research, actually made the situation worse for me, kind of proving the instincts I was battling. Till some time ago, I used to think that if she is good for me, all I have to do is bury my negative emotions about her past, and just accept her. But these articles and research refs in addition to some other research I studied, actually have made it almost impossible for me to be able to solve my problem now. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAll my life I put my trust in science and now science is flaming my jealousy.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe thought that I will always be compared to her past memories (inevitable as humans live off their memory) and the thought of being led rather than lead, goes against every ounce of my manhood. Besides, I feel that I will form a very strong emotional bond with my first, specially in context of a romantic relationship, but with her past intimacies and experiences, she will never be able to reciprocate. It would be impossible for her. A research paper I had read basically says the previous sexual experiences makes sex less pleasing in quality terms for women in marriage (though for some reason, the same paper says that this observation does not stand true for men). And another research paper says that in bio-economic terms women mostly see sex as a capital good, while men see it as a consumer good. And the implications of this last one are too enormous and have kept me thinking real hard.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI guess the science part is pretty much clear, but what I wanted to hear from you is your personal perspective on this issue. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWith your experience, if you were in my place, what would you have done? Is there any hope?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI would really appreciate if you could drop in some of your wisdom. Thanks.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1533\/34089\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-34466\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/34466#comment-34466\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/34466#comment-34466\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EIn 30s and Still Waiting\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Thursday, 25 September 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/dealing-people-who-want-you-prove-yourself\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/34089#comment-34089\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003ESuper DD-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u0027s a tough thing to be mid-30s and still waiting for the right\ngirl in the West - most of the religious folks marry young (24 and\nyounger it seems like), which means that by the time you hit 30 nearly\neveryone who\u0027s single has had a number of sexual and romantic partners\nalready.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYou have a couple of options if you\u0027re looking at things very\nrealistically:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cul\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFocus on dating exclusively younger women from conservative\nregions - if you\u0027re not in a very religious area, for instance, you\u0027d\nwant to move to one. You might have to restructure your life so that\nyou\u0027re coming into contact with girls who are still in the early years\nof their university educations, and you\u0027ll want to focus on religious\nuniversities. There are still some women who retain their virginity\nmidway through a Christian college education (I had a sister who went\nto a Catholic university, and if some of her friends weren\u0027t virgins\nthen I don\u0027t think anyone is). If she\u0027s a Western girl, single, and\nhitting 21 or 22, your chances she\u0027s still a virgin aren\u0027t terribly\ngood, and if she\u0027s 23 or older, unless she\u0027s Mother Theresa reborn she\nprobably isn\u0027t\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChange your philosophy and get comfortable with sex before\nmarriage. I wasn\u0027t sure if we wanted to table this one or not from your\ncomment - maybe, maybe not. I\u0027d probably recommend this one least, just\nbecause at this point in your life it\u0027s going to be such a hard\nright-turn from how you\u0027ve structured your entire existence that it\u0027s\ngoing to be traumatic to go through - abandoning old ways and picking\nup new ones that aren\u0027t what you want and that you\u0027re far behind on\nanyway. It\u0027s an option, but probably the least best option\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EPick up stakes and head to a country with conservative women.\nThe best is if you learn the local language and focus on smaller towns\nthat aren\u0027t in the big city. Girlfriends of mine that I\u0027ve met in large\nAsian cities will tend to have had a few partners before, but their\nsisters and sisters-in-law in less metropolitan cities will tend to\nonly have slept with the men they take as husbands (usually they have\nsex before marriage, but not until it\u0027s more or less already certain\nthat they\u0027re getting married). If you\u0027re worried about religious\nconsiderations, I\u0027ve noticed a lot of Asian women converting to\nChristianity as soon as they\u0027re in close contact with it, so I wouldn\u0027t\nworry about this too much. Additionally, the age gap isn\u0027t as much of a\nconsideration in Asia as Asian women tend to prefer older men - guys\nunder 30 have a much harder time with young Asian women than guys over\n30 do, whether foreign or local. Note: don\u0027t do the foreign bride thing\nwhere you try to meet her over a website, as a lot of these girls are\npros - ex-prostitutes, divorced women looking for a desperate foreign\nguy, women who are foreigner hunters and date lots of foreign guys, etc.\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf you\u0027re not wanting to move much, I\u0027d probably try my hand first\nat relocating to somewhere close to a Christian university and try\nmeeting women there. If no dice, consider a more conservative part of\nyour country, like the American Deep South, or consider spending a few\nyears over in Asia - you can always bring the wife back home with you\nlater if you want to, and it\u0027ll be a heck of a fun experience.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/p\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1533\/34466\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-34467\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/34467#comment-34467\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/34467#comment-34467\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EIn 30s and Still Waiting\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Thursday, 25 September 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/dealing-people-who-want-you-prove-yourself\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/34089#comment-34089\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003ESuper DD-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u0027s a tough thing to be mid-30s and still waiting for the right\ngirl in the West - most of the religious folks marry young (24 and\nyounger it seems like), which means that by the time you hit 30 nearly\neveryone who\u0027s single has had a number of sexual and romantic partners\nalready.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYou have a couple of options if you\u0027re looking at things very\nrealistically:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cul\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFocus on dating exclusively younger women from conservative\nregions - if you\u0027re not in a very religious area, for instance, you\u0027d\nwant to move to one. You might have to restructure your life so that\nyou\u0027re coming into contact with girls who are still in the early years\nof their university educations, and you\u0027ll want to focus on religious\nuniversities. There are still some women who retain their virginity\nmidway through a Christian college education (I had a sister who went\nto a Catholic university, and if some of her friends weren\u0027t virgins\nthen I don\u0027t think anyone is). If she\u0027s a Western girl, single, and\nhitting 21 or 22, your chances she\u0027s still a virgin aren\u0027t terribly\ngood, and if she\u0027s 23 or older, unless she\u0027s Mother Theresa reborn she\nprobably isn\u0027t\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChange your philosophy and get comfortable with sex before\nmarriage. I wasn\u0027t sure if we wanted to table this one or not from your\ncomment - maybe, maybe not. I\u0027d probably recommend this one least, just\nbecause at this point in your life it\u0027s going to be such a hard\nright-turn from how you\u0027ve structured your entire existence that it\u0027s\ngoing to be traumatic to go through - abandoning old ways and picking\nup new ones that aren\u0027t what you want and that you\u0027re far behind on\nanyway. It\u0027s an option, but probably the least best option\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EPick up stakes and head to a country with conservative women.\nThe best is if you learn the local language and focus on smaller towns\nthat aren\u0027t in the big city. Girlfriends of mine that I\u0027ve met in large\nAsian cities will tend to have had a few partners before, but their\nsisters and sisters-in-law in less metropolitan cities will tend to\nonly have slept with the men they take as husbands (usually they have\nsex before marriage, but not until it\u0027s more or less already certain\nthat they\u0027re getting married). If you\u0027re worried about religious\nconsiderations, I\u0027ve noticed a lot of Asian women converting to\nChristianity as soon as they\u0027re in close contact with it, so I wouldn\u0027t\nworry about this too much. Additionally, the age gap isn\u0027t as much of a\nconsideration in Asia as Asian women tend to prefer older men - guys\nunder 30 have a much harder time with young Asian women than guys over\n30 do, whether foreign or local. Note: don\u0027t do the foreign bride thing\nwhere you try to meet her over a website, as a lot of these girls are\npros - ex-prostitutes, divorced women looking for a desperate foreign\nguy, women who are foreigner hunters and date lots of foreign guys, etc.\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf you\u0027re not wanting to move much, I\u0027d probably try my hand first\nat relocating to somewhere close to a Christian university and try\nmeeting women there. If no dice, consider a more conservative part of\nyour country, like the American Deep South, or consider spending a few\nyears over in Asia - you can always bring the wife back home with you\nlater if you want to, and it\u0027ll be a heck of a fun experience.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/p\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1533\/34467\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-74431\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/74431#comment-74431\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022lux7\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022lux7\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022lux7\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022lux7\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/74431#comment-74431\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EFind her online!\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003Elux7 (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 28 March 2016  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/dealing-people-who-want-you-prove-yourself\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/34089#comment-34089\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey man, on top of Chase says, before you move, if you\u0027re in a major city in the millions, then, well.. You can find anything!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHell, I read about a guy whose dream was to be eaten.. Well, he found a guy willing to eat him on Internet! :S\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo of course you can find a woman in your age group in your same situation.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nJust scout the net on the places you\u0027re most likely to find them.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWebsites about getting married, Christian forum, blogs about chastity values etc. etc.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1533\/74431\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-34102\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/34102#comment-34102\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022G\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022G\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022G\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022G\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/34102#comment-34102\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EHey gc writers,\nI was\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EG (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Saturday, 20 September 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/dealing-people-who-want-you-prove-yourself\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey gc writers,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI was recently pulled up to a football team where I\u0027m the only freshman and the rest are mostly sophomores but also juniors and seniors.  It is expected that the freshman do a lot of the grunt work like filling up water bottles, shagging, balls and getting the ball bag. I was able to avoid a lot of this by being cool and shaking off requests however the coaches also somewhat encourage the freshman to have to do the \u0022bitch jobs\u0022. I expect to be the starter next year and I need to be respected as the quarterback. Is there any way to completely shut down these requests for me to do the annoying jobs on the team.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1533\/34102\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-34165\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/34165#comment-34165\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/david-riley\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/picture-6711_0.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022David Riley\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022David Riley\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/picture-6711_0.png\u0022 alt=\u0022David Riley\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022David Riley\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/34165#comment-34165\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EHigh School or College\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/david-riley\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/david-riley\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EDavid Riley\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 21 September 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/dealing-people-who-want-you-prove-yourself\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/34102#comment-34102\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey G,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ETo give a better answer are you dealing with high school or college coaches?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EJust Dave\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1533\/34165\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-34147\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/34147#comment-34147\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Wolf\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Wolf\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Wolf\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Wolf\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/34147#comment-34147\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EWant to start day game\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EWolf (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 21 September 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/dealing-people-who-want-you-prove-yourself\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey Chase and Dave, i think  imma just quit club game and try straight up day game. Im pretty solid  of getting  one number each time i go and getting girls on me, i just can\u0027t  get em after and im kinda tired  of  the  club. It bores me now, the same old songs, girls that i don\u0027t  really want and they act stuck up. Getting rejected  by  a  girl you would never talk to outside  the club, pisses me off, I\u0027m  like, \u0022did i just get rejected by a girl i would never talk to? Wtf?\u0022. I\u0027m  not getting dates from girls i pick up and mess around with in the club, it\u0027s  getting redundant, I\u0027m  not  getting  real enough  results, I\u0027ve  been doing this shit for 2 years and didn\u0027t  fuck one girl from the club  yet. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI want to go strictly  to day game now.... I\u0027m  just nervous  as shit, i think about it and say it\u0027s impossible  for me to feel comfortable  doing this. 95% of girls i see are not my race, and you know how that\u0027s going already. Chase makes it  sound easier than club  game, but that shit to me feels 10x\u0027s harder, i feel awkward as shit. I could use a little help guys on starting this guys, this is very daunting to me, but i have nothing else.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027d  appreciate all advice you have to make day game as easy as possible, thank you guys!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1533\/34147\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-34179\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/34179#comment-34179\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/david-riley\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/picture-6711_0.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022David Riley\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022David Riley\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/picture-6711_0.png\u0022 alt=\u0022David Riley\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022David Riley\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/34179#comment-34179\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EForum Link\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/david-riley\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/david-riley\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EDavid Riley\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 21 September 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/dealing-people-who-want-you-prove-yourself\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/34147#comment-34147\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey Wolf,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHere\u0027s a link at one of my most detailed forum posts.  It outlines every trick and tactic up that point of things I\u0027ve used.  I mostly run day game.  Consider it a complete guide to what you\u0027re trying to accomplish.  Their are also articles on the site, but I want you to see the results first.  Inside the post are links to thins I\u0027ve written and field reports.   Take a look and let me know if it makes sense at all.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022http:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/boards\/viewtopic.php?f=4\u0026amp;t=4880\u0022\u003ESingle Player Mode\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ETake care,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EJust Dave\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1533\/34179\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-34149\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/34149#comment-34149\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022V\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022V\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022V\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022V\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/34149#comment-34149\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ESuccess\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EV (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 21 September 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/dealing-people-who-want-you-prove-yourself\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EI re read chase\u0027s article on barrier levels. When reading it, it seems you actually  won\u0027t have success unless  you approach thousands of women if you\u0027re  a regular  guy. My question is:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHow the hell do you succeed? I don\u0027t  think one person will keep doing cold approach  if he\u0027s  been rejected  thousands  of times. So with that in mind, chase said that you can try two things.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nA. Take the easy route and approach girls like every guy does, it\u0027s  easy, but you won\u0027t  succeed like you would with doing the harder things like day game.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EB. Day game is the hardest, but you get the most rewards. But you have to fail alot and who knows when  you\u0027ll  get laid, you have  to get numbers, get dates, get girls home. There\u0027s  so much you have  to  do to achieve any results  from this.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo how do you succeed if you can\u0027t fuck a lot  of  girls doing every guy game and you can\u0027t  fuck a lot  of girls doing hard game  no one does? It\u0027s  like  you have to be extremely lucky.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1533\/34149\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-34181\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/34181#comment-34181\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/david-riley\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/picture-6711_0.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022David Riley\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022David Riley\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/picture-6711_0.png\u0022 alt=\u0022David Riley\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022David Riley\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/34181#comment-34181\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EGoals\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/david-riley\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/david-riley\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EDavid Riley\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 21 September 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/dealing-people-who-want-you-prove-yourself\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/34149#comment-34149\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey V,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EUltimately it starts with a very realistic goal.  When you first start out you may have a goal of approaching 10 girls a week.  Next you\u0027ll do something like I\u0027ll get 5 numbers this week.  The next goal would be I\u0027ll ask a girl out.  Basically what I\u0027m saying your success comes with the goals you are setting for yourself.  But for newer guys they have to be attainable goals.  A lot of guys read the articles and want to run before they can even crawl.  Once you begin to accomplish goals, you begin to obtain success.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ETake care,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EJust Dave\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1533\/34181\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-34150\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/34150#comment-34150\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022V\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022V\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022V\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022V\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/34150#comment-34150\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EHow  to be sexy\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EV (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 21 September 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/dealing-people-who-want-you-prove-yourself\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHow do you become and act sexy when you have little experience? I feel too friendly and when i try to act sexy it comes across  as me being bored or very serious.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI need some help, thanks guys!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1533\/34150\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-34180\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/34180#comment-34180\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/david-riley\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/picture-6711_0.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022David Riley\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022David Riley\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/picture-6711_0.png\u0022 alt=\u0022David Riley\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022David Riley\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/34180#comment-34180\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EArticle Links\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/david-riley\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/david-riley\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EDavid Riley\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 21 September 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/dealing-people-who-want-you-prove-yourself\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/34150#comment-34150\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey V,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ETake a look at the following articles.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022http:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/how-be-sexy-man\u0022\u003EHow to Be Sexy\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Ca href=\u0022http:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/constructing-your-sexy-vibe-and-making-girls-go-nuts\u0022\u003ESexy Vibe\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Ca href=\u0022http:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/sexy-body-language-men-learned-hot-girls\u0022\u003ESexy Body Language\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ELet me know if these help.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EJust Dave\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1533\/34180\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-34248\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/34248#comment-34248\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022G\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022G\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022G\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022G\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/34248#comment-34248\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EHey David Riley,\nIt\u0026#039;s high\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EG (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 22 September 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 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