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id=\u0022comment-24236\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/24236#comment-24236\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022P.\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022P.\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022P.\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022P.\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/24236#comment-24236\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ERequest\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EP. (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 2 March 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/satisficing-and-seduction-or-why-you-probably-wont-be-bachelor-forever\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHi,\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nI recently found this site, but so far it has given me lots of interesting advice\/suggestions as to how things work\/how to do things. I\u0027ve so far barely started to scratch the surface of testing it out, but there\u0027s one thing I\u0027ve found nothing on here so far. Children, I don\u0027t have any myself yet, so I don\u0027t know what I\u0027m asking for specifically, but curious as to what insights you guys have on them. Also, if you know of other sites that write articles that discuss human nature(as i see it) this directly? I just started exploring the manosphere after christmas and though I find some stuff interesting, there\u0027s to much posturing\/aggresion and nostalgia\/traditionalism for my taste. Thank you for the great articles and hopefully I\u0027ll be able to afford a subsription in the near future, not because I need it, but because you guys deserve the money.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nP.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1340\/24236\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-24686\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/24686#comment-24686\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/24686#comment-24686\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EHuman Nature\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Friday, 7 March 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/satisficing-and-seduction-or-why-you-probably-wont-be-bachelor-forever\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/24236#comment-24236\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EP-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI can\u0027t say I know of other sites that go into things \u003Cspan\nstyle=\u0022font-style: italic;\u0022\u003Equite\u003C\/span\u003E the same way we do on GC, but\nI\u0027m admittedly not the biggest consumer of information out there and\nI\u0027m sure there are some I don\u0027t know about. Some suggestions for sites\nyou may find interesting if you like the stuff on GC:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cul\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022http:\/\/www.sciencedaily.com\/\u0022\u003EScience Daily\u003C\/a\u003E (science)\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022http:\/\/sciam.com\/\u0022\u003EScientific American\u003C\/a\u003E (science)\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022http:\/\/www.psychologytoday.com\/\u0022\u003EPsychology Today\u003C\/a\u003E\n(psychology)\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022http:\/\/www.bakadesuyo.com\/\u0022\u003EBarking Up the Wrong Tree\u003C\/a\u003E\n(popular science)\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022http:\/\/paulgraham.com\/articles.html\u0022\u003EPaul Graham\u0027s Essays\u003C\/a\u003E\n(successful entrepreneurship)\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022http:\/\/lesswrong.com\/\u0022\u003ELess Wrong\u003C\/a\u003E (cognitive biases\n\/ logical fallacies)\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe closest outright might be Psychology Today. Less Wrong deals\nwith a lot of the tricks your mind plays on you we like talking about\nhere too (and many more we don\u0027t or haven\u0027t yet). Paul Graham talks\nabout entrepreneurship, but there are a lot of insteresting lessons\nabout what people do in the extreme scenario that is business-building.\nScience Daily and Scientific American run intriguing pieces on human\nnature every so often, and Barking Up the Wrong Tree does it pretty\nfrequently.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ELots of interesting things to digest on these sites, and if you like\ngetting a better handle on human nature, they\u0027re all wonderful places\nto do that in their own respects.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/p\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1340\/24686\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-24237\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/24237#comment-24237\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/jj123\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022jj123\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022jj123\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022jj123\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022jj123\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/24237#comment-24237\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EBefore we can get to settling down...\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/jj123\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/jj123\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003Ejj123\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 2 March 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/satisficing-and-seduction-or-why-you-probably-wont-be-bachelor-forever\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003Ehi Chase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI was wondering if you could write one of your next articles listing the precise SIGNS a woman gives, early on, that a guy is in the friend zone. In other words, the specific ways you can tell. I feel very clear on what to do to try to avoid it, and what to do when it happens (basically, to get away from her). But one of the problems are the combined signals she gives of \u0022I accept you socially and think you\u0027re great and want to be around you\u0022 and wanting emotional closeness, all while carefully sidestepping intimacy with the guy. In such a case, when a guy starts to distance himself, she\u0027ll start asking him questions about \u0022what\u0027s wrong,\u0022 and if he says \u0022you put me in the friend zone,\u0022 she says, \u0022what\u0027s wrong with that?\u0022 \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThanks.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1340\/24237\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-24688\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/24688#comment-24688\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/24688#comment-24688\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ESigns You\u0026#039;re in the Friend Zone\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Friday, 7 March 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/satisficing-and-seduction-or-why-you-probably-wont-be-bachelor-forever\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/24237#comment-24237\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EJJ-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ECertainly - I can do something on that soon! Would be fun to write.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1340\/24688\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-24692\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/24692#comment-24692\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/jj123\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 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property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EChase,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt seems to me that ex-boyfriends and any recent breakups play right into this friend zoning phenomenon. Could you possibly explain this as well?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1340\/24696\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-24248\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/24248#comment-24248\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Riz\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Riz\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Riz\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Riz\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/24248#comment-24248\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EInteresting\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003ERiz (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 2 March 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/satisficing-and-seduction-or-why-you-probably-wont-be-bachelor-forever\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHi Chase,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThanks for taking the time to write an article in response to my question.  I really enjoyed the read, so much info here its hard to get my head around!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027ll just bounce some ideas.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EDo you really believe we are such a slave as you say to our biology?  Look at the way we live today, not much about it is natural really, a lot of the things we do go against what we were really engineered to do and how we were made to live.  But yet we still live this way.  I believe human consciousness, logic and decision making have quite a\u003Cbr \/\u003E\npower over our decisions, and other further external influences such as society and family add to this impact upon the decisions we make that go against our innate biology and animalistic desires wants and needs.  I think human rationale and consciousness is very powerful and is the reason you never see animals defying their biology - they can\u0027t. They have no control and are slaves to their biology and animal brain, because that is all they have.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWe are all biological beings, and yes we are all here due to biological engineering over many many years but I believe we have reached a time where we free to determine for ourselves how our biology is expressed and what power it has over our lives, to personal degrees.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI believe it is human nature to transcend mother nature and become the masters of our biology.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut I agree, obviously we do have that biological impulse in us that oftentimes leads to people having kids, because that is what they want, and that is fine, I believe that impulse expresses itself as a consequence of being more important for that person that the desire not to have kids, and not to settle down.  Some peoples lifestyles are more determined by their biology that others, I don\u0027t think we are all exactly the same in the way that we express ourselves and make our decisions.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E--\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI agree completely with the idea that no mater what anybody says, they will end up eventually in some form on long term relationship.  I think it is normal to want to try\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nother things.  Life is a cyclic arena of events in my opinion not a linear one.  And just as it is normal for people to end up in LTR\u0027s I think it is just as normal for them to grow bored of these setups and return to playing the field.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThis is what separates my definition of \u0027settling down\u0027 to others.  For me settling down is more of a mindset and idea that you are sold through society.  It\u0027s the idea and belief that there exists somewhere \u0027the one\u0027 perfect girl who you are\u003Cbr \/\u003E\ndestined to be with forever and eternity till death do you apart.  When you subscribe to that belief and pursue it you are eventually going to \u0027settle\u0027 and try your hardest to maintain that relationship forever and believe always that you will never\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nfind another girl like this one again.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EA LTR per se, for me, is just a period in a mans life where he meets a cute girl, and decides for whatever reason that he would like to spend a few years with her - because why not, shes fun, sexy, successful and witty.  Why not be with this great\u003Cbr \/\u003E\ngirl for as long as everything is good?  Perhaps the man has grown bored of going out every week playing the field and the though of a more relaxed lifestyle is fresh and appealing, that makes sense, and will probably eventually happen to most guys who pickup.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe difference between the man who subscribes to the idea of settling is of course that he will view this relationship as \u0027the one\u0027 whereas the other man, the man with more experience and success with women will view it purely as a period in his life\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nwhere he is experimenting with and experiencing a long term relationship and all the pluses and minuses that come with it and he knows that at some point things will probably get boring, and the couple will drift apart - and that is fine, at the stage the man will probably be longing to get back to casual sex and late nights.  \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOne man embraces the LTR for what it is whilst the other puts it upon a pedestal and makes it his religion and life\u0027s work.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI think for some people they can truly be happen with one girl forever, so many variables come into determining whether that will be true but it is such a shame that basically everybody believes wholeheartedly that this is the norm and is destined for them.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThanks!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1340\/24248\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-24278\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/24278#comment-24278\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Ray\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Ray\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Ray\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Ray\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/24278#comment-24278\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003E\u0026quot;I believe it is human nature\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003ERay (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 2 March 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/satisficing-and-seduction-or-why-you-probably-wont-be-bachelor-forever\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/24248#comment-24248\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003E\u0022I believe it is human nature to transcend mother nature and become the masters of our biology.\u0022 Are you kidding?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe animal\/emotional brain is a lot older than the conscious brain is, it has had millions of years to develop. The conscious brain is only relatively new,  it will never outgrow the animal brain. it controls everything we do.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOur whole world revolves around mating, really it\u0027s the only reason we get out of bed everyday - to find the best available mate to reproduce with. Both men and women do this. Just like Napoleon Hill said \u0027we wouldn\u0027t have skyscrapers if it wasn\u0027t for the cute secretary the boss was trying to impress\u0027. Not an exact quote but its the truth. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESometimes it seems as though we\u0027re just civilized Baboons :)\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1340\/24278\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-24850\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/24850#comment-24850\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Torus\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Torus\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Torus\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Torus\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/24850#comment-24850\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ETranshumanism\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003ETorus (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 10 March 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/satisficing-and-seduction-or-why-you-probably-wont-be-bachelor-forever\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/24278#comment-24278\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EWell I agree with you Ray that our consciousness trying to compete with our emotional brain an unfair battle when I takes place in one brain. But we have for centuries transcended the biology of our emotional brain. We found drugs to target our pleasure center, we use contraceptives to enjoy the drills of sex without reproducing.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut maybe Riz meant transcending our biology more literal than you think:\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nIf we take the current technological development to the next logical step, we can just engineer our genes to reshape our emotional brain in a way that is both more useful and pleasurable for the future that we are building right now for ourselves.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1340\/24850\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-24689\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/24689#comment-24689\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/24689#comment-24689\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EFreedom-Focused vs. Security-Focused\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Friday, 7 March 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/satisficing-and-seduction-or-why-you-probably-wont-be-bachelor-forever\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/24248#comment-24248\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003ERiz-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOn the free will vs. predetermination debate:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI was a hardcore free will guy until I started reading neuroscience books, twin study research, and the like.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENeuroscientists who study individuals with various kinds of brain injuries find that those who\u0027ve lost their ability to make decisions emotionally and must rely on pure logic to run their lives become all but catatonic. That\u0027s primarily because \u0022logic\u0022 as we\u0027re used to thinking of it is the sort governed by emotions, or the sort governed by rules programmed in (to, say a computer program) by someone with logic governed by emotion; without emotion, logic because an infinitely-winding path of infinite possibilities.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIn the article on \u003Ca href=\u0022\/content\/when-use-black-and-white-thinking-and-when-not\u0022\u003Eblack and white thinking\u003C\/a\u003E, I discussed research establishing that people lacking emotions who must make decisions on pure logic find themselves unable to choose between a free gift of either a $15 pen or a $15 wallet. The mind begins exploring the infinite scenarios in which one item might be preferred to another, and no solution is ever arrived at. It\u0027d be like asking a computer program to find the optimal path among two different paths with infinite possibilities - it will just run and run forever until the program is cancelled. Without emotion to force a decision, no decision is made.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIn \u0022\u003Ca href=\u0022\/content\/nice-people-need-hard-rules\u0022\u003ENice People Need Hard Rules\u003C\/a\u003E\u0022, I linked a video about the time delay of when your brain makes a decision, and when you actually feel that \u0022you\u0022 (as in, conscious, aware \u0022you\u0022) have made that decision. Consciousness is, science is progressively showing, the observer, not the actor, although the brain allows it to think that it is the actor and feel like it is in control.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThat said\u2026 we all have different impulses, and different experiences, and different wirings in our brains, and these things all combine us to seek out our end goals in slightly different ways.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EUltimately, it doesn\u0027t much matter if we have \u0022free will\u0022 or entirely governed by our biology; we\u0027re still going to do what we\u0027re going to do no matter which is the case. The argument itself is really a pointless one, aside from the sideshow curiosity of understanding what goes on in our heads and how the things we decide really get decided.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAs for \u0022settling down\u0022, I think your and my definitions of the term as it\u0027s defined culturally are pretty similar (as noted in my response to your other comment); it seems like most people view \u0022settling down\u0022 as some sort of permanent affair, marriage and partner selection as the most important decision you will make in your life (and one with lifelong effects), and the whole deal as this big, indelible, incredibly serious undertaking. If you\u0027re a freedom-seeking person, that feels like others are trying to cage you with this concept, and you struggle to be free. Most people undergo an internal tug-of-war between the desire for freedom and the desire for security, and based on their life experiences will lean more one way or more the other - when you feel capable of getting what you want, consistently, reliably, and to the level of quality you desire, you embrace freedom; when you feel incapable of this, you chase security. It sounds like you are at the point (and I am too) where too much \u0022security\u0022 is very constraining and controlling.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe big question is, have you sufficiently accounted for your biological drives and addressed them in such a way that you haven\u0027t missed anything that might creep up on you later and arm-bar you into security seeking, or is there one you\u0027ve missed? I think this is the thing the discerning freedom-focused man needs to be focused on - making sure he\u0027s addressed all of the potential deep-seated biological needs that might at some point or another commandeer his mind and emotions, so that his needs remain in alignment and he never starts feeling insecure and engaging in security-seeking behavior that curtails his freedom and finds him limited and constrained.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1340\/24689\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-24251\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/24251#comment-24251\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022the other side\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022the other side\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022the other side\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022the other side\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/24251#comment-24251\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003Ecounter punch\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003Ethe other side (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 2 March 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/satisficing-and-seduction-or-why-you-probably-wont-be-bachelor-forever\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey Chase -  a good article, and as I read your evolving posts you are not shying away from addressing all the levers that occur in maturation of game and success in all life.  I have also been the entrepreneur, success-driven guy.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027m older, and the counter to this article is the reality of your genre being aware now of calculating nature of women who can de-commit from relationships after kids arrive.  My research shows amazingly the majority of straying young moms do the affair thing, and 80%+ of midlife women initiate the divorce.  THEY DONT GIVE A SH** ABOUT THE RELATIONSHIPS \u0027EQUITY\u0027.  Why?  They are well aware from discussion, friends, other family females that going into the LTR\/marriage that they can childsupport- or alimony- game their men if the slightest downward tweak occurs in the relationship.  In this and in the future economy, it hasn\u0027t taken\/ won\u0027t take much for such a tweak to occur, forcing the man to have somewhat less time and energy to \u0027maintain\u0027 her needs.  \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHell, she can just raise the bar on you... and then whats a guy to do, with 3 kids in college?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThis wasn\u0027t as much the case before Cougars and Desperate Housewives and Sex and the City ruled 40-50s aged women\u0027s minds (at least the ones sexually worthy of relationships in my genre).  \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI am afraid this is now ingrained, common knowledge and strategy.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EMy suggestion to your readers is to avoid marriage entirely, and if you are to commit avoid the courts\u0027 \u0027common laws\u0027 etc. rules ....and develop a non-marriage contractual arrangement with the \u0027chosen one\u0027 that takes full stock of the above.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EJT\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1340\/24251\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-24468\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/24468#comment-24468\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/24468#comment-24468\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003Ealso look before you leap film\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EAnonymous (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Wednesday, 5 March 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/satisficing-and-seduction-or-why-you-probably-wont-be-bachelor-forever\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/24251#comment-24251\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022http:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=lZTOT6DKfZ8\u0022\u003Ehttp:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=lZTOT6DKfZ8\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003Enew movie \u0027Divorce Inc.\u0027\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003Eanyone w game among you young guys can do contracts vs. marriage...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EDon\u0027t make my older generations beta mistake (maybe you saw your decent but beta (or not!) dad go thru the same...):\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHard working, income producing Americans are paying\u003Cbr \/\u003E\npermanent, lifetime alimony for the ONLY reason that they\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nwere hard working, income producing Americans.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhen we were growing up, we were taught to study hard, work hard and be the best you could be. We were taught an honorable work ethic and when we were eventually married and had a family, we supported our families with our time, money, and love. This was the American Dream...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EPeople can change over time. Spouses find themselves going in different directions in life. Through \u0022no fault\u0022 of either spouse, as our Florida law says, the marriage ends in divorce. Simply because we were hard working, income producing we were\u003Cbr \/\u003E\ngiven the responsibility of supporting our ex-spouse for the rest of their lives. There was no cheating, drugs, abuse, or laws broken. It doesn\u0027t matter if you are man or woman, young or old, black or white. If you are the higher income producer in your marriage, you are at a real risk.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1340\/24468\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-24690\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/24690#comment-24690\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/24690#comment-24690\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EMarriage Risk\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Friday, 7 March 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/satisficing-and-seduction-or-why-you-probably-wont-be-bachelor-forever\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/24251#comment-24251\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EJT-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EMarriage is a risky proposition these days, I agree. Everyone goes in thinking his marriage will be perfect and last, and while half the time he\u0027s right, the other half he\u0027s got it all wrong. Not every marriage that ends ends with the man getting royally screwed, but a number of them do, and there\u0027re enough horror stories about these going around that enough men are starting to be more cautious.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThen again, many men who marry do so because they are emotional over a woman, and that woman has the power in the relationship - these are also the scenarios in which the woman is most likely to divorce the man and take him for a financial ride. No amount of lecturing, educating, or chastising men seems to be able to help, because these men are making emotional gut decisions, and are in the weak position going into the marriage - they\u0027re unable to demand prenuptial agreements because it would enrage their fianc\u00e9es (and we can\u0027t have that), and they\u0027re unable to say \u0022no\u0022 to marriage itself because they would lose their partners (and their world would come to an end).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EUnfortunately, for the majority of men marrying, they\u0027re marrying because they\u0027re in the emotionally compromised and needy position, and they will keep making the same mistakes, and paying for them, again and again. So long as women hold power over their men, and demand marriage, and demand it without prenups and other protections, men will comply, and be reamed later.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAny guy who controls his own income stream (e.g., runs his own business, or can incorporate where he receives his pay in any way) I normally advise moving his assets over into a trust while he\u0027s still single. Because a trust is an independent legal entity without ownership, anything placed into a trust prior to marriage can\u0027t be touched by the other party in the marriage, regardless of contracts between those two individuals. If a vindictive \/ ruthless divorcing wife wants to extract value from her man, the best she can try to do is find out what benefits the man is receiving from the trust (i.e., how much pay per month) and fight to get a share of these.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe other suggestion here for men who know they want marriage is to seek their partners and marry outside of progressive, pro-divorce societies and keep their wives out of these societies (as social norms tend to be contagious to those living immersed in them). Divorce culture like that you see in the United States is rare, shameful, and nowhere near as one-sided in much of the rest of the world, where social support networks for single women aren\u0027t nearly as pro-singledom.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1340\/24690\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-24267\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/24267#comment-24267\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/340breeze\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022340Breeze\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022340Breeze\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022340Breeze\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022340Breeze\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/24267#comment-24267\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EWhy the large scale  failure?\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/340breeze\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/340breeze\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E340Breeze\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 2 March 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/satisficing-and-seduction-or-why-you-probably-wont-be-bachelor-forever\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003E\u0022In the West right now, even many quality-focused men are having their relationships end once their children reach a certain age...\u0022\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYou seem to imply that long term relationships in West are more likely than not to end in failure, even among men that do a lot of screening for quality mates.  Are you of the opinion that there are unique cultural influences in Western spheres that lead to the ultimate demise and doom of relationships? If so, what would your analysis be of the contributing factors that doom such a large percentage of long term relationships? Is there anything you\u0027d recommend to seducers to target (besides leadership, romance and surprise, remaining dominant and sexy, etc ) to maintain beautiful relationships? \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EClearly if a man isn\u0027t investing in the relationship and he becomes apathetic, his woman will undoubtedly become disillusioned and seek someone else who she thinks will treat her better.   But why do men become disillusioned in the first place?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIn my experience it\u0027s been a few things that cause a decline in my attraction.  Before when I was new to seduction I used to get very easily enamored with new women, completely fascinated by their existence.  Like a new toy, I used to say ok, let\u0027s see what we can do with this new experience!!! However, over time I\u0027ve  reached to the point where my attraction sometimes evaporates spontaneously within minutes of meeting a woman, something she says or does that turns me off (say she\u0027s still bitter about how men use women, or whatever) and whatever motivation that existed for me to persist and pass her \u0022tests\u0022 and escalate and lead her toward intimacy  fades.  I say what\u0027s the point, what\u0027s the benefit to me? The seduction stops being \u0022fun\u0022 and I get bored.  Then they get the genuine bored look.  This explains what happens to me before intimacy. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnother perspective is what happens after intimacy.  One observation I\u0027ve had is the impact of the masks people wear and what happens to my emotions when their real selves come out into the open. I\u0027ve noticed when you work with some women and they\u0027re not emotionally and sexually invested in you and their reputations are on the line -- they perform well, they contribute, they are rational mature beings and they lead projects and people if they have to.  They appear confident and secure.  But when they\u0027re having sex with you, some of these same powerful dominant women can sometimes change completely and turn into needy kittens with you, especially if you effortlessly hit them with superior frame control (e.g. meta destruction of their frames as you call it.). And to me this incongruence between a woman\u0027s words (\u0022I\u0027m strong and independent and I don\u0027t need a man\u0022) and their actions (submissive needy kittens especially when you invest less in them than they do in you) turns me off. It\u0027s like this human being that once acted so secure (on the first few dates) is now this needy insecure being. And my subconscious mind rejects this incongruence and I just start to pull away.  I don\u0027t like insecurity.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnother thing that I\u0027ve noticed that I hate is passive aggressive behavior, and a lot of girls are super subtle and beat around the bush and never address major issues with confidence and poise, and small fires become big wars.  And then when they\u0027re mad at me, they turn cold and freeze me out and want me to chase them to ask what\u0027s wrong.  And maybe when I was 17 this would work, but now I just ignore.  I ask myself why can\u0027t she be more assertive with her inner most needs and wants? I hate having to play mr. decoding detective to figure out what I did or didn\u0027t do that has led to the latest battle.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnother turnoff is when there is a chasm between a woman\u0027s belief in her own specialness, abilities, capabilities and her actual performance, especially when compared with other women I\u0027ve met. I don\u0027t even have a strategy to bring these kinds back down to earth, I just get turned off, especially when they don\u0027t measure up.  I always tell em early on that I value humility, it\u0027s more sexy than arrogance or being cocky.  I\u0027ve had girls tell me the reason why they\u0027re so cocky is because they get tons of male attention they could get any man they want, why be shy about their talents? For others who dial down the arrogance, I still sometimes see instances of their superiority complex shine out from behind the clouds of obfuscation... and me being an individual that tries consciously to humble himself and be a student of others and situations (and try not to display too much value since I don\u0027t care about status and power so much), I get turned off...but I\u0027ve found that a lot of in-demand women, especially educated American black women, posess an overt  display of an \u0022abundance of confidence\u0022 attitude.  To each their own.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhat are your thoughts on personality traits lead to a decline in attraction, and what Western cultural influences reinforce (if not promote)  these personality traits in people?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1340\/24267\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-24695\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/24695#comment-24695\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/24695#comment-24695\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EEnvironmental Causes of Divorce, Checking Out, \u0026amp; Ego Protection\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Saturday, 8 March 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/satisficing-and-seduction-or-why-you-probably-wont-be-bachelor-forever\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/24267#comment-24267\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EBreeze-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027m not sure if I\u0027d call them \u0022cultural\u0022 so much as \u0022environmental\u0022 factors that increase the divorce prevalence as much as they have in the West. Whether you view this as a good or bad thing depends on your perspective and station in life (e.g., for an attractive, financially successful man, a mate who\u0027s passed her reproductive years divorcing him and taking some chunk of his assets, but freeing him to pursue a young mate and produce further offspring with her, will be emotionally trying during the divorce period and asset recovery period following it, but ultimately leaves him with a greater number of progeny than he\u0027d have had he and his wife remained together until death did them part, from reproducing with both the first wife and any subsequent wives).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhen you examine why people do things, it\u0027s best to look at their environment; e.g., someone\u0027s a lot more likely to become a drug addict if he grows up in a listless, hopeless, unsupportive environment where drugs are cheap and available and drug use is prevalent than he will be if he grows up in a stimulating, encouraging, progress-oriented environment where drugs are rare and no one he knows uses them. In the case of marriages staying together, in the West the three pillars of marriage stability have gone away: economic necessity, social stigma, and poor replacement partner options. That is, traditionally in monogamous communities, females need males for economic support; are stigmatized as undesirable and flawed if they have cheated or divorced their husbands; and have a great degree of difficulty finding remotely acceptable replacement partners once they\u0027ve lost their first. It\u0027s why you\u0027ll read so much Victorian literature about the tragic widow who manages to find love with a wonderful man again; the fantasy of the day was that even if she somehow lost her man, a woman might be able to find another high quality man again. It was a fantasy that sold many books because it was so unlikely.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIn the West today, women can support themselves and their children with jobs without a man; they sometimes get generous divorce settlements and alimony payments that give them tremendous freedom and leeway right up until they find a replacement partner (so don\u0027t have to worry); face no social stigma, and even a good amount of encouragement for divorcing; and due to the big, permissive metropolises we live in, and the merry-go-round of modern marriage, with so many men and women constantly getting on and off the ride, an abundance of acceptable-enough replacement partners is available (even if a woman can\u0027t get as amazing a man at 45 as she could at 25, she can still get one who\u0027s sufficiently okay; and if she\u0027s become bored or resentful enough of her current spouse, a \u0022good enough\u0022 alternative who will treat her better, or a buffet of different new men to sample again, can start to look pretty darn appealing).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI think most partners in the dominant position have always grown tired of their mates over time; the difference is that in the past, a woman would struggle to find ways to reengage her husband out of fears of losing him, while today\u0027s woman is more inclined to pout and feel entitled to a better relationship, because there are no external forces that compel her to do otherwise. I\u0027ve seen this play out with long-term girlfriends in the West vs. long-term girlfriends in non-Western countries; the Western ones are ready to throw in the towel and move on as soon as your interest starts waning, while the non-Western ones view this as a call to action to step up their game and find a way to keep you. You might say this is a result of the commoditization of men in the West; a good man is a precious thing outside the West, but in the West he\u0027s a lot more replaceable due to environmental reasons.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWomen being passive-aggressive is part their default personality, and sometimes also part a reaction to how controlling or not they feel that you are. If you want to minimize this behavior, seek out very confident, rational women, and give them relationships where they feel free, and in which you freely encourage them to air their grievances and punish them for passive-aggressiveness. The freer a woman feels with you, the more direct she\u0027ll be, and the less passive-aggressiveness she\u0027ll employ (some women, no matter how non-judgmental and open you are with them and how much you encourage them to air their grievances and show them nothing but calm consideration when they do though, will always feel insecure and resort to passive-aggressiveness, simply because they are insecure individuals; that\u0027s where screening comes into play).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EUnwarranted cockiness is an ego-protective mechanism, and a side effect of low self-awareness. It\u0027s the result of taking praise from others at face value. Truly confident individuals who are also self-aware will have a mixture of high confidence \/ arrogance, modulated by self-awareness that reminds them that for everything they are good at, there are tons of other people out there who are much more talented than they are. Most of the women I date tell me things like, \u0022I don\u0027t care about men,\u0022 rather than, \u0022I can get any man I want,\u0022 and they tend to do pretty well with men, but also have long stretches where they don\u0027t date, too. I like this a lot, because these are women who aren\u0027t validation seekers; they don\u0027t have Facebook accounts full of orbiters, and tons of men texting them all day. They still always have a few chasing after them, but they get turned off by weak men pretty quickly and tend to get snippy with their orbiters for being weak and cut the guys off. I\u0027d define that as \u0022real confidence\u0022 versus the validation-seeking ego protective version of confidence that the majority of women (and men) exhibit. The need for large amounts of external validation of one\u0027s qualities stems from a feeling of inadequacy, often because a person \u003Cem\u003Eisn\u0027t\u003C\/em\u003E really exceptional in any key way, and hasn\u0027t done the work to \u003Cem\u003Emake\u003C\/em\u003E herself exceptional, so needs to surround herself with a shroud of validation to prop up her sense of self-worth. In this sense, your reaction to women like this as a turn off is actually a correct read of their quality as mates; you\u0027re reading their behaviors and saying, \u0022I don\u0027t buy it.\u0022\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1340\/24695\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-24272\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/24272#comment-24272\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022the other side\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022the other side\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022the other side\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022the other side\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/24272#comment-24272\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003E340 Breeze -  you are right,\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003Ethe other side (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 2 March 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/satisficing-and-seduction-or-why-you-probably-wont-be-bachelor-forever\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003E340 Breeze -  you are right, one of the first signs of checking out for me is when the woman expects you to be a \u0027mind reader\u0027... huge test.  \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027d like to see how Chase responds.  \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027m in a small-medium city so saying \u0027bye and running out to date 5-10 new ones is OK once this happens... but social circle is tighter.  I also wonder if Chase\u0027s lady friends might lay out in a future post how many women do indeed Facebook\/report kiss-tell stuff in their female networks once a guy is very active in smaller towns.  I know he tries to avoid social circle women, but now online communities are faster\/bigger...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1340\/24272\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-24697\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/24697#comment-24697\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/24697#comment-24697\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EOnline Communities and Information\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Saturday, 8 March 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/satisficing-and-seduction-or-why-you-probably-wont-be-bachelor-forever\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/24272#comment-24272\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EJT-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHard to say with absolute certainty, but from what I can tell, while social media has opened up discussion channels, it hasn\u0027t contributed to the quality of the discussion much or at all. Most of the information you see getting disseminated is the same stuff you would know about any way in a social circle; e.g., you see that Angela is partying and hitting the clubs and looking sexy; you see that Joe is still drinking with his buddies and skateboarding on the weekends. You have NO IDEA that Joe and Angela met randomly and had sex at a party Saturday night, and that now Angela\u0027s pissed off at Joe because he kicked her out inelegantly and doesn\u0027t want to see her again. Despite the new means of communication at your and everyone else\u0027s disposal, the actual details of what you know about others\u0027 lives aren\u0027t really all that different now than they would\u0027ve been 20 years ago, even though it FEELS like you have much more of a window into their lives (instead of just hearing about how Angela goes clubbing sometimes, and running into her on occasion in the nightclub, now you can see the photographs of her clubbing adventures on Facebook).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAs for what women tell their friends... it varies by the girl, but most women prefer to tell their female friends stories about men trying to sleep with them and failing than they do stories about their actual sexual exploits (because the former builds them up as both desired AND hard to get, while the latter risks painting them as loose and low value, which can threaten their friendships, position within the hierarchy, and social status). It\u0027s become a bit more common to talk about these post-\u003Cem\u003ESex and the City\u003C\/em\u003E, but the majority of women who aren\u0027t hardcore partiers (and even many of those girls) seem to prefer not to kiss and tell. Most of the women you see who kiss-and-tell are low status within their social groups; the closer to a leadership role a woman has with her friends, the more carefully she minds her reputation, including how \u0022easy\u0022 she seems to be.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI don\u0027t have much experience dating in small towns, but from what I\u0027ve seen of female social circles, the low status girls will typically complain to the high status girls about liking you or sleeping with you but not being able to get you to agree to see them again, while high status girls will remain tight-lipped even if they have the same complaints. Another two reasons for this, in addition to the ones above, is that higher status women who admit to things like this will encourage lower status women to both a.) start chasing after the men that they like (if the higher status girl endorses him, then he\u0027ll be a FIND if the lower status girl can snatch him away), and b.) use him as an opportunity to snipe at the higher status girl and status jockey with her for positioning within the hierarchy.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EDue to the reticence of higher status women, I\u0027d expect there to be limitations on how much of a player reputation you get if you can stay discrete and avoid sleeping with too many lower status girls who will go blabbing about the experience to anyone who will listen, but that\u0027s just extrapolating general female group dynamics to a small town environment and I can\u0027t say for certain. You\u0027re more likely to end up sleeping with lower status women on average, just because these girls are faster to hook up and care less about their reputations, and it\u0027s hard to be totally discrete in small communities where everyone\u0027s watching everyone, so it might be that for practical reasons, despite your best efforts, you\u0027re inevitably going to acquire a reputation that will make it harder to land the higher status girls (but possibly easy to land the lower status ones, especially if you have known exploits with a few of the higher status ones, and the lower status ones who are talking about you have exciting things to say).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1340\/24697\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-24283\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/24283#comment-24283\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/24283#comment-24283\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EDating strategy paper\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EAnonymous (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 2 March 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/satisficing-and-seduction-or-why-you-probably-wont-be-bachelor-forever\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022http:\/\/www.colyvan.com\/papers\/mdm.pdf\u0022\u003Ehttp:\/\/www.colyvan.com\/papers\/mdm.pdf\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1340\/24283\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-24698\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/24698#comment-24698\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/24698#comment-24698\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ERe: Dating strategy paper\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Saturday, 8 March 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/satisficing-and-seduction-or-why-you-probably-wont-be-bachelor-forever\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/24283#comment-24283\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EAwesome. Thanks, Anon!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1340\/24698\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-24284\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/24284#comment-24284\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Big Daddy\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Big Daddy\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Big Daddy\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Big Daddy\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/24284#comment-24284\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EWhoa. I just posted moments\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EBig Daddy (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 2 March 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/satisficing-and-seduction-or-why-you-probably-wont-be-bachelor-forever\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EWhoa. I just posted moments ago on your monogamy post on the boards. Talk about good timing, eh? ;)\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWell, I\u0027m glad can be finally of good use to you :) \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI think the article you\u0027re talking about is \u0022Recognizing the maximum of a sequence\u0022, written by Frederick Mosteller, a very important statistician of the past century. You can find it here: \u003Ca href=\u0022http:\/\/www.jstor.org\/discover\/10.2307\/2283044?uid=3737664\u0026amp;uid=2\u0026amp;uid=4\u0026amp;sid=21103571055457\u0022\u003Ehttp:\/\/www.jstor.org\/discover\/10.2307\/2283044?uid=3737664\u0026amp;uid=2\u0026amp;uid=4\u0026amp;si...\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI didn\u0027t read the entire paper, but read fragments of a book that mentions it. It is actually a real optimization problem, as suggested by the title, that can be used for seduction analogies as well. I don\u0027t remember reading anything about populations of small cities - but he provides a formula to which you can plug values for potential mates numbers that are available to you throughout your entire life.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOne of the analogies to this situation consist of putting all woman you could possibly have a relationship in a bag represented by balls with the respective girls values, then take one out, see its \u0022value\u0022 and leave it out the bag (you \u0022dump\u0022 her), then take other one and leave it out until you reach the optimal number for reference points. You then chose from the remaining girls in the bag the best option that\u0027s left based on the information you gathered so far. This is the simplest form of the problem. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFor instance, if you consider that you could be in a relationship 30 girls your entire life, and would like to know what would be the best approach to find the girl with the highest \u0022value\u0022 between the 30, you\u0027d meet 12 random girls and discard them all. Then you would look, in the remaining 18 balls, for the first ball with a greater value than the best ball you found between the first 12. If the ball with the greatest value among all the 30 girls in play were between the first 12 that you discarded, you lose the game. Otherwise, you win it. You can play it however you want, I\u0027m just saying that you have more chances of winning this game if you play it like this. Around 37% chance of winning, to be more exact.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThere are formulas provided for situations were you pick two balls at once, pick a ball and put it back in the bag, etc. Naturally, this isn\u0027t lottery, so we both know that even if the girl with greatest value was among the first 12, you wouldn\u0027t end up with her anyways. This is just scientific proof that the best decisions always requires a previous amount of data to be optimal.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1340\/24284\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-24699\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/24699#comment-24699\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/24699#comment-24699\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EMosteller\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Saturday, 8 March 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/satisficing-and-seduction-or-why-you-probably-wont-be-bachelor-forever\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/24284#comment-24284\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EBD-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThanks for the share. Anon\u0027s comment (just above yours) was sharing a link by Mark Colyvan with the same numbers in it (37% probability of finding the best mate). I\u0027m sure one of these papers draws on the other, but haven\u0027t read them through carefully enough to see which is which (or look at dates of publication to figure that out).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThere\u0027s some interesting details in these papers I \u003Cem\u003Edon\u0027t\u003C\/em\u003E recall reading about, like missing the best mate during the sampling period (a problem that every guy or girl breaking up with a wonderful first or second partner has to deal with: \u003Cem\u003Ewhat if I\u0027ve lucked out and found the best possible mate for me on the first try, and I never find anyone else better than this?\u003C\/em\u003E), and the chance that you get a run of weak candidates and undervalue your mating possibilities, settling for a lower caliber partner (because she\u0027s better than the other low caliber partners you got during the sampling period) and settling down into a suboptimal commitment.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFunny how much a role math plays in even things like mate selection... an area where most people don\u0027t even realize they are playing a numbers game to that extent!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1340\/24699\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-24285\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/24285#comment-24285\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022soundsnice\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022soundsnice\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022soundsnice\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022soundsnice\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/24285#comment-24285\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ENot forever, but not yet\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003Esoundsnice (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 2 March 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/satisficing-and-seduction-or-why-you-probably-wont-be-bachelor-forever\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHi,\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nThank you for so many practical solutions to problems men struggle these days. I\u0027ve applied some in the field and it worked \u003Cstrong\u003Elike a charm!\u003C\/strong\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nNonetheless, being the moron that I am, I\u0027ve managed to place myself on the wrong track. Let me clarify.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nA week ago, I went on a date, ended up in her bed and returned home the next afternoon. My current intention is to be friends (with benefits). I\u0027ve made this clear to her. Also, I did not break any of the rules mentioned in the \u0022friends with benefits\u0022 article. To make matters worse, she\u0027s rigorously testing me (playful manner). I\u0027ve read your article on this topic, too.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nRight now, she\u0027s spending her holidays in the neigbouring country and we\u0027re texting and exchanging naughty pictures like crazy. Clearly, her mind is set on a relationship. Mine is not, thus I see no other choice, but to calmly move on.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nAfter we had phone-sex, she invited me to spend a weekend together in a different city. That\u0027s where I slipped. I said OK. \u003Cstrong\u003EHow can I undo this?\u003C\/strong\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nI\u0027m still pretty found on being a bachelor.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nBeware, she\u0027s a \u003Cem\u003Egreen-eyed girl\u003C\/em\u003E. I feel storm is coming.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThanks in advance,\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u003Cem\u003Ea devoted student.\u003C\/em\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EP.S. Maybe it\u0027s an issue to address someday, if it hasn\u0027t been yet.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1340\/24285\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-24384\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/24384#comment-24384\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022soundsnice\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022soundsnice\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022soundsnice\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022soundsnice\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/24384#comment-24384\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EAnd not yet indeed\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003Esoundsnice (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Tuesday, 4 March 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/satisficing-and-seduction-or-why-you-probably-wont-be-bachelor-forever\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/24285#comment-24285\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003ENever mind, I\u0027ve solved it.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nHere\u0027s how:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI mentioned the weekend during the following conversation and I started to act extremely enthusiastic about it. I\u0027ve even proposed to add more to it than she did, giving her an impression of me taking over control of her idea. Pretty soon, she began to back off and finally, canceling the weekend herself. I acted suprised and asked her if she was sure of her decision.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nThen I told her that I\u0027ll talk to her later to ask if she might has changed her mind about it (that\u0027s a killer). She responded: Sure.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo, by intentionally doing things that will actually cause you to lose women, you can bypass wrong choices. Who said that those things are a no no? :)\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThanks.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1340\/24384\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-24700\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/24700#comment-24700\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/24700#comment-24700\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EPretending to be Needy\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Saturday, 8 March 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/satisficing-and-seduction-or-why-you-probably-wont-be-bachelor-forever\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/24384#comment-24384\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003ESoundsnice-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo, you started acting like an overeager, needy guy in search of a relationship more committed than what she was up for? And got her to cool off, lose interest, and back off on her own?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWell-played! That\u0027s some tricky subterfuge right there. Not so good if you did want her as a friend with benefits... she may lose interest in you entirely.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut if the main goal was just getting her to back off of her own accord without you having to resort to being a heartbreaker, I dare say you did a standup job there.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1340\/24700\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-24303\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/24303#comment-24303\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/24303#comment-24303\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EThe Story of My Life\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EAnonymous (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 3 March 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/satisficing-and-seduction-or-why-you-probably-wont-be-bachelor-forever\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003E\u0027\u0022Ultimately, your incentives around sex (pleasure, emotions, etc.) are all based around a mating strategy.\u0022\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI think this is true and brings to mind the funny anecdote of Michelle Obama visiting a diner and seeing an old flame who requested to talk with her. Barack, who was curious about this man, then remarked if she had married him she\u0027d be the owner of this diner. To which Michelle responded, \u201cNo. If I had married him, he would now be the President.\u201d \u0026amp; also a quote by Jim Carrey(?), \u0022Behind every great man is a women rolling her eyes.\u0022\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI found women have been a major source of motivation when I consider making something of myself coupled with the satisfaction of achieving and accomplishing tasks\/overcoming challenges on the way.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt was nice to see in this article the thought process that has been developing within me being articulated right before my very eyes. I definitely lean towards the quality side of things and reading this article was reassuring and gives me further confidence to move in the direction of my goals. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u0022all your emotional motivations are aligned in order to make that thing as likely to occur as possible.\u0022\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u0022Additionally, if you\u2019re highly self-improvement oriented, you will tend to delay forming an acceptability threshold, at least until you\u2019ve reached a point where you feel like you don\u2019t have much more improving to do. Once you\u2019ve reached that point \u2013 but not before \u2013 you\u2019ll establish your acceptability threshold for settling down.\u0022 Bingo\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u0022But perhaps \u0027efficiency\u0027 is actually the most rational path of all.\u0022\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBasically sums up my world view. It\u0027s all about finding that balance of practice and theory. Being able to make best or most well informed decisions given the limitations\/parameters of our human bodies.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThanks for all the insight\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u0026amp;\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nThanks for sharing\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1340\/24303\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-24701\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/24701#comment-24701\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/24701#comment-24701\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ERe: The Story of My Life\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Saturday, 8 March 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/satisficing-and-seduction-or-why-you-probably-wont-be-bachelor-forever\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/24303#comment-24303\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EAnon-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EVery good that you found the article a good read, and coinciding with your budding beliefs.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe story on Barack and Michelle Obama is a good one. There\u0027s really no way to know who was more correct, either; on the one hand, Barack Obama\u0027s family, education, and career had pretty much been steering him toward the U.S. presidency from infancy. On the other hand, Michelle Obama was clearly no slouch herself. I think that one might be a case of two people with a common objective and similar trajectories coming together and enabling them both to get there.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThere\u0027s a lesson there I think for anyone seeking a partner: seek out one with a similar trajectory to yours, who will be able to cooperate with you to reach it jointly, and not oppose it, compete with it, or try to pull you in a separate direction.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1340\/24701\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-24309\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/24309#comment-24309\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/deliberater\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022deliberater\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022deliberater\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022deliberater\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022deliberater\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/24309#comment-24309\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003Emath model for acceptability threshold\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/deliberater\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/deliberater\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003Edeliberater\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 3 March 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/satisficing-and-seduction-or-why-you-probably-wont-be-bachelor-forever\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey Chase - the model from the acceptability threshold section reminded me of this: \u003Ca href=\u0022http:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Secretary_problem\u0022\u003EThe Secretary Problem\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ECheers.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1340\/24309\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-24702\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/24702#comment-24702\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/24702#comment-24702\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ESecretary Problem\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Saturday, 8 March 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/satisficing-and-seduction-or-why-you-probably-wont-be-bachelor-forever\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/24309#comment-24309\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EDeliberater-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWonderful - thank you for commenting with this.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAmazingly, all three individuals who commented on this one provided a different and very informative link. There\u0027s some really good stuff in each of these links... I might try to do another post devoted just to this at some point (once I\u0027ve had time to properly go through it all).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1340\/24702\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-24341\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/24341#comment-24341\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/24341#comment-24341\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EHello Chase,\nHow should I\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EAnonymous (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Tuesday, 4 March 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/satisficing-and-seduction-or-why-you-probably-wont-be-bachelor-forever\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHello Chase,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHow should I approach a situation where a girl is always with a guy but I\u0027m not sure if they\u0027re together or not? I usually give girls dazzling eye contact when they walk by, but it just seemed inappropriate with the guy with her. I\u0027ve never seen them hold hands or do anything that would suggest they\u0027re in a romantic relationship, but they\u0027re always together or maybe they\u0027re on their way to being in one.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1340\/24341\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-24703\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/24703#comment-24703\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/24703#comment-24703\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EAmbiguous Relationship\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Saturday, 8 March 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/satisficing-and-seduction-or-why-you-probably-wont-be-bachelor-forever\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/24341#comment-24341\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EAnon-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027d advise getting into a conversation with the two of them, and asking them how they know each other. I have many times met girls who seemed to be with boyfriends, only to discover the men they were with were only their friends - often, these girls are some of the easier girls you will sleep with, mostly because they don\u0027t get approached by men (since they\u0027re always with a guy), and they often end up being pretty cute, too. You seem quite bold in approaching them when they\u0027re with a man, compared to all the men who never do.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd the worst that can happen is you find out they\u0027re a couple, and you\u0027re polite and conversational, and wish them well and take off again a few minutes later.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1340\/24703\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-24412\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/24412#comment-24412\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/pm61591\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Pm61591\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Pm61591\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Pm61591\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Pm61591\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/24412#comment-24412\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EWhen to act\/logistics \u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/pm61591\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/pm61591\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EPm61591\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Tuesday, 4 March 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/satisficing-and-seduction-or-why-you-probably-wont-be-bachelor-forever\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey Chase met a girl a few weeks ago. It was the love at first sight situation. I told her we should grab a bite and she happily agreed. I asked her how\u0027s her weekend looking but unfortunately she had to back home from college for a doc app. I told her no sweat I understand just text me when your schedules clear so we can grab that bite. She said of course thanks for understanding! It\u0027s been about a week and she hasn\u0027t texted me. I\u0027m not worried at all i know I\u0027ll eventually see her and give her the time of her life I just want to get her out this weekend. I hate letting time past. So my question to you is when is it ok for me to text her again without looking needy. Also I don\u0027t have real good logistics. We live 40 minutes away from each other. I live with the rents still and she has 2 roommates. I was thinking of meeting at a Starbucks that\u0027s right between both of us then eventually invite her home to watch a movie. If I time it perfectly My mom will be asleep and my dad will be at work until early morning. Do you think that will work out? Let me know!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThankss\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E-Phil\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1340\/24412\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-24704\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/24704#comment-24704\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/24704#comment-24704\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ERe: When to act\/logistics\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Saturday, 8 March 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/satisficing-and-seduction-or-why-you-probably-wont-be-bachelor-forever\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/24412#comment-24412\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EPhil-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf you\u0027ve had a week or so pass, and last told her to text you, and the vibe between the two of you was strong, your best bet is to follow up with a phone call. You look a little weak if you asked her to text you, then end up texting first yourself, but if you call her on the phone, since that\u0027s a different mode of communication you don\u0027t have that effect, and you can get into some real conversation as well.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFor the meet up, everything sounds good, except that I might recommend getting her to come to somewhere closer to your place if you can swing it. A 20-minute drive to your parents\u0027 place when she could just drive 20 minutes to go home can seem hard to justify unless she\u0027s really feeling it; but if you\u0027re 10 minutes from your folks\u0027 place, and 30 from hers, it\u0027s a lot more likely to feel easier to just come and chill there with you (\u0022It\u0027s only 10 minutes away\u0022) than it is to drive all the way back home; besides, she\u0027s only tacking an extra 20 minutes onto her roundtrip commute, rather than an extra 40 minutes if they\u0027re 20 minutes away.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf that isn\u0027t possible though, just meet her at that Starbucks halfway between and make the date an amazing date - then invite her back with you on a high point as the emotions are building and building and before she\u0027s ready for the date to be over.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1340\/24704\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-24436\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/24436#comment-24436\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/24436#comment-24436\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EHi chase,\nHow long does it\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EAnonymous (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Wednesday, 5 March 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/satisficing-and-seduction-or-why-you-probably-wont-be-bachelor-forever\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHi chase,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHow long does it take to master (get consistent) inner game? I know every situation is different but I\u0027m asking because I keep having setbacks and I\u0027m hoping this will stop one day. What is going on internally that makes someone more confident and entitled or is it just a habit that\u0027s been developed through repitition? I think something like confidence is harder to control, but even with something action based like being dominant and masculine, I\u0027m having issues with the doing and feeling consistently.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EJJ.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1340\/24436\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-24705\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/24705#comment-24705\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/24705#comment-24705\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EMastery of Internals\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Saturday, 8 March 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/satisficing-and-seduction-or-why-you-probably-wont-be-bachelor-forever\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/24436#comment-24436\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EJJ-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EPart of it is where you\u0027re starting out at - the more supportive a childhood you had, for instance, the less work you\u0027ve got to do to get solid internally - but the biggest part beyond how far into the race you find your starting line is is what you do to get yourself the rest of the way.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFor instance, there are guys I know who are great at picking up women, and have been with hundreds of different girls, who are still complete and utter messes internally because they haven\u0027t handled things like how to really integrate with other people and form meaningful long-term friendships and relationships, and they\u0027ve never managed to get good at consistently getting high caliber mates and retaining those mates in long-term mutually supportive relationships.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI think being solid internally is about feeling like other people truly appreciate you as a person, and will go to bat for you if you absolutely need them to, and believing that deep to your core. If you want to get solid internals, you need to be focused on becoming someone who provides value to other people, and someone whom other people just like being around and value as a friend and companion. Without that, there\u0027s always a hole there that you can spend forever trying to fill with all manner of unfulfilling things. There\u0027s also the danger of approaching things too transactionally, and trying to up the transactional value you provide to others and get better at extracting the same from them; you end up with messed up internals this way, because life is nothing but a constant struggle to extract more value from other people while minimizing the amount of value extracted from you.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI might say then that the quest for great internals is one about learning how to get more and more and more people around you to be loyal, genuine friends, rather than people you\u0027re in search of value from or who are in search of value from you. The better you are at this, the more everything else tends to sort itself out, since most internal problems are really fears and mistrusts directed toward the other people around you; and, if you can get to the point where you feel quite safe in trusting the other people around you and having them trust you, these problems go away.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1340\/24705\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-24669\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/24669#comment-24669\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022African boyo\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022African boyo\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022African boyo\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022African boyo\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/24669#comment-24669\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003Estages of pick up skill\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EAfrican boyo (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Friday, 7 March 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/satisficing-and-seduction-or-why-you-probably-wont-be-bachelor-forever\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHi chase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIs it possible for you to layout the different phases in learning pick up that someone will typically go through and the frustrations associated with each stage. I think everyone has gone through the stagr of nothing going right and being frustrated but what are the other stages. Also accompanying these stages can you provide mindsets to overcomr the different stages\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1340\/24669\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-24707\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/24707#comment-24707\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/24707#comment-24707\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ERe: stages of pick up skill\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Saturday, 8 March 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/satisficing-and-seduction-or-why-you-probably-wont-be-bachelor-forever\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/24669#comment-24669\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EBoyo-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHmm... I haven\u0027t actually sat down and given this a whole lot of\nthought, and I\u0027m pretty sure the stages of learning to pick up girls\nare exactly parallel with the stages of learning any other challenging\nnew skill. If I had to list out stages for this offhand, I\u0027d say:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Col\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cspan style=\u0022font-weight: bold;\u0022\u003EBrand new:\u003C\/span\u003E it dawns on\nyou that this is a skill to learn... and suddenly the world seems\nfilled with new promise, excitement, and unlimited potential\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cspan style=\u0022font-weight: bold;\u0022\u003EInto the thick of it:\u003C\/span\u003E\ngoing out religiously, and coming to grips with the realization that\nthis is \u003Cspan style=\u0022font-style: italic;\u0022\u003Eway\u003C\/span\u003E harder than you\nthought it was going to be... you thought you\u0027d be able to just snap\nyour fingers and be doing great, but now you\u0027re starting to realize how\ncompletely unskilled you are, and how very far away you are from where\nyou\u0027d like to end up\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cspan style=\u0022font-weight: bold;\u0022\u003EGrinding:\u003C\/span\u003E you\u0027ve come to\nterms with your lack of skill, dealt with the painful emotions your\ninsufficiency meted out to you, and now you\u0027re over it; now you\u0027re just\ngrinding. You\u0027re just doing basic exercises again and again, focused on\ndeveloping a base level of proficiency. You suck, and you aren\u0027t\ngetting results, but that doesn\u0027t matter; what you\u0027re focused on is\ninching your way up, bit by tiny bit\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cspan style=\u0022font-weight: bold;\u0022\u003EInitial success:\u003C\/span\u003E you\u0027ve\nstarted experiencing some initial success (slept with a girl off of\npickup). This is your first real \u0022breakthrough\u0022 period; this is where\nyou\u0027ve found that yes, you \u003Cspan style=\u0022font-style: italic;\u0022\u003Ecan\u003C\/span\u003E\nmake this work for you too. Once you\u0027ve had some initial success, it\u0027s\npretty common to get a few more successes in a row (sleep with a few\nmore girls within a few weeks or months off of pickup)\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cspan style=\u0022font-weight: bold;\u0022\u003EPost-success plateau:\u003C\/span\u003E\nyou hit a plateau where it feels like you can get girls on occasion,\nbut the really high caliber girls are few and far between, and it sort\nof feels like you\u0027re able to get roughly the success of an \u0022okay\u0022\nnatural guy, only with a lot more work than he puts in to get that\nsuccess. There are still a lot of guys out there who do far and away\nbetter with women than you do, and aren\u0027t even doing a fraction of the\nwork you are. It starts to feel like maybe this is as good as you\u0027re\ngoing to get... and that wouldn\u0027t be \u003Cspan style=\u0022font-style: italic;\u0022\u003Ehorrible\u003C\/span\u003E,\nbut it would be kind of disappointing, considering how hard you\u0027ve\nworked. A lot of guys get a decent girlfriend and check out of the game\nat this stage\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cspan style=\u0022font-weight: bold;\u0022\u003ECommitment to grinding:\u003C\/span\u003E\nif you don\u0027t wife up a pretty-good girl at this point, you end up\nreaching a point where you say to yourself, \u0022You know what? Screw it.\nI\u0027m going to buckle down and do whatever it takes to get great at\nthis.\u0022 Most of the other guys who started learning game at the same\ntime you did have dropped out by now, so you\u0027re among a select,\ndedicated crowd. You realize you\u0027ve been more or less coasting since\nyou started getting that initial success, and begin taking a more\nmethodical approach to your game again, akin to the one you had back in\nyour pre-success grinding days. You start biting off bits and pieces\nand tackling your game in a small-improvement-by-small-improvement way\nonce more\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cspan style=\u0022font-weight: bold;\u0022\u003EMajor breakthrough (abundance):\u003C\/span\u003E\nthe major breakthrough comes when you have some watershed experience\nwhere you realize that you can pick up a sufficiently cute girl any\ntime you want, so long as you go somewhere with enough different women\nto meet and you have enough time to keep meeting new girls there. This\nis the moment when you really feel you\u0027ve \u0022made it\u0022; you\u0027re never going\nto worry about not being able to get laid again, and you will always be\nable to have sex with a new girl whenever you want to do it. There\naren\u0027t many men who stay at it long enough to reach this point, and\nyou\u0027re one of a small class of \u0022enlightened\u0022 men who can now look at\ndating, relationships, pickup, and seduction candidly and see them for\nwhat they are, rather than trying to delude yourself with fairy tales\nto protect yourself from an uncertain reality\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cspan style=\u0022font-weight: bold;\u0022\u003EPost-breakthrough\nsoul-searching:\u003C\/span\u003E the next stage comes when you realize that you\ncan get laid whenever you want, but really amazing, soulmate-caliber\ngirls are still a rare event to you. You start to wonder if maybe you\nshould settle down if you have a girl like this, or if you should start\nsearching for a girl like this. No amount of sleeping with ordinary new\nwomen can come close to matching what it\u0027s like having a single\nexceptional girl like this. This is the point where many experienced\nseducers drop out of the game and pair off with one of those rare high\ncaliber women\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cspan style=\u0022font-weight: bold;\u0022\u003ECommitment to grinding again:\u003C\/span\u003E\nif you stick with it, you commit to grinding again, this time with the\nobjective of perfecting your game to such a degree that you\u0027re able to\nnot just get laid whenever you want - that\u0027s old hat - but now, to be\nable to find, attract, and sleep with the highest quality women out\nthere: the ones that make your heart flutter and beat fast, and get to\na place that you can meet these women easily and regularly, and\nactually get them as easily as you get ordinary girls\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cspan style=\u0022font-weight: bold;\u0022\u003EMajor breakthrough #2 (absolute\nabundance):\u003C\/span\u003E if you reach this point, the most amazing women in\nthe world are yours. Sure, you don\u0027t get every woman you set your eyes\non... but you can meet girls who are your dreams girls in relatively\nshort order, and get them quite consistently. The idea of picking one\ngirl and permanently settling down feels crazy to you, because you\u0027d be\nmissing out on so many other of your dream girls out there. You\u0027re at a\nplace now where the highest heights of pickup have been reached\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cspan style=\u0022font-weight: bold;\u0022\u003EDeciding how to use your skill\nset:\u003C\/span\u003E finally, you start deciding what you want to do now that\nthere\u0027s not much new frontier to conquer; sure, you can try things like\ncold approach threesomes, or picking up girls on airplanes mid-flight\nand sleeping with them then and there, or find some other way to\nchallenge yourself, but the real question is what do you want to do\nwith your \u003Cspan style=\u0022font-style: italic;\u0022\u003Elife?\u003C\/span\u003E: do you want\nto construct a harem of women? Start having children with different\ngirls? Live the life of the perpetual bachelor, unmoored and truly free\nof roots and responsibilities? Something different?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cspan style=\u0022font-weight: bold;\u0022\u003EAcceptance of skill and moving\non in pursuits:\u003C\/span\u003E once you\u0027ve decided what path you\u0027ll take over\nthe long-term, you stop working too much on pickup, and it just becomes\nsomething you do and a part of your life, and not something you think\nabout. Now that you\u0027ve learned a challenging skill to a high degree,\nyou know the skill-building process inside and out, and you can use\nthat to expedite your learning with another skill set. You begin to\nturn your energies toward something else, like building writing, art,\nor building businesses\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ol\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThat\u0027s the rough progression. Plenty of dropping out goes on along\nthe way, but there are tons of rewards for the few men who stick with\nit all the way through. Realistically, most men won\u0027t; not necessarily\nbecause the rewards aren\u0027t worth it to them, but because they\u0027re\nsatisfied enough with what they get at the lower levels, or they don\u0027t \u003Cspan\nstyle=\u0022font-style: italic;\u0022\u003Ereally\u003C\/span\u003E believe in the potential\nrewards enough to justify the large amount of work it takes to actually\nget there.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/p\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1340\/24707\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-24680\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/24680#comment-24680\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/24680#comment-24680\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EChase! are you alright?\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EAnonymous (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Friday, 7 March 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/satisficing-and-seduction-or-why-you-probably-wont-be-bachelor-forever\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EChase! are you alright? \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022http:\/\/www.nbcnews.com\/news\/world\/malaysia-airlines-loses-contact-flight-carrying-239-n47516\u0022\u003Ehttp:\/\/www.nbcnews.com\/news\/world\/malaysia-airlines-loses-contact-flight...\u003C\/a\u003E  :(\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1340\/24680\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-24708\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/24708#comment-24708\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/24708#comment-24708\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EPlane Crash\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Saturday, 8 March 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/satisficing-and-seduction-or-why-you-probably-wont-be-bachelor-forever\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/24680#comment-24680\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EAnon-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThat\u0027s a great tragedy, but I can happily say that it wasn\u0027t me on that plane, nor anyone I know (so far as I\u0027m aware). Perhaps one of these days, though... you never do know.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1340\/24708\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-24691\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/24691#comment-24691\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022dantex\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022dantex\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022dantex\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022dantex\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/24691#comment-24691\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003Eenergy thing\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003Edantex (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Friday, 7 March 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/satisficing-and-seduction-or-why-you-probably-wont-be-bachelor-forever\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EChase can you do an article on energy? I read in one of your articles, dont remember which one now - you mentioned the times back when you commuted to work and while spending a lot of time in the car you concentrated on scars.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nSometimes I have precognitive dreams. I\u0027ve heard many theories and Im sure there\u0027s this energy and the other world we cant see and touch. I had one friend doctor tell me once that once in his career cancer in a patient disappeared. The Head is so poweful that its beyond comprehension. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI wonder if its possible to influence other people or a girl by concentrating your energy on her. I know sounds crazy but the world is crazy zalready.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1340\/24691\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-24709\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/24709#comment-24709\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/24709#comment-24709\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EOccult\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Saturday, 8 March 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/satisficing-and-seduction-or-why-you-probably-wont-be-bachelor-forever\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/24691#comment-24691\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EDante-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf I could come up with any solid \/ non-anecdotal evidence, I could do a piece on these. Unfortunately, there\u0027s so little hard evidence of these sorts of claims, and so much that\u0027s easily dismissed as confirmation bias or just chance, that it\u0027s difficult or impossible to do something all that credible on it.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAlmost everything I can cite from personal experience can easily be written off as confirmation bias or pure chance. One example I used to use was that when playing certain computer games as a child and older, I had a much better chance of successfully making a very difficult shot if I did so with my eyes closed waiting for what felt like \u0022the right moment\u0022 than I did with them open. For a long time I thought this was some sort of extrasensory perception, but what I noticed later was that this only worked if I watched the movement patterns for a few seconds before closing my eyes; I couldn\u0027t do it at all if I shut my eyes immediately without watching the screen for a few minutes first. I think what\u0027s happening here is that the brain is calculating the patterns in the game, and lets you know when to take the shot in order to make it; closing the eyes just shuts off the distractions and lets you listen to your internal calculations better.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EPrecognitive dreams are stranger, yeah. I\u0027ve had a few of these that have been pretty precise, and history\u0027s chock full of important figures with them, from George Washington, who claimed he saw a vision of an America with iron buildings that reached up to the sky in a moment when he was close to despairing that drove him on, to Abraham Lincoln dreaming of his own assassination and speaking of it to a bodyguard, to the precognitive dream that saved the life of Adolf Hitler and cleared him out of a foxhole that was bombed minutes after he left it, killing everyone else asleep inside. I don\u0027t really have any ideas about what sort of mechanism might be required for something like this to exist, or what possible explanation there might be for these things otherwise. I also haven\u0027t much investigated them; maybe these claims are just urban legends, or aren\u0027t well-substantiated, although they do seem to be pretty ubiquitous among \u0022great figures.\u0022\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EMiraculous healing is an intriguing subject in its own right. Some percentage of cancers - some oncologists speculate even up to a third of all cancers - go into spontaneous remission on their own; the body just realizes it needs to fight the cancer off, or figures out how to. Because of this, you get all kinds of people saying their cancer was deemed incurable, and then they took X alternative medicine and that cured it, therefore X medicine is a cancer cure that everyone should use, and other people use that cure and die. So, I\u0027m a little wary about talking about willing yourself to better health unless this can be well-substantiated; I did have a number of persistent smaller scars disappear after spending four or five months willing this to happen, but only got rid of the larger ones following cortisol injections by a dermatologist. I\u0027ve had a few other health issues that made sudden reversals once I started focusing on them, and had the opposite happen too - it seems like every time I think to myself, \u0022Hey! I haven\u0027t had a pimple on my nose in forever!\u0022 I immediately the next day have a pimple there - but maybe that\u0027s just my conscious mind becoming aware of something my subconscious already knows is going on. And I had a coworker once who\u0027d been given a few months to live with an incurable liver cancer, but who had a miraculous recovery after she took up Buddhist meditation and began to focus on inward healing. There are plenty of other miraculous healings that occur with no focused attention on that area of the body.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENow, if we could get one of those spiritual healers, like a saint who does the laying on of hands and cures all kinds of health issues, and have a team of medical researchers verify this is actually happening, that would be pretty impressive. The current evidence today is not in favor of this though: \u0022\u003Ca href=\u0022http:\/\/www.livescience.com\/909-medical-miracles-supported-evidence.html\u0022\u003EMedical Miracles Not Supported by Evidence\u003C\/a\u003E.\u0022\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnyway, this is one where I have a great deal of curiosity, but nothing but ambiguous things to report... and I don\u0027t want to add to the confusion by making a lot of exciting-sounding-but-wild-and-unsubstantiated claims to the mix!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1340\/24709\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-24820\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/24820#comment-24820\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022BrianCrab\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022BrianCrab\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022BrianCrab\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022BrianCrab\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/24820#comment-24820\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EQuantity of Offspring vs Quality of Care of Offspring? \u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EBrianCrab (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 9 March 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/satisficing-and-seduction-or-why-you-probably-wont-be-bachelor-forever\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EI love your work, Chase. I send a lot of your articles to friends and even fuck buddies to give them a better framework for looking at sex and relationship :) Thanks!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFor this article, my understand of male mating strategies differs from yours and I want to get your feedback to figure out which theory makes more sense. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EJust to lay some groundwork, as I understand it, the female mating strategy is to find a dependable man (usually low-value) to care for her and her children then to mate with high-value men when she is ovulating. This is the best of both worlds: her children have high-value genes and they are given many resources, advice, skills, etc by a dependable father. This is born out in research showing that ovulating women are more attracted to high-testosterone men and more willing to have one-night-stands. I think we agree on this :)\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFor males, this article proposes the two mating strategies are Quantity of Mates vs Quality of Mates. However, my understanding is the two male mating strategies are Quantity of Offspring vs Quality of Care of Offspring. Quality of Mates would be a separate factor which a male always tries to optimize regardless of which of the two strategies best serves his genes. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe strategy a male\u0027s genes compel him to pursue depends on his value in the sexual marketplace (a high-value male has high testosterone and high social standing while a low-value male does not). The theory is pretty simple: high-value males pursue the Quantity of Offspring strategy and low-value males pursue the Quality of Care of Offspring strategy. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFor example, if a man is high-value in the sexual marketplace, he realizes he can sleep with many women and will do so (Quantity of Offspring). He prefers to mate with high-value women and takes the best he can get. He enjoys the sex and doesn\u0027t have to worry about his reputation as a slut\/stud because he isn\u0027t offering women any more than sex (and his high-value genes).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EA low-value man, however, quickly finds that not many women want to sleep with him and he has to promise them resources over the long-term to mate. Like the high-value man, he prefers to mate with high-value women and takes the best he can get. Having invested so much in one woman and her children (Quality of Care of Offspring), this man tries to monopolize the woman\u0027s sexuality to ensure he is the true father of his children. His jealousy is rational because he knows any woman may mate with a high-value man if given the chance and especially if she\u0027s ovulating.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ETaking Quality of Mates out of the mating strategy model and just focusing on the dynamic between Quantity of Offspring vs Quality of Care of Offspring makes more sense to me. The Quantity of Mates vs Quality of Mates model proposed in this article doesn\u0027t seem to accommodate the reality that there are men who sleep with a high quantity of high-value mates.... and there are some men who sleep with a low quantity of low-value mates. Thoughts on which model makes more sense?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAgain, thanks so much for what you do, Chase :)\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1340\/24820\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-71898\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/71898#comment-71898\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022ShuaiGe\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022ShuaiGe\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022ShuaiGe\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022ShuaiGe\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/71898#comment-71898\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EJust wanted to say that even\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EShuaiGe (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 24 January 2016  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/satisficing-and-seduction-or-why-you-probably-wont-be-bachelor-forever\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EJust wanted to say that even though this article was about why people eventually end up settling down, there was some great life advice in here that I wish I had seen a couple years earlier.  Many of the things you mentioned really resonated with me as they were ideas that had started to dawn on me as well.  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