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id=\u0022comment-20196\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20196#comment-20196\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/leetter\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022leetter\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022leetter\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022leetter\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022leetter\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20196#comment-20196\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003Epicking up women who are working\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/leetter\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/leetter\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003Eleetter\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Wednesday, 18 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/brain-hacks-how-learn-empathy\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EGreat article. I think im high on empathy but never realized it until this post, it was just something I did. I used to think in a million shades of gray until i came to the realization that you just have to pick something and go, like what you suggested in the black and white thinking article. Is this something empathetic people do?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnyway my main question is what process do you use to pick someone up that\u0027s working. While waitresses and bartenders are the usual source for this question, I\u0027ve been coming across this with women who work different jobs. two cashiers one manager of a storage place and  one that works at a bank(personal banker?). One of those cashiers seemed to be into me but every time I see her I only have probably a minute to interact with her so its hard to do anything but banter. For the manager and banker I got to spend more time with and both of them were enjoying the conversation. Both of them were wearing engagement rings which is what stopped me from trying to go any further, which is neither here nor there. But if i did want to pursue how would you go about it? Just escalate to see if they are just being friendly? Do i have to do something to snap them out of work mode?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1280\/20196\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20652\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20652#comment-20652\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20652#comment-20652\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EHired Guns\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 23 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/brain-hacks-how-learn-empathy\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/20196#comment-20196\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003ELeeter-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThis is one that\u0027s in the article queue for proper treatment in a full article, but for now, you can find a few tips about this here: \u0022\u003Ca href=\u0022\/content\/where-find-amazing-woman-20-surprising-places\u0022\u003EWhere to Find an Amazing Woman: 20 Surprising Places\u003C\/a\u003E\u0022 (last section at the bottom of the article). If you\u0027ll see them regularly, you can treat it like social circle, where you warm them up and steep the vibe over a series of encounters, and then make the ask on the third or fourth meeting.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf you won\u0027t see them regularly, you\u0027ve just got to be bold and pull the trigger then and there - ramp up the vibe quickly, break her out of autopilot, and ask her out - she\u0027ll say \u0022yes\u0022 and give you contact details, or she\u0027ll hem and haw, and you can either press on and insist, or tell her it\u0027s fine and let her off the hook and wish her a nice day.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1280\/20652\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20197\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20197#comment-20197\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Bobby\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Bobby\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Bobby\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Bobby\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20197#comment-20197\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EThis article hits home\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EBobby (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Wednesday, 18 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/brain-hacks-how-learn-empathy\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EI grew up in a low empathy family while I might have too much at times.Now,I think that are no advantages to being of low empathy aside from short term,because people like this are very likeable but they will eventually show who they are and their behavior is cyclical  and predictable.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nFor me the downside to my high levels of empathy was being taken advantage by family members and other people having those unfortunate traits.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nAs far as women,I think that when they\u0027re given a choice of either a low empathy individual who looks great and a guy who appears boring and regular,they\u0027ll go for the former 99.9% of the time.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nBut from my experiences,they\u0027ll go ape shit if the guy is genuine and this emotion can be felt while it won\u0027t for a low empathy individual no matter how hard they try.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nSo I\u0027ve learned to be  even more calm and neutral. I am an high empathy dude but I conceal that aspect of personality until I figure out who I\u0027m dealing with.I can figure out if a woman is cluster B in a few minutes and act accordingly but I stay away from these women because they\u0027re not the toxicity...lol\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nAnyways,I\u0027ll end my lengthy essay here-;)\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1280\/20197\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20199\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20199#comment-20199\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022B\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022B\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022B\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022B\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20199#comment-20199\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ELoving the article on brain\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EB (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Wednesday, 18 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/brain-hacks-how-learn-empathy\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003ELoving the article on brain hacks...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIm curious... Where do emotions like insecurity, emotional overreaching etc. Come from and Whats the best way to rid of them? Does being in an analytical mode make one more vulnerable to judging oneself and bis environment?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1280\/20199\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20653\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20653#comment-20653\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20653#comment-20653\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EUndesirable Emotions\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 23 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/brain-hacks-how-learn-empathy\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/20199#comment-20199\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EB-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EMany of these stem from childhood experiences - family, social environment, etc. Usually, the stabler and more supportive the home environment, the healthier the individual, psychologically-speaking (personally, when I\u0027m screening for girlfriends, I screen for a stable home environment growing up; starting to do the same with friends these days, too).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAn analytical frame of mind can exacerbate problems related to self-judging, but only if the problems are already there under the surface lurking in the self-conscious. No one on Earth is COMPLETELY free of self-consciousness; we all have it in some degree or another. However, some people have a much greater amount of it than others do, and are more prone to having it become a problem during periods of high stress, exhaustion, fatigue, inebriation, etc., when the ego is depleted and the frontal lobes are no longer able to effectively modulate the behavior of the subconscious regions of the brain.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1280\/20653\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20201\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20201#comment-20201\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Bolt\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Bolt\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Bolt\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Bolt\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20201#comment-20201\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ESuccess as a Young Rapper\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EBolt (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Wednesday, 18 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/brain-hacks-how-learn-empathy\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey Chase, I recall you mentioning how you use to be an aspiring rapper who wore big gold chains and bracelets (I\u0027m not judging I have a nice  Citizen watch and a small silver bracelet I always wear ha). Anyways,  I\u0027m sure you became pretty good if you worked half as hard as you did with the social arts. I have been writing raps since I was 12 and even performed in front of more than 1,000 people, albeit it was a mega church in my hometown, I did Christian rap while in high school. Well , since I\u0027ve been in college i haven\u0027t really spent much time writing music because I\u0027ve been focusing on my studies, getting better with women, making new friends, and bodybuilding. However, I decided I\u0027m going to get back into it. I have a unique image in mind (just like great legends like Wu Tang did). My question to you is what would your advice be on building notoriety and fame as a rapper or musician and also on the best (hopefully free or cheapest) way to create beats?  Also, what made you stop rapping anyway?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1280\/20201\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20654\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20654#comment-20654\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20654#comment-20654\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ERe: Success as a Young Rapper\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 23 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/brain-hacks-how-learn-empathy\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/20201#comment-20201\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EBolt-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EProps on getting back into music. The landscape for rap has changed over the past decade or so; when I was active, it was the dying years of activist rap \/ rap with a message, and the real beginning of the merger of Hip-Hop with pop, which more or less is in full swing today. Which is not to say that you can\u0027t go against the tide and have meaningful music - many of the most memorable artists in history are the ones who emerge with both artistically beautiful works AND works that are profoundly meaningful, in times that are bereft of much meaning and rather lost, spiritually. The key to success is any art (and especially music), is extremely appealing art; the key to legendary status is appealing and \u003Cem\u003Emeaningful\u003C\/em\u003E art.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYour first aim always has to be having the best-sounding music out there: the best, most innovative, and \u003Cem\u003Ecatchiest\u003C\/em\u003E beats; the most original, crispiest, tightest flow; and the most hypnotic, trance-inducing hooks that make people want to stand up and sing them over and over again and get hype and get excited. For beats, if you have a good musical ear and have experience, get a good software program and start following tutorials to get good with it; I used to use FL Studio back in the day, but not sure if it\u0027s still any good - I used Garage Band a little while back for the first time, and the ability to use loops makes putting together beats so much easier it\u0027s insane (you used to have to paint every note).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf you\u0027re not good at beats, but your lyrics and flow are tight, start seeking out good beat-makers; there are a lot more talented beat-makers than there are lyricists, in my opinion. The only thing is you\u0027ve got to be able to tell them what you need; study how Puff Daddy composed B.I.G.\u0027s albums - some songs are all about building the mood, but there are the club hits (\u0022Big Poppa\u0022, \u0022Hypnotized\u0022) and the radio hits (\u0022Juicy\u0022, \u0022Mo\u0027 Money, Mo\u0027 Problems\u0022). B.I.G. actually wanted \u0022Things Done Changed\u0022 to be the first single from \u003Cem\u003EReady to Die\u003C\/em\u003E, but Puffy said \u0022no\u0022, because he knew they needed a club hit to be the first single, not gangsta rap that wouldn\u0027t get much air play. Have your credibility pieces that are deep with meaning, but have your club hits and your radio hits too, and make sure their beats are AWESOME. And don\u0027t do an album of disjointed, unrelated tracks - tie them all in together, and tell a story with the album. Check out \u003Cem\u003EThe Low End Theory\u003C\/em\u003E by Tribe; it\u0027s one of the best composed rap albums of all time (the way all the music ties in together).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFor buzz building, mix tapes were big back in the day, and while I think it makes sense to try to get some tracks going around in the underground to build a more \u0022real\u0022 buzz for yourself there, I wouldn\u0027t ignore the Internet either - all kinds of people are coming out of that these days (Justin Bieber, for one - regardless what you think of the guy or his music, he got his start from YouTube videos, of all things). There might also be other channels online I\u0027m not aware of; I\u0027m not so plugged into the scene these days. But I\u0027d mostly pick one avenue (ideally, the one with the most reach), and just pimp the hell out of it: find out what people want, figure out some unique angles that are going to draw them to your stuff like magnets, and keep doing it even when your first attempts fall flat, until you figure it out. Just keep switching things up, trying different angles, and being creative and getting ever-better. You\u0027ll get it if you keep at it.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAs for why I got out of it... my reasons for getting into it were mainly 1.) to get girls, and 2.) to prove to everyone who said I couldn\u0027t do it that I could. By early 2006, when I recorded my last couple of songs, I was cold approaching women like crazy and getting women from THIS skill set seemed a far more viable path than trying to claw my way to the top of the music industry (which was still probably another 4 to 5 years away at that point, at least), and everyone was getting so excited about my music that most of the challenge was gone - I didn\u0027t have to prove myself anymore; I was already proven. All the guys who were the \u0022gatekeepers\u0022 in town were hounding me to come perform at their shows, and giving me doe eyes like they were looking at the golden child - it sucked the wind right out of my sails.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAt the same time, I didn\u0027t really have close friends, so I didn\u0027t have a support network of people to prop me up and encourage me to go for it, and my family couldn\u0027t have been happier for me to quit rapping and get serious about finding a job and stop dressing and acting like I was not a rich white kid from the suburbs. So, just a mix of all my real motivation going away, and no extrinsic forces pushing me to persevere, and rather instead gently but continually nudging me to move on and leave that path behind. When you read about people who go on to become great in something, one of the largest influences that\u0027s almost always there but frequently gets overlooked is the support network that continually shores them up, encourages them, and helps propel them to success.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI learned from my music days though, and only surround myself now with people who fully support my present goals. If you\u0027re serious about rap, I\u0027d encourage you to do the same - find people who believe in you, believe you can succeed in music, and WANT you to succeed in music, and make those people key people in your life you interact with all the time. They will buoy you up in times of doubt, and egg you on in times of apathy - which is what you need to make it past certain hurdles in the climb toward success.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1280\/20654\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20204\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20204#comment-20204\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022B\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022B\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022B\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022B\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20204#comment-20204\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ELoving the article on brain\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EB (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Wednesday, 18 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/brain-hacks-how-learn-empathy\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003ELoving the article on brain hacks...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIm curious... Where do emotions like insecurity, emotional overreaching and worry etc. Come from and Whats the best way to rid of them? Does being in an analytical mode make one more vulnerable to judging oneself and bis environment?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1280\/20204\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20206\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20206#comment-20206\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/franco\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-3879-1483064671.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Franco Lombardi\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Franco Lombardi\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-3879-1483064671.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Franco Lombardi\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Franco Lombardi\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20206#comment-20206\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EGreat Summary and Analysis\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/franco\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/franco\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EFranco Lombardi\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Wednesday, 18 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/brain-hacks-how-learn-empathy\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EAs someone with an extremely high ceiling for empathy, I can attest that this summary\/analysis is spot on. I\u0027ve always had an exceedingly high level of understanding of people, and it\u0027s part of the reason that everything on this website first \u0022clicked\u0022 for me when I came here: \u003Ci\u003EI intuitively believed that women behaved certain ways for reasons different than the ones mainstream society claimed they were behaving those ways for.\u003C\/i\u003E This website was basically the key that unlocked the doors that were closed in my mind -- doors that I was afraid to unlock myself because I wasn\u0027t aware dialing DOWN empathy would help me -- and allowed me to put two and two together to show me what it is that people \u003Ci\u003Ereally\u003C\/i\u003E want. Especially women.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EDialing down empathy is something that can \u003Ci\u003Edefinitely\u003C\/i\u003E be done for someone who already has a high level of it -- it\u0027s easy to say, \u0022fuck it!\u0022 and just see what happens. So I\u0027m curious as to whether or not \u003Ci\u003Elow\u003C\/i\u003E empathy individuals have the ability to dial it \u003Ci\u003Eup\u003C\/i\u003E. Maybe this article is all they need to read to be able to do so! ;)\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EGood stuff!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E- Franco\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1280\/20206\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20377\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20377#comment-20377\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Bobby\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Bobby\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Bobby\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Bobby\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20377#comment-20377\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003Efrom my personal experience...\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EBobby (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Friday, 20 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/brain-hacks-how-learn-empathy\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/20206#comment-20206\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EThe majority of low empathy individuals that I had to deal with,can\u0022dial it up\u0022 from time to time but not for long!It becomes cyclical and draining.The best thing is to establish strong boundaries with these people.That said,I met some really sociopathic individuals and the best thing is to ignore them altogether.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1280\/20377\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20207\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20207#comment-20207\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Amucat\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Amucat\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Amucat\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Amucat\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20207#comment-20207\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EGreat Post from a Highly Empathetic Guy\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EAmucat (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Wednesday, 18 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/brain-hacks-how-learn-empathy\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey Chase, this is an AMAZING article and I can truly relate and understand everything that you wrote in this post. Growing up as an highly empathetic person, I understand that runaway empathy, if not dealt with, can really open you up to not only being used, but also to readily internalize labels, judgements, and indictments against you. It took me years to finally understand and embrace my sensitivity.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnyway cutting to the chase (no pun intended), being highly empathetic has honestly been one of the greatest BOONS of my life. It has allowed me to be able calibrate myself socially to a lot of situations where I had no experience in at home, (in my original culture, I\u0027m from the Caribbean) and abroad. It\u0027s responsible for my insatiable thirst about people and the world. I think it is the greatest asset to my Charisma. People, don\u0027t sleep on this. I think mastery of it is the single most useful personality trait when dealing with people, women, everything.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EPersonally,  the way I chose to deal with certain drawbacks, such as the inclination to put other people\u0027s feelings ahead of my own (\u0027or being pulled out of myself\u0027, as I call it) was when the situation required it, to train myself to turn all that empathetic energy from an external to an internal focus. I would shut down looking at the external situation, and focus completely on myself and my own feelings. This usually keeps me rock solid. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOnce you get past that, and also knowing when to come to conclusions and making effective decisions about people and situations (something I struggled for years with dealing with - because if left unchecked, one is apt to ruminate on things forever), it really works wonders.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase, keep up the amazing work. You are a godsend to guys who want to improve themselves, and to do it in a way that is just and respectful of others. Long time reader and lurker, I just wanted to add my two cents because this article (and the \u0022Last post you need to get girls\u0022 ) really struck a chord with me. Good stuff. Thank you. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1280\/20207\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20215\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20215#comment-20215\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022TORNADO\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022TORNADO\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022TORNADO\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022TORNADO\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20215#comment-20215\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EHigher Empathy = Higher Chance Of Being Friendzoned\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003ETORNADO (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Wednesday, 18 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/brain-hacks-how-learn-empathy\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EGreat article as always.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI finally seem to have found my problem. I am on extremely high empathy, atleast was on.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EMy close friends criticize that I think TOO MUCH.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E1) Whenever I have a fight, it spoils my entire day\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E2) When I get up in the morning early and do some weight lifting exercise (My mom hates me lifting weights :P), even a small frown from my Mom makes me stop.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E3) Overdoing things for a girl, getting friendzoned and eventually blocked by her inspite of me doing so much for her.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E4) When I am talking to someone and some other person cuts in, I change my attention to that person instead of finishing my current conversation like others do.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E5) When I am busy doing my stuff and someone interrupts I get interrupted easily unlike others who hardly get perturbed.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E6) When I am about to hire a cab or park in a spot and I see someone further away from me doing the same, I kind of get demotivated and surrender instead of simply ignoring and prioritizing my own need.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI have tried my best to reduce empathy and have succeeded to some extent. Now a days when I have a fight or am suddenly blacklisted by a close friend, I give a rat\u0027s ass which takes care of point no.1. Also the incident with the girl who I recently learn is suffering from schizophrenia has definitely made me more stronger hopefully taking care of point 2. As far as point 6 goes, recently have been what is popularly defined as \u0022Pushy\u0022. I guess you need low levels of empathy to be a pushy person. Correct me if I am wrong. I try my best to prioritize my needs but I have still not reached a stage where I am able to do it without avoiding any verbal conflict.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHowever I am yet unable to solve Points 2, 4 and 5.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI still get easily interrupted, get easily flinched when someone disapproves something.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1280\/20215\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20655\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20655#comment-20655\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20655#comment-20655\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EHigh Empathy Problems\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 23 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/brain-hacks-how-learn-empathy\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/20215#comment-20215\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003ETornado,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI can relate. Much of the solution comes from taking a more competitive approach to things - turn everything into a competition.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E#2 you get over by attacking every fight or disapproving glance, etc. - you challenge and escalate until you can bring it to a head and achieve emotional resolution. The only ones that still end up spoiling your day or knocking you off are the ones where the person refuses to listen and you have no recourse to address him \/ her... then it kind of sucks. The best thing you can do here is have a bunch of small \/ mindless tasks you can fill a dead day like this with that don\u0027t require as much effort or concentration, so you can still eke out a productive day despite depleted motivation.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWith working out, yeah, there\u0027s not much around that one - the best I can say is challenge it: You: \u0022What?\u0022 Mom: \u0022Nothing.\u0022 You: \u0022No, what? You\u0027re frowning - that\u0027s totally demotivating to me wanting to work out. Do you want me to stay skinny, weak, and helpless forever?\u0022 Mom: \u0022No, it\u0027s fine; do what you want.\u0022 You: \u0022No, seriously - this is a problem, Mom. I care about you and what you think is important to me and really affects me. If you\u0027re not on board with me working out, I need to know what you think is the alternative - what should I do to better protect myself when people want to hurt me? How should I make my body look more appealing to the girls I find attractive? How should I appear more powerful and impressive to other people, to get a better job and make more money and lead a better life? I\u0027m not attached to lifting weights - if you can offer a better solution, I\u0027d be happy to take it.\u0022 Those kinds of pitched battles can be hard the first few times you have them, but once you know what you\u0027re doing, it\u0027s a HUGE relief to be able to drive the other person like this. The thing to keep in mind (that will help assuage any empathetic guilt you might feel about pressing someone like this) is that the point of this is NOT to force the other person into compliance; rather, it\u0027s to force the two of you to communicate TOTALLY HONESTLY about WHY each of you thinks the way you do (why you think working out is important, and why she thinks you working out is a bad thing). Once the reasons are out there, you can address them; but until then, they just sit under the surface and fester. They need to be forced out, forcefully - they usually won\u0027t come out on their own.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E#4 - read this article: \u0022\u003Ca href=\u0022\/content\/breaking-circle\u0022\u003EBreaking Circle\u003C\/a\u003E.\u0022 Start viewing this behavior as rude and nasty - either the person is socially clueless and doesn\u0027t realize he\u0027s an interloper (in which case, you\u0027ll always feel bad shutting him out, but you\u0027ve just got to suck it up and do it), or he knows EXACTLY what he\u0027s doing, and is deliberately trying to make you look bad socially to open up pathways for himself or his buddy (in which case, you should derive a lot of satisfaction from ignoring him and shutting him down).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E#5 - there\u0027s no way around this - all you can do is create environments that are as quiet and blockaded-off as possible, and work hard on training the people around you who still interrupt anyway not to do this. e.g., when I have to work with a girlfriend in the apartment, she will interrupt (they always do) early on into the relationship, but I will start training her right away, and explain that when I\u0027m interrupted, it breaks my chain of thought and productivity, and sometimes I don\u0027t get it back for an hour or more; occasionally, the entire day is a bust. So please, please, PLEASE don\u0027t interrupt unless it is absolutely VITAL. If the house is burning down or she\u0027s cut her fingertip off and needs to be rushed to the hospital before she faints, okay, interrupt me; if she\u0027s just read an article about how men are oppressing women and needs to come cause some drama, it\u0027s just going to have to wait until I\u0027m finished what I need to finish.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1280\/20655\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20217\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20217#comment-20217\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Troy\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Troy\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Troy\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Troy\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20217#comment-20217\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EHigh School Guidelines,Not Game to Learn How to Sleep with Girls\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003ETroy (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Wednesday, 18 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/brain-hacks-how-learn-empathy\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey Chase, \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E This is a lot to absorb and im basically in the high empathy (maybe thats why i am always so tired), ill think about this more and see where i fall. anyways i digress!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E Ive been seeing several guys on here lately asking about an article on high school game. When you reply to these requests, your main message is \u0022 Im not sure about the moral laws about giving seduction advice to minors, and such since you would have to have a high partner sex number, then im not giving out advice that will paint my image as a bad person\u0022\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase, i can agree with you that giving advice to minors about sleeping girls would put you, the high school guys and the entire world in great problem if minors began sexual activities. Ok i agree!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThere are however always two sides to the story most times ( and its a thing you refer a lot here as the 2 extremes and finding balance a between them ).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E Im hoping you could clear up this little problem with a short spicy article! Let me explain: i think that a lot of the advice here already gives out general advice about sleeping with girls and such! Most of this can be applied to a high school student. There are however a few articles on here that deal with general advice like working on your fundamentals, getting rid of anxiety and becoming a good conversationalist. the requests for an article for high school game will only keep coming up on this site as time goes by.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase, you stated that when you were in high school, you were too much of a loner, even though you have some ideas that may or may not put the person in a better position socially. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHowever, i still think that you could write a short article on GUIDELINES for high school instead of A GUIDE TO SEDUCING HIGH SCHOOL GIRLS AND TAKING THEM TO BED. Most of what i think would be OK to write about for high schoolers would be under the topics listed below:\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n1) Focus on your school work mainly\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n2) Put more focus towards learning your fundamentals, good conversation skills and making friends with both girls and guys so that when you leave high school you\u0027ll be on a easier street and able to move forward with your other life goals.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n3) Abstain from sex until you are a legal adult (18 years old) and just focus on forming friendships without sex.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n4) Try to join actitities in school that build confidence or something you like to have more life experience to help succeed socially eg. toastmasters, sports team, music club\/choir.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n5) Dont be a nuisance to learning to socialize but try going to parties, social events e.t.c...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBasically those are the main guidelines i would say that high schoolers should follow and is basic advice that is not conflicting with the law anywhere. I feel that high schoolers reading this site may decide to have early sex, ignore laws and ignore there school studies to take up full seduction.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI just had to get this out and im looking to see an article on simple tips for high schoolers if you dont completely oppose to this idea chase or any of the other writers here.... just a simple guide to taking on a early start to push forward for the end of high school so we will be on easy sesame street for more advanced things!\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nThanks!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E-Troy\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1280\/20217\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20656\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20656#comment-20656\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20656#comment-20656\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ERe: High School Guidelines,Not Game to Learn How to Sleep with G\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 23 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/brain-hacks-how-learn-empathy\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/20217#comment-20217\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003ETroy-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYeah, those seem like great guidelines - I agree.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EMy own problem is that I still wouldn\u0027t be the person to write something like that - my social skills were pretty abysmal in high school (outside of telling stories and telling jokes and creating the emotions in people that I wanted them to feel); I did not abstain from sex by choice (far from it!); and I had zero after school activities aside from a part-time job in the children\u0027s clothing section in a department store, and didn\u0027t go to a single party aside from the first few days of Senior Week following graduation (and zero dances!).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EMy time in high school basically was a long stretch of maddening, crazy-making nothingness, where days dragged on one after another, seemingly stretching off into infinity, with nothing to look forward to and no end in sight for on and on. I could certainly SAY all those things, and recommend for people to do them, but they\u0027d be naught but empty platitudes from me, telling you to do as I say, not as I did.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1280\/20656\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20676\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20676#comment-20676\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20676#comment-20676\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EHiya Chase,\nJust wanted to\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EAnonymous (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 23 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/brain-hacks-how-learn-empathy\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/20656#comment-20656\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHiya Chase,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EJust wanted to say. I\u0027ve been reading (across the blog and forum) how harsh your highschool, and early college years were, and then seeing how you\u0027ve managed to progress to such impressive heights; well, I wanted to thank you for sharing. I also fell into some pretty rough patches during my teens and early twenties, and Being unable to see a way out, I spent a long time resigned to mediocrity and rumination. Seeing how someone in relatable circumstances managed to make such progress is an inspiring example. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EGC blog and its articles has done more for my mental progress than I can record here (without spiralling into a wall of text, anyway).  So, cheers. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E-E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1280\/20676\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20222\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20222#comment-20222\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Sam2\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Sam2\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Sam2\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Sam2\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20222#comment-20222\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EIn defence of the \u0026quot;sociopath\u0026quot;\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003ESam2 (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Wednesday, 18 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/brain-hacks-how-learn-empathy\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EChase,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThis is a thought-provoking piece of writing which beautifully rephrases the need for a man to have healthy boundaries, i.e. to have the ability to hear \u0022no\u0022 and say \u0022no; another way to express your idea about becoming a \u0022genuine man\u0022.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBased on a conversation I had yesterday with 3 friends, I would like to add an assumption which might help us understand one more aspect of the \u0022high empathy-low empathy\u0022 topic.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EMy 3 friends, whose practical experience with women is rather low, kept insisting that \u0022for a man to keep an extremely beautiful woman in a relationship with him he would need a lot of money\u0022. I was of the opinion that the looks of a woman say nothing about her character and attitude towards money. Now, irrespectively of whether I was right or wrong about that, the point is: they tried to empathise with how an extremely beautiful woman feels and needs, while I couldn\u0027t bother talking about a higher-skill issue (i.e. how to keep a hot, high-mentenance woman in your life) when I knew that I had lower-skill problems (e.g. last-minute resistance).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo, while my 3 high-empathy friends cannot not say \u0022hello\u0022 to a woman they didn\u0027t already know, they could easily theorise for hours about an issue of much higher skill than their own. On the other hand, me, the \u0022sociopath\u0022 of the company, being fully aware of my current skill with women I thought of the entire discussion a total waste of my time and mental energy.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo, could we say that:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHigh-empathy men = low self-awareness men and\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nLow-empathy men = high self-awareness men?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf so, I think the charm of the \u0022sociopath\u0022 consists in his self-awareness; he has a strong sense of self, he knows where he stands, he knows his shortcomings, and women, who by nature seek a rock, find him attractive, despite his low-empathy and because of his strict self-awareness.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1280\/20222\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20657\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20657#comment-20657\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20657#comment-20657\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ERe: In defence of the \u0026quot;sociopath\u0026quot;\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 23 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/brain-hacks-how-learn-empathy\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/20222#comment-20222\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003ESam-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe self-awareness comparison is a fascinating point, yeah. Low-empathy people do generally seem to have much higher levels of self-awareness than high-empathy people do, probably from allowing themselves to be bombarded all day long from every direction by all manner of people\u0027s thoughts about who they are and what they are and what they ought to do and what not to, and from their own commiseration with others and trying to adjust themselves to suit what they think others feel, want, and need.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI think you trend toward lower levels of empathy as you get progressively more experienced (and thus, become more self-aware) at certain things as well. Part of the reason I continue responding to comments here is that it gets too easy for me to get frustrated with newer guys if I\u0027m not active in comments, where some guy is acting befuddled about how to get a girl, and all I can do is go, \u0022Geez, she\u0027s just a GIRL - just go TALK to her!\u0022 Staying active in the comments forces you to constantly think through other people\u0027s problems and see things from their perspectives, thus keeping you grounded empathetically - which is sort of necessary for being able to crank out material that resonates with the reading audience (otherwise you just become some increasingly detached individual whose experience deviate so far from the masses that he cannot relate to them and they cannot relate to him, and pretty soon you\u0027re speaking to an audience of one). Then again, you try something totally different, and you\u0027re back in your head again as an empathetic person; sociopathic people do not seem to have this problem.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E(the other problem your high empathy friends have is that they\u0027re trying to empathize with women they have zero real world experience with, which means they\u0027re empathizing more with artificial constructs of how they believe she OUGHT to act based on what they\u0027ve seen on TV or read on the Internet or watched on online video - and you can debate all day about theory... this, by the way, is not limited to high empathy individuals - have you ever sat in the middle of an abstract debate between two sociopaths? I had a pair of sociopath business partners trying to determine the cause of a business collapse - one took the position that we needed to hire people to make the business work; the other took the position that we needed to \u0027pay our dues\u0027 and work in the business [read: the other guy work in the business] before hiring people; because neither was able to empathize with the other one iota, the debate went on for literally MONTHS, and managed to derail the other business interest we all had going on at the time too. The debate didn\u0027t truly end until the second business collapsed, and the partnership dissolved. Empathy or not, abstract philosophical environments are just empty wastes of time - go out and test it, then get back to me, that\u0027s my response to these)\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1280\/20657\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-72441\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/72441#comment-72441\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/user\/16334\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022luxlucis\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022luxlucis\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022luxlucis\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022luxlucis\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/72441#comment-72441\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003Emore experience less empathy?\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/user\/16334\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/user\/16334\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003Eluxlucis\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Thursday, 4 February 2016  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/brain-hacks-how-learn-empathy\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/20657#comment-20657\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003E\u0022I think you trend toward lower levels of empathy as you get progressively more experienced (and thus, become more self-aware) at certain things as well. \u0022\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThat\u0027s interesting.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nCould be.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nYou have less patience with all the novices asking how to make basic math when you\u0027re the chief rocket scientist.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHOWEVER also the other way around is true: you DO realize you hold more power and have more impact on the people around you, and you do realize you\u0027re seen more as an example and you don\u0027t wanna give the bad example.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo you\u0027re also more careful on how you use your power and expertise.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo as a net effect I would say it might be 50\/50 in the end.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1280\/72441\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20246\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20246#comment-20246\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Al\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Al\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Al\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Al\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20246#comment-20246\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EGetting Friends Complex Situation\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EAl (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Wednesday, 18 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/brain-hacks-how-learn-empathy\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHi Chase,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EMy names Al and first off like every other guy I\u0027d like to thank you for sharing your personal insight for the benefit of others. Now this is my tidbit, I must say it is quite a pleasure to read your articles, put them into practice, and watch some of the results successfully come about in real life situations.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI am dealing with a seemingly complex situation at the moment, which to you probably just needs to be broken down to understand and move forward. I am an 18 year old guy and there is this girl who is 20 that I\u0027ve been wanting to go out with for about a year. I realize now after a few months of reading your articles that a year is way too long and that trying to \u0022win\u0022 her over by keeping on her periphery will not work. So from last November to around September I\u0027ve probably been breaking a lot of \u0022rules\u0022 as it were in regards to chasing, attraction, and conversation. BUT she was in a healthy relationship with a boyfriend whom she loved  up until late this October, so there wasn\u0027t a whole lot that I could do to get her to be my girlfriend. I\u0027d say that her and I are friends but we\u0027re not really really close friends, like we texted ALOT from May through to September but only hung out outside of school stuff a dozen times or so most of which with other people. I don\u0027t think I\u0027m a \u0022fixture\u0022 in her life but she did just recently play the \u0022right now, I just want to be friends\u0022 card after I persistently but not sounding needy casually asked her out to lunch\/dinner. I actually first asked her back in late October early November but she legitimately couldn\u0027t make it and offered to reschedule at the end of November (she goes to university an hour and a half from home so can only come home every once and a while). At the end of November first year exam stress and post boyfriend stuff cracked her a bit it was really strange and she said she didn\u0027t want to make it seem like I was the issue so she said she\u0027d be home 2 weeks from then. She didn\u0027t come down last week because she isn\u0027t doing the best on her exams lol and stayed to study. But I decided I\u0027d had enough and finally asked her to give me a reliable date over the christmas break when we could go grab a bite. She kind of avoided the question a little bit because I carefully worded it to that she couldn\u0027t really weasel out. She didn\u0027t end up replying to me and flaked. A few days ago she texted me up sending some old videos at like 4 in the morning lol. Later on that day I talked to her (through texting) and got to the root of it. Where she said she just wanted to be friends, I was determined to change her mind (but it\u0027s nearly impossible to do through texting, side note I haven\u0027t seen her in person since the last week of August when I spent 40 hours with her during the week.). I broke the chasing rule and least effort too and sent a big long text telling her that I will be an amazing part of her life bringing value that she will miss out on a regret not giving a chance. Most of the text was in me telling her a story about this other girl who was a good friend of mine but I heroically turned a regular awards night for friends into her and I having a passionate evening. I related the story by saying that the awards night girl was also a little hesitant to let me out of the friend zone but glad she did because she said it was like what girls dream of ;). Anyways she hasn\u0027t responded to that and at the end I said \u0022I cannot promise to be just friends but I can promise you a great time unlike anything else\u0022 then I asked her to think about everything I\u0027d said in hopes of a \u0022seed\u0022 being planted. The effectiveness of that probably isn\u0027t a good as I\u0027d hoped for. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI am going to see her this sunday at a student council party. So it\u0027ll be small only 12 people or so but everyone is really close so I don\u0027t know how I can approach her to  show her that I\u0027m different than back in the summer. I don\u0027t know how I\u0027ll be able to show her a sexy smooth me with everyone else there watching like hawks, because I cannot really \u0022move her\u0022. Is there a way to reduce the precedent of me being just a friend to her? Because if she could start thinking about me as a potential partner\/lover I think I could get her. I\u0027d just like your help Chase with how to proceed, tips and what not. I know that what I should do is forget this girl and go after some of the other ones I like but I really do want this girl, she is pretty damn incredible the real one, the one in my head\u0027s perfect haha. I may be a bit more attached than I ought to be which I am keeping in mind especially for the future but I don\u0027t want to get rid of this girl because I was ignorant and slipped up, I\u0027m young! So is she! Since we\u0027re so young relationships are a tad different from the ones you write your articles about seeing as we\u0027re all less experienced but I try my best to adapt them to my situations.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI myself am very fashionable, have good posture and poise, quieter voice but it is EXTREMELY malleable (I\u0027m an actor), I\u0027ve really been working on my smiles and eye contact which have greatly improved thanks to you (love that James Bond pursed lips). I have nice well kept hair and slight facial hair, not much. I\u0027m average height, bit of a build but I have acne it\u0027s moderate and it FUCKING SUCKS, nothing like it to destroy confidence. Just a personal question, how much do you think acne gets taken into account by girls? Personality, I\u0027m funny if I do say so myself, kind, unique, different, interesting, quirky more on the nice side as opposed to the asshole. I am quite mature about 2 years older than my age so no problems getting respect from her and older people.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENow this girl\u0027s personality is the most complex and vortex like that I\u0027ve ever seen. She\u0027s very interesting because of her quirks and oddities. She\u0027s also brave and courageous, as independent as a person can get, sincere, vulnerable tho like a hard shell soft interior kind of girl. She has some insecurities but who the hell doesn\u0027t. She\u0027s talented and definitely one of a kind. She isn\u0027t shallow or superficial at all. She\u0027s a nature lover, has some hippie tendencies too actually. She is a flirt and very playful ESPECIALLY when she\u0027s drunk like holy fuck it brilliant. She\u0027s more on the conservative side when it comes to sexuality but I think she just needs someone to make her feel comfortable and she\u0027ll be wild. Overall she is a real winner, terrific to be around and makes me happy.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESorry about my egregious run on sentences, I\u0027m infamous for that. If you have any questions or need more details give me a holler \u003Ca href=\u0022mailto:alwond@hotmail.com\u0022\u003Ealwond@hotmail.com\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut any opinions advice or tips for my situation will greatly be appreciated. Thanks man really hope to hear from you soon!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EKindest Regards,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAl\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1280\/20246\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20832\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20832#comment-20832\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20832#comment-20832\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EFriend Zone\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Friday, 27 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/brain-hacks-how-learn-empathy\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/20246#comment-20246\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EAl-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFirst, most IMPORTANT recommendation is to see this article:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cul\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca\nhref=\u0022\/content\/cant-stop-thinking-about-her-heres-why-you-need-meet-more-girls\u0022\u003ECan\u0027t\nStop Thinking About Her? Here\u0027s Why You Need to Meet More Girls\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAt this point, you\u0027re overthinking a girl who\u0027s been dating other\npeople and has you as a good friend \/ texting buddy - she seems\namazing, and no doubt is a great person, but, again, see that article\nabove. For more on those the items just mentioned, see these:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cul\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/how-text-girls-20-more-tips-and-techniques\u0022\u003EHow\nto Text Girls: 20 More Tips and Techniques\u003C\/a\u003E (on the \u0022texting buddy\u0022\nphenomenon)\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/are-we-just-friends-does-she-me-back-or-not\u0022\u003EAre\nWe Just Friends? Does She Like Me Back or Not?\u003C\/a\u003E (on figuring out\nwhere you stand with her)\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/early-boyfriend-why-its-bad-idea\u0022\u003EThe Early\nBoyfriend: Why It\u0027s a Bad Idea\u003C\/a\u003E (on why it\u0027s really detrimental to\nyour cause to act like a girl\u0027s boyfriend before you\u0027re actually her\nboyfriend)\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENow, as far as actually resetting her expectations of you when she\nclearly sees you as a nice guy \/ friend, that\u0027s one of the toughest\nthings to do once you\u0027ve already set that bad precedent in her mind -\n10x as tough as it will be to find a girl who\u0027s just like her in every\nway except she \u003Cspan style=\u0022font-style: italic;\u0022\u003Edoesn\u0027t\u003C\/span\u003E have\nthat same bad precedent with you, and just doing things right next\ntime. That said, if you\u0027re dead-set on this girl, the best advice I can\ngive you is to follow the strategies laid out in these two articles:\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cul\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/how-get-out-friend-zone-mans-survival-guide\u0022\u003EHow\nto Get Out of the Friend Zone: A Man\u0027s Survival Guide\u003C\/a\u003E (on escaping\nthe friend zone)\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/reversing-poor-past-precedent-girls-you\u0022\u003EReversing\nPoor Past Precedent with Girls You Like\u003C\/a\u003E (on combatting poor\nprecedent you\u0027ve already set in stone with her)\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThere\u0027s no easy path or quick solution, especially when she\u0027s\ntelling you you\u0027re just a friend (unless you want to wait until she\nturns 30, tires of sleeping with bad boys, and starts casting about for\na nice guy to settle down with - but I\u0027m betting you don\u0027t!), because\nyou\u0027re now fighting entrenched beliefs that are deeply carved in her\nmind about you. Still possible if you\u0027re willing to do the work - but\nit\u0027s going to take time, and you\u0027re going to need to be meeting other\nwomen in the meantime if you ever want to reset this one\u0027s expectations\nof you.\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1280\/20832\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20293\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20293#comment-20293\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Yink\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Yink\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Yink\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Yink\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20293#comment-20293\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EDon\u0026#039;t Know What\u0026#039;s Wrong!!!\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EYink (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Thursday, 19 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/brain-hacks-how-learn-empathy\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHi Chase,great article,however my question is un-related to this article;I have been an avid reader of articles on girls chase since early last year,I have followed every advise given on this site thoroughly,I have improved my fundamentals,conversational abilities and so on yet I\u0027m not getting the results I need.I get a lot of reactions from girls but not results.I move fast and I don\u0027t chase girls.I am in my final year in college,most times,I make progress with a girl then I hit a rock and just cut contact with her.for example I started hitting on a girl some weeks ago,I kissed her on the 2nd date and tried to invite her to my place for the 3rd date but she kept on postponing me till I cut contact with her.It seems like girls want me to commit to them first but you advise us be lovers instead of boyfriends.I\u0027ve gotten laid ONLY twice this year and I don\u0027t understand that because I practice everything on this site.I don\u0027t know what is wrong and sometimes I just feel like giving up on women.I\u0027m tired of seducing a girl to an extent then failing.Please tell me what to do because I NEED results.I need to start getting laid REGULARLY!!!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1280\/20293\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20833\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20833#comment-20833\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20833#comment-20833\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ERe: Don\u0026#039;t Know What\u0026#039;s Wrong!!!\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Friday, 27 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/brain-hacks-how-learn-empathy\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/20293#comment-20293\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EYink-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESorry to hear about the frustrations. Tough to say in general\nwhat\u0027s going wrong, but at least with the dating scenario, unless you\nknow \u003Cspan style=\u0022font-style: italic;\u0022\u003Eexactly\u003C\/span\u003E what you\u0027re\ndoing (see: \u0022\u003Ca\nhref=\u0022\/content\/how-kiss-girls-public-and-have-it-go-great\u0022\u003EHow to Kiss\nGirls in Public and Have It Go Great\u003C\/a\u003E\u0022), do NOT kiss girls until you\nare alone with them in a seduction location. Unless you\u0027re a pro at\nleaving them wanting more, 90% of women will get everything they need\nfrom you when you start kissing them outside, and future dates \/\naccompanying you home is no longer in the cards.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf you\u0027re running the three-date+ system, instead of trying to pull\non dates #s 1 or 2, you\u0027re essentially running a \u0022boyfriend\u0022 dating\nprocess, NOT the lover\u0027s process - lovers don\u0027t take 3 dates to sleep\nwith women. And, there\u0027s nothing wrong with that - you can still be a\nsexually attractive boyfriend candidate. But if you\u0027re going this\nroute, you want to make sure you run it properly, and don\u0027t muck it up\nby messing up too much over-the-top lover stuff with the boyfriend\nexpectations you\u0027re setting by taking things slower like this - make\nsure you\u0027re following this guide here: \u0022\u003Ca\nhref=\u0022\/content\/having-lots-dates-short-amounts-time\u0022\u003EHaving Lots of\nDates in Short Amounts of Time\u003C\/a\u003E.\u0022\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf I had to put a bead on it, it sounds like you think you\u0027re doing\neverything correctly, but you\u0027re mixing up some important steps (e.g.,\nkissing before you\u0027re ready to have sex with her then and there; taking\nthe role of the lover but trying to run that over a boyfriend-candidate\nlength number of dates; etc.) that are throwing some obstacles in your\nway. If you\u0027re trying to figure out other things that might be\nhappening like that, sit down and list out everywhere you\u0027re losing\nwomen - where are the consistent trends? Look for trends in behavior\n(e.g., women\u0027s attraction suddenly drops around a certain mark every\ntime - you\u0027re either doing something off-putting, OR you\u0027re missing a\nkey escalation window) or trends in key moments not working out (e.g.,\nevery time you go for the pull, it falls flat - are you asking wrong,\nor not building up enough value, attainability, or compliance before\nyou go for it?).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESit down, spot the trends, and start troubleshooting them by trying\nnew things you think might solve the problem. If they don\u0027t work, try\nsomething else - this is how you eliminate the solutions that do not\nwork, and leave yourself with nothing but solutions that \u003Cspan\nstyle=\u0022font-style: italic;\u0022\u003Edo\u003C\/span\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1280\/20833\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20371\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20371#comment-20371\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20371#comment-20371\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EI was watching a documentary\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EAnonymous (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Friday, 20 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/brain-hacks-how-learn-empathy\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EI was watching a documentary just a couple days ago based on the Sociopath\/Psychopath, and I would like to bring up one of the very interesting point regarding to your article. In the movie it stated that the jobs that are highly associated with Sociopath\/Psychopath are surprisingly, bankers, surgeons, lawyers, CEO and salesman. These are jobs that requires intellectual skills and dedication. It seems like these non-empathetic creatures actually do make better future plans for themselves than others, and not \u0022destructive judgmental calls\u0022 like you stated in the article.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1280\/20371\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20834\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20834#comment-20834\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20834#comment-20834\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EJudgment Calls\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Friday, 27 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/brain-hacks-how-learn-empathy\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/20371#comment-20371\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EAnon-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAbsolutely - you\u0027ll find a disproportionate number of low empathy individuals in high rank \/ high prestige positions. They don\u0027t gravitate toward these positions because they\u0027re building strategic long-term plans that provide a comfortable nest egg into retirement, though; they pursue them because these are high prestige positions that give them access to power over other individuals, which is what low empathy individuals seek. Ask a sociopath if he wants to be a McDonald\u0027s franchise owner making $125K a year, or a trial lawyer making $100K a year, and he may well choose the trial lawyer path most often, even though he can probably scale up to a larger income much faster as a successful franchise owner than he can as a successful trial lawyer. The franchise owner only has power over his own employees, and that power is limited, though; the trial lawyer gets to put people behind bars, holds sway with the city\u0027s judges and cops, and gets to tell beautiful women that he\u0027s a lawyer, and not a McDonald\u0027s franchisee.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESociopaths\u0027 most self-destructive tendencies tend to come out in their personal relationships, rather than at work, though; at work, they rein themselves in, cognizant of the power structure in place and aware that they aren\u0027t the biggest fish in the sea. In relationships, however, they quickly assume the dominant position, and usually end up abusing it and causing their relationships to blow up, because they like to push and push and push to see what they can get away with (assuming those who yield are fine with this, or they just don\u0027t care whether they are or not), resulting in their (normally higher empathy) friends and partners yielding and yielding and yielding until they can\u0027t take it anymore and blow up at the sociopath and leave. I\u0027ve had several sociopath friends - otherwise successful in their careers - complain to me about how people always do this to them, and others I\u0027ve seen have this pattern with people, but shrug it off and act like the problem was just \u0022those people\u0022 (when in fact it\u0027s a recurring problem the individual himself has again and again).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBasically, in artificial social systems where someone holds position power over a sociopath, he will tend to \u0022behave\u0022 himself, and restrict his need for grabbing power and, thus, ending up in explosive situations where the other party(ies) are stretched and stretched to the point where they snap painfully back like a broken rubber band. Unconstrained, he\u0027ll quickly seize the dominant position, but is never satisfied that he\u0027s gotten enough out of people, and will bleed them dry until they up and leave - killing the golden goose, so to speak, in his personal relationships (you\u0027ll also see this happen in startup businesses where a low empathy individual doesn\u0027t have to answer to, say, investors or upper management - basically, anywhere there are no constraints on his tendency to power grab, or where he can get away from those constraints).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1280\/20834\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20375\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20375#comment-20375\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Wes\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Wes\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Wes\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Wes\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20375#comment-20375\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ELimitless\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EWes (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Friday, 20 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/brain-hacks-how-learn-empathy\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EChase,\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nHave you seen the movie Limitless?\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nIf not here\u0027s a link to a seduction scene in it: \u003Ca href=\u0022http:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=xP-ZwmCPBAs\u0022\u003Ehttp:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=xP-ZwmCPBAs\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nThis whole article reminded me of that and this \u0022state\u0022 that I\u0027ve been in a few times in my life.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nEverytime I\u0027m in this \u0022state\u0022, I become really good with people and I feel \u0022clear\u0022. Just like that Limitless scene. (it\u0027s even how I seduced that girl in the hot tub that I told you about, but later felt no attraction for her. )\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nI never could quite understand or explain just what it was. When I discovered RSD and watched their videos talking about getting in \u0022state\u0022, I just assumed that was the closest thing to what it was.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nNow, you come along with this article fully showing me exactly what it is.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nWhen I was younger, I had always been high in emphathy, like you. Around my preteens, I became VERY low in emphathy and continue to this day....only occasionally slipping into high empathy states where I got lucky with girls and made friends really easily.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nMost of the time, I\u0027m on this autopilot niceness. I\u0027m a little more emphatic now but not where I\u0027m in that \u0022state\u0022\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nAnd I would love to speed up the process of mastering this.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nIt would be awesome if we could explore this spectrum of emphathy often as it would help a lot of guys, including me, master themselves. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWes\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1280\/20375\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20835\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20835#comment-20835\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20835#comment-20835\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ERe: Limitless\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Friday, 27 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/brain-hacks-how-learn-empathy\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/20375#comment-20375\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EWes-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027ve seen that movie, yeah. Good flick. You achieve moments like\nthat more and more as you get increasingly experienced with women, and\nespecially as you practice cold reading:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cul\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/employing-cold-read-unlock-womens-secrets\u0022\u003EEmploying\nthe Cold Read to Unlock Women\u0027s Secrets\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/cold-reading-your-way-great-conversations\u0022\u003ECold\nReading Your Way to Great Conversations\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/recovering-failed-cold-read\u0022\u003ERecovering from a\nFailed Cold Read\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EMost guys don\u0027t do this because you\u0027ve got to fail a lot in the\nbeginning (you guess stuff; you\u0027re wrong; you guess stuff; you\u0027re\nwrong), but once you\u0027ve built up enough experience about this, you can\nguess all kinds of things about people and be scary accurate.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnother part of that was the \u0022break the pattern\u0022 technique, where\nyou get asked a question you\u0027d rather not answer, and so instead delve\ninto a story or a conversation about what\u0027s \u003Cspan\nstyle=\u0022font-style: italic;\u0022\u003Ereally\u003C\/span\u003E the issue at hand with the\nperson you\u0027re talking with (\u0022How did you know that?\u0022 --\u0026gt; \u0022If you\u0027re\ntrying to write a paper, that isn\u0027t the book I\u0027d use\u0022), which further\nconvinces them you know them incredibly well (because you do - you\u0027re\nreading them at a level most people can\u0027t, because they\u0027re not paying\nthat close attention to the subtext).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EEssentially, what you\u0027re doing is relying on educated guesses (cold\nreads) plus a high degree of attunement to what others are feeling,\nwhich you then use to steer the conversation into asking them highly\ntargeted questions or speaking to what they\u0027re really feeling, totally\nignoring the conversational \/ social defenses they have up to confuse\nand obfuscate.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhat ends up happening is that the other person feels an explosive\nconnection with you, unlike anything she\u0027s felt with almost anyone\never, and you escalate the vibe extremely quickly with her.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe downside is, if you can\u0027t keep it up (or handle logistics very\nquickly), the window to take action closes almost as fast.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cspan style=\u0022font-style: italic;\u0022\u003EHowever\u003C\/span\u003E... just doing this\nagain and again trains you to be able to marathon it, and do it\nrepeatedly throughout a conversation, delivering epiphanies of feeling\nconnected, feeling understood, feeling like the other person sees right\nthrough you and knows exactly what you want and need, and by the time\nyou manage to get her back to your place, an interaction as well run as\nthis leads pretty naturally toward one specific end (your bed).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/p\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1280\/20835\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-21053\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/21053#comment-21053\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Wes\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Wes\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Wes\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Wes\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/21053#comment-21053\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EThanks for the reply.\nI\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EWes (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 29 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/brain-hacks-how-learn-empathy\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/20835#comment-20835\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EThanks for the reply.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI always viewed this kind of game as \u0022the best\u0022 game I\u0027ve ever done because I feel just as connected with the girl as she does with me. That\u0027s always a plus.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo you\u0027re saying that I should practice getting good at cold reading and being attuned to her thoughts and feelings then I should be able to do this more often?\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nI really want to make this my \u0022style\u0022 in game. I want to know the ends and outs of this.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nWhat places (day game-wise) would it be bad to implement this?\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nI\u0027ve done it on a college campus (no dorms) and I couldn\u0027t take it anywhere.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nI\u0027ve done it in a Walmart (a girl I knew but had not seen in months)\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nAnd in the Jacuzzi (which led to a make out)\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nBut I think those were all just a problem of not pulling to a seduction location. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYou\u0027re definitely right about moving fast though. the \u0022connection\u0022 wears off. When I see the girl again, it\u0027s as if nothing ever happened and I have to start from scratch.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd I still have no idea how I get so attuned to the girl\u0027s feelings..I don\u0027t pay much attention to what I\u0027m saying in this \u0022state\u0022 (just enjoying the moment)\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nDo you just point out how she obviously feels at the moment?\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nLike: \u0022you seem thrown off by what I just said\u0022\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u0022and you\u0027re disapointed because you believe people should keep their promises and she didn\u0027t keep hers?\u0022\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u0022you\u0027re stressed out because of the mountains of work being expected of you\u0022\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1280\/21053\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20380\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20380#comment-20380\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/marty\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/picture-5471_0.gif\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Marty\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Marty\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/picture-5471_0.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Marty\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Marty\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20380#comment-20380\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ETamping down excess empathy\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/marty\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/marty\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EMarty\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Friday, 20 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/brain-hacks-how-learn-empathy\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EChase:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EA fascinating article here... and one which gives me concrete steps to take now to get into better habits in terms of mastering that empathy dial!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt raises (you guessed it!) a couple questions though:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E1. \u0022And then you send her home, and she goes into auto-rejection because she expected you to overcome her objections and give her great sex, and instead you took her words at face value\u0022\u2014it\u0027s like I\u0027m reading about myself!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E(a) Can women not adapt their behavior to the circumstances? I mean, she\u0027s surely socially aware enough to see that I\u0027ve been behaving empathetically so far, so why then suddenly put up huge obstacles as if she were dealing with an unempathetic man who will bulldoze through them? Isn\u0027t it a bit inflexible?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E(b) Can the above situation be remedied with yet more empathy? In other words, if she knows she\u0027s in auto-rejection can I fix it with \u0022I know I disappointed you, we can talk about that right now, how about another chance?\u0022 or words to that effect\u2014indicating an ability to understand what she\u0027s feeling?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E2. Dealing with other men: Outside the seduction context, often unempathetic men (e.g. in the workplace) will treat everyone equally, rather than as individuals, causing me to bristle. Not in my current job thankfully, but in the past I\u0027ve actually heard men say things like: \u0022Everyone else is coping with it, why can\u0027t you?\u0022 and suchlike\u2014the ultimate in dogmatic egalitarianism, showing a complete lack of feeling and caring. Can you suggest any way to combat this and give them a little taste of their own medicine? =)\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E-Marty\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1280\/20380\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20837\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20837#comment-20837\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20837#comment-20837\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EAuto-Rejection and Blanket Generalizations\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Friday, 27 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/brain-hacks-how-learn-empathy\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/20380#comment-20380\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EMarty-\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nGood questions. On the first, the human psyche is unfortunately not\u003Cbr \/\u003E\na very forgiving thing when it comes to urgent needs not being met - if\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nyou\u0027re starving for chocolate donuts, and your friend has a box of\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nchocolate donuts in his hand and he\u0027s eating one himself right now, and\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nyou tell him you\u0027d really go wild for a chocolate donut right now, and\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nhe tells you, \u0022Wouldn\u0027t we all!\u0022 and then wishes you goodnight and\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nwalks away, even if empathetically you understand that he\u0027s just kind\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nof clueless and probably didn\u0027t get your (blatant, you thought) hint\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nthat you\u0027d really appreciate a chocolate donut, you\u0027re still going to\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nthink he\u0027s a clueless, brainless oaf for not giving you what you were\u003Cbr \/\u003E\ndesperate for right there in that moment (and really thought he\u0027d give\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nyou).\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nThat\u0027s not even a good example (best I could think of on the fly,\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nthough), because it misses a LOT more of the nuance: it isn\u0027t chocolate\u003Cbr \/\u003E\ndonuts she wants, it\u0027s your gene package - and the fact that you walked\u003Cbr \/\u003E\naway from a mating opportunity devalues your genes right away; it\u003Cbr \/\u003E\ncommunicates to her that you\u0027re liable to give her sons who are going\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nto struggle to pass on her genes further, and might even miss a number\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nof free opportunities to help her genetically proliferate. So when you\u003Cbr \/\u003E\ncome back and offer it again, it\u0027s like you\u0027re offering her the same\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nthing you offered before, only in the interval between then and now the\u003Cbr \/\u003E\ngoods have since expired - doesn\u0027t seem like such a good deal anymore.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nRemedying poorly executed actions is done with properly executed\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nactions, not with words. If I drive over your cat and kill it because\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nI\u0027m rushing off to work, then tell you I\u0027m really sorry and wish I\u003Cbr \/\u003E\ncould take it back, then rush off to work anyway, we\u0027re not going to\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nhave a beer after work later and laugh about it because it\u0027s all water\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nunder the bridge at this point, since my actions clearly speak louder\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nthan my words. This is why auto-rejection is so difficult to recover\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nfrom; you can speak all you want, but you\u0027re usually not going to\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nchange her mind this way; and because she\u0027s in auto-rejection, unless\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nyou catch it FAST and do something then and there, you probably aren\u0027t getting another\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nchance to show her your actions are now from this point forward correct.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nAlso, the \u0022I disappointed you\u0022 line paints her as chasing after sex,\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nand you denying it - very, very insulting to any woman out there (even\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nif it\u0027s true). She will deny this, tell you she never had any interest\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nin you and only liked you as a friend, and plunge deeper into\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nauto-rejection. On the occasion that you do warm girls back up with\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nwords that you\u0027ve missed escalation windows with, they typically end up\u003Cbr \/\u003E\ntreating you as a nice guy friend, since you\u0027ve lost that sexy man\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nappeal - nice guys conversate, sexy guys inseminate, so to speak, and\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nyour stripes have already been revealed (conversate).\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u0022Everyone else is coping with it, why can\u0027t you?\u0022 When you get\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nthese, the only way to get them to knock it off is to drive into\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nspecifics: \u0022Well, let\u0027s figure it out. Can you give me an example of\u003Cbr \/\u003E\none of the people who\u0027s coping with it just fine, and we\u0027ll figure out\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nwhat\u0027s different between his situation and mine? We\u0027ll go grab him and\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nget him in here to figure out where the differences are if we need to.\u0022\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nBlanket generalizations wilt under the spotlight of specificity; just\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nkeep the heat turned up on refusing to accept a blanket generalization\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nuntil a magnifying glass is put on the situation, and these go away\u003Cbr \/\u003E\npretty quickly \/ people doing this start avoiding you as that annoying\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nguy who won\u0027t let them get away with non-thinking around him.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1280\/20837\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20890\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20890#comment-20890\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/marty\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/picture-5471_0.gif\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Marty\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Marty\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/picture-5471_0.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Marty\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Marty\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20890#comment-20890\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EAuto-Rejection and Blanket Generalizations\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/marty\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/marty\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EMarty\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Friday, 27 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/brain-hacks-how-learn-empathy\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/20837#comment-20837\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EOh, Chase!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ELike all the best teachers, you have succeeded in making me laugh at myself and my own folly! :)\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFor years, one of greatest desires has been to show kindness and understanding toward young women, with particular regard to their sexual needs. Now I learn that my efforts have likely been perceived as \u0022very, very insulting\u0022!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EEventually, given enough persistence, practice and intelligent work, I may come close to solving this riddle that eons of sexual selection has set for us... In the meantime, perhaps these girls will \u0022forgive me, for I know not what I do\u0022 ;)\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E-Marty\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1280\/20890\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20392\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20392#comment-20392\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Wolf\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Wolf\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Wolf\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Wolf\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20392#comment-20392\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EBeing the ultimate sexy Black man\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EWolf (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Friday, 20 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/brain-hacks-how-learn-empathy\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EI want to be the most sexy man in the world. Im black so I know people have their stereotypes and such, but I want to move past all that. I want to be at the point where how I think of women( Doesn\u0027t matter your race, if you\u0027re sexy you\u0027re sexy), is how they think of me. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027d like to know every little detail that you see black men do that are sexy and attractive do, I want to know everything that can give me an edge on every race, every culture.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhat do your sexy black friends do to get girls? \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EExpressions we can use, body language,  fashion,  voice, aggressiveness, all of it.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nI know I can do this and it excites me.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThanks\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1280\/20392\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20839\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20839#comment-20839\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20839#comment-20839\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ERe: Being the ultimate sexy Black man\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Friday, 27 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/brain-hacks-how-learn-empathy\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/20392#comment-20392\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EWolf-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThere are some nuance differences between gaming as a black guy than\ngaming as a white guy or an Asian guy or what have you, but not many -\nit\u0027s mostly down to taking a somewhat lighter, more approachable\napproach to women than a lighter-skinned guy would... a black guy can\nbe a little siller than a white guy would, because there\u0027s more of a\nstereotype of \u0022sexiness\u0022 there if he dresses well and cleans up and has\na sexy, appealing voice, and it essentially just takes some of the edge\noff the \u0022That\u0027s a black guy - is he dangerous??\u0022 question some women\nhave, and makes him \u0022safe \u0026amp; sexy\u0022 instead, whereas if I tried to be\nquite as silly as my black friends can be with women and still get\nthem, I\u0027d just look like a harmless goof.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThink of the main difference between black guy game and white guy\ngame is \u0022Dial down the edge a bit\u0022 for black guys, vs. \u0022Dial UP the\nedge a bit\u0022 for white guys (just don\u0027t go too far either way - effete,\nflamboyant black men and super-tough, biker-like white men both are\noff-putting to women, just as overly-tough black guys and overly\neffeminate white guys are).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOther than that, it\u0027s \u003Cspan style=\u0022font-style: italic;\u0022\u003Epretty much\u003C\/span\u003E\nall the same - see:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cul\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u0022\u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/7-facial-expressions-drive-women-wild\u0022\u003E7\nFacial Expressions That Drive Women Wild\u003C\/a\u003E\u0022 for facial expressions\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u0022\u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/sexy-body-language-men-learned-hot-girls\u0022\u003ESexy\nBody Language for Men (Learned from Hot Girls)\u003C\/a\u003E\u0022 for body language\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u0022\u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/fashion-men-primer-looking-amazing\u0022\u003EFashion\nfor Men: The Primer on Looking Amazing\u003C\/a\u003E\u0022 for fashion\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u0022\u003Ca\nhref=\u0022\/content\/facial-hair-styles-make-you-look-cool-sharp-and-sexy\u0022\u003EFacial\nHair Styles to Make You Look Cool Sharp and Sexy\u003C\/a\u003E\u0022 for facial hair\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u0022\u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/book-excerpts-get-sexy-voice\u0022\u003EBook Excerpts:\nGet a Sexy Voice\u003C\/a\u003E\u0022 for voice\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E... there are notes in the fashion and facial hair articles specific\nto dark-skinned men, and for voice I\u0027d also say slang \/ speaking voice,\nmake sure you adapt it to the race in question (e.g., don\u0027t speak the\nsame with suburban white girls as you would with a girl from the hood),\nbut other than that it\u0027s no different.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027d also recommend Colt\u0027s article on dating white girls if you\nhaven\u0027t seen it yet: \u0022\u003Ca\nhref=\u0022\/content\/how-black-guys-can-have-sex-white-girls\u0022\u003EHow Black Guys\nCan Have Sex with White Girls\u003C\/a\u003E\u0022; while it\u0027s written to be specific\nto getting white women, the style of game is more or less translatable\nto whatever women you want.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/p\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1280\/20839\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20407\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20407#comment-20407\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20407#comment-20407\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ELack of empathy led to flawed mental model\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EAnonymous (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Friday, 20 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/brain-hacks-how-learn-empathy\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EWhat\u0027s a good way (step by step) of switching off fear and trepidation on-the-fly and just going after what I want, doggedly?  \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI don\u0027t think I ever had a high empathy problem.  But I was extremely timid and hesitant, and didn\u0027t know until later in my life that such a lifestyle is wrong and that there are alternatives. My hesitancy and timid behavior derived from subconscious anticipation of doom and gloom (getting beat up, ostracized, physically punished, shamed, withheld love) if I asserted myself.  I lived in a oppressive household that didn\u0027t foster assertiveness and disagreeing (respectfully) with the parents.  They were physically abusive and vehement whenever I\u0027d stand up for myself.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo unknown to me, I was classically conditioned into anticipating an extremely vehement and negative response if I took any risk -- in or outside the household. Risks such as standing up for myself, or taking social risks like disagreeing with \u0027superiors\u0027 or telling a woman I like her or whatever. I had no control over the trepidation. My neural circuits would simply get flooded by strong negative emotion and doubt sometimes...all I would feel was a pounding in my chest. My default automatic response to this feeling used to be to hesitate until the \u0027scary\u0027 situations dissipated and once that heart-pounding abated then I could proceed.   But obviously hesitating is the opposite of risk taking.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI did not have emotional intelligence as a boy and I didn\u0027t know how to deal with my emotions at  all.  So during the heat of the moment, there used to be no logical thoughts in my head (like the answers to the questions you listed in this article that the empathetic person would ask), instead my mind literally would go blank and I\u0027d just freeze up like a deer in headlights.  Sometimes when the spotlight was on me, I\u0027d stammer and stutter.  I was a victim of an environment of extremely strict parents, and unfortunately and unknown to me at the time, I emotionally internalized expecting this negative behavior from everyone.  Negative anticipation!! And not logical!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo I had to do something about this fear.  My first solution (this was automatic and not logically selected from alternatives) was to protect myself.  I (pre-teenage me) developed a vehemently aggressive and mean and loud and proud demeanor.   The result was Extreme and illogical anger in defense from this feeling of inferiority.  It wasn\u0027t clear to my conscious mind then, but my subconscious intuition knew that I felt as if I didn\u0027t matter to my own parents, they didn\u0027t care about my feelings (just theirs) so the only way I knew how to act to get my point across was to be a mean motherfucker.  Why? Because whenever I\u0027d respectfully disagree with the parents they would scream and ostracize, my feelings had no weight to them at all. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo I fortified myself with vigorous vehemence that would guarantee that my point was taken seriously.  and that nasty aggression did protect me, but I learned later that acting this way with everyone that made me feel weak and cornered was wrong.  I was usually calm when I wasn\u0027t ostracized, but whenever anyone would really annoy me, uncontrollable rage would sometimes ensue.  I felt like the world was out to get me. Not logical, but this was my auto-pilot.  This was the flawed mental model I had developed during my formative years.  I didn\u0027t have any instruction available to me back then to teach me otherwise.  \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut i realized (late teenage me)  that being purely emotional was going to lead to a host of problems, So unfortunately I changed my behavior again...I swung the pendulum in the other direction and became overly passive as a result.  I\u0027d still feel strong emotions in reactions to people\u0027s behavior, but I\u0027d just keep it bottled up inside.  No one would know.  Because the only way I knew how to respond to ostracization as a kid was with extreme vehemence, bordering on violence. I never had an outlet to ever talk constructively about my feelings, my parents wouldn\u0027t listen to me, and friends couldn\u0027t help me with logical and adult solutions.  So I couldn\u0027t allow myself to operate on auto-pilot because honestly the extreme anger I\u0027d feel when insulted, or attacked or, ostracized -- would likely have led me to murder somebody or come close.  \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo I controlled myself for years from allowing myself to be on autopilot.  Assertiveness and risk taking was black or white for me.  Either I was vehement or I was passive. There was no nuance, no middle ground.  I needed to learn superior frame control to remain assertive, without feeling like I had to control myself from feeling dangerous  vehemence.  Unfortunately I stopped thinking about emotion and about the pain I felt inside sometimes, especially from the parents.  Emotion was trouble for me.  But this would affect my relationships with women and with people in general. Obviously part of being a good conversationalist and captivating people is to speak about your emotional reactions to things, people, situations. It gives the conversation a more personal feel. It allows for bonds to be formed and so on.  But since I refused to feel (or to think about what I felt) I couldn\u0027t convey any emotion at all during conversation.  I was aloof, like a robot. Superficial conversation with me...but this was all I knew at that age. This controlling of myself from feeling -- because thinking about emotions could sometimes lead to vehemence and violence had some serious serious downsides.  It sucks that the negative treatment I received as a kid developed into such a inhibition inducing demeanor for me.  But it did.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo in the end, my question is, is there a step-by-step mental process\/series of questions to ask when emotion dominates me? so that I can use logic to frame-control myself into realizing that the emotion (fear, shame, etc) is stupid and not real?  My goal is to become  extremely comfortable all the time, especially during heightened emotional states.  I want to minimize ever feeling intensive extreme magnanimous emotion (albeit this is decreasing since I\u0027ve developed and practiced emotional iq).  Sometimes I have no clue how to control emotion without resorting to hesitation and doubt and being timid. I want to no longer ever suffer from hesitation, doubt, fearing being judged negatively or ostracized, etc.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E How do I retrain my brain to free up the firm grasp that inhibition has on me that results in hesitancy and negative anticipation (of the punishing and neutering acts that my parents imposed on me when I was young)? Inhibition that sometimes keeps me from operating in autopilot and (automatically and without thinking) asserting myself (as respectfully as possible) whenever, wherever, and with whoever?  When I am calm, I am good, I can tell women what I want, I can lead them, I can speak up at work, etc.  but when I am nervous, I struggle with calming myself down.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E I need A new logical response to a panoply of emotions (fear, shame, anger, etc).  If I have the power to choose my response to these emotions,I might as well learn the best and most effective and efficient and logical responses available.  \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAny thoughts on what I said?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1280\/20407\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20840\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20840#comment-20840\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20840#comment-20840\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EConveying and Dealing with Emotions, Stemming Hesitation\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Friday, 27 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/brain-hacks-how-learn-empathy\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/20407#comment-20407\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EAnon-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThese are all things you can overcome, but take time and\nconditioning, and a focus on mentally rerouting your brain down the\npathways of pursuing opportunities and becoming frustrated with apathy\nand indecision. I\u0027d very much suggest reading these articles:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cul\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/how-be-decisive\u0022\u003EHow to Be Decisive\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca\nhref=\u0022\/content\/threats-and-opportunities-difference-these-make-seduction\u0022\u003EThreats\nand Opportunities: The Difference These Make in Seduction\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/how-be-more-aggressive-women-dating-and-life\u0022\u003EHow\nto Be More Aggressive with Women, Dating, and Life\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/how-vanquish-fear-moment-it-crops\u0022\u003EHow to\nVanquish Fear the Moment It Crops Up\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYou\u0027ll be pushing yourself a lot for at least a couple of months to\nrecondition how you deal with emotions and decisions, but it\u0027s very\ndoable. Just make sure you \u003Cspan style=\u0022font-style: italic;\u0022\u003Edo\u003C\/span\u003E\nit.\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/p\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1280\/20840\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20538\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20538#comment-20538\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20538#comment-20538\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EOh my...\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EAnonymous (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Saturday, 21 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/brain-hacks-how-learn-empathy\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EWow. I\u0027ve spent the past four months absorbing the material here but of all the pieces I\u0027ve read this one has hit me the hardest. I\u0027ve never thought of it much before but I can see now that I\u0027ve been a  high empathy guy and how that has been an incredible gift and debilitating curse all at once...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u0027s so empowering to know the underlying processes at work in your thoughts and actions. I am forever grateful for you and your team, Chase. :)\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1280\/20538\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20595\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20595#comment-20595\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/340breeze\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022340Breeze\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022340Breeze\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022340Breeze\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022340Breeze\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20595#comment-20595\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EEmpathy is important. I have a few observations\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/340breeze\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/340breeze\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E340Breeze\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 22 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/brain-hacks-how-learn-empathy\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EEmpathy is eminently important once you have it, but it seems like a lot of people don\u0027t.  What\u0027s your take on snobbish behavior and empathy? How do you best deal with people, especially women, who display snobby behavior, especially if you cannot avoid them?  Almost seems like one big side effect of seduction of being the most dominant and sexy and charming guy around is that the snobbishtreatment dissipates. Women view you differently. Period. Not all women are snobby of course but some are... So you better be dominant and sexy to minimize your exposure. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut for dealing with family or coworkers,  Is there an effective way to show people how they would feel if other people treated them in the same ridiculous ways?  For example, effective frame control to induce empathy in others on the fly, especially when they don\u0027t want to see how their actions impact other people\u0027s feelings?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd another reason why empathy is paramount is because if you truly and viscerally understand how another man or woman might feel when you treat him badly for no reason other than pre-conceived but irrational bias\/hate, etc, then maybe, just maybe, we can lessen the grip that ethnocentrism, bigotry, and racism have in our society.  Because as someone on the receiving end of irrational bad treatment, now that I better understand the emotions behind certain people\u0027s behavior toward me in the past, I have shifted from feeling rage to feeling sorrow.  Kinda interesting that this happened because it wasn\u0027t planned. But I realized this the other day.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1280\/20595\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20846\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20846#comment-20846\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20846#comment-20846\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EAvoiding Snobbishness and Making Others Empathize\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Friday, 27 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/brain-hacks-how-learn-empathy\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/20595#comment-20595\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EBreeze-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EMy default approach toward snobbish people is \u0022position yourself at\nthe top of the hierarchy.\u0022 You can\u0027t change the way they view the\nworld, but you \u003Cspan style=\u0022font-style: italic;\u0022\u003Ecan\u003C\/span\u003E change the\nposition they place you in \u003Cspan style=\u0022font-style: italic;\u0022\u003Ewithin\u003C\/span\u003E\ntheir view of the world - if they see things in terms of hierarchies,\nmake sure they place you at or near the top of theirs. You do this with\ngreat fundamentals, and providing tons of value through other channels.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThere\u0027s also a degree of appearance in it; how you present yourself\n(man of mysterious means; intriguing; hard to decipher and get a read\non) helps elevate you to a position of \u0022He might be very high ranking -\nI\u0027d better not act snobby toward him until I know for sure\u0022, especially\nif you aren\u0027t equipped to actually make it to the top of their mental\nhierarchies. So, much the same as your \u0022being the most dominant and\nsexy and charming guy around\u0022 approach, really.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFor inducing empathy, the best way I\u0027ve found is turning the\nspotlight onto them, usually starting out with a bit of NLP to get\ntheir thoughts following the way you want them to. e.g.,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cblockquote\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cspan style=\u0022font-weight: bold; color: rgb(153, 0, 0);\u0022\u003EGirlfriend\n\/\nfamily member:\u003C\/span\u003E People who drive taxis are SUCH unambitious\npeople! They have NO goals in life! And they\u0027re all so \u003Cspan\nstyle=\u0022font-style: italic;\u0022\u003Estupid!\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cspan style=\u0022font-weight: bold; color: rgb(0, 0, 153);\u0022\u003EYou:\u003C\/span\u003E\nYou think so?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cspan style=\u0022font-weight: bold; color: rgb(153, 0, 0);\u0022\u003EGirlfriend\n\/\nfamily member:\u003C\/span\u003E Of course!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cspan style=\u0022font-weight: bold; color: rgb(0, 0, 153);\u0022\u003EYou:\u003C\/span\u003E\nWell, imagine for a second that you\u0027ve just moved to a new country from\nthe third world. You left school mid-way through high school, because\nyour family was struggling to make ends meet and the only way your\nlittle brother and sisters didn\u0027t starve to death were if you went and\ngot a job making money. You never had a chance to get more schooling\nafter that, because once you were working, that\u0027s pretty much what you\nneeded to keep doing from then on out. Your brother went off to college\nbecause of you - you\u0027re actually a pretty amazing person for that. But\nyou never did. You ended up falling in love, getting married, and\nhaving children - beautiful children! You love them so much. But,\nthey\u0027ve got to eat too. So, you continue to work - just some factory\njob, just enough money to put food on the table. One day, though, you\nget it - a miracle! A chance to move to America. You never thought a\nchance like this would come to you in a million years. So, knowing a\ngood thing when you see it, you \u003Cspan style=\u0022font-style: italic;\u0022\u003Etake\u003C\/span\u003E\nthat chance - and off you go. Now you\u0027re in America, with your whole\nfamily. But everything\u0027s so expensive here, and again, you need to eat.\nYou look around for what you can do - what can you do? You can\u0027t go sit\nin a cubicle and type - you don\u0027t have the skills or the education\nthose people are looking for; you can\u0027t even speak English very well.\nAnd you wouldn\u0027t even know where to start looking. You can\u0027t go be an\ninvestment banker - you probaby don\u0027t even know such things exist, even\nif you might be naturally talented with numbers. But, you DO know how\nto drive - so, you go and find a cab company, and you get a job.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENow, to make sure your family has a place to stay and food to eat,\nyou drive 6 days a week, 10 hours a day. It\u0027s exhausting learning all\nthe new routes and finding customers - but you\u0027ve got income. At this\npoint, you\u0027re no longer thinking about yourself - it\u0027s your children\nthat matter. Your children have to go to a good school, and make it\ninto a good college - and maybe, someday, they might have a nice job in\na cubicle somewhere, and maybe they can chase down their dreams and\ntheir ambitions.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo, yeah - maybe that taxi driver isn\u0027t all that educated. And\nmaybe\nhe isn\u0027t in a position to chase down his ambitions, and maybe he\ndoesn\u0027t even have the luxury to have them. But that isn\u0027t necessarily\nbecause he lacks the mental faculties or the raw ambition. He may; he\nmay genuinely be stupid and unmotivated. Or, he might actually be quite\nclever, and quite driven - he got here to America and gave his kids the\nchance he did, after all. And perhaps he simply never had the chance to\nelevate himself - and never will. But that\u0027s okay, because someday his\nchildren might - and maybe, someday, if fortunes change, your children\ncould even be driving a taxi cab for his, as they silently judge your\nchildren, thinking how stupid and unambitious they are, never realizing\nthey simply fell on hard times because sometimes, them\u0027s the shakes.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/blockquote\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhen you can paint a picture like this for people (and I LOVE doing\nthis with unempathetic friends bandying about dismissive statements\nlike this), you basically force them to stop and \u003Cspan\nstyle=\u0022font-style: italic;\u0022\u003Eimagine themselves as the other person\u003C\/span\u003E,\nexperiencing life the way the other person may have experienced it, and\nfeeling the crushing constraints that\u0027ve boxed that person into a life\nthat may well be less than ideal (or whatever the issue is you\u0027re\ntrying to elucidate the other person about). If you end with a caveat\n(\u0022He MAY be stupid; or he may just have done the best with the lot he\nwas handed in life\u0022), your argument is stronger, especially to an\nunemotional low empathy individual; and if you paint the reverse\npicture, of the individual and the one he\u0027s judging switching places\n(or, his children and the other individual\u0027s children switching\nplaces), this drives the point home further.\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EEmpathy really is about imagining yourself in the other person\u0027s\nshoes; if someone is refusing to do this, you can use the NLP \u0022imagine\u0022\ncommand words coupled with rich, vivid, realistic description (make\nsure it\u0027s realistic, and not overly dramatic or unbelievable, or the\nlistener\u0027s mind will reject it - the goal is painting a totally\nbelievable scenario, so that the listener can achieve immersion and\nreally experience what it feels like to be this other person, to know\nthe constraints, and feel the justifications for why things are as they\nare for the other person) to effectively give them no choice but to\nempathize.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027ve noticed much more empathetic behavior from even my sociopathic\nfriends toward individuals they formerly judged very harshly after\nrunning routines like this. It\u0027s a normal part of my communication -\nyou\u0027ll see me use it in articles a lot, when trying to get guys to\nunderstand things about women they think are un-understandable,\nconfusing, or bizarre.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/p\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1280\/20846\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20660\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20660#comment-20660\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Wolf\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Wolf\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Wolf\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Wolf\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20660#comment-20660\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EDestroying all friendliness characteristics\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EWolf (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 23 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/brain-hacks-how-learn-empathy\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EYou knew this was coming chase,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI want to stop trigger the \u0022friend switch\u0022 and being put in the \u0022friend bucket\u0022.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWith all girls I do not act as a friend,  I don\u0027t text, I don\u0027t Hang out as friends, I pretty much make it known I don\u0027t want to be friends. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhat do I have to do to stop this friend switch thing?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EMaybe im acting too friendly, how can I stop acting friendly but still be warm and approachable?  Should I stop smiling? \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhat are friend triggers and characteristics?\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nAnd what should I do to destroy all of my friendliness?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThanks Chase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1280\/20660\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20849\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20849#comment-20849\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20849#comment-20849\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ERe: Destroying all friendliness characteristics\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Friday, 27 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/brain-hacks-how-learn-empathy\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/20660#comment-20660\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EWolf-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESee and religiously follow these three articles, first and foremost:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Col\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca\nhref=\u0022\/content\/how-be-asshole-%E2%80%93-and-become-adored-women\u0022\u003EHow\nto Be an Asshole \u2013 and Become Adored by Women\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/what%3Fs-difference-between-lover-and-loser\u0022\u003EWhat\u2019s\nthe Difference Between a Lover and a Loser?\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca\nhref=\u0022\/content\/sexual-tension-7-ways-make-women-excited-and-randy\u0022\u003ESexual\nTension: 7 Ways to Make Women Excited and Randy\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ol\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/p\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1280\/20849\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20678\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20678#comment-20678\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20678#comment-20678\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EHow to reinitiate with a girl you lost interest in?\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EAnonymous (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 23 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/brain-hacks-how-learn-empathy\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EDear Chase,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI have a bit of problem on my hands right now but haven\u0027t really seen advice from PUA\/your website regarding how to handle this and was wondering if you would be kind enough to share your input. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHow would I reinitiate with a girl that I had lost interest in but am interested in again?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ECase in point:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAbout 3 months ago, I met a conserative\/virgin\/christian korean girl at my college who I asked out to a date about 3 weeks after meeting her. After our lunch date, I texted her saying that I enjoyed lunch with her and hoped to see her around. She texted that she also enjoyed our lunch and for us to hangout after midterms. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAfter that, about 3 weeks later I invited her to some clubbing event which she subtly declined as I believe she was one of the more conservative korean girls who didnt like to go clubbing. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAfter this, I lost interest in her since she seemed a little bit timid around me, which I took to be disinterest, and I was also going after other girls. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThen, right before the semester ended, I saw her again and she seemed much more upbeat this time and we just talked for a bit then I left.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI haven\u0027t seen her in a bit and basically have about 4 months of time where the only thing that happened was one lunch date. Now, I have started to have interest in her again but don\u0027t know how she would take it. How would you personally reinitiate this girl without making it seem like I just want her as a friend?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAlso, as far as girls placing you in a friendzone, would it take more for christian\/virgin\/conservative girls to place you in the friendzone?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThank you Chase!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1280\/20678\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20850\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20850#comment-20850\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20850#comment-20850\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EReinitiating\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Friday, 27 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/brain-hacks-how-learn-empathy\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/20678#comment-20678\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EAnon-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESee this post on the boards: \u0022\u003Ca href=\u0022http:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/boards\/viewtopic.php?f=26\u0026amp;t=65\u0022\u003ECheck-In Text If You Haven\u0027t Texted in a While\u003C\/a\u003E\u0022 for picking up where you left off.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAs for conservative girls taking more to put you in the friend zone... you can move a \u003Cem\u003Elittle\u003C\/em\u003E slower \/ less sexual with them, but women are women, and they very quickly figure out who and what you are to them regardless of their experience levels. Sexiness and moving fast is still as necessary with inexperienced women as it is with every other girl, but you\u0027ll often need to tone these down a little bit (thought first-date sex is still very doable even with many very inexperienced girls, including virgins, provided your fundamentals and process are tight enough... or sometimes if you just happen on the right girl at the right time, who\u0027s just ready to make something happen and is tired of being a virgin).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAlso, re: inviting girls to nightclubs - see this: \u0022\u003Ca href=\u0022\/content\/party-date-dont-do-it\u0022\u003EThe Party Date: Don\u0027t Do It\u003C\/a\u003E.\u0022\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1280\/20850\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20737\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20737#comment-20737\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Gem\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Gem\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Gem\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Gem\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20737#comment-20737\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EHey Chase\nIs there an age\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EGem (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Wednesday, 25 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/brain-hacks-how-learn-empathy\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey Chase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIs there an age limit to women you can get (in that after a certain age you are too young for them)? There are some women in my gym that are in like their 30s or even nearing their 40s\/ in their 40s that I would love to bang. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u2019s kind of amusing\/odd because I flirt with them and banter and maybe work in a set or two like I would with any other girl and they flirt back and are distinguishably quite attracted like any other girl when I am with them. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut I\u2019m not sure how I could move things forward with older 30+ women like this (partly because even after actively working on looking older and getting thicker at the gym, I still can\u2019t pass for older than maybe 22 or so). \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESomething that also comes to mind here is that the older women might see me as I see some younger girls: they might be amusing to flirt with but are very young and I just see them or talk with them and think wow I bet they\u2019ll be very attractive when older. Maybe in a different setting I could catch a date and move things forward with a much older woman, but as regulars in the gym it\u2019s an odd sort of scenario and I\u2019m not sure how a good way to go about it would be.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E-Gem\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1280\/20737\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20861\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20861#comment-20861\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20861#comment-20861\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EOlder Women in the Gym\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Friday, 27 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/brain-hacks-how-learn-empathy\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/20737#comment-20737\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EGem-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EEveryone has her own tastes, but most women are at least intrigued\nby the charms of a younger man, and if your fundamentals are\nsufficiently tight and you\u0027re a sufficiently sexually appealing option,\neven the most prudish older women are going to feel a certain amount of\nyearning around you.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI don\u0027t have experience pursuing older women specifically in a gym\nenvironment, so I can\u0027t give you any specific advice, unfortunately,\nother than to say just follow the general pattern for \u003Ca\nhref=\u0022\/content\/gym-pickup-dos-donts-and-how-meet-girls-gym\u0022\u003Egym pickup\u003C\/a\u003E,\nand brush up on dealing with any \u003Ca\nhref=\u0022\/content\/younger-men-and-older-women\u0022\u003Eyounger man older woman\u003C\/a\u003E\nissues you might run into.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOne suspicioun I \u003Cspan style=\u0022font-style: italic;\u0022\u003Ewould\u003C\/span\u003E\nhave would be that you\u0027d need to move faster here than you would with a\nyounger gym goer, as I\u0027d imagine older women would be quicker to box\nyou as \u0022that cute young guy I flirt with\u0022 to protect their egos, rather\nthan holding out hope that you\u0027re going to ask them out later - and\nonce you\u0027re boxed up, it\u0027s hard to get out. But, that\u0027s just a guess -\nyou\u0027d need to test it. If you do though (test out moving faster in the\ngym with older women than you would with younger women - e.g., chatting\nthem up and asking them out later the same day), do let me know how it\ngoes!\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1280\/20861\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-84092\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/84092#comment-84092\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Julia\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Julia\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Julia\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Julia\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/84092#comment-84092\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EMore questions to dial up empathy\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EJulia (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Wednesday, 9 August 2017  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/brain-hacks-how-learn-empathy\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHi Chase,\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nThanks for your article! It\u0027s one of the best on the internet how to learn empathy.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nI\u0027m on the low empathy end due to the environment I grew up in, I can try to be empathic all I want, all I manage is to understand people cognitively but one very important part of empathy,  feeling what the other person might be feeling, is always missing. I think your question list to dial up empathy is very helpful and I wonder if there are more such questions. Could you post a more elabourate question list? I would very appreciate that! Being low on empathy and not being able to be otherwise although it\u0027s so crucial for friendships and relationships is really constricting. 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