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id=\u0022comment-19975\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/19975#comment-19975\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/19975#comment-19975\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003Epassion\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EAnonymous (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 15 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/how-be-street-smart-handle-life-threatening-situations\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHello,\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nin one article you mentioned you are (were) of the most dispassionate person. Did this help you be more passionate? I mean like you once said you stood in the crossway in the street and let cars swing around you. I am this analytic, calculating person, I think I am grounded person. That I do not just flip out, go crazy emotionally. But that might be because I am introverted. But second conclusion might be also that I am not passionate. I am think I have passion in sports, when I play with friends I am usually into that and when I do some great move I get emotional boost - confidence, inner pride, self-respect and such things. Until then I am just inhibited and feel like one of the many in the field.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nWhen do I have to start being passionate with girls? In bed? On dates? The first time I meet them?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1278\/19975\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20634\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20634#comment-20634\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20634#comment-20634\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ERe: passion\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 23 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/how-be-street-smart-handle-life-threatening-situations\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/19975#comment-19975\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EAnon-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EPassion you want to begin conveying with women immediately - there are several ways to do that effectively, though for me effectively it\u0027s mostly through \u003Ca href=\u0022\/content\/eye-contact-flirting\u0022\u003Eeye contact\u003C\/a\u003E and \u003Ca href=\u0022\/content\/7-facial-expressions-drive-women-wild\u0022\u003Efacial expressions\u003C\/a\u003E.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAs for learning it, standing in the middle of traffic does not help you to become more passionate (might help you to become more \u003Cem\u003Edead\u003C\/em\u003E... I was merely fortunate when I pulled that and other stunts off - only takes one nudge from one car to turn you into a pinball bouncing back and forth between cars and ultimately getting run over); for me, it was mostly about simulating the right emotions at the right times - eventually I trained myself to FEEL those emotions at the appropriate times; so, mostly just training, same as anything else.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI do have this down for an upcoming article... so when I get around to that, you can expect more on it!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1278\/20634\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-21292\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/21292#comment-21292\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022lucifer\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022lucifer\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022lucifer\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022lucifer\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/21292#comment-21292\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EStanding in the middle of the road..\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003Elucifer (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Wednesday, 1 January 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/how-be-street-smart-handle-life-threatening-situations\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/20634#comment-20634\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003E.. That and walking in the rough part of town on purpose, as it seemed, definitely aroused my curiosity :).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI was doing a bit the same, putting a bag on my shoulder and setting off without phone, time tables and similar and most thought I was crazy\/interesting and liked it, but actually I pushed myself to go through it.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhat was that for in your case, where you trying to learn\/test something in particular?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1278\/21292\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-19980\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/19980#comment-19980\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Zac\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Zac\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Zac\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Zac\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/19980#comment-19980\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EThe best article since \u0026quot;The last post you\u0026#039;ll ever need\u0026quot;\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EZac (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 15 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/how-be-street-smart-handle-life-threatening-situations\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EChase,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI hope this spread across somewhat. I believe this will help, and i definitely use some of this stuff here.What you write here can keep wallet in pockets and put yourself in lesser trouble.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI am surprised, because i am not as well travelled as you, but which country and city really that dangerous? or perhaps places like alleyways which is what you mean. You noted long time ago was Mongolia, the club incident where punching occured.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EZac\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1278\/19980\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20635\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20635#comment-20635\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20635#comment-20635\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EDangerous Places\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 23 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/how-be-street-smart-handle-life-threatening-situations\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/19980#comment-19980\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EZac-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESome parts of poor, urban American cities (Baltimore, Camden, Compton, etc.) I\u0027ve visited are relatively dangerous. I walked alone through the slums of Baltimore when it was the U.S.\u0027s murder capital when I was in high school (my parents were furious when I told them, and still bring it up when they feel like questioning my judgment - though I can\u0027t say I blame them). Some parts of Washington, D.C., my old home and the States\u0027s current murder capital, are pretty bad; I walked through an especially bad part one night with a black friend built like a football linebacker, and he was jumping out of his skin the entire time (I had to tell him to calm down, unless he wanted to attract the very people he was afraid of right to us).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOutside of the U.S., I\u0027ve done Makati, Manila, where virtually everywhere is guarded by men with assault rifles (a friend warned me not to go outside at night without a Filipino with me, and I obeyed; he said go out with a Filipino, and no one will touch you, but go out alone, and you stand a good chance of being ganged up on); Ulaanbaatar, Mongolia, where musclebound men with nothing to lose get into street fights even in broad daylight, sometimes ending up in 3- or 4-on-1 brawls that not everybody survives; Lima, Peru, where there are metal bars on everything, more guards with guns, and robbery is extremely common; and other places. I\u0027d planned to do Bogot\u00e1, Colombia a while back, on a semi-permanent basis, but a few friends warned me you\u0027d still get ganged up on by guys with knives and one friend said half the foreigners he met in Columbia had been robbed. Certain parts of Eastern Europe I hear are bad, and much of Africa is supposedly especially bad - some parts of Africa you\u0027re ill-advised to bring women back to your residence, because they will have weapons on them or will call in their friends to come relieve you of your belongings.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBasically, there are plenty of places that you don\u0027t need to be so on-guard... but there are plenty where it\u0027s good to be on your toes, too.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1278\/20635\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-19984\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/19984#comment-19984\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Jonas\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Jonas\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Jonas\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Jonas\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/19984#comment-19984\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EHello,\nI sorry for not\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EJonas (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 15 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/how-be-street-smart-handle-life-threatening-situations\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHello,\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nI sorry for not commenting on the topic.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nThis morning, I stumbled to a profile of some guy on Facebook because his profile picture looked like those wedding pictures, where he and the bride share a light kiss in arms of others. So I wanted to see it better. The girl he is with is a girl I am madly in love with. I met her in class 2 years ago and she kinda seemed perfect. She is really not ordinary. I realized I really am no match for her but that photo gave me the most painful back-freeze. The reason is I sometimes talk to her in my head, when I read your articles, I am visualisating it with her in conversation. I thought kinda never thought about consequences of this. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe guy is cool, he seems very sociable and likable. The problem is this feeling of how women have it easier in life. And I cant shake it off. I used to think and tried to convice myself that they do not. How they always wonder, how men lie to them, how job interviews are harder and getting a job is harder, how they are bombarded by standards of beauty.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nBut now I realized they do not have to care about this shitty anxiety. They have their girlfriends with whom they can talk and talk, they laugh and have fun. While we guys usually see each other maybe once a week or sometimes even a month because we have a lot of shit to do.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nI mean they have this foundation that some of us just do not, they are objects of desire because of their beauty and are socially calibrated because they had some advantage early in life and now they just profit. My semester started 3 months ago, I have no time to see my friends, I might exchange couple of messages on Facebook but that does not cover my social needs. I mean I am alone and these girls never know what it is like. Even thought I feel great when I see her, the moment we part our ways I feel horrible. Because the moment is gone, I dont know when I will see someone I like again and such things. When I try to come up with some night outting people usually tell me they are busy, cant make it and such.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut the real problem I writing all this is I am really becoming sick of this and am about to start hating all these girls. Why the fuck should I show my best self to them just so they can put me in their boxes in their lifes and get to the wheel of the current or even the future possible relationship I have or will have with them? I am starting to think that their whole behaviour is just a pretending, a mask. They all say things and do complete opposite. They make you feel like you are someone unique to them and then they ditch you, give you some shit excuse. I am becoming really bitter over this and I do not really know what to do. I just dont want to feel this frustration and be resentful but when will it be next time some girl does this to me? How am I supposed to defend myself against this when I do not have that much experiences with women. With those who are always bombarded with tons of attention, invitations, opportunities. Those who have their basic social needs met. As a guy my duty is to create these opportunities for myself and it seems that I should also create opportunities for others. But noone creates them for me and I am like, why should I offer something, even me and my time and kindness and good will to someone who then DECIDES if he wants to take it or not.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nWhen I approach, they play games, flake, they basically take the wheel and control the whole shitty mating process because they have the vagina and their basic social needs are met so they just sit back with hands under head and pick. We do the same and disqualify them even before we approach, yes. But they just take our mental investment, our emotions tied to the whole proces of courting and manipulate it for their own personal needs. And that is what bothers me. I understand they want best guy. I sadly even understand that they like attention, they want back ups but I feel like I am gonna explode, start hatting them all for this, even thought I can see their point of view and just forget all that and start being selfish. Become a jerk. Real asshole just to women. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI am realizing this comes from a point of giant frustration.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nI realize that many things I typed here happened because of my own mistakes and are my fault. There are so many variables that play role in what I just desribed. But bear with me, please.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhere am I supposed to get the innter, mental strenght in order to become more social, better in these things and get to the level of these girls, if I have no place where I can replenish my strenght? My social energy? When I talk to friends (guys - females really do not like me) about this shit, they just say \u0022dude, just some bitch, let it go. *to others* So the game last night... bla bla\u0022 So I end up doing things alone like working out, running, riding bike. When a girl has guy problem, she just talks about that shit with her friends, they make her feel better. They go to club and have fun and she WILL forget pretty soon. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut we, the underdogs, we have no foundation, we have to build it first and I am not really sure how to do that. And if we do not have that much of mental energy we are quite doomed because we need more time to refill. I have been on 76 dates in my life (I am 23), it never went to anything. Some liked me, some did not. Some played games, some just ditched me. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI just do not know how to fix my social needs. I feel I need more friends first, but... you kinda better not be a loser if you want to hang out with someone. And your advise on this was \u0022frontload your value\u0022. But what value? Personal value? Material value? All these people I get in contact with have this foundation of friends already. It feels like giant catch-22 to me. And makes me question everything I do, everything I have done because there are no real results to it. And it is even harder to think about that if I am frustrated like this. I mean, people who have friends are cool and not worried that much because they have friends and have someone they can hang out, talk to, share ideas. And then, there is me, the lone wolf, who only makes good first impression because I learnt how to mask the shitty side of me. I laught with people in class, we joke around, tease each other and then the class ends. I am not able to see what people need, what they want. Suggesting someting to them seems out of place for me.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI am at the bottom now. Like in a well without water, looking at the top where everyone else is, happy, jiggley with others. And I want to just stay there, in the mud, sitting alone. While the second part is telling me this shit is horrible and I should climb up. Or like doing some crazy shit but that will help me only shor term, not long therm, because it does not solve the problem.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1278\/19984\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20636\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20636#comment-20636\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20636#comment-20636\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EThe Battle Within\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 23 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/how-be-street-smart-handle-life-threatening-situations\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/19984#comment-19984\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EJonas-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI understand. I went through exactly the same thing, and had the\nsame emotions, looking up at what *seemed* like everybody else living\namazing, wonderful lives, and there I was, the ONLY guy left on the\noutside.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThere\u0027s you - the guy with nothing, who doesn\u0027t get it, who\u0027s left\nout. And there\u0027s everybody else, laughing and smiling and having it\ngreat.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYou don\u0027t realize until you make it to the other side, but most of\nthe people who look like they\u0027re having it great are dealing with\nmountains of their own problems; they\u0027re just doing \u003Cspan\nstyle=\u0022font-style: italic;\u0022\u003Eokay\u003C\/span\u003E enough that they\u0027re able to\npretend like everything\u0027s happy and swell, which they kind of have to\ndo, because if you let on that you\u0027re scared for the future or don\u0027t\nknow what you want or feeling sad or rejected or depressed, people\nstart running away from you like you\u0027ve got the plague.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf I had to rank the levels of happiness of people in ascending\norder, I\u0027d rank it something like this:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cul\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003EGuys without social success at the bottom (you\u0027re lonely and life\nsucks)\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003ERegular, average girls\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003ERegular, average guys\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003ETop caliber girls\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003ETop caliber guys\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ERegular girls want regular guys, but can\u0027t hold onto them... though\nat least they get plenty of attention from guys with no social success,\nand the regular guys sleep with them and date them sometimes.\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ERegular guys want top caliber (really hot) girls, but can\u0027t get\nthem... but at least they have some success with regular girls.\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ETop caliber girls want top caliber guys, but can\u0027t get them...\nthough they get plenty of attention from regular guys, and the top\ncaliber guys sleep with them and date them sometimes.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ETop caliber guys basically just do whatever they want.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe challenge is making the transition from \u0022no social success\u0022 to\n\u0022top caliber guy\u0022 - which you can do, and which just turns your\nhappiness levels on your head - you go from \u0022nothing\u0022 to \u0022everything\u0022,\njust about. Only thing is, it isn\u0027t overnight, and takes a LOT of work.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027d probably recommend starting out with these articles - it sounds\nlike your biggest challenge right now is not the battle without, but\nthe battle within:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cul\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca\nhref=\u0022\/content\/most-important-thing-becoming-lover-women-dont-be-bitter\u0022\u003EMost\nImportant Thing to Becoming a Lover of Women? Don\u0027t Be Bitter.\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/how-overcome-depression\u0022\u003EHow to Overcome\nDepression\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf you can bite off what\u0027s in those two and tackle them head on,\nyou\u0027ll start seeing movement in a positive direction in every other\narea of your life purely as a side effect of this.\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/p\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1278\/20636\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20659\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20659#comment-20659\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Jonas\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Jonas\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Jonas\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Jonas\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20659#comment-20659\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EThank you.\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EJonas (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 23 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/how-be-street-smart-handle-life-threatening-situations\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/20636#comment-20636\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EThank you.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1278\/20659\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-19996\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/19996#comment-19996\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Whiz kid\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Whiz kid\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Whiz kid\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Whiz kid\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/19996#comment-19996\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EGreat article chase\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EWhiz kid (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 15 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/how-be-street-smart-handle-life-threatening-situations\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EAs a practioner of brazilian jiujitsu I treat the act and study of self defense very important. And while I\u0027m sure I could take one unarmed attacker easily lots of situations require just avoiding if possible!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1278\/19996\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20002\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20002#comment-20002\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Bar\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Bar\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Bar\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Bar\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20002#comment-20002\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EThanks chase\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EBar (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 15 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/how-be-street-smart-handle-life-threatening-situations\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EI was one of the people that ask fot that article..\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nto my regret, I didn\u0027t had time to read you recent articles, it\u0027s so time consuming (but good time :D),\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nBut, added it to my reading queue at the top..\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThank you.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1278\/20002\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20004\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20004#comment-20004\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022titch\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022titch\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022titch\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022titch\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20004#comment-20004\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EThank you\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003Etitch (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 15 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/how-be-street-smart-handle-life-threatening-situations\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EThis article came at a great time. My travels begin in exactly one month and I\u0027ve been quite worried about being mugged. One night about one month ago I ended up having to walk home alone after being out at the club, and I thought I was in a safe part of town but the guy came out and took all my stuff. Was unsettling but at least I\u0027m a lot wiser about it now!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1278\/20004\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20009\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20009#comment-20009\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/marty\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/picture-5471_0.gif\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Marty\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Marty\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/picture-5471_0.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Marty\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Marty\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20009#comment-20009\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EWanton pickpocketing\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/marty\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/marty\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EMarty\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 15 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/how-be-street-smart-handle-life-threatening-situations\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EChase, this was a most interesting article that in some surprising ways ties in with the social dynamics described on the remainder of this site (opening, auto-rejection, compliance testing etc.)\u2014which just shows that these are generic human social patterns (or even primate ones) rather than being exclusively sexual.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYour recommendations make perfect sense (I find I do a lot of it already, but I still learned quite a bit) and make me want to head the other side of the tracks right now to try it out! Kidding, of course :)\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhat you related about your days in Mongolia with a man literally trying to lift your computer off your back reminded me of a similar occasion in my own life. About 10 years ago, I was INSIDE a Moscow late-night restaurant at about midnight when I caught a man with his hand inside the pocket of my sportcoat which was hanging on the back of my chair. And this was in a city where practically every office building, store and entertainment venue has ARMED security at the door.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EContinuing to follow your site with relish and curiosity!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E-Marty\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1278\/20009\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20024\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20024#comment-20024\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20024#comment-20024\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EJapanese Women ~ could she be a virgin?\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EAnonymous (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 15 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/how-be-street-smart-handle-life-threatening-situations\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHi Chase,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ERecently I met a japanese woman who is approaching 30 and she is older than me by 6 years. She\u0027s a business school girl studying here at my university and I have gone out for a total of 3 dates with her, (2 dinner dates and 1 lunch date).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFor all three cases, when I tried to go in for a hug initially, she would not even reciprocate and she seemed uncomfortable with even a hug. I told her one time to touch my face since it was very cold (for fun) and she used the back of her hand to briefly touch it hesitantly. Other than this, she seems like a very engaging girl and speaks quite emphatically.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EShe has lived with her parents all her life in Japan until recently moving to the united states about 4 months ago to study her MBA. I have HEARD that Japanese women can be very unconservative in bed but I just have no idea how to deal with her. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBoth times at dinner, she seemed uncomfortable with any touch that I just gave up asking her home thinking it would be too much. Now I have a winter break and would like to see her again but don\u0027t know exactly what to do since I dont want her to potentially freak out if I take her home, try to put a move on her and she\u0027s not on the same level as me.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAlso, with older Japanese women (29-30), would they have friendzoned me at this point if I didn\u0027t make a move? Thank you Chase!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1278\/20024\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20061\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20061#comment-20061\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/marty\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/picture-5471_0.gif\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Marty\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Marty\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/picture-5471_0.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Marty\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Marty\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20061#comment-20061\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EJapanese and touching\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/marty\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/marty\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EMarty\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 16 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/how-be-street-smart-handle-life-threatening-situations\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/20024#comment-20024\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey Anon,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI do not want to interfere before Chase has a chance to respond to you, however I couldn\u0027t help noticing this issue and wanted to contribute to the discussion\u2014I take it you\u0027re aware of Japanese cultural norms regarding touch? See article below for example.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022http:\/\/www.japaneserelationship.com\/physical-contact-and-japanese-women\/\u0022\u003Ehttp:\/\/www.japaneserelationship.com\/physical-contact-and-japanese-women\/\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThat said I am taking a backseat now and extremely interested to hear what Chase has to say on the issue.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E-Marty\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1278\/20061\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20637\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20637#comment-20637\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20637#comment-20637\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EHugging and Touch\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 23 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/how-be-street-smart-handle-life-threatening-situations\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/20024#comment-20024\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EAnon-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHugging is a very platonic \/ \u0022just friends\u0022 type of gesture - I\nthink it\u0027s tolerated by women in America \/ Western Europe, because of\nall the equality that attempts to remove sex from the\nequation as much as possible, but for a woman coming from an area where\nwomen are women and men are men it can be kind of disconcerting - are you\ntreating her like your sister? Are you trying to cop a feel (as\nJapanese men are wont to do)? What\u0027s the purpose of this gesture?\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI understand the intention behind it - when I was just starting out,\nI used to hug girls too - a hug is a pretty full-on amount of touch,\nright? That was the reasoning, anyway. You\u0027re actually better off keep\ntouch casual, light, and incidental, rather than going for a hug...\nthose are best saved for female friends (sometimes), relatives, and\nlong-term girlfriends who need some emotional reassurance because\nsomething bad happened.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027d recommend checking out the articles on the site here about touch\n- there\u0027s a lot you can do with it, so long as you\u0027re doing it right;\nstart with the first article here, and work your way down:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Col\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/7-ways-touch-girl-3-ways-have-her-touch-you\u0022\u003E7\nWays to Touch a Girl + 3 Ways to Have HER Touch YOU\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/book-excerpts-4-ways-touching-women\u0022\u003EBook\nExcerpts: 4 Ways for Touching Women\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/tactics-tuesdays-how-touch-women-scientific-way\u0022\u003ETactics\nTuesdays: How to Touch Women (the Scientific Way)\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/book-excerpts-mastering-sexual-touch\u0022\u003EBook\nExcerpts: Mastering Sexual Touch\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ol\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1278\/20637\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20027\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20027#comment-20027\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20027#comment-20027\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EBaby Face Tips\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EAnonymous (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 15 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/how-be-street-smart-handle-life-threatening-situations\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EGreat article as always Chase!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EDo you have any special advice for those of us who suffer from a terrible case of baby face. I look a lot younger than I am and I feel like I have a \u0022please rob me\u0022 type face. My \u0022intimidating\u0022 face always yields a lot of laughter from my friends. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBasically, what can a thinner, younger looking, and not very intimidating person do? I imagine we can follow some of the advice, but is there anything additional you can recommend (aside from the obvious, avoiding the situation)?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1278\/20027\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20122\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20122#comment-20122\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20122#comment-20122\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EExtending the baby face question to seduction\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EAnonymous (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Tuesday, 17 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/how-be-street-smart-handle-life-threatening-situations\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/20027#comment-20027\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003ENot trying to hijack your question, but it\u0027d be nice if Chase could extend his answers to seduction as well. I find it rather disadvantageous to have a baby face in the context of social interaction and seduction, despite being in my late 20s I still look like a teenager and as such are often not being taken seriously (except professionally, where my competence and abilities have already been established).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThat said, many women that I am interested in look much older\/mature than me despite the fact that they are a lot younger than me in terms of actual age. Tried having a stubble but perhaps being Asian my beard doesn\u0027t grow very well, and it doesn\u0027t really complement my look to be honest (I\u0027m more of the rocker type looks wise). My improved confidence and rather calm demeanour seem to help a bit but for now it seems to offset my boyish look slightly rather than helping to project a dominant vibe.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo it\u0027d be interesting if Chase has any advice for a tall, thin, boyish looking person that people usually don\u0027t take him seriously especially at first sight?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1278\/20122\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20638\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20638#comment-20638\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20638#comment-20638\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EBaby Face\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 23 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/how-be-street-smart-handle-life-threatening-situations\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/20122#comment-20122\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EAnon (\u0026amp; Anon)-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe solution for \u0022baby face\u0022 is mostly cosmetic - getting \u003Ca href=\u0022\/content\/facial-hair-styles-make-you-look-cool-sharp-and-sexy\u0022\u003Efacial hair\u003C\/a\u003E that makes you look tough\/older (a chinstrap or fuller beard, if you can grow them); hairstyles that make you look older (grow your hair out a bit, then visit a good stylist and tell him to give you a cut that makes you look both sexy and older\/distinguished); clothes (suits are a good one for adding age - stay away from t-shirts, usually, as these can drop a good decade off your apparent age); and muscles (pack \u0027em on and you just look more dominant - older if you look young, and more youthful if you look older; it\u0027s basically impossible to look like a kid when you have a neck as thick as a tree trunk).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYou can also practice speaking with a slower, deeper voice (as deep as you can naturally go without straining your voice or sounding unnatural), and using lots of \u003Ca href=\u0022\/content\/tactics-tuesdays-using-pregnant-pause-conversations-women\u0022\u003Epauses\u003C\/a\u003E that slow down your speech. Also, move more slowly - gestures, walking speed, how fast you turn your head, move your eyes, and even blink. How fast you chew. How fast you drum your fingers when you do that. Everything.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EA good way of thinking about it is \u0022ratchet up your dominance indicators\u0022 such that people start becoming age-blind to you; so that they don\u0027t see age... all they see is dominance.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1278\/20638\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20051\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20051#comment-20051\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20051#comment-20051\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EGetting over love\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EAnonymous (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 16 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/how-be-street-smart-handle-life-threatening-situations\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EChase really think I need a bit of help with this one and your the best person I know to ask.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHow do I get over a girl I used to love a year ago?  It was my first true love and the fact that I never actually told her because I felt to nervous makes it even harder.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u0027s so annoying the way I keep thinking back etc etc, would be nice to move on?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThanks\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1278\/20051\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20639\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20639#comment-20639\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20639#comment-20639\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ERe: Getting over love\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 23 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/how-be-street-smart-handle-life-threatening-situations\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/20051#comment-20051\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EAnon-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ECheck out these two articles - they\u0027re all about exactly this:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cul\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca\nhref=\u0022\/content\/cant-stop-thinking-about-her-heres-why-you-need-meet-more-girls\u0022\u003ECan\u0027t\nStop Thinking About Her? Here\u0027s Why You Need to Meet More Girls\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/get-over-your-ex-13-steps-emotional-freedom\u0022\u003EGet\nOver Your Ex: 13 Steps to (Emotional) Freedom\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/p\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1278\/20639\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20070\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20070#comment-20070\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Troy\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Troy\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Troy\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Troy\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20070#comment-20070\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EDangerous Situations\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003ETroy (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 16 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/how-be-street-smart-handle-life-threatening-situations\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey Chase,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E               Superb article. this article basically cleared up my answers on dealing with dangerous men and situations as i commented on \u0022 Navigating the Culture of Me\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n\u0022, Article. i saw your reply and i had a few questions to ask based on your comment to me and this article.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E1) You stated that in dangerous situations i remove anything that is a \u0022get\u0022 for someone. When it comes to me peacocking my fashion to meet girls, does that mean that everytime i will have to leave my house with raggy old clothes and a old bag with my good clothes to change off when i reace safer places. This sounds really stressful but safety comes first i guess! What are your thoughts on this situation?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E2) If a group of guys have already seem me afraid of them, do all the slow walking still apply when they run see me and cat call\/ insult after me?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E3) If the dangerous guys were to see me and shout out to me \u0022yo gay man or yo b***yman or yo youth who a kiss up him man\u0022, how should i answer in these situations when walking past them. when it comes to highly offensive insults like these, how do i react with body language, nonverbals and replying to the offenders?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAny advice is greatly appreiated! Thanks!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ETroy!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1278\/20070\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20640\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20640#comment-20640\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20640#comment-20640\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ERe: Dangerous Situations\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 23 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/how-be-street-smart-handle-life-threatening-situations\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/20070#comment-20070\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003ETroy-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ERemoving all things of value from your person depends how dangerous the situation is. That said, I think you said before that you fear for your life, so that\u0027s one where I\u0027d definitely say that it\u0027s best to just have nothing on you that people want if you must keep going through that (though, again, if you legitimately fear for your life, it does NOT make sense staying in that situation - you need to do whatever you can to get somewhere safer, because no cost is greater than your life).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESlow walking isn\u0027t going to make a difference if people already know who you are and have decided you\u0027re a mark. Anything differently you do from that point forward will just seem like you\u0027re trying to pretend you\u0027re different now, and will invite testing to find out whether this is backed up by reality or not - you\u0027ll only invite tougher scrutiny by changing things up now. Not something to do unless you know you can back it up with legitimate toughness that will hold up under whatever pressure they put you under. If you aren\u0027t sure of that, don\u0027t invite the added scrutiny - just keep doing what you\u0027re doing.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ERe: insults, the best thing you can do is what\u0027s prescribed for this in the article. Don\u0027t engage with them; don\u0027t fight back; don\u0027t COMPLETELY ignore them, either. Just give them very moderate acknowledgment, and act like, \u0022Geez.\u0022\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1278\/20640\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20072\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20072#comment-20072\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Troy\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Troy\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Troy\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Troy\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20072#comment-20072\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EEx Girlfriends Becoming Friends with Them\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003ETroy (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 16 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/how-be-street-smart-handle-life-threatening-situations\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey Chase.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E Ive got a question regarding to an exgirlfriend of mine. My objective with her in my life now is to move her into a friend zone and friends with benefits where we can mostly hang out but if i want sex then i can get it. WQe broke up in december 2012 and were together for two months. since we broke up, i have been texting and calling every now and again since then. i followed the no contact rule for most of the time so maybe every 2 months i would contact her ( and it was a struggle ). she never contacts me and i feel bad about this. so i decided to cut contact with her and its been two months now. my questions are:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E1) How do i get my exgirl to come meet me for lunch?\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n2) I didnt sleep with her during the time we were together. i regret not doing it when she wanted sex( that is why i think she left me) because i didnt have my logistics sorted out not even a condom on me. how do i get her to sleep with me and close the deal?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E3) If she doesnt reply to my calls and texts, how do i finally move on from her and take her out my life completely?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E4) I still havent changed myself fully into an attractive man yet. this girl got me so upset that i finally decided to do something about my attractiveness should i meet up with my exgirl if she says yes and nothing much has really changed with me since? i want to remain friends with my exgirlfriends so how do i go about continuing to have these girls in my life as friends?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E5) How do i get my exgirls to contact me first?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E6) Chase, you talk about having a greater purpose in life than getting girls. now i find myself thinking about girls obssesively. i think it may be because i know that i should be improving my skill set with girls since i am at the bottom of that scale now but i keep pushing it away to do other things with my life. do you think this is a normal gut level instinct that is telling me to start meeting girls right now or else my thoughts wont go towards doing other things in my life until i hit getting girls and my social life down cold? what are your thoughts on this mindset situation?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E7) I know you talk about forgetting about exgirls, girls that i havent slept with but i still want to remain friends with these girls. why do you say its a time waste to deal with and come back in contact with an exgirlfriend? correct me if im wrong here please, im not sure if thats exactly how you put it! \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThanks Chase!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E-Troy\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1278\/20072\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20641\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20641#comment-20641\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20641#comment-20641\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ERe: Ex Girlfriends Becoming Friends with Them\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 23 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/how-be-street-smart-handle-life-threatening-situations\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/20072#comment-20072\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003ETroy-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThis is one I don\u0027t feel properly equipped to help out with, unfortunately. Partly it\u0027s because I realize it\u0027s a high school situation, where the rules are probably different than in \u0022real life\u0022; the other is that she\u0027s an ex you weren\u0027t sexual with... for me, in my lifetime, if I failed to sleep with a girl, she was off my radar, more or less, and it was onto the new one.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo I\u0027m not sure how you\u0027d get back a girl who left you for not sleeping with her, then convert her into a friend and maybe sleep with her later on - that one\u0027s way outside my realm of experiences! You might try posing the question to the boards (think I saw a similar question to this from you on there, in fact) - there might be someone with a similar experience who can more competently weigh in.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1278\/20641\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20081\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20081#comment-20081\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022cking\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022cking\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022cking\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022cking\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20081#comment-20081\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003Escan less but scan better.\nan\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003Ecking (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 16 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/how-be-street-smart-handle-life-threatening-situations\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003Escan less but scan better.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nan exercise my instructor got me to do was to focus on a stop for 5 seconds and then close my eyes. he would ask questions about the lay out of the room, the exits, groups of people, improvised weapons etc.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003Eonce keyed in your subconscious knows the answers.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003Etry asking it who is dtf, assuming you have trained it to realise what dft looks like\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1278\/20081\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20107\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20107#comment-20107\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022jared\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022jared\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022jared\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022jared\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20107#comment-20107\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EOne of the best articles IVe\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003Ejared (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Tuesday, 17 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/how-be-street-smart-handle-life-threatening-situations\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EOne of the best articles IVe ever read. Thorough and extremely useful. It really takes things to a whole another level. I am wondering though how long does it take a weak, submissive Guy to become strong, dominant man? Is a gradual change more effective or one where you force the other extreme and \u0022fake it til you make it?\u0022 Is the key to success just sheer will power...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1278\/20107\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20642\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20642#comment-20642\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20642#comment-20642\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ETime to Change\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 23 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/how-be-street-smart-handle-life-threatening-situations\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/20107#comment-20107\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EJared-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u0027s different for everybody. Depends on where you\u0027re starting out from, where you\u0027re trying to get to, how much you\u0027re working on your skill set, how far outside your comfort zone you\u0027re pushing and how often, and a lot more. Some guys who seem weak are actually quite strong on the inside and just need to drop the \u0022shell\u0022 of over politeness \/ retreating tendencies they\u0027ve picked up somewhere along the way; other guys who appear outwardly strong have soft, weak interiors that take a lot longer to solidify (especially if those interiors rarely get tested because the guy does a good job keeping them protected).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EA good rule of thumb if you\u0027re trying to toughen up your inner mettle is to gradually put yourself in increasingly more challenging, high stress situations - not necessarily physically dangerous ones, but mentally challenging ones, doing things you are frightened to do (speaking or acting on stage in front of a large audience; cold calling random people you don\u0027t know; walking up to the hottest girl in the bar and opening her direct; starting your own business with no safety net; etc.). Anything that stretches you and tests you to the point where you feel like you\u0027re either going to break or burn out, so long as it doesn\u0027t completely destroy you, will see you coming out on the other end a much wiser, much stronger, and more more certain man than the one that went in.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1278\/20642\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20112\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20112#comment-20112\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20112#comment-20112\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EChase well done on this\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EAnonymous (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Tuesday, 17 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/how-be-street-smart-handle-life-threatening-situations\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EChase well done on this article as usual. Iv\u0027e been running into a few issues that are driving me a little crazy.Girls are auto rejecting me very quickly,acting cold,distant,and sometimes rude. People have told me I have model type looks.Im now also dressing a lot better with nicer looking clothes. The thing is though I am not usually attracted to the model type  girls,im more into girls that are curvy with cute faces. Am I hitting these girls in the face with value or something like that? It feels like I should stop working on fundamentals,cause  the more i improve myself the less results i get,or maybe that not the issue at all,im not sure. Could it be im not communicating interest soon enough?maybe i should work on slow sexy smiles instead of other things. Anyways theres to many I\u0027s in this comment,im not trying to boast at all.Im just frustrated that it feels like theres not enough time to communicate attainability to these girls,it\u0027s like there judging me before i start talking or engage them.  I read your attainability article and I apply those things as often as i can. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1278\/20112\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20643\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20643#comment-20643\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20643#comment-20643\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EAttainability\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 23 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/how-be-street-smart-handle-life-threatening-situations\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/20112#comment-20112\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EAnon-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThat\u0027s all attainability you\u0027re running into - you need a lot more\nof it. You don\u0027t want to tone down your fundamentals; what you want\ninstead is the kind of warmth and accessability as a person that even a\nreally ugly girl could meet you and feel right away like you were\npeering into her soul and saw the beauty in her. It\u0027s something you\u0027ll\nnotice a lot of male movie stars have going on - they\u0027d probably face \u003Ca\nhref=\u0022\/content\/secrets-getting-girls-staying-out-auto-rejection\u0022\u003Eauto-rejection\u003C\/a\u003E\nin droves if they didn\u0027t.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThese articles are probably the best ones on the site for helping\nyou get this one down:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cul\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/book-excerpts-being-attainable-women\u0022\u003EBook\nExcerpts: Being Attainable to Women\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/take-edge-using-humbleness-elite-man\u0022\u003ETake the\nEdge Off: Using Humbleness Like an Elite Man\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/tactics-tuesdays-how-be-warm-person\u0022\u003ETactics\nTuesdays: How to Be a Warm Person\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca\nhref=\u0022\/content\/tactics-tuesdays-learn-how-be-relatable-these-7-secrets-relatability\u0022\u003ETactics\nTuesdays: Learn How to Be Relatable with These 7 Secrets of Relatability\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/p\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1278\/20643\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20152\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20152#comment-20152\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Gem\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Gem\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Gem\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Gem\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20152#comment-20152\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EMoving Out\/Things You Can Someday Do\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EGem (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Tuesday, 17 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/how-be-street-smart-handle-life-threatening-situations\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey Chase \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EMy post here is going to be somewhat disjointed I feel but I\u2019ll still attempt to keep it as linear as I can and not ramble too much. The questions I ask in this post are more urgent, are crucial to my progression as a man, and coming from a more solemn tone than my usual curiosity inspired questions. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u2019m not very much the emotional type haha and don\u2019t feel particularly moved to \u201copen up\u201d about myself, but for the sake of providing proper context and necessary background I will start from something like this. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ERight now I\u2019m 19 years old. I\u2019m the first born child of 2 children and come from a conservative Muslim family (not too different from a conservative Christian family; it\u2019s been fairly liberal for me growing up in the U.S. but in other ways it is still restrictive. For example here, my parents think that I have never kissed a girl and expect me to be a virgin till marriage: everything I\u2019ve done with girls has been behind there back in that regard. Arranged marriage is very typical culturally for me but my parents are fine with me marrying outside arranged marriage so that\u2019s chill I suppose). \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI am ambitious and have a very good idea of what I want to do with my life (how to help others and how to further my own work) but am not sure of how to go about moving out. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EA majority of the things I\u2019ve done so far with my life my parents either don\u2019t understand, or don\u2019t relate, or couldn\u2019t know about so I had to do it behind their back. I\u2019m sort of fine with this I\u2019m just not sure how to go about moving out without hurting them and still having my relationship with them be good because I love them and understand that everything they say and do is because they want the best for me (the advice given in the unconventional life article on how to handle family was pretty resourceful here but I need more of a plan I suppose of what I should do). \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI wanted to quote a little from a comment of yours I had read a while back that ties in to my next bit\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n___________________________________________\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAs for my dating preferences, I usually date women with more masculine personalities, yeah. Outwardly, I prefer very feminine women -- sexy dresses, cute skirts, that sort of thing. Personality-wise, I\u0027m quite drawn to women who can challenge me and make me better and who are highly-growth orientated, and the types of women who fall into that category tend to be women with high levels of testosterone and more masculine personality traits like competitiveness, insensitivity, high sex drives, and hot tempers.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EMasculine girls are rather different in their relationships with me than they are with other men. With me, they\u0027re rather submissive and almost childlike; they have lots of questions and curiosity and view me as an authority figure and frequently want to know what I want to do so we can do it together. These same girls in their relationships with other men tend to walk all over them, tire of them easily, and not get emotionally attached to them. So, those pitfalls do exist, but I don\u0027t end up having to deal with them generally. I see a lot of other guys dealing with them, though.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFor me, it seems tied to a combination of intellect, ambition, and dominance; I\u0027m a somewhat smart dude who knows a little about a lot and has a lot of things he wants to accomplish with his life, knows exactly what he wants and what he stands for, and does what he wants and doesn\u0027t buckle and do things he doesn\u0027t want even when pressed, unlike most men. That\u0027s the way you need to be to do well with these women, but these women also help mold you into that kind of man as you spend more time with them. Women with masculine personality traits, in my estimation, will either bend you over backwards, or mold you into a more dominant, powerful man.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n____________________________________________\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nA couple of the older women I\u2019ve dated more seriously that were 24, 25 years old have really sort of opened my mind to my situation with moving out. With the masculine women it is exactly like you describe in the comment and I love it with the older career-oriented girls. In driving me to be a better man, one thing that I realized that both girls of mine here pointed out to me (something that I couldn\u2019t play off and that isn\u2019t proper here which they correctly assessed) is that I shouldn\u2019t be paid for by my parents and how there\u2019s something wrong in my current situation with them.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EMy parents pay for my school and they want me to become an engineer. Here I follow with my mouth closed. I want to be a writer and a business guy. I\u2019m not really interested in becoming an engineer but figure that if I\u2019m being paid for now, until I make the money I can to move out it\u2019s easier to just stay in this situation and avoid conflict. Being a guy who does things on his own terms, both girls noted this that this is something that I shouldn\u2019t be doing (and I realize here that it is something that makes me less of a man almost here because I\u2019m not doing something on my own terms at least currently). I realize that I\u2019m bad with conflict in general, that I don\u2019t like it. By nature I like warmth and good feelings and I\u2019m clever enough to get out of a situation that might bring about conflict but there is conflict here that needs to be addressed and I\u2019m not sure what the proper way to go about it all should be (in that my parents aren\u2019t hurt\/my progress isn\u2019t at the expense of our relationship). \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhat are your thoughts Chase on something that you can\u0027t do at a present moment but one day will do or intend to do? \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhen I was explaining this to my girl I had described it rather poetically my situation here as something that I can\u2019t do at a given moment but will one day do in the future. My girl here said no like shouldn\u2019t you do what you want and take action? I countered by explaining how where ordinarily that is something I would do, sometimes in life you don\u2019t have the means to do what you want and you have to endure and wait till one day you have the means to do what needs to be done, struggle, and eventually makes things work out in your favor. I gave my girl the example here of how when I was a child I was always the skinniest kid in the school and that while I got on well with others I didn\u2019t like being skinny. I knew then that I couldn\u2019t get stronger then but was content that one day I would have the means to and that I would get stronger in a later day. My girl wasn\u2019t completely convinced here and as eloquent and wise as my argument sounded, regarding my moving out situation, I\u2019m not entirely sure I\u2019m convinced here either. Action is worth more than inaction and I know that while I have been taking action around this situation indirectly perhaps something direct needs to be done.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThank you for always taking the time to answer my comments and for any bit of resourceful advice you could give me here (and sorry if this post was rather long-winded). \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E-Gem \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1278\/20152\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20645\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20645#comment-20645\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20645#comment-20645\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EFamily and Careers\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 23 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/how-be-street-smart-handle-life-threatening-situations\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/20152#comment-20152\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EGem-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBoth you and the girl have good points, although you\u0027re both viewing the situation through your own distorted lenses: yours of some mishmash of fear, dependency, loyalty, and love, and hers, of a more removed \u0022one situation --\u0026gt; one right answer\u0022 point of view that doesn\u0027t take into account the full range of emotions of all the people involved.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EEngineering is a very useful \u0022hard\u0022 skill, and you should have little trouble moving from that into business if you so choose; many of the people I worked with as business consultants in the corporate world came from engineering backgrounds, and a number of my friends who are successful entrepreneurs now trained as engineers before. Further, while you\u0027re in college, it\u0027s very easy to pick up an extra minor or two; these usually only add a few additional classes to your curriculum, and an engineering degree with a business-focused minor puts you in a very good position to navigate your way into all kinds of fields after school. I don\u0027t necessarily see this one as a conflict, and rather more just as one you\u0027ve got to be a little (but not even THAT) creative with to steer it in the direction you want it to go.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWriting you can work on in your own free time - I don\u0027t know many famous writers who specifically went to school for writing. A number of them never went to university, period. I do a fair bit of writing, and people seem to think my writing is not entirely unpleasant; I had all of two classes on writing in my four years of advanced education. The rest of my classes were on things like accounting and sociology and organizational management.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt strikes me that you might be creating conflict for yourself (and your parents, and your girlfriends) where it isn\u0027t needed - rather than fight about what your major ought to be, just add the right minors and focus on directing your engineering education (which is a good background to have - I wish I had some training as an engineer; it\u0027s GREAT to be able to build stuff\u2026 just a good skill set to have) into a career in the business world (business consultant or entrepreneur are the two that spring to mind as easy hops from \u0022engineer\u0022 to \u0022businessman\u0022).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAs for taking money from your parents\u2026 if you have a good alternate source of income, this is fine, but I question that council from those two girls. Who paid for THEIR college educations, I wonder? Personally, my parents footed the bill for much of mine, and I don\u0027t know what I would\u0027ve done education- or career-wise without their support; I was working as a tire salesman before they basically forced me into school (by getting very upset, and telling me they\u0027d pay for all of it if I\u0027d just GO, although I did still end up with some student loans I\u0027m still paying off).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYour parents are investing in your future because YOU are THEIR future\u2026 they want you to succeed. I went through a time in my life when I rejected all offers by my parents and family members to pay for or buy me things, but eventually I realized I was hurting them; sometimes, people just WANT to give you things or help you succeed, because it makes THEM feel good. Keep that in mind before you turn down or deny people\u0027s requests to help you out; so long as you aren\u0027t draining your parents\u0027 bank accounts or putting them in the poor house (i.e., they can afford your education all right), and the education is helping to ready you for a productive career that will help you to flourish and prosper (and one day give back to your parents, in time, money, and everything else that matters), at least in their minds, this is probably the best investment of that money they can make, and a big part of the reason they\u0027ve been working so hard their lives in the first place: to see you lead a better life, with more opportunity, and more success.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1278\/20645\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20176\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20176#comment-20176\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Balla\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Balla\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Balla\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Balla\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20176#comment-20176\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EGood Black Guy Game\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EBalla (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Tuesday, 17 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/how-be-street-smart-handle-life-threatening-situations\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey Chase can you give me a few more examples of good black guy game? Im very direct and I want to use this because indirect isn\u0027t working for me. Id like a little list of what I could use, please and thank you.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1278\/20176\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20178\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20178#comment-20178\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Balla\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Balla\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Balla\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Balla\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20178#comment-20178\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EBeing aggressive at work\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EBalla (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Tuesday, 17 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/how-be-street-smart-handle-life-threatening-situations\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027ve read the articles about sleeping with girls at work and I must say, I have to be direct and I want to, I just don\u0027t know how to do it without it being harassment. The way im following it from the other guys article, he says don\u0027t hit on them n shit and it feels like a waiting game for them to ask me out. I can\u0027t wait. My biggest problem is asking diff girls out and not having it being something to gossip about and cock blocking me with other girls thinking im trying to be a player. Appreciate the help.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1278\/20178\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20646\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20646#comment-20646\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20646#comment-20646\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ERe: Being aggressive at work\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 23 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/how-be-street-smart-handle-life-threatening-situations\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/20178#comment-20178\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EBalla-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027d rather have Colt or another one of my black friends write the article on black guy game; I can tell you what I see my friends use, but it\u0027s always better coming from the source! Anyway, it\u0027s not really all that different from anything else on this site\u2026 it\u0027s just with somewhat more emphasis on being playful, disarming, and light than what another race guy would use - there\u0027s more tension there if you\u0027re a black guy than if you\u0027re a white, Asian, or Latin guy, and you defuse that by being a bit more playful and light (while still being sexual).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAs for being direct with girls at work, that\u0027s not one I can help out with - when I\u0027ve picked up girls from work, I did it mostly the same as what Drexel talked about in his article on \u003Ca href=\u0022\/content\/how-have-sex-coworkers-and-get-laid-work\u0022\u003Egetting laid at work\u003C\/a\u003E: build up some flirting and tension, and ask the girl out under-the-radar (in my case, I\u0027ve usually preferred to wait until I was leaving a job, if not too far off in the future, since girls can get attached with me and the last thing I ever wanted was drama at the workplace). All I can really say there is\u2026 if you\u0027re going direct at work\u2026 do so at your own risk! And, make sure that if there\u0027s bad fallout, it isn\u0027t a job you mind losing all that much - otherwise, find other places to game and women to meet who aren\u0027t coworkers of yours (there are a LOT of women out there, and most of them don\u0027t work with you!).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1278\/20646\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20180\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20180#comment-20180\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022V\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022V\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022V\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022V\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20180#comment-20180\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EHow did you change people\u0026#039;s perceptions\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EV (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Tuesday, 17 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/how-be-street-smart-handle-life-threatening-situations\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EChase, I remember you saying you told your hs classmates that you were going to change and transform yourself and you did. How did you change their previous perceptions of you and how can I do the same? I moved away but I visit to the place I was born from time to time and I want them to see im different and is it easier because they haven\u0027t seen me in years? \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThank you!!!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1278\/20180\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20647\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20647#comment-20647\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20647#comment-20647\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EQuestions\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 23 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/how-be-street-smart-handle-life-threatening-situations\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/20180#comment-20180\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EV-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWith high school, I changed perceptions by prepping everyone for a big change, then coming back later on looking and acting differently than I had before. The priming (telling them I was releasing \u0022Chase Amante 2000\u0022) allowed me to deal with much of the pushback before the change even happened, so that by the time it went through it was already more or less an accepted fact of life that it would occur; and the actual transition was dramatic enough (going from a nerdy part down the middle to a slicked back bad boy hairstyle; ditching my big glasses for contact lenses; trading in my trench coat for a leather jacket; getting a cool red sporty car with a turbo engine; making a more concerted effort to be social, and cutting back on much of my over-the-top joke-making; etc.) that everyone was wowed.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf you\u0027re trying to reset opinions, just remember priming (what are you doing to prime them for the change?) and presentation (how big is the difference between how you look and act now, vs. how you did the last time they saw you?). The more and better the priming, and the more and larger the differences, the bigger the effect will be.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ERe: expecting people to approach\u2026 well, I don\u0027t! I don\u0027t expect anyone to do anything. The resources are here, if you want them. But if you don\u0027t do them, I\u0027m not going to come to your house and put you in an arm bar until you do. It\u0027s totally up to you. At least in my case, I had to hit rock bottom, multiple times, before I finally sucked it up and started cold approaching women. I just said \u0022Screw it, this is the ONLY way I get better\u0022, and did it. I\u0027d been telling myself I needed to for years before I finally began doing it regularly. You might be in a better place than I am, and have an easier time of it; or, you might just have to hit the bottom and get dragged along the bottom enough times that you reach the point where you decide the only way you get any better is by doing this, and damn your fear and the failure you face along the way because you\u0027ve exhausted every other option.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd as for not masturbating\u2026 it\u0027s more motivation than confidence. Think of each release as a little packet of motivation, spilled out onto the ground or a tissue. If you want to stay motivated, keep those motivation packets inside of you, driving you forward, instead of flushing them down the toilet or the shower drain.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1278\/20647\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20202\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20202#comment-20202\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20202#comment-20202\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ESocial classes and dynamics\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EAnonymous (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Wednesday, 18 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/how-be-street-smart-handle-life-threatening-situations\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EChase, I\u0027d like to increase my social skills, value, and connections. I dress like the average guy with a steady job and family, mostly khakis, button downs, sweaters and a nice watch. Now of course in every city you could classify people into either being rich, average or poor, and I would probably fall in between the former two. Naturally, people of similar archtypes tend to stick together, I make small talk with people regardless of class, but is it one of those cases where it doesn\u0027t socially make sense (for lack of a better word) to get to know and become friends with people of opposite class? It\u0027s not that I don\u0027t want to talk to them, it would seem awkward (i\u0027m sure for both sides) for a man in khakis and a stable lifestyle to be \u0022chillin\u0027 out\u0022 and \u0022hanging \u0022 with the hoodlums in the alleys of the city streets. I have no idea what we would talk about or how to maintain that kind of relationship. Your feedback would be appreciated. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1278\/20202\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20648\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20648#comment-20648\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20648#comment-20648\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ERe: Social classes and dynamics\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 23 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/how-be-street-smart-handle-life-threatening-situations\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/20202#comment-20202\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EAnon-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYeah, this can be difficult to do once you have an established identity in a certain class and circle. The easiest way if you have an established identity is taking on a close friend or girlfriend who already mingles in those different circles; e.g., you take on a Latina girlfriend who has mostly middle class friends, but also some friends from the other side of the tracks, and she brings you along to house parties in the Hispanic part of the hood every now and again. Or, you take on a buddy who works a few cubicles down from you, but his mama still lives in the ghetto and he goes there to visit her and hang out with his old high school friends, and he takes you with you because the two of you are friends and he thinks it\u0027d be a lark to take you out there and you\u0027re down for it too. You can get to talk to people far outside your normal circles on excursions like these, and because you\u0027re there with an accepted member of their circles, you won\u0027t get the skeptical treatment you might if you wandered into such a gathering uninvited.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOnce I had a more established identity, this was the main way that I continued interacting with people from far outside my usual circles - just go along when friends of yours visit their other friends who are much higher or lower than you on the socioeconomic ladder, and do your best to listen and probe (rather than talk about yourself and say things no one there can relate to). The more you learn about them, the easier of a time you\u0027ll have relating to them - and relating to other people you meet who are like them, too.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1278\/20648\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20298\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20298#comment-20298\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Mcjagger\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Mcjagger\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Mcjagger\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Mcjagger\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20298#comment-20298\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EPeople you meet putting down others and how to react.\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EMcjagger (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Thursday, 19 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/how-be-street-smart-handle-life-threatening-situations\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EGreetings Chase,\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nWhenever I meet new groups of people in different venues such as clubs, bars, and restaurants. I am not sure if this is how everyone is at these places but people like to talk a lot of shit about others, like really mean things; sometimes people I know they talk about, others I don\u0027t know. Either way I will be vibing good with these people then they say shit and it brings me down, and others will feel it from me and then a gap is created between us. Sometimes when this happens I just excuse myself to the restroom then do not comeback. In high school I would lose friends because of this, one time I was with a group of people in school and they would make fun of this person with autism. It would piss me off but one time they were throwing like chunks of food at this kid and the kid was screaming not sure where they were coming from and I yelled at them and told them to knock it off. They would just look at me like I am crazy and tell me to calm down. One time this one junior would haze this freshmen and pick on him and I was there and told him to stop, he just laughed so I pushed him, he did it back then we got in a fist fight, he came out on the bad end of it and then I got his girlfriend yelling at me saying I am crazy and should be in jail and his friends and parents giving me bad looks. Also, I lost a friend that I knew for a month cause we were walking on a street then he picks up little rocks and chucks them at a homeless cat, and I tell him to stop, and he tells me to grow a dick. I decided to not hang out with that guy.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI assure you I am not crazy and do not view myself as a victim(good article on that by the way); I make choices and there are consequences to every action, good or bad.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI remember you saying something when in groups of people to join in on the on making of fun of others, and the hazing cause it establishes a us vs them dynamic and makes you cool with them giving you a great chance to snag the girl. No offense Chase, but that is just not me, I don\u0027t care if it makes me seem like a loser,  I feel bad for the person on the receiving end of it.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nSo I have been thinking and actually I remember this one guy who would stick up for the guy or group but would just be like \u0022Naw I met that guy, hes cool, you guys got a bad impression\u0022 or something like that,then he would direct the  conversation to something else and it would be like nothing happened, they all would be vibing and laughing.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo Chase I think thats what I will try to do, but do you have any others tips for a style like that? What and what not to do, will this style limit my chance to get good with girls in the group or when you are with her by yourself?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1278\/20298\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20401\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20401#comment-20401\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Troy\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Troy\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Troy\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Troy\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20401#comment-20401\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EMaking enemies from previous friends for protecting others\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003ETroy (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Friday, 20 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/how-be-street-smart-handle-life-threatening-situations\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/20298#comment-20298\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey McJagger, although this is sddressed to Chase, i wanted to jump into this conversation. i think that what you are doing is standing up for other people which is very good of you. however, Chase recently wrote an article about nice people needing hard rules and in it he stated that people think diffrently than how you think. from what i see here. you have high empathy levels for others and dont want to see other people get hurt (which is great). what i might recommending you do in the future are 3 things:\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n1) try making friends with people who dont purposefully put down people. if this continues to occur with future friends, then maybe you are spending time with the wrong kinds of people. find better friends!\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n2) talk to the victim about what they may be doing wrong if you identify things they can change to avoid drawing too much attention to themselves.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n3) sometimes just sit back and remain non judjemental, dont get up from where you are and leave their company because they may get a impression of othering you out of your group and becoming enemies.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENote to Chase: this may be a good comment to write an article about Avoiding Making Enemies. i think this is a crucial part to learn to go about your life and not having people tear you down. Thanks\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E  However, these are just my ides so im waiting to hear what Chase has to say about this! All the best and seasons greetings!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ETroy\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1278\/20401\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20649\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20649#comment-20649\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20649#comment-20649\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ERe: People you meet putting down others and how to react.\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 23 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/how-be-street-smart-handle-life-threatening-situations\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/20298#comment-20298\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EMcJagger-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYeah, that\u0027s not a fun situation. I don\u0027t remember the context of me saying to join in on making fun of other people, but that\u0027s probably pretty important; I usually don\u0027t advise that. Maybe that was some specific case of something...? e.g., making fun of a celebrity might be okay ;)\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe key to getting people off of teasing other people is to not freak out about it (like your \u0022Naw, that guy\u0027s cool\u0022 friend). What you basically want is the \u0022tired, cool parent \/ teacher\u0022 vibe, where you kind of roll your eyes and slightly smile, as if you DO think it\u0027s kind of funny, but then you say, \u0022All right, all right, let\u0027s knock it off now before we break the poor cat\u0027s ribcage or something...\u0022 or \u0022Okay, that\u0027s enough, that poor kid\u0027s screaming now, just chill out... I know he\u0027s autistic, but he\u0027s not a bean bag. Or do you want the administration folks to come along and suspend everyone at this damn table...\u0022\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe formula is basically nonverbals of \u0022I think this is KIND of funny, but mostly just childish\u0022, then \u0022all right, all right\u0022 or \u0022okay, okay\u0022 or \u0022naw, naw\u0022 --\u0026gt; usually you repeat the word twice, in a casual, slow way (for some reason this establishes dominance, though I couldn\u0027t tell you exactly why it does so), then you calmly tell them to knock it off, and either communicate that they\u0027ve \u0022won\u0022 (\u0022the cat is scared now\u0022 \u0022the poor kid\u0027s crying\u0022), which is usually what they wanted, and then follow it up with a fear message (\u0022... you\u0027re going to kill that damn thing\u0022 \u0022... you\u0027re going to get us all arrested\u0022). That\u0027s enough to get most people to cool it off 90% of the time.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe other 10% of the time, you pretty much just have to get more serious: \u0022Dude, seriously - if you don\u0027t knock it off, I\u0027m going to mess you up.\u0022 Again, you say this in a half-amused, half-parental tone, but seriously enough that he knows you mean it. \u0022Dude, if you throw one more rock at that cat, I\u0027m going to throw a rock at YOU. I\u0027m serious. Want to find out if I\u0027m going to do it? Throw a rock. Come on. I dare you. I\u0027m looking at that rock over there... it\u0027s got your name all over it.\u0022 Always half-kidding, half-annoyed. \u0022One more piece of food thrown at that kid and I\u0027m going to shove that pickle down your throat. You can pretend you\u0027re deep throating it or something; I don\u0027t care. But that pickle\u0027s new home will be your throat.\u0022 The tone you use is amused enough that it doesn\u0027t raise the guy\u0027s \u0022confrontation\u0022 hackles, but it\u0027s still serious enough that it turns his focus away from whatever poor creature he\u0027s abusing and onto assessing the threat from you instead. If you\u0027re his friend and you\u0027re not fully up in arms, he\u0027ll usually decide it\u0027s better not to keep doing something that\u0027s obviously pushing your buttons... because what he\u0027s doing is trying to abuse some weaker being for power (the kid; the cat), and getting into a confrontation with a stronger being (you) is not going to work out quite as well.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1278\/20649\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20352\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20352#comment-20352\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022V\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022V\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022V\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022V\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20352#comment-20352\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EHow do you expect people to do this?\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EV (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Friday, 20 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/how-be-street-smart-handle-life-threatening-situations\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EChase,  how do you expect guys that never had success with women in their lives to approach random women they don\u0027t know? It might sound like im saying it in a bad way but im not, im just genuinely asking because,  you have a guy with no success under his belt and he has to approach women? I feel like it\u0027s extremely difficult. You know what im trying to say? How\u0027s a guy suppose to approach women he doesn\u0027t know and have the balls to do it when he never had success before? Where does a guy like that start so he can get his confidence up?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EP.s. When I was in my late teens for some reason approaching didn\u0027t feel so bad, but as I got older and even after I started reading this website, it feels harder to ask girls out than before, im only a few years older than 18, why is it like that now?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd i love how you\u0027re making article after article like old times, I love your articles. Thank you!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1278\/20352\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20390\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20390#comment-20390\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Wolf\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Wolf\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Wolf\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Wolf\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20390#comment-20390\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EDates at the house and sexier at work\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EWolf (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Friday, 20 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/how-be-street-smart-handle-life-threatening-situations\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EI Wanted to know how can I have dates at my house?  I really don\u0027t feel like going out then coming back,  id rather us just chill at my spot.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EQuestions are:\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n1.when girls ask what are we going to do?, (im talking about before telling them I want them to come over) what should I say?  I was thinking of saying \u0022you\u0027ll see\u0022, or should I just say watch a movie at my house?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E2. How do you move when your having a date at your house?  Do you still have to kiss her under 10 mins?  Or can I deep dive and take a little longer since this is our first date?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E3. How do I get these girls to come over?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI also wanted to know how can I be sexier at work? What more can I do to show off the sexiness?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd when the heck is that sexy 2.0 article coming out? \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThanks Chase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1278\/20390\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20484\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20484#comment-20484\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Wolf\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Wolf\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Wolf\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Wolf\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20484#comment-20484\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EEvery girl has a boyfriend\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EWolf (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Saturday, 21 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/how-be-street-smart-handle-life-threatening-situations\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EIm just tryna get my numbers up, so im trying to sleep with females I think that are attractive, this includes girls I work with. Every single attractive girl I work or worked with has a fucking boyfriend and has had a fucking boyfriend. It\u0027s crazy to me, not one single attractive girl I work with is single.  They\u0027re not lying either, I see them with their boyfriends .\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u0027s really frustrating. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E1. What should I do when a girl tells me this?\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n2. How should I keep my interactions with her from now on?\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n3. Am I not sexy enough? Because if I was these girls wouldn\u0027t tell me if they had a boyfriend right? \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThanks\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1278\/20484\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20526\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20526#comment-20526\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Wolf\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Wolf\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Wolf\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Wolf\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20526#comment-20526\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EIn more detail girl at work\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EWolf (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Saturday, 21 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/how-be-street-smart-handle-life-threatening-situations\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003ESorry for another comment but I wanted to tell you exactly what happened so I can know if to persist with this girl or not. When I was asking her to hang out she told me she had a boyfriend, and I kept persisting, she never said no, all she did was tell me how he was as a person, he\u0027s a good guy, and that they live together, buy never a no. She told me people gossip and i told her no one had to know. I still never heard a no, all i heard was different things, So I had to do my thing n I left. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI just want to know if I should just leave her alone or should I keep pushing and how to do it smoothly and get her to my home? \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThanks a ton\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1278\/20526\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20650\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20650#comment-20650\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20650#comment-20650\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EQuestions\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 23 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/how-be-street-smart-handle-life-threatening-situations\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/20526#comment-20526\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EWolf-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe \u0022let\u0027s hang out\u0022 date can be good. You can tell them you\u0027re\ngoing to make food and go on a picnic, then just have them come over\nand put together a picnic basket with you in your kitchen, then go to a\npark nearby (or your own backyard). After the picnic, go back to your\nplace to go watch a movie (in your bedroom, naturally\u2026 with the two of\nyou in bed under the covers \u0022It\u0027s more comfortable this way\u0022).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf it\u0027s your first date, unless it\u0027s on, you don\u0027t have to kiss her\nin under 10 minutes. But you shouldn\u0027t bring her to your bedroom until\nyou\u0027re ready for that; you\u0027ll use the transition to the bedroom and bed\nto prime the escalation.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESexiness at work is the same as sexiness everywhere - everything on\nthis site about sexiness applies as much at work as it does anywhere\nelse.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOn girls with boyfriends, see these two articles:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cul\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/girl-has-boyfriend-3-things-do-and-7-things-not\u0022\u003EGirl\nHas a Boyfriend? 3 Things to Do and 7 Things NOT to\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca\nhref=\u0022\/content\/says-she-has-boyfriend-heres-why-it-doesnt-matter\u0022\u003ESays\nShe Has a Boyfriend? Here\u0027s Why It Doesn\u0027t Matter\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E... although, yes, if girls are \u003Cspan style=\u0022font-style: italic;\u0022\u003Equickly\u003C\/span\u003E\ntelling you they have boyfriends (e.g., it\u0027s not after they\u0027ve known\nyou a long time, but rather right away), then that probably means\nyou\u0027re triggering the \u0022friend\u0022 switch. Also be aware that there\u0027s a lot\nof risk in social circle situations (including and \u003Cspan\nstyle=\u0022font-style: italic;\u0022\u003Eespecially\u003C\/span\u003E work), and women will be\nquicker to put you in the \u0022friend bucket\u0022 here than anywhere else.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ERe: the girl living with her boyfriend - the interesting thing to\nnote there is her protestation; it isn\u0027t, \u0022I love my boyfriend and I\u0027m\nnot interested in anyone else\u0022; rather, it\u0027s \u0022People gossip.\u0022 That\ntells you her main concern is NOT cheating on the boyfriend; the main\nconcern is simply doing it and being found out. If you can address that\nobjection, you probably get the girl. I\u0027d see Alek\u0027s article and\nPeter\u0027s article (respectively) on setting up discretion frames with\ngirls:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cul\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca\nhref=\u0022\/content\/how-have-discreet-sex-and-communicate-discretion\u0022\u003EHow\nto Have Discreet Sex (and Communicate Discretion)\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/killer-reputation-management-your-social-circle\u0022\u003EKiller\nReputation Management for Your Social Circle\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E... and also reread the one from Drexel on girls at work (which also\ndeals with discretion):\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cul\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/how-have-sex-coworkers-and-get-laid-work\u0022\u003EHow\nto Have Sex with Coworkers and Get Laid at Work\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1278\/20650\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20589\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20589#comment-20589\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Some Girl\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Some Girl\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Some Girl\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Some Girl\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20589#comment-20589\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EGreat Post\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003ESome Girl (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 22 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/how-be-street-smart-handle-life-threatening-situations\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003ESubconsciously I already do the frowny walk when I feel unsafe, although it is a good point you raise about the speed of the walk. Your method of the \u0027bored\u0027 look with non verbal communication also sounds very useful - if I can pull it off! However, as a girl it is hard to appear or feel \u0027powerful\u0027 when I walk. I am guess most people would suggest I have a chaperon when walking at night but that is not something I want to depend on. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHave you ever observed women in dangerous areas? If so, how do they present themselves to increase the \u0027protect\u0027 drive in others? I carry an umbrella with me (perhaps a misguided effort to appear to have a weapon) and obviously will dress appropriately if I suspect I have to pass through somewhere. Thoughts?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1278\/20589\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20651\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20651#comment-20651\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20651#comment-20651\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EWomen in Dangerous Areas\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 23 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/how-be-street-smart-handle-life-threatening-situations\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/20589#comment-20589\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003ESome Girl-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThat\u0027s a tough call. Because you\u0027re female, unless you\u0027re very tall or large, most men are naturally going to assume (and probably be correct in assuming) that they could overpower you if they so chose. Most of the women I see walking through dangerous areas - especially women who are dressed nice \/ clearly don\u0027t belong there - tend to be walking at a brisk pace, which I reason is correct for them - you\u0027re not going to intimidate a fully grown man by walking more slowly if you\u0027re a woman, so it\u0027s best just to up your walking speed and pass through as quickly as possible. There is *some* measure of \u0022the longer it takes you to pass through a place, the more time you give people to see you \/ decide to act on you\u0022; just don\u0027t run or look panicky, but step lively, and you\u0027re probably best off that way. If you have an angry \/ focused \/ determined look on your face, that and a brisk pace is usually going to be enough to make most potential accosters stop and reconsider.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe umbrella is a good idea, and I generally feel a bit more secure when carrying one through dangerous areas as well. The bigger and pointier it is, the better - especially if you\u0027re swinging it in one hand as you walk in that \u0022stabbing forward\u0022 way (where you\u0027re somewhat stabbing it out in front of you as you swing it forward - subconsciously, it makes you look more aggressive \/ dangerous).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI had an ex-girlfriend from South America who used to travel through VERY dangerous parts of town, and she\u0027d just always carry a set of brass knuckles on her. One time, when a guy tried to snatch her purse, she got to use them, too, and gave him a nasty blow to the cheek before running off (still with her purse).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1278\/20651\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-20609\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/20609#comment-20609\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022V\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022V\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022V\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022V\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/20609#comment-20609\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EBenefits? \u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EV (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 22 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/how-be-street-smart-handle-life-threatening-situations\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EChase what are the benefits of not masturbating? Im only talking about in general, not watching porn. Does it give you more confidence to approach and in life?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1278\/20609\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-21083\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/21083#comment-21083\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/alcaeus\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/picture-5465_0.jpg\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Alcaeus\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Alcaeus\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/picture-5465_0.jpg\u0022 alt=\u0022Alcaeus\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Alcaeus\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/21083#comment-21083\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EInstant Diffuser\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/alcaeus\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/alcaeus\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EAlcaeus\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 29 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/how-be-street-smart-handle-life-threatening-situations\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EBrilliant article Chase,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI love how you\u0027re expanding the website into a complete self improvement site with replete articles like this and . Keep up the work, bro.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI used to be an extremely religious kid. But like you and many of our seasoned readers are aware, take everything with a grain of salt. My faith in Christianity peaked many seasons ago, and though I  am not the most faithful or respectful toward the trinity, MANY people who are in the hood, ghetto, slum etc. carry a reverence for god.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhen APPROACHED, and the potential attacker asks you: Where you going? Do I know you? You lost? \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI always reply (In a super loud, inquisitive but deep voice). \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u0022Yeah, do you know where the church is?\u0022 \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThis always throws them for a loop! And I have to fight back my laughter at the sight of their dumbfounded face.  Next they will do one of two things. Tell you they don\u0027t go to church. OR Actually point you in the direction of church.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIn the former case just say, \u0022Well that\u0027s fine Sir, thank you for your help, God Bless You.\u0022 Then start walking off in your intended direction. Just as Chase previously stated, they stand or walk off completely flabbergasted as to what happened. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIn the latter case they will actively try to give you accurate directions to the nearest church. I personally get really into their directions with hand motions, repetition of their directions back to them and then a hug (if they aren\u0027t too hygienic a handshake will suffice). Like Chase said, when everything is good and done, ask for their name, then thank them. \u0022 Well Tyrone, thank you brother, God Bless you.\u0022 Then walk in the direction you were going, if it happens to be the opposite direction that the church is in and they tell you your going in the wrong direction, just say, \u0022I\u0027m going to pick up some coffee first.\u0022\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI am 19 and I have used this excuse 3x (2x in the last 6 months). 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