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id=\u0022comment-17368\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/17368#comment-17368\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/17368#comment-17368\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EFlirt back when she\u0026#039;s acting rude or aloof?\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EAnonymous (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Thursday, 21 November 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/breaking-rapport-you%E2%80%99ve-been-doing-it-wrong\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHi Chase,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EVery good advice here but in another article of yours,  you said that when the girl is acting superior, rude or aloof later on in the interaction, you should simply flirt back as though it\u0027s just a game and doesn\u0027t bother you at all.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ECan you possibly clarify and maybe elaborate further upon the differences between the two scenarios here?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1258\/17368\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-17386\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/17386#comment-17386\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/17386#comment-17386\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EAlso\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EAnonymous (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Thursday, 21 November 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/breaking-rapport-you%E2%80%99ve-been-doing-it-wrong\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/17368#comment-17368\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EI find testing unattractive although I know I need to get over this. However, is there a way to distinguish the difference between a girl who\u0027s testing with a girl with a bad attitude? I was dating a girl and whenever I experienced anything negative I couldn\u0027t tell the difference.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1258\/17386\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-18493\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/18493#comment-18493\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/18493#comment-18493\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EGirls with Attitude\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 1 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/breaking-rapport-you%E2%80%99ve-been-doing-it-wrong\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/17368#comment-17368\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EAnon-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYes - sorry if that\u0027s confusing. It\u0027s a matter of degrees\u2026 the bad\nbehavior I\u0027m talking about in this article is when a girl is being\ngenuinely cool toward you, vs. the flirty aloofness of later-stage\ninteractions (see the subheading \u0022When Girls Act Superior Later On\u0022 in \u0022\u003Ca\nhref=\u0022\/content\/what-do-when-girls-act-superior-rude-and-aloof\u0022\u003EWhat to\nDo When Girls Act Superior, Rude, and Aloof\u003C\/a\u003E\u0022) or the warm\/neutral\nrapport break you use when she\u0027s behaving that way with you early on\n(in the section of that article titled \u0022When Girls Act Superior Early\nOn\u0022).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ETesting vs. bad attitude is somewhat nuanced, because there\u0027re a lot\nof things it could be:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cul\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EShe could be testing to see how you react, and laughing inside\nbut have a mean pokerface on the outside\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EShe could be legitimately not a nice person and just be behaving\ncold\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EShe could be very \u003Ca\nhref=\u0022\/content\/how-tell-if-girl-horny-without-her-having-tell-you\u0022\u003Ehorny\u003C\/a\u003E\nand simply not have patience for a man who\u0027s taking things too slowly\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESometimes you can tell the difference, but you can\u0027t always. The\nbest thing to do is simply assume she\u0027s horny and wants sex now, and\nstart escalating her investment and the interaction itself. Worst that\ncan happen is she says \u0022no\u0022, and she\u0027s weeded herself out - if she\ninstead complies, it\u0027s game on.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/p\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1258\/18493\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-17369\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/17369#comment-17369\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/17369#comment-17369\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EFlake management...\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EAnonymous (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Thursday, 21 November 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/breaking-rapport-you%E2%80%99ve-been-doing-it-wrong\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey Chase, your last couple of articles have been quite interesting to read and process..\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAlthough i have a different question in mind, something about flaking.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EExample: Long story short - I set up a date with a girl, and 1 day before the date or on the day of the date she says she can`t make it, she has some important stuff to finish.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI usually say: \u0022it`s okay, no biggie, do your thing and let me know what was it about\u0022 - usually..\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut the last couple of girls that did this, i just answered: \u0022It`s okay\u0022 or just \u0022no biggie\u0022 ..\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ETwo worded answer or sometimes just \u0022okay\u0022 ...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENow is it possible to be to nonchalant, to releived in your answer to make her go into auto rejection or to simply scare her away...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhat i am asking is, is it possible that she may feel my answer as nothing and to think that \u0022i really am not that into her and it is the same thing if we go out or not.\u0022\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf so, and can you please give some help here: some sentences which you use, when a girl flaked you or said that she can`t make it..\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThanks.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nRegards.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1258\/17369\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-18497\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/18497#comment-18497\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/18497#comment-18497\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ERe: Flake management...\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 1 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/breaking-rapport-you%E2%80%99ve-been-doing-it-wrong\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/17369#comment-17369\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EAnon-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EMessage length is very important here. Very short message responses are basically adding a big element of randomness into the text dialogue; there\u0027s a certain chance they make the girl crazy about seeing you, and a certain chance they cause her to auto-reject hard.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf a girl legitimately likes you, and is legitimately sorry about flaking and feels bad about it, and she sends you an explanation, and gets back something very short, like \u0022okay\u0022, that can result in auto-rejection, yes. What happens essentially is she thinks this is a big deal, and feels very bad, and flakes and hopes you\u0027ll be okay with it, then gets back a one-word answer and feels like you don\u0027t really care. It\u0027s sort of like a cold bucket of water dumped onto the flame of her passion - \u0022Oh. Guess I was the only one here feeling that way.\u0022\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAlternately, if she was kinda sorta interested, a one-word response may make her shrug her shoulders and go, \u0022Whatever... I\u0027m not going to bother trying to reschedule this if he\u0027s that apathetic.\u0022 Or, it might intrigue her, and make her think the guy single-word-messaging her is such a badass that HE shrugs about getting flaked on, and now she\u0027s excited.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt very much depends on the girl.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhen I\u0027m flaked on, I\u0027ll usually reply (depending on the message I get) with something akin to, \u0022Yeah, no worries. Hope everything\u0027s okay. Let me know when you\u0027re free to reschedule.\u0022 Just very plain, neutral, and non-emotional. That\u0027s largely because I know I made a good enough impression on her the first time around that if I\u0027m just chill over text, she will eventually meet up with me in person, and then I can work my magic. Polarizing the text is not so useful to me - getting some girls really excited at the cost of losing other girls who were interested but had life intervene is not such a good deal, since I would\u0027ve gotten those girls excited anyway once I had them in person, and not lost the other ones by staying calmer.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAlternately, if you get a lot of flakes that just never result in dates, you might be in a place where you\u0027ll still benefit from polarizing some women in your favor at the price of losing others. I\u0027d be careful about getting too reliant on a technique like that though, because as you improve your fundamentals and become more consistent with women, things that polarize too much tend to become more of a liability than an asset.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1258\/18497\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-17379\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/17379#comment-17379\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Sam2\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Sam2\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Sam2\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Sam2\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/17379#comment-17379\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EWhen Skeptical Look\/Counter-request fails\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003ESam2 (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Thursday, 21 November 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/breaking-rapport-you%E2%80%99ve-been-doing-it-wrong\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EChase, sometimes I feel you mass cold read us. :)\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI have been guilty of breaking rapport the wrong way with a very specific kind of women: hot, testy, rude, simple-minded, border-line uneducated and of significantly lower social status than me. These women seemed immune to the perception of high status other women had for me. I felt \u0022defied by women they didn\u0027t deserve to defy me\u0022. Is it possible that these women try to overcompensate for all the status imbalance between us? Mind you, it is these women that shake me emotionally.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHowever, I remember two cases where I accidentally used the right way of breaking rapport during dates with women I had previously made out with and I again hit the same wall with them:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E1) She was being rude by saying my name is not a man\u0027s name. I gave her the skeptical look turning my body away. Her reaction: \u0022Oh are you sad now? Are you going to cry as well?\u0022\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E2) She was asking me to do a translation for her. I told her she didn\u0027t do anything to deserve this. Her reaction: \u0022You are really so much about take-and-give, aren\u0027t you?\u0022\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhat is your take? \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThank you\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1258\/17379\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-18500\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/18500#comment-18500\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/18500#comment-18500\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ERe: When Skeptical Look\/Counter-request fails\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 1 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/breaking-rapport-you%E2%80%99ve-been-doing-it-wrong\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/17379#comment-17379\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003ESam-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOn the status \/ auto-rejection issue, I\u0027d recommend checking out the article I just got up: \u0022\u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/you%E2%80%99re-not-special-and-neither-she\u0022\u003EYou\u2019re Not That Special (and Neither is She)\u003C\/a\u003E.\u0022 Sounds like exactly the girl-rejects-guy-she-feels-commodotized-by, guy-gets-miffed-at-being-commoditized-back scenario I used as an example.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EA girl asking if you\u0027re sad and going to cry - she\u0027s just a smartass, and she\u0027s one you deal with by being even more of one back. So when she asks you if you\u0027re going to cry, you just turn it into sexual humor: \u0022Yeah - here, take off your shirt, I\u0027m going to need to use it as a hanky.\u0022\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EShe\u0027ll probably respond with something about how you can use one of these napkins, and you\u0027ll say no, that\u0027s not enough, I\u0027ve got a lot of tears coming; I need your shirt.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFirst rule of improv is \u003Cem\u003Enever say no\u003C\/em\u003E - it kills the humor. So if she asks you if you\u0027re going to cry, just say yes, and escalate the fun with a dash of sexy.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ETranslation - depends on your phrasing, but make sure your tone is sufficiently playful when you say something like that. Assuming it is, I\u0027d just reply to the take-and-give statement with something like: [leaning in, and in a very sexy voice with a hint of a smile and strong eye contact] \u0022You have NO idea!\u0022\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1258\/18500\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-17388\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/17388#comment-17388\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Zac\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Zac\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Zac\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Zac\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/17388#comment-17388\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EStrong Negative than usual\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EZac (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Thursday, 21 November 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/breaking-rapport-you%E2%80%99ve-been-doing-it-wrong\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EChase,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhat are the chances of post drama if she\u0027s strongly negative than usual. Given an example a girl friend last two weeks where i felt she was totally dismissive for no reason. I haven\u0027t met her in awhile, Does she wants to get hit on? because she tried to hold my hands later on while i\u0027m in a conversation.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003Eand practically i was in a public place so logistics would only meant i have to walk out with her when there\u0027s an event. So it\u0027s a no no.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhat\u0027s your stats on girls whom you laid with this kind of situation? Does it have post drama? or am i totally wrong in reading the girl and the situation.?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EZac\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1258\/17388\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-18501\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/18501#comment-18501\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/18501#comment-18501\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EDrama with Social Circle Girls\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 1 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/breaking-rapport-you%E2%80%99ve-been-doing-it-wrong\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/17388#comment-17388\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EZac-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI won\u0027t sleep with girls in social circle who are acting this way... if they\u0027re that way with you and you HAVEN\u0027T slept with them, just take that as a 5% sample of what it\u0027s going to be like with them after you do.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThis girl sounds like she was probably horny and wanted to sleep with you, and annoyed because she felt like you weren\u0027t going for it. Logistics don\u0027t factor into how she feels... they will PREVENT her from LEAVING if the situation isn\u0027t favorable for it, but bad logistics won\u0027t cause her to curb her desire \/ auto-rejection. It\u0027s a case of, \u0022I want it, and he\u0027s not giving it to me, and who CARES what the reasons why are?\u0022\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWomen don\u0027t feel a responsibility (usually) for making sex happen. Their responsibility is signaling to the man that they want it; the man\u0027s responsibility is sorting the logistics and taking care of women\u0027s emotions and social and other concerns.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1258\/18501\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-17404\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/17404#comment-17404\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Josh V\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Josh V\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Josh V\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Josh V\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/17404#comment-17404\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EBreaking rapport with girls that I already know\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EJosh V (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Thursday, 21 November 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/breaking-rapport-you%E2%80%99ve-been-doing-it-wrong\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey Chase,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYou answered a previous question for me before and it really cleared things up for me. Thank you.  Now with regards to breaking rapport as punishment or just to keep the conversation more interesting. Can I use breaking rapport with girls I already know, like acquaintances, just for practice ? If a female acquaintance tells me to hold a drink for her so she can go chase some other guy, should I break rapport just to practice using it ? Or am I doing more harm then good, hurting our friendship or something like that ?\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nThanks again. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1258\/17404\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-18502\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/18502#comment-18502\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/18502#comment-18502\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ERe: Breaking rapport with girls that I already know\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 1 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/breaking-rapport-you%E2%80%99ve-been-doing-it-wrong\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/17404#comment-17404\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EJosh-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhen you introduce new behavior - especially control-taking behavior - with people you already have established precedent with, it always feels weird and off and not natural. She\u0027s going to wonder what\u0027s gotten into you, and why you\u0027re suddenly acting this way... because you are NOT this way. You are another way.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYou usually won\u0027t get very useful reactions from female friends by trying things like this with them, if you already have much established precedent to the contrary. Your best bet for learning how to break rapport correctly and naturally is trying it out as you go with women who are still just getting used to you, and either dropping female friends whom you no longer enjoy your relationships with, or simply accepting that it\u0027s always going to be different with them than it is with newer women you meet, and that\u0027s okay.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1258\/18502\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-17409\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/17409#comment-17409\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Marcel\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Marcel\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Marcel\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Marcel\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/17409#comment-17409\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ENegative Challenge\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EMarcel (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Thursday, 21 November 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/breaking-rapport-you%E2%80%99ve-been-doing-it-wrong\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EChase,  \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThank you for bring further distinction on Break Rapport!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWe should also be mindful in what ways she communicates to us Negatively.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EEx:  About to Approach her ..\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nShe: Ugh! You smell! (Attitude)\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nYou: Your Pussy smells! (Smirk)\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nShe: What!? (Lit)\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1258\/17409\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-17410\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/17410#comment-17410\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Troy\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Troy\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Troy\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Troy\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/17410#comment-17410\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003Eup and away\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003ETroy (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Thursday, 21 November 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/breaking-rapport-you%E2%80%99ve-been-doing-it-wrong\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey Chase, \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E      Im working my way through the getting started beginner ebook and my work is going very slow for me to improve at a rapid rate. My questions are:\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n1) How do i control my state, stop feeling crazy or weird when i am extremely tired? The reason is because i have loads of school studies to do plus not to mention me having to go to school from 6am in the morning, i have to go to my sport training 5 days a week and i reach home from school and my training at 8:00pm at night. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E      Now i dont know what to do anymore because im always tired with constant work and little sleep. I can only find the time on friday afternoon to do some day game, otherwise i try to talk to girls a lot at school since i am there the entire day. Also, when i am talking to people i give off a weird\/sad\/nervous vibe since im always tired. How do i deal with constant tiredness ( and i cant find the time of day to get more sleep ) and control my vibe that i give off to seem normal?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E2) I have a severe problem that has plagued me most of my life and i want it to stop now! I have found that people somehow just love having me around at first but then after they get to know me a little or by how they see other people treat me, they start to verbally\/insult abuse me and try taking advantage of me. The main problem is that trends are hard to break so people mainly subscribe to how others around behave towards us. Its the same with preselection and social proof. How do i break bads trends that people have for me when a large social circle like at your job sees you as a certain identity?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E3) How do i stop making enemies out of people when i use moral superiority against them? Everytime i fight back people they insult me harder, laugh at me or fight me. What are the things to avoid doing to come across as annoying, stupid or making enemies so easily? I dont insult\/laugh at people and i love peace so i dont get why people cant just stop hating on people. Maybe i am too nice. Could you do an article on \u0022Avoiding Making Enemies\u0022 if you dont completely oppose to that idea. I think that while using moral superiority, being too bad or nice is not a good thing and it would make us aspiring social successes to know the road blocks to avoid making enemies!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E Thanks Chase and have a great Christmas Season to come!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ETroy\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1258\/17410\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-17411\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/17411#comment-17411\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Troy\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Troy\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Troy\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Troy\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/17411#comment-17411\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EGOSSIP AND CONVERSATION\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003ETroy (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Thursday, 21 November 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/breaking-rapport-you%E2%80%99ve-been-doing-it-wrong\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey Chase, im here today sitting down and there is this girl that i frequently see in my social circle but she is always with her friends and im not the very socially gifted guy. The main problems that are holding me back are:\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n1) I struggle to come up with good conversation\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n2) My conversation is awkward.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n3) Girls give me extremely short answers when i try to deep dive. i try finding interesting things to ask and talk about but they give back short answers whenever i ask\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n4) People tell me that i am asking too many questions even if its our first minute of conversation and i only asked them 5 questions\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n5) I get this feeling that girls dont enjoy my company.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n6) I have a feeling that i want to change but i dont deserve it and i will turn back to my old way within no time.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n6) I get uptight when it seems that girls might like me but that they wont want to be with me or i wont be able to hold them for even 1 day. how do i deal with this mindset problem?\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n7) when people make rumors about me and a girl that i like hears i feel that it ruins my chances, makes the girl see me as weak or undesirable. how do i deal with persons spredding rumors on me to a girl?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E how do i deal with these problems? Thanks Chase\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nTroy\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1258\/17411\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-18504\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/18504#comment-18504\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/18504#comment-18504\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EQuestions\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 2 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/breaking-rapport-you%E2%80%99ve-been-doing-it-wrong\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/17411#comment-17411\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003ETroy-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027m afraid I can\u0027t be much help with the tired one - when I\u0027m VERY tired, I usually just don\u0027t socialize much, or I put myself out there and if any attractive girls start hovering nearby (i.e., \u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/7-approach-invitations-you%E2%80%99ll-get-girls\u0022\u003Eapproach invitations\u003C\/a\u003E), I draw them in and work with them. I might recommend trying to find ways to get more sleep wherever you can get it, stealing little naps here and there - sleep\u0027s vitally important for everything from learning to mental health, and without it, life kind of just sucks harder in so many ways. The times in my life when I\u0027ve gotten the least sleep have also been the times when my performance in everything has been the worst, and I\u0027ve most often ended up in bad situations through poor decision making.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf you\u0027re making good initial impressions but it\u0027s devolving into poor later treatment, it sounds like you have probably hacked how to make great first impressions but struggle to keep up with normal social interactions as these mature and become more complicated. I might suggest looking into Asperger syndrome; the problems you\u0027re talking about (good first impression, poor later one; people finding you annoying, but you can\u0027t tell why) are all common scenarios encountered by people with AS. Ultimately the way around it is just learning more and more of the rules of social nuance and calibration, and adjusting yourself to be ever more socially competent and \u0022normal.\u0022\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAs for changing impressions when you have people around who are accustomed to seeing \/ treating you another way, that\u0027s 5x as hard, because you\u0027re not just reinventing yourself, but fighting massive precedent. Sometimes it\u0027s best just to grin and bear it until you can get out of that situation and head somewhere fresh to start over and build a new reputation for yourself from scratch. A bad reputation is one of the worst and hardest things to have to overcome.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027ll make a note on \u0022avoiding making enemies.\u0022 One good piece of advice though is \u0022don\u0027t fight groups.\u0022 If one person is attacking you, you can deal with that; if 2 or 3 or more people start ganging up, you\u0027re going to look like more and more of a fool the longer you stick around and let them pile on. You\u0027re best just shrugging it off and acting bored, or chuckling and saying, \u0022I\u0027m not sticking around for this abuse - I\u0027ll catch you guys later,\u0022 and taking off.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1258\/18504\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-17429\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/17429#comment-17429\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Angus\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Angus\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Angus\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Angus\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/17429#comment-17429\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EMaking a girl feel as if you\u0026#039;re out of her league!\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EAngus (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Thursday, 21 November 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/breaking-rapport-you%E2%80%99ve-been-doing-it-wrong\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey Chase! Great article!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIn the article on how to make a girl fall in love with you, you mentioned that one of the key aspects of making a girl fall in love with you is to make her feel as if you\u0027re out of her league.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ECould you please give a quick brief overview on the things you can do and the stories you need to tell to make her feel that way?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThanks!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1258\/17429\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-18507\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/18507#comment-18507\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/18507#comment-18507\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EOut of Her League\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 2 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/breaking-rapport-you%E2%80%99ve-been-doing-it-wrong\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/17429#comment-17429\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EAngus-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThat\u0027s largely an element of your fundamentals and your overall vibe\n- there\u0027s a LOT that goes into it; it\u0027s not any one thing.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EA good place to start may be these articles:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cul\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/social-value-and-value-imbalances\u0022\u003ESocial Value\nand Value Imbalances\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca\nhref=\u0022\/content\/sexual-tension-7-ways-make-women-excited-and-randy\u0022\u003ESexual\nTension: 7 Ways to Make Women Excited and Randy\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/how-find-woman-you-most-want-10-step-process\u0022\u003EHow\nto Find the Woman You Most Want: A 10-Step Process\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1258\/18507\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-17443\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/17443#comment-17443\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/royce\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Royce\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Royce\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Royce\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Royce\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/17443#comment-17443\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EAge\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/royce\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/royce\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003ERoyce\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Thursday, 21 November 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/breaking-rapport-you%E2%80%99ve-been-doing-it-wrong\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey Chase, I\u0027m in high school and I have no problem cold approaching women out of school(mall, stores, etc..) but the women are usually around 18-22 which is a couple of years older than I am. I have a pretty solid build and voice as well as facial hair and women always think I\u0027m just around their age so when I do hit it off with one, I can usually keep it going. So my question is, should I just say I\u0027m around their age and just go all the way with them ot tell them the truth which I have tried and it resulted in them either becoming friends or not talking at all. Btw, I do also talk to many girls in high school. And if you need an article for high school, I\u0027d be glad to share some experience I\u0027ve acquired through high school.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nThanks,\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nRoyce\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1258\/17443\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-18508\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/18508#comment-18508\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/18508#comment-18508\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ERe: Age\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 2 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/breaking-rapport-you%E2%80%99ve-been-doing-it-wrong\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/17443#comment-17443\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003ERoyce-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAge is one of the few areas I\u0027d recommend just straight up fibbing\nabout when you\u0027re younger - see this article for detail: \u0022\u003Ca\nhref=\u0022\/content\/younger-men-and-older-women\u0022\u003EYounger Men and Older Women\u003C\/a\u003E.\u0022\nIt\u0027s just too polarizing to people and you\u0027re too unlikely to get a\nfair shake at anything based on your real number if it\u0027s low relative\nto hers.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd, cheers for the article offer on high school. This is one I\u0027ve\ndecided to throw on the back burner, simply because I don\u0027t want to get\none up unless I know it\u0027s a guy who\u0027s slept with a LOT of girls in high\nschool (very easy to give misleading advice if you\u0027re part of the way\nthere but not all of the way there), and also because I\u0027m not 100%\nclear on the legality of giving sex advice to minors... I think it\u0027s\nprobably just better to stay away from that altogether for now ;)\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1258\/18508\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-17480\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/17480#comment-17480\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/17480#comment-17480\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EHi Chase, I was just\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EAnonymous (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Friday, 22 November 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/breaking-rapport-you%E2%80%99ve-been-doing-it-wrong\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHi Chase, I was just thinking... with all the advice and demand for it out there, is every guy out there going to become a stud? Realistically, what % of guys are studying this stuff and out of them, how many of them are going to make it to the point where they can pretty much get any girl they want?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1258\/17480\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-18510\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/18510#comment-18510\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/18510#comment-18510\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EStud Rate\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 2 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/breaking-rapport-you%E2%80%99ve-been-doing-it-wrong\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/17480#comment-17480\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EAnon-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u0027s fairly low - not because they CAN\u0027T do it, but because most men simply aren\u0027t driven to.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESome guys really only ever want to find the girl of their dreams and that\u0027s it. So, they get good enough to do that, then get her, and they\u0027re thrilled.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EA lot of guys get into game thinking to themselves that they want to be that great Casanova, seducing all the hardest-to-get women all over the world, but a few months or a year in they meet a girl who checks off all their boxes and they settle down into an exclusive relationship. And that\u0027s fine... many times as we get farther along into a journey to somewhere we wanted to go, we find another path branching off in another direction and realize we\u0027d like to go down that road even more, so we do.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe percentage of guys who really get seriously good with women is pretty small... probably a lot less than 1% of the guys who read or try much of this stuff. Most of them are guys with some kind of extreme-ish personality disorder, in my experience - they may be very emotionally needy and need constant validation in terms of new partners; they may have difficulty forming long-term commitments; or they may keep themselves away from women they consider high quality, and instead sleep with a succession of lower caliber women, who aren\u0027t able to wrap them up into relationships. The chunk of men who are \u0022normal\u0022 and get very good with women is even smaller... they\u0027re out there, but they\u0027re often the guys who are \u0022naturals\u0022 who got an early start and just have really high sex drives - they just NEED a lot of sex.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhatever the case, you need some kind of strong driving motivation to reach that point, and most men don\u0027t have it - or, they lose it once they meet a girl who really clicks for them. That\u0027s neither good nor bad; it\u0027s just the way of things.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1258\/18510\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-17482\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/17482#comment-17482\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/17482#comment-17482\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EGlasses\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EAnonymous (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Friday, 22 November 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/breaking-rapport-you%E2%80%99ve-been-doing-it-wrong\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHi Chase, just a quick question:\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nAre glasses a turn-off for most women? I\u0027d be glad if you did a post about something like that.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThanks!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1258\/17482\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-18511\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/18511#comment-18511\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/18511#comment-18511\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ERe: Glasses\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 2 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/breaking-rapport-you%E2%80%99ve-been-doing-it-wrong\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/17482#comment-17482\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EAnon-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIn my experience, you will get approached by women more when wearing glasses, and these are particularly useful if they offset what would otherwise be a cut-and-dry stereotype for you - e.g., I had a muscular, surfer\/gym-dude type of friend with spiky hair and who loved busting on girls, but would always wear glasses and women found him very charismatic. The glasses of course weren\u0027t solely responsible for this... but they seemed to help, vs. the few times I saw him out without them.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhen on occasion I\u0027ve worn glasses out, I\u0027ve seen similar reactions from some women - some girls treat me worse with them on, but others seem drawn toward me. It seems to be something that polarizes (i.e., some girls love it, some girls hate it).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1258\/18511\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-17558\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/17558#comment-17558\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/17558#comment-17558\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EMoods and consequences\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EAnonymous (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Saturday, 23 November 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/breaking-rapport-you%E2%80%99ve-been-doing-it-wrong\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHi chase, I used to be really sexually stifled but have become comfortable letting my inhibitions go. When I\u0027m feeling sexual it\u0027s all I can think about all day but it eventually leaves. Sometimes I\u0027ll see hot women and I\u0027ll be attracted but I\u0027m somewhat apathetic and don\u0027t have the feeling where I \u0022have to have her.\u0022 I remember I was on a date once and I didn\u0027t even try to have sex her even though she clearly wanted it because I just wasn\u0027t in the mood.  Furthermore when that sexual state leaves I have a very time hard time finding it again and requires a lot of conscious effort. I\u0027m wondering if this is more of an identity and mindset issue or if it has to do with other factors such as diet, lifestyle, natural flow of hormones, stress etc. Sometimes my libido just disappears and that starts a negative snowball effect into other things like confidence and dominance setbacks. For this reason would it be bad to tie things like confidence to sexuality e.g. \u0022 I\u0027f im not fucking girls and oozing of sexuality and masculinity I\u0027m not a man?\u0022\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1258\/17558\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-18513\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/18513#comment-18513\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/18513#comment-18513\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ERe: Moods and consequences\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 2 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/breaking-rapport-you%E2%80%99ve-been-doing-it-wrong\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/17558#comment-17558\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EAnon-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYeah, if it\u0027s not something you see as a problem or one you want to fix, I\u0027d disentangle that from identity then. There\u0027s no need to get flustered about things that aren\u0027t important to you overall.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThere are plenty of ways to define a man. Isaac Newton and Nikola Tesla both died virgins; and you\u0027d probably be hard pressed to say that either of them were not \u0022men.\u0022 Look for a definition of masculinity that fits your worldview, and define it as such, and I suspect you will be just fine.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1258\/18513\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-17566\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/17566#comment-17566\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Michal\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Michal\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Michal\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Michal\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/17566#comment-17566\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EHello, Chase\nQuick\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EMichal (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Saturday, 23 November 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/breaking-rapport-you%E2%80%99ve-been-doing-it-wrong\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHello, Chase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EQuick questions:\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nValue does not matter that much during seduction but once you want to keep the girl in your life, it is needed much more, right?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOffering myself to others, my time, is it good or bad? For sports, help, advice. I mean if they really do something good just tell them \u0022Hey, you know what, if you need someone to help you\/join the team\/talk to, you can contact me. I dont promise anything, I am just letting you know.\u0022 One thing is offering myself, second is actual delivery.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHonesty - be honest about things if it helps me and others and keep my mouth shut if it hurts me or someone else? Rule of thumb? I was always very honest, sometimes I feel it is not good to be honest, but I do it anyway. I am currently trying to tone it down.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI had another question, a contradiction in a certain concept here on your site but I can\u0027t remember now what it was... nor what it was connected with. Hopefully I will remember. So maybe next time.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EMichal\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1258\/17566\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-18517\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/18517#comment-18517\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/18517#comment-18517\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EGiving, and Honesty\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 2 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/breaking-rapport-you%E2%80%99ve-been-doing-it-wrong\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/17566#comment-17566\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EMichal-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYour value matters more in relationships, yes, but what that value is is very different depending on you and the woman. e.g., especially early into a relationship (first 3 to 6 months), I prefer to let my primary value be sex and conversation - I\u0027d recommend you don\u0027t go overboard helping girls with anything, and don\u0027t even take them out to dinner \/ movies \/ parties, etc., that much or at all. I talked about this a good bit more here: \u0022\u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/how-start-relationship-new-girlfriend\u0022\u003EHow to Start a Relationship with a New Girlfriend\u003C\/a\u003E.\u0022\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBasically, think of it like this: she\u0027s going to feel whatever emotions she\u0027s going to feel, and whatever you give her at the outset of the relationship she will anchor those feelings to, and you will then need to provide her virtually forever to prevent them going away. If all you give her is sex and conversation for the first 6 months, then you never have to give her more than that (more or less) to keep her happy going forward (assuming the relationship also progresses). If you give her help, advice, loads of time, take her to nice dinners, take her to movies, and take her to parties, and also sleep with her and talk with her, she\u0027s going to anchor all of her emotions to those things, and if any of them go away at some point in the relationship - 6 months or 16 years later - she\u0027s going to feel like the relationship has changed and become less good. You obligate yourself from the start based on what you give her in exchange for her emotions.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAs for honesty, yes, I\u0027d recommend be honest to a point, but dance around issues that are going to cause problems. That\u0027s going to differ from girl to girl. Some girls will want to know everything about you, too; other girls will maintain policies of \u0022I won\u0027t ask what I don\u0027t want to know\u0022, and you probably don\u0027t want to pop that bubble for them, because they\u0027ve put it there for a reason.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1258\/18517\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-17577\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/17577#comment-17577\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/17577#comment-17577\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EEye problem\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EAnonymous (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Saturday, 23 November 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/breaking-rapport-you%E2%80%99ve-been-doing-it-wrong\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EProblem needs adressing..\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI have a medical condition that i simply cannot change and need another opinion on this subject.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EEver since i was a little boy, the nerve on one of my eyes was damaged and my one ( right ) eye moved towards my nose.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe thing is often times that is unnoticable, but when i am sick or especially when i drink alcohol, my right eye moves way towards my nose.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nThat way i cannot make a good eye contact because frankly, the girl won`t know where i am looking at and it is quite awful situation to be in.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nI know this and i cannot change it, for now.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe thing i want to ask is this: Is it a good idea to tell a girl that i don`t drink alcohol because of my problem with my eye.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nBasically i want to adress this to the girl, as a way for her to feel some empathy towards me and also not to be startled or feel awful when she sees me\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nlooking at her with one of my eye going the other way..\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhen i am positioned to her side i have no problem with this, but when i am straight at her, it is a problem as it is causing me a great deal of distraction.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI feel nervous about her noticing my right eye going another direction, i break eye contact way to much, i start thinking to much about it which makes me lose focus and concentration.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EGeneral opinion, or your own experience and knowledge on this - anything i can use to calm myself down and feel better, and also to change the way i look at them when i am with them..\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1258\/17577\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-18518\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/18518#comment-18518\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/18518#comment-18518\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ERe: Eye problem\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 2 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/breaking-rapport-you%E2%80%99ve-been-doing-it-wrong\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/17577#comment-17577\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EAnon-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYes, I\u0027d just make it a very nonchalant \u0022not a big deal\u0022 thing when asked why you don\u0027t drink alcohol. I\u0027d just say, \u0022Oh, I have this eye thing where my eye sort of glides over to my nose and looks all weird, mostly when I drink... it\u0027s freaky. Anyway, rather than scare little children, I just opt not to drink.\u0022\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThen when she notices it on her own later, you just say, \u0022Yeah, sometimes it happens a little even when I don\u0027t drink. Just be lucky I\u0027m not boozing right now, because it\u0027d be like HERE!\u0022 [and gesture dramatically toward the other side of the room or something absurd]\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBasically, just be \u0022whatever\u0022 about it, make light about it, and then go back to whatever you were talking about before, as if it\u0027s the most natural thing in the world. So long as you don\u0027t treat it like a big deal, if she likes you, she won\u0027t either.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1258\/18518\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-17590\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/17590#comment-17590\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/jake93\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022jake93\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022jake93\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022jake93\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022jake93\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/17590#comment-17590\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EThis happened to me last weekend... \u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/jake93\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/jake93\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003Ejake93\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Saturday, 23 November 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/breaking-rapport-you%E2%80%99ve-been-doing-it-wrong\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EAt a very famous club in LA last weekend, I met what I thought was THE most attractive girl at the club that night. But I was left frustrated by what ensued.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThere were 3 of them in the group, all really hot. I felt particularly attracted right away to this one blonde girl. I met her about an hour later in the smaller, less crowded room where my buddy was DJ-ing. The 3 of them sat down directly across from me and my friend, I smiled and strode straight across the room to meet them. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI said hi to the blonde girl I was interested in, who was easily the hottest girl at the club that night. I just told her that I thought she was very cute and that I\u0027d like to introduce myself. Going up to all 3 of them directly like that was daunting, and now that I\u0027ve read some of your posts, maybe I should\u0027ve gone for a more indirect approach had I known better. But fortunately, she was really nice, very open and welcoming. After some light exchange I asked her if I could sit down next to her, to which she replied \u0022of course\u0022! At which point i was thinking to myself, I\u0027ll bet no other guy had gone up to talk to them simply because of how hot and intimidating they looked, especially with all 3 of them together. Her being open to me must\u0027ve had something to do with that. I\u0027m sure that had I given myself any more time to think it over I would\u0027ve psyched myself out of approaching too.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EJust as I thought things were going good, the 2 other girls all of a sudden got up and dragged my girl away with them, as she said \u0022oh i gotta go!\u0022 and left in a confused hurry. A few minutes later they came in with a whole bunch of other people and their group got bigger and bigger, people started popping bottles, getting drunk, and they met up with what seemed like their long lost friends, and I didn\u0027t have enough energy anymore to open their group and approach her all over again. Oh and plus I found out that they were all from Seattle.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBut what was frustrating was this: They were sitting at the table next to mine the entire time and \u0022my\u0022 girl clearly didn\u0027t have anyone that she was romantically interested in in the group, she looked more and more bored as the night wore on, playing with her phone constantly for 10 mins at a time. And nobody else from the club approached her either, I mean, nobody. Partly i think it was because she was so locked in to her group, it made it difficult to approach her, as it was for me. But she clearly was open to meeting someone, and she clearly wanted to meet me! She kept checking me out throughout the night, and I felt like she still wanted me to go talk to her, but she didn\u0027t make it any easier to approach her because she was constantly surrounded by her friends.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo that was my night, there was great potential for both of us. But she ended up just getting drunk with her friends, a perfectly attractive girl who dressed up so good, to be let down later because nobody even approached her. And I ended up frustrated, more at just the general social dynamics in clubs (I wasn\u0027t drinking). What do you do in a situation like that? How do you go about opening her or her group again after they had left, without seeming desperate and clingy, and especially after they left and came back with a huge group, whose energy is way up there and clearly just there to pop bottles and get drunk with friends?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1258\/17590\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-18519\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/18519#comment-18519\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/18519#comment-18519\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EApproaching and Reopening\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 2 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/breaking-rapport-you%E2%80%99ve-been-doing-it-wrong\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/17590#comment-17590\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EJake-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027d probably have recommended something not as direct on opening, yeah. From the sound of it, she was mildly intrigued, but you were probably closer to the \u0022he\u0027s a cute, decent guy\u0022 than the \u0022he\u0027s an absolute sex pistol\u0022 designation (her replying, \u0022Of course!\u0022 to you asking to sit is something girls will do when they see you as asking for their permission \/ they are higher status; her simply announcing \u0022I gotta go!\u0022 shows no real concern about losing you, which a girl who\u0027s very into you \/ views you as higher status will feel - she\u0027ll refuse to go, or she\u0027ll be upset and worried about it). The \u0022walking by and suddenly noticed her\u0022 open from this article is probably my top recommendation here: \u0022\u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/approaching-girls-sitting-down\u0022\u003EApproaching Girls Sitting Down\u003C\/a\u003E.\u0022\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFor reopening later when she\u0027s bored checking you out in a big group, your best bet is waiting until you catch her looking bored and staring at you, then waving her over increasingly playfully and insistently (think: \u0022Come ON!\u0022 with a big smile and dramatic gesturing if she waves \u0022no\u0022 at first to your more casual invitation) until she complies. That way, instead of you having to go join her group and navigate all those people, you have her come to you; and rather than you chase, you have her coming to you - more or less even footing, since you were inviting, but it\u0027s in your favor since she\u0027s doing the work of crossing the room and going to you while you remain where you are.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1258\/18519\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-17761\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/17761#comment-17761\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/17761#comment-17761\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EWhat should a girl do when infatuated?\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EAnonymous (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 25 November 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/breaking-rapport-you%E2%80%99ve-been-doing-it-wrong\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EChase I\u0027ve started seeing this very attractive man. He\u0027s been a friend of a friend\u0027s and I met him a few years back, but I\u0027ve just started getting to know him this past week. Anyway, in this short time we have been seeing each other a lot. Spent the entire day together, hung out at his restaurant, spent a few nights together. He\u0027s incredible in bed, charming, very easy and comfortable to communicate with...lots of fun too! We hit it off right away and since then, I haven\u0027t been able to get him off my mind. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHe\u0027s been treating me very well, but no doubt part of this is just his nature. He is intuitive and very good with women in general. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHe also got out of a long term relationship a few months back. (Could this still hold any impact?)\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI myself am rarely so attracted to a man. I find I\u0027m having to remind myself to give him the freedom and space that he obviously values and needs so early on. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIs there anything I can do to not mess this up? I\u0027m usually very easy going, fun, and independent and do very well in relationships when my feelings are not so strong. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI know he likes me, enjoys my company and is attracted to me too. But like I said, he is such a skilled communicator, that my feelings probably have a lot to do with his nature and person, rather than an intense mutual attraction so early on? I don\u0027t know. That is my rational to keep myself from letting my emotions get the best from me. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAs of now, I\u0027m keeping my cool on the surface, while my heart   may be turning to mush already! Any advice for me? Anything I can do besides spending time\/energy trying to calm my thoughts\/actions?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOh and one more thing, he has to talk to beautiful women for his work (and they flirt with him etc.) and when I watch these interactions I\u0027m overcome with crazy jealousy. Completely abnormal for me! Yikes. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHelp? :)\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1258\/17761\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-18522\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/18522#comment-18522\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/18522#comment-18522\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ERe: What should a girl do when infatuated?\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 2 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/breaking-rapport-you%E2%80%99ve-been-doing-it-wrong\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/17761#comment-17761\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EAnon-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt\u0027s hard to say with absolute certainty without knowing more about the guy, but most men who are skilled charmers are used to girls falling all over themselves for them and it gets boring \/ easy to lose interest in the girl when that happens. The ones who drive them crazy are the ones who maintain their poise, intrigue, and mystery - the nuts that aren\u0027t as easy to crack.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOne of the better ways to avoid falling for someone is to simply minimize thinking about him\u2026 every time you find yourself doing so, divert your thoughts elsewhere, to something else interesting. Could be some situation at work, something on TV, something your friends told you, or even some other guy you\u0027re crushing on.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESeeing someone else can help a fair bit here too, though I don\u0027t know if that\u0027s something you want to do or feel good about doing.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EComing out of a long-term relationship, you will usually seek the opposite of whatever you just left - so if he left a girl who was too clingy and boring, he\u0027ll want someone aloof, hard-to-get, invigorating, and cagey. Alternately, if he left a girl he was trying to settle down with but felt like he couldn\u0027t get, he\u0027ll want one who\u0027s softer, easier to handle, and more pro-commitment. Of course, once the rebound period is over, he\u0027ll usually go back to his usual tastes.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf I look at the girls I\u0027ve fallen for in the past, they\u0027ve been the ones who\u0027ve been alternately passionate, romantic, and caring, but also expressing constant doubts about \u0022us\u0022 from the very beginning and forcing me to work to convince them there\u0027s a future for us. From what I understand of their relationships, most men typically fall a lot harder than I do for them too (since most men aren\u0027t actively trying to avoid or control this process).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAt least for me, the mix of passion and affection combined with uncertainty and doubt is quite often an explosive, intoxicating mix that\u0027s very difficult to stay on top of.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf I had to extrapolate, I\u0027d say too many of the \u0022in-love\u0022 women give guys a lot of slack and don\u0027t pressure them out of fear of losing them, which creates no urgency and none of the roller coaster emotions that really build investment, while too many of the \u0022not certain\u0022 women don\u0027t give guys enough of a reason (passion, vibrancy, excitement) to want to allay those doubts in the first place.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EPowerful connection + risk of loss is a killer combination\u2026 then again, if that\u0027s not your natural emotional state, you might be becoming something you aren\u0027t, which may or may not have consequences for the relationship once you\u0027ve already got him but then knock the games off - that very much depends on how \u0022untamable\u0022 he really is.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1258\/18522\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-17778\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/17778#comment-17778\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/17778#comment-17778\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EHey Chase please answer!\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EAnonymous (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 25 November 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/breaking-rapport-you%E2%80%99ve-been-doing-it-wrong\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey Chase!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EHere is my situation. I like this girl from my class, she is really beautiful, yet insecure, quiet and shy. If you are familiar with 8 types of women personality, she is connoisseur. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EEvery guy in the class thinks she is hot, but she doesn\u0027t feel that way I think. She is reserved, doesn\u0027t go out at all, is quiet between classes and seems a little bit cold sometimes. Has few \u0022unpopular\u0022 girl friends. Her parents are really strict and don\u0027t allow her to go outside (clubs, parties), not even on the last school trip.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI decided to sit with her during one class. All the guys went nuts and started teasing me and giggling in the back rows. When I said I will sit with her one guy said: \u0027And what will you achieve?\u0027... I talked with her for a bit during class (can\u0027t talk a lot, because she is worried about teacher being mad at her), made fun of myself (that female teacher is in love with me), talked about school and upcoming tests (I read that forconnoisseur type school is not boring subject, as long as you ask for her opinion). \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOne of the guys passed by me and threw a paper on which a heart was drawn and it said \u0027hihihi\u0027. At that moment she went totally shy, I mean totally. Her body language changed, she didn\u0027t talk to me anymore, only if I asked her something. I said to her that they are just being immature and that they think that when someone sits with a girl, he is always trying to seduce her. She didn\u0027t response, or maybe she said something like \u0027I know.\u0027 (I don\u0027t know what she said, because I was mad at them).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ELater at the end of the class those guys were teasing me more. I believe that those were all cockblocking attempts and that they were really jealous.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EGuy that said \u0027What will you achieve?\u0027 also said to another friend (that friend told me this) that \u0027I won\u0027t suceed anyway and that I\u0027m already friendzoned so it doesn\u0027t matter, if they throw a paper with heart on it.\u0027\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI don\u0027t think I\u0027m friendzoned, because I always stand up for myself during the classes even if teachers says something to me that I don\u0027t like. I don\u0027t take shit from anyone. I complimented this girl a couple of times. I try to be funny with her although she is shy and as I said before school subjects don\u0027t seem boring to her as long as her opinion is envolved. So I think I\u0027m not friendzoned.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhat do you think? Are they just showing their true faces and being jelous jerks or what? Am I friendzoned? What would your advice be to me to get her?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThanks A LOT! \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1258\/17778\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-18524\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/18524#comment-18524\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/18524#comment-18524\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EGirl in Class\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 2 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/breaking-rapport-you%E2%80%99ve-been-doing-it-wrong\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/17778#comment-17778\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EAnon-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIt sounds like you\u0027re in high school, which is kind of a strange environment, and not one I really have any experience meeting women in. I can\u0027t really give you any specific situational advice that\u0027d be anything other than pure speculation.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThat said, I wouldn\u0027t worry a whole lot about what other people THINK the situation is - they\u0027re usually just jealous, I agree. I\u0027d also avoid flirting with girls in clear line-of-sight of other people - you\u0027re only adding social pressure to the girl to save face socially, perhaps by rejecting you (see this article: \u0022\u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/granting-social-status-and-not-getting-thrown-under-bus\u0022\u003EGranting Social Status; and, Not Getting Thrown Under the Bus\u003C\/a\u003E\u0022).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf you can meet her and get to know her and ask her out somewhere that\u0027s not clearly in eye- or ear-shot of everyone else, that\u0027s probably best, although I\u0027m not entirely sure how you\u0027d do that in a close school environment where everyone knows everyone else and acts childishly around boys and girls speaking with each other.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1258\/18524\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-17842\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/17842#comment-17842\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Anonymous\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/17842#comment-17842\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EShowing interest is it important\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EAnonymous (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 25 November 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/breaking-rapport-you%E2%80%99ve-been-doing-it-wrong\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003Ehey chase, read and realised how far i have come with my conversation with girls after finding this site. Could understand what you were trying to say. Anyways my question today is related to what my female friend told me a week back. Nowadays I am able to spark an initial attraction with almost 80% of the girls i talk to. I can get away with almost anything i say and getting numbers or deep diving is absolutely no problem for me. But problem arises as soon as i show interest. It is so surprising that as soon as I think .. hmm may be i like this girl that things start changing. One of my very good female friends told me even before i told her that there should not be sexual feel to my interaction. What she meant was i could be sexual framing but it should  not look as though i want to have sex with the girl till i take her to the room. She said its the thing that turns her on. she is intrigued by such guys . I tried practicing but still i couldnt dampen it. May be the eye contact may be the smile she said girls could sense it and that i would do tremendously better if i managed to control. Any suggestion if the theory holds true and if so how to control it.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1258\/17842\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-18525\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/18525#comment-18525\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/18525#comment-18525\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ESexual Interest\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 2 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/breaking-rapport-you%E2%80%99ve-been-doing-it-wrong\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/17842#comment-17842\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EAnon-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ERight - you want to hint at it, and intrigue her, in a somewhat\ncircumspect way, without outright showing clear interest. You want to\nmake her wonder, rather than make it crystal clear - if you make it\ncrystal clear, you kill all her curiosity and interest in moving things\nforward.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFortunately, this isn\u0027t a huge problem to fix, just one that needs\nsome tweaking. I\u0027d recommend these articles to check out:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cul\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca\nhref=\u0022\/content\/sexual-tension-7-ways-make-women-excited-and-randy\u0022\u003ESexual\nTension: 7 Ways to Make Women Excited and Randy\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca\nhref=\u0022\/content\/constructing-your-sexy-vibe-and-making-girls-go-nuts\u0022\u003EConstructing\nYour Sexy Vibe (and Making Girls Go Nuts)\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/how-use-sex-talk-set-sexual-tone-and-mood\u0022\u003EHow\nto Use Sex Talk to Set a Sexual Tone and Mood\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/how-use-sexual-frame-turn-women\u0022\u003EHow to Use the\nSexual Frame to Turn Women On\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/7-facial-expressions-drive-women-wild\u0022\u003E7 Facial\nExpressions That Drive Women Wild\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/secrets-getting-girls-chase-framing\u0022\u003ESecrets to\nGetting Girls: Chase Framing\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/p\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1258\/18525\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-17849\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/17849#comment-17849\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Michal\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Michal\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Michal\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Michal\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/17849#comment-17849\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EHello,\nI guess I remembered\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EMichal (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 25 November 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/breaking-rapport-you%E2%80%99ve-been-doing-it-wrong\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHello,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI guess I remembered the contradiction but I am not 100% sure.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nIt is about \u0022playing it cool\u0022. You suggested that (example ahead) if a girl flakes on you, you should play it cool and dont worry if you run into her and just try another time. And in some other situations you suggested keeping your cool. Mostly with chasing.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENow the opposite, paying for dates. I once made a girl upset by this because I told her I am not going to pay for her, because in my perspective it looks as if she was there only because it was \u0022free\u0022 and her only investment was her time. Compared to that I had to invest my time while also the time I had spent on making the money. She then said \u0022give us a minute\u0022 to the waitress (because she was standing there) and argued with \u0022I think that you invited me sooo.. you pay\u0022 - Nothing rude, with a little smile too, but I felt it was upsetting for her a little. At that point I wanted to hold my frame BUT she was really great and I was fighting my inner voice saying \u0022you know what, I will pay now, you will pay next time,\u0022 to save the situation and the girl for next date. Instead, I told her, she should look at it from my point of view and if she was there and had a good time, she should not be so upset about that and just pay for her coffee. But because she is, it tells me, she did not enjoy the time, so she at least wanted to save the money. And she  followed by \u0022You are the man here, you pay.\u0022 Which I understood as it is my duty, that she expects that, and at that point it was over for me because of that whole year I read your site made me change my perspective so I just told her that I am not paying. I tipped the waitress the same amount as her coffee and I made my exit with goodbye. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThe thing is, she was really great. And I would not mind paying really. I just wanted to make us equal. And hold the frame. Or maybe you saved my ass by getting me out of something that would have ended up pretty badly some time later where I would have been more invested. But I liked her, she liked me and this whole thing destroyed it and I have never seen her again. I understand that \u0022you invite, you pay\u0022 I was raised by that rule. So maybe I should have said: \u0022Well ok, next time you invite me.\u0022 *wink*\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI guess I made the right choice by leaving her there (at the point where it was clear she might be crazy before that last comment of hers) but I just dont know how to distinguish the moments where you \u0022CAN\u0022 take it personally like flakes against this real and obvious slap in the face \u0022You are the man, you pay\u0022 thing.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nDifference is - and I know that - you cant be sure she flaked because of you. But with \u0022you invited, you pay\u0022 which is still in encoded in me and I would normally pay, you can take it in many directions - further to we-split, playfully further, deny, playfully deny, accept, playfully accept, ...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI just dont understand this \u0022keep your cool\u0022 policy. Maybe because I am not cool and dont really know how I should be. But what I mean that there are situations where you can her actions and statements differently and taking the right path is crucial.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EMichal\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1258\/17849\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-18527\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/18527#comment-18527\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/18527#comment-18527\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EPaying for Dates\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 2 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/breaking-rapport-you%E2%80%99ve-been-doing-it-wrong\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/17849#comment-17849\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EMichal-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESplitting the bill is one thing, but you NEVER want to get into an argument with a girl on a date\u2026 it\u0027s absolutely deadly, 99% of the time. Women are attracted to men they view as superiors\u2026 and you don\u0027t argue with your superiors (usually). You wouldn\u0027t argue with a beautiful woman you were desperate to have, would you? Likewise, if she\u0027s arguing with you, she knows you\u0027re not the man for her.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf you don\u0027t know how to split the bill effectively, this isn\u0027t something that\u0027s life or death. And, if you are taking girls on proper \u0022dates\u0022 (which is what this sounds like), then you\u0027re not in the lover category and are instead auditioning for the boyfriend role\u2026 in which case, she\u0027s absolutely going to insist you pay (much of the time), and will rule you out if you do not. Boyfriend candidates compete on provider value - can you provide at least as well for her as other men (and either beat them in terms of provider ship, or in some other way - e.g., your fundamentals)? Or can you not?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThat said, you handled this situation in the best way you could once it\u0027d already started to save face and not lose any more respect. Had you yielded and told her she could pay next time, I guarantee there wouldn\u0027t have been a next time, and she\u0027d have thought less of you. By the time it\u0027s reached argument status, it\u0027s done and not coming back.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EEssentially, if you want to break expectations of you paying on dates, you want to kill any thoughts about you being a potential boyfriend, and you want to make the date as casual and natural as possible.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf you\u0027re still worried about the bill, just leave it on the table when it comes and keep talking casually as if nothing\u0027s happened. Eventually she\u0027ll bow to the social pressure and pick it up. Just keep talking to her as if you haven\u0027t noticed, and she\u0027ll get awkward and ask you what you should do about the check.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf she even asks this, though, she\u0027s probably either considering you for a boyfriend, or is not interested - you\u0027ll have to do better at making it into the casual \/ lover category with the next girl.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1258\/18527\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-17857\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/17857#comment-17857\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u002212Mark12\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u002212Mark12\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u002212Mark12\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u002212Mark12\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/17857#comment-17857\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003Eproblems to fix\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E12Mark12 (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 25 November 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/breaking-rapport-you%E2%80%99ve-been-doing-it-wrong\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EChase do u think that the reason I dont have success with girls is because I dont show them any attention. I mean some girls  are just thirsty for it. Some would even get mad when I dont show them any. but with any girls I kno or meet its always tension between us. Its hard for me to get along with girls who have big egos sometimes. Any tips on handling this would help\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1258\/17857\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-18537\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/18537#comment-18537\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/18537#comment-18537\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EShowing Interest\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 2 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/breaking-rapport-you%E2%80%99ve-been-doing-it-wrong\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/17857#comment-17857\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EMark-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYes, absolutely - you\u0027ve \u003Cspan style=\u0022font-style: italic;\u0022\u003Egot\u003C\/span\u003E\nto show interest in women... you won\u0027t get very far without doing this.\nWithout it, you\u0027ll send all but the most obsessively interested in you\nwomen straight into auto-rejection.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027d recommend these articles for starters:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cul\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/..\/showing-interest-and-keeping-it\u0022\u003EShowing Interest and\nKeeping It\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/get-girls-chasing-give-little-get-lot\u0022\u003EGet\nGirls Chasing:\u0026nbsp; Give a Little to Get a Lot\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca\nhref=\u0022\/content\/secrets-getting-girls-staying-out-auto-rejection\u0022\u003ESecrets\nto Getting Girls: Staying Out of Auto-Rejection\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/what-does-she-want-8-things-you-must-ask-her\u0022\u003EWhat\nDoes She Want? The 8 Things You Must Ask Her\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/how-compliment-girl-youve-known-her-years\u0022\u003EHow\nto Compliment a Girl Like You\u0027ve Know Her for Years \u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/..\/you%E2%80%99re-not-special-and-neither-she\u0022\u003EYou\u2019re\nNot That Special (and Neither is She)\u003C\/a\u003E\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003Cli\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/book-excerpts-being-attainable-women\u0022\u003EBook\nExcerpts: Being Attainable to Women\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1258\/18537\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-17864\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/17864#comment-17864\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/thedesignertom\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022thedesignertom\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022thedesignertom\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022thedesignertom\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022thedesignertom\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/17864#comment-17864\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EI\u0026#039;m stuck\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/thedesignertom\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/thedesignertom\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003Ethedesignertom\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 25 November 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/breaking-rapport-you%E2%80%99ve-been-doing-it-wrong\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHi Chase,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027ve asked this girl out at college (I\u0027m in the UK so college is kind of the same as high school) and I couldn\u0027t get her phone number because she said her phone was broken, but she did say that she yes when I asked her if she wanted to get something to eat.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI used the direct opener and it worked better than I expected, so thanks. My problem is that I don\u0027t see her around college a lot and if I don\u0027t have any way of contacting her expect talking to her face, how can I set up a date with her or move fast if I\u0027m limited to the amount of time I\u0027ll be able to speak to her.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI think I\u0027ll be lucky if I get to talk to her for around 5 - 10 minutes a week, that\u0027s one of her problems.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThanks\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nTom\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1258\/17864\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-18538\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/18538#comment-18538\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/18538#comment-18538\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EDates Without Phones\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 2 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/breaking-rapport-you%E2%80%99ve-been-doing-it-wrong\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/17864#comment-17864\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003ETom-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027m pretty skeptical when I hear \u0022my phone\u0027s broken\u0022 - it\u0027s \u003Cem\u003Eusually\u003C\/em\u003E just a lame excuse - but occasionally it is true. The thing to do here is, if she agrees to the date anyway, say, \u0022Okay, your phone\u0027s broken - how do we coordinate?\u0022\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThen let her give you ideas for corresponding to set up the date. You typically want to do this right when she\u0027s said yes to meeting up with you, otherwise it becomes something of an awkward game of cat and mouse (and she may have since thought better of her \u0022yes\u0022, but now has to play dodge because she\u0027s already thrown it out there).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo, usually best to grab an alternate form of communication then and there - email\u0027s usually an okay second choice if phone is out... at least it\u0027s not a hangout for her friend zone guys to fawn over her like social media - you usually don\u0027t want to be associated with those guys in her mind.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1258\/18538\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-17972\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/17972#comment-17972\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Tommy\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Tommy\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Tommy\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Tommy\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/17972#comment-17972\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EWhen?\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003ETommy (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Tuesday, 26 November 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/breaking-rapport-you%E2%80%99ve-been-doing-it-wrong\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003Echase is there a way to figure out when to make the next step in the seduction? say for example i\u0027m at the gym, i flirt with the girl in passing who works at the gym and she flirts back in a way that I can tell she\u0027s at least a little interested. asking her out or going to find her to build rapport that same day seems a little too desperate so it\u0027s better to slow game and slowly talk to her more and more. but how do know when attraction expires? does it depend how interested she was even though we didn\u0027t even really have a conversation or would she be disappointed I didn\u0027t escalate things? I planned on slow gaming and letting the good first interaction marinate in her mind but then we walked by eachother later unintentionally and it was a little awkward. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1258\/17972\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-18539\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/18539#comment-18539\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/18539#comment-18539\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EGym Game\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 2 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/breaking-rapport-you%E2%80%99ve-been-doing-it-wrong\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/17972#comment-17972\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003ETommy-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYou\u0027ll want to treat her as a regular in this case - see this article on gym game, and skip to the section on picking up regulars:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u0022\u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/content\/gym-pickup-dos-donts-and-how-meet-girls-gym\u0022\u003EGym Pickup: Dos Don\u0027ts and How to Meet Girls at a Gym\u003C\/a\u003E\u0022\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1258\/18539\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-17979\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/17979#comment-17979\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Petr\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Petr\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Petr\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Petr\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/17979#comment-17979\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EGirls from past + flirting vs. complimenting\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EPetr (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Tuesday, 26 November 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/breaking-rapport-you%E2%80%99ve-been-doing-it-wrong\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHello,\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nI recently changed my wardrobe, haircut, facial hair, moving pace and I try to talk more slowly too. We had a highschool reunion and many girls were giving me attention and even some I had crush on. I am 23 now. Thing is, some of them were kinda bitchy, I used to be just friend for some of them, and one particular once in a group conversation really awfully laught about me and her being together because someone brought that up. It was really bitchy, kind of \u0022this loser and me? The gorgeous one? Bwahaha.\u0022 I cared about her that time and this really woke me up.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ENow. There are many scenarios in my head.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n1) have a conversation first about how come she is interested now. And just test her if she is bitchy or not\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n2) My pride is telling me I should not be even talking to her, that I should turn her down. If she did not get any class over the years and is bitchy still, I would just turn her down harshly.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n3) My awareness understands that I was a loser and now as I matured I am more desirable to them. Which forces to override my pride and just go ahead. So then...\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n4) my penis tells me I should fuck her - after that\u003Cbr \/\u003E\na) just leave\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nb) see where it goes with her\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI am a nice person, I dont really feel well by thinking about just harshly telling her something like - you know, I used to care about you, but then you showed your true bitchy face. So please, leave me alone and go back to your group of fonies.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI spoke with one of these girls (I am saving the one I had crush on) but she could not admit that she finds me more attractive and that she just wants me. Nothing pointing out my weaknesses or trying to even point out the change I have gone through. Which is disrespectful to me.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThing is, that with the one I had crush on, I dont thing pride is that important. It is either I get together with her for a night or not. But I still can not decide what to do with them.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EOh, and now something popped in my head. Difference between flirting and complimenting. I find flirting as an \u0022under the radar complimenting\u0022 and I am not sure if full time flirting is ok. My guess is that compliments are for more serious talks and flirting for lighter, earlier conversation, where we are just playing. But I could not find much on this comparision here. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThank you, Petr\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1258\/17979\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-18543\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/18543#comment-18543\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/18543#comment-18543\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003ERe: Girls from past + flirting vs. complimenting\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 2 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/breaking-rapport-you%E2%80%99ve-been-doing-it-wrong\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/17979#comment-17979\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EPetr-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027m not clear on whether this insult happened years ago, or just\nrecently at the reunion.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf recently, I\u0027d leave it alone. Girls who insult you are either\ngirls who are\nmad at you and in auto-rejection, or they\u0027re just socially\nmiscalibrated people who aren\u0027t able to differentiate between teasing\nand insults (or, are throwing you under the bus to gain social status\nover you). When that happens publicly, the best thing you can do to\nsave face is turn her on her heels:\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cblockquote\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cspan style=\u0022font-weight: bold; color: rgb(0, 102, 0);\u0022\u003EGuy:\u003C\/span\u003E\nWeren\u0027t you guys together in high school?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cspan style=\u0022font-weight: bold; color: rgb(204, 51, 204);\u0022\u003EGirl:\u003C\/span\u003E\nWhat, us? HAHAHAHAHAHA!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cspan style=\u0022font-weight: bold; color: rgb(0, 0, 153);\u0022\u003EYou:\u003C\/span\u003E\nIs that funny?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cspan style=\u0022font-weight: bold; color: rgb(204, 51, 204);\u0022\u003EGirl:\u003C\/span\u003E\nUs being together? Yeah... like, seriously?!\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E\u003Cspan style=\u0022font-weight: bold; color: rgb(0, 0, 153);\u0022\u003EYou:\u003C\/span\u003E\nWait - what\u0027s funny about it?\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/blockquote\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EBasically what she\u0027s doing is implying to everyone else that she\u0027s\nsocially superior. By calling her out on it, you essentially state that\nyou reject that attempt by her, and ask her to qualify the statement.\nThis makes it no longer clear that she is socially superior, and puts\nher in a very delicate situation - she\u0027s now forced to justify her\nladder climbing. If she states outright that she is superior, and you\nshrug it off, she actually looks inferior. The best thing she can do\nhere is shrug it off and try to change topics.\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf the insult was in the distant past though, I\u0027d forget all about\nit and sleep with her if you want to sleep with her and not be a dick\nabout it. People are confused and socially uncalibrated in high school,\nand they throw people under the bus for social status in ways that they\nnever would and may well regret (if they even remember it) as adults.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAlso, as discussed in this article: \u0022\u003Ca\nhref=\u0022\/content\/granting-social-status-and-not-getting-thrown-under-bus\u0022\u003EGranting\nSocial Status; and, Not Getting Thrown Under the Bus\u003C\/a\u003E\u0022, even women\nwho like you will throw you under the bus if backed into a corner and\nthis is the most socially expedient thing to do.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf it\u0027s something from the past, it\u0027s neither worth worrying about,\nnor holding against her.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIf it\u0027s something she just did though, then she still hasn\u0027t come\nvery far from her teenage years, and is probably socially stunted even\ninto adulthood - not the kind of person you want to be involved with in\nany real way.\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003Cbr\u003E\n\u003C\/p\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1258\/18543\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-18450\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/18450#comment-18450\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Gem\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Gem\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Gem\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Gem\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/18450#comment-18450\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EHey Chase, \nyou had posted\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EGem (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Sunday, 1 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/breaking-rapport-you%E2%80%99ve-been-doing-it-wrong\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey Chase, \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003Eyou had posted \u003Ca href=\u0022\/\/www.girlschase.com\/boards\/viewtopic.php?f=8\u0026amp;t=2750\u0026amp;p=12417\u0026amp;hilit=zan#p12417\u0022\u003Ehttp:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/boards\/viewtopic.php?f=8\u0026amp;t=2750\u0026amp;p=12417\u0026amp;hilit=...\u003C\/a\u003E on the forum and I had really benefited from that post. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u2019ve been reading a good deal from this lately because recently Ive been wanting some good advanced mentors in seduction but have been mostly lacking here. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThere was a post here by Zan that I wanted to talk about: it\u2019s something that I have felt very strongly, for a long time now and he summarizes the overarching quandary of it well:\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n____________________________________________\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nEvery now and then I wax philosophical about this whole PUA stuff. What I mean\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nis - why do we feel the need to constantly be on the make? Something from our\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nchildhood? Not enough attention from our mothers? Slight misogyny? Or are we\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nborn with it in our genes?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EYou have to admit that true, natural PUAs are relatively rare. That\u0027s why they\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nare so fascinating to both guys and girls. Maybe 1% of the male population or\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nsomething. Most on this forum are in that percentile, while others on this\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nforum are very desirous of learning the techniques. \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI think we must be born with it. After all, no matter how much an AFC admires a\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nPUA and wishes he could be like that as well, we are a breed apart. Most guys\u003Cbr \/\u003E\ndo not have the intestinal fortitude or emotional makeup to become a player.\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nAnd quite frankly, there are a very large percentage of guys who, contrary to\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nthe laws of evolution, have no interest in anything but a monogamous\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nrelationship. Do you ever wonder what separates us from them? Chemical\u003Cbr \/\u003E\ndifferences? I dunno.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI\u0027ve been doing this for probably a lot longer than you guys (I\u0027m now 38), but\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nI cannot remember a time since I was in 1st grade that I didn\u0027t constantly\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nchase girls. I have always adored them.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIn fact, just for context (and since this is anonymous), here is a bit about\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nme. As I said I am 38. I have a 14 year old daughter (I got a girl pregnant\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nwhen I was 24). She lives with her mom but stays over at my house 3 - 4 days\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nper week (limiting my social nights somewhat, but I love her, so fuck my social\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nlife).\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI have always been a player. Until just recently when I discovered this site, I\u003Cbr \/\u003E\ndidn\u0027t know any of the terminology or techniques. I just did my own thing,\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nwhich is very similar to the stuff here. But I sure have learned a lot since I\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nstarted to lurk here a few weeks ago. If I had known SS back in my 20s, I would\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nhave been extremely dangerous  So good material, guys.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EIn my 20s, I did pretty good. In fact when I was 28, I slept with 86 girls in a\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nsingle year. You can call bullshit if you want and flame me, but I don\u0027t give a\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nshit what you think and I am wearing my flame retardant suit  BTW, I\u0027m not\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nthe only one who keeps score, am I?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThen when I turned 29, I met this 17 year old that I started dating. We ended\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nup living together a year later(gasp from the crowd) and then 3 years ago, we\u003Cbr \/\u003E\ngot married (crowd shudders and faints). Anyway, we were together 8.5 years. We\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nsplit up in January of this year, and that is why I am now participating on\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nthis forum.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EJust so you don\u0027t think I was too smitten by oneitis - when I started dating\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nher, I was actually dating her and her 18 year old best friend at the same time\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n- and I mean at the same time. Full on threesome for six months. And for any of\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nyou guys that fantasize about two girls at once, by all means do it, but NEVER\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nFOR A LONG TIME with the same girls. I hated it. They were both emotionally\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nattached and it became one huge mind fuck. Never again.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo I eventually dumped the friend and continued seeing the one who I eventually\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nmarried. We had two or three 3ways with women over the years (my wife loves\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nwomen), but other than that it was oneitis with her.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI have always been comfortable talking to beautiful women, but I have to admit\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nI am now a little rusty. I\u0027ve only been with 3 girls since we split up. You\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nguys have inspired me greatly.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI have no idea what the point of this post is. I am a little drunk and so I\u0027m\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nrambling. I am just wondering about all this PUA stuff right now. I am getting\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nback in the game slowly. I have started to model scout again for my old agency\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nin Los Angeles (I live in Canada). No better way to meet ladies . In fact that\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nis how I met my wife and her friend.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnyway, enough. Just wanted to know if any of you guys ever wonder about this\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nor not.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFlame away...\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EZan\u003Cbr \/\u003E\n___________________________________________\u003Cbr \/\u003E\nWhat is it that separates the guy who actively just wants many women from the status quo? In my lifetime I can count on my fingers the amount of true naturals who have this drive to get many quality women and have been at it from early grade school or so on (less than 10, I can think of about 5 including myself). \u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI think here the distinction isn\u2019t that you are born a natural but that you are born with a heightened desire to get more girls and this drives you to go out and learn to do so? It\u2019s some weird phenomenon and makes it very tough to be exclusive to one girl but it\u2019s a part of me too so I accept it as that you can say.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EWhat are your thoughts on this?\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003E-Gem\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1258\/18450\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022indented\u0022\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-18546\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-node-author well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/18546#comment-18546\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n  \u003Cimg class=\u0022authortag\u0022 src=\u0022\/sites\/all\/themes\/custom\/girlschase\/images\/comment-author-1.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Author\u0022 width=\u002260px\u0022 height=\u002260px\u0022 \/\u003E    \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/picture-1-1492164307.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Chase Amante\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/18546#comment-18546\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EThe Drive\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 title=\u0022View user profile.\u0022 class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 about=\u0022\/users\/chase-amante\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EChase Amante\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Monday, 2 December 2013  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/breaking-rapport-you%E2%80%99ve-been-doing-it-wrong\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/comment\/18450#comment-18450\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EGem-\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EFrom everything I\u0027ve seen among various guys, it\u0027s maybe half and half heightened sex drive vs. personality disorders, with some mix in between.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003Ee.g., some of the most prolific men with women I\u0027ve known have been borderline personality disordered guys, or otherwise very emotional men - these are guys with lay counts in the 300+ range who are just absolutely prolific, but who are mortified of commitment and \u0022date down\u0022 to avoid ending up with women they\u0027d be genuinely afraid of losing. Men who are low empathy (socio \/ psychopaths - who aren\u0027t all serial killers; many are, rather, CEOs of Fortune 500 companies and other similarly very successful leaders) are another prominent group (again, BPD and NPD men fall in here), and often pursue sex as much for the feeling of conquering and beating the competition and winning and controlling as anything else.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EAnd there are just guys with very high levels of natural testosterone - the guys with the crazy 2D:4D ratios who were dosed with heavy amounts of T in the womb, and take steroids \/ have giant muscles, which are things that infuse large helpings of testosterone into the bloodstream, and testosterone is what drives a man\u0027s sex drive and partner counts. There was even a study that found that you could predict a man\u0027s lifetime sex partner count by measuring the size of his biceps - the larger the biceps, on average, the higher the total partner count.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EThat\u0027s what gets you rolling. I think once you reach a certain point though, it\u0027s just easy to stay single and sleep with more girls, because the fear of being alone (scarcity) that underpins the majority of men\u0027s desires to settle down simply isn\u0027t there, and the ability to get new women who are the sort you like is so easy that it\u0027s kind of a no brainer. The high of sleeping with someone new is always higher than the high of sleeping with someone you\u0027ve been seeing for a long time.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003ESo, I\u0027d say it\u0027s just some large driving force to get you going - high natural testosterone levels, or a disordered personality that pushes you into seeking sex for validation or power - but then eventually it just becomes something that\u0027s easy and fun to get, and you lose the desire to settle down (if you ever had it) that most men experience after trying and failing to get laid repeatedly with girls they really like and start making lifestyle compromises in order to get those girls.\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EChase\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E      \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022pull-right\u0022\u003E\u003Cul class=\u0022links list-inline\u0022\u003E\u003Cli class=\u0022comment-reply first last\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/reply\/1258\/18546\u0022\u003Ereply\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/li\u003E\n\u003C\/ul\u003E\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\n\u003C\/div\u003E\u003Ca id=\u0022comment-24219\u0022\u003E\u003C\/a\u003E\n\u003Cdiv class=\u0022comment comment-by-anonymous well clearfix\u0022 about=\u0022\/comment\/24219#comment-24219\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:Post sioct:Comment\u0022\u003E\n      \u003Cdiv class=\u0022user-picture\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 data-src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/all\/modules\/contrib\/lazyloader\/image_placeholder.gif\u0022 alt=\u0022Mann\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Mann\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003Cnoscript\u003E\u003Cimg typeof=\u0022foaf:Image\u0022 class=\u0022img-responsive\u0022 src=\u0022https:\/\/www.girlschase.com\/sites\/default\/files\/pictures\/circle-guest-85x85.png\u0022 alt=\u0022Mann\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 title=\u0022Mann\u0026#039;s picture\u0022 \/\u003E\u003C\/noscript\u003E  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \n    \u003Ch3 property=\u0022dc:title\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003E\u003Ca href=\u0022\/comment\/24219#comment-24219\u0022 class=\u0022permalink\u0022 rel=\u0022bookmark\u0022\u003EGirls being insulting\u003C\/a\u003E\u003C\/h3\u003E\n  \n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022submitted\u0022\u003E\n            Posted by \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:has_creator\u0022\u003E\u003Cspan class=\u0022username\u0022 xml:lang=\u0022\u0022 typeof=\u0022sioc:UserAccount\u0022 property=\u0022foaf:name\u0022 datatype=\u0022\u0022\u003EMann (not verified)\u003C\/span\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E on Saturday, 1 March 2014  \u003C\/div\u003E\n\n  \u003Cdiv class=\u0022content\u0022\u003E\n    \u003Cspan rel=\u0022sioc:reply_of\u0022 resource=\u0022\/content\/breaking-rapport-you%E2%80%99ve-been-doing-it-wrong\u0022 class=\u0022rdf-meta element-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003C\/span\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field field-name-comment-body field-type-text-long field-label-hidden\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-items\u0022\u003E\u003Cdiv class=\u0022field-item even\u0022 property=\u0022content:encoded\u0022\u003E\u003Cp\u003EHey Chase,\u003C\/p\u003E\n\u003Cp\u003EI really likes your article, and  I have a question. I have a quite small voice for a guy my age. i don\u0027t usually get laughed at about it but recently I was chatting with a girl i had known for about a month on phone. She let me talk to her friend who was around and she started making fun of my voice, and in a sarcastic way, later complimenting it. she got the group of girls laughing. 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