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Tourist Game – Conversation Topics and Dealing with Her Friends

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Travel is a great conversation topic for seducing tourist girls. Also, women don’t always tour alone, so it helps to know how to deal with her friends and groups.

Hello, and welcome back!

Last week we looked at the best mindset to have when meeting girls from your tours for a date. I suggested some good venue ideas to enrich her narrative (and her arousal) as she discovers this exciting new city or country.

Finally, I discussed some verbal juice you can deliver to unblock potential resistance to fast sex your tourist girl might have while on the date.

Now let's touch on some finer details that will give you an even sharper edge in this game: seduction-friendly conversation topics and dealing with her friends and groups.

Tactics Tuesdays: Resetting Early Expectations

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By: Chase Amante

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What happens if you fail to set proper relationship expectations? Well, your partner can have the wrong idea. Here's how to do a reset when things have changed.

On the forum, we have a member who has eased into a relationship with a girl he picked up off of day game. He never set expectations with her, and has insensibly come to treat the relationship as a girlfriend-boyfriend one.

There's just one problem: he wants to keep picking up.

Yet he's conflicted on how to proceed: he doesn't want to cheat on this girl and hurt her, but he also never said he was going to be her boyfriend, either.

So what should he do?

The answer, of course, is expectations.

More specifically, he needs to set some better (and much clearer) ones.

Turn Your Life into an Achievement

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By: Tony Depp

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“If a man is called to be a street sweeper, he should sweep streets even as Michelangelo painted, or Beethoven composed music, or Shakespeare wrote poetry. He should sweep streets so well that all the hosts of Heaven and Earth will pause to say, ‘Here lived a great street sweeper who did his job well.’”
    Martin Luther King Jr.

Learning how to be good with women is not a small achievement. I’d say it’s one of the greatest achievements a man can accomplish.

Most men will never know what it’s like to sleep with a beautiful woman (without paying for it). Perhaps a few will get “lucky” when a girl they know falls in their lap through a social circle or work. But most guys? They settle for the best they think they can get.

These men are fine with mediocre.

Personally, I am not fine with mediocre. At least not when it comes to the women I date long term.

I don’t want to date ignorant, boring, plain, or obese women. I want to be with charming, confident, attractive, fit, intelligent, interesting women. So I’ve spent a large part of my life transforming myself into someone these sorts of women will find attractive.

Of course, nobody’s perfect. We all have our valleys and plateaus. You don’t need to be excellent in every area of your life, but you should strive for it in as many areas as possible.

With Girls, Tomorrow Isn't Promised

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By: Chase Amante

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In a fast-paced world where women have a lot of options, the men who excel with women are those who don't just wait around before they make things happen.

One week back, an inexperienced forum member who's been making strides and overcoming a lot of self-doubt and other issues met a girl who was so beautiful he thought she was completely out of his league. He pushed through it anyway though and got her to the point of public oral sex in a park on their first date. He did wonderfully, considering his experience level and his expectations.

However, in the park, he had some erection issues. He couldn't get hard, and, despite his girl clearly, strongly desiring sex with him, rather than slip his limp penis into her and try to get it up, or see if he could give her a half-decent time with the rubbing of his pelvis on her clit with his soft penis in her, he elected to end things.

When he texted her again the next day, she did not respond.

I congratulated on getting as far as he got, given his level of experience. And I urged him to persist in his follow-up with her... sometimes that will work, and you can pull a victory from the jaws of defeat. Don't just give up on getting this hot girl you almost got because she's unresponsive at first.

But, given he had her, and let her go, what are the realistic odds he manages to get her out again and beds her properly?

Maybe 50/50?

What would be the odds though had he took his limp penis and inserted it into her vagina anyway and gone a few rounds even if he could not get it up at all?

I don't know for sure, but a lot better than 50/50.

With women, no matter what we are talking about, tomorrow isn't ever promised.

If you want a girl, and she's in front of you, whatever you want to make happen, you must do your best to make it happen now.

How a Girl's Perception of COVID-19 Affects Her Sex Drive

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Whether the COVID-19 situation is severe or not, the ‘perception’ of severity plays a very big role on a woman’s sex drive and her willingness to resume dating.

Hey guys. Welcome back to another post on seduction during the pandemic. Here I share analysis, strategies, and suggestions on how to play the mating game during this COVID-19 crisis, which has become the ultimate cockblock.

Dealing with this situation is difficult, I admit. It took me time and much brainpower to “re-figure” things out. It took many disappointing nights out and quite a bit of frustration, too. But this is a part of game, and especially a part of the learning and discovery process. One advantage I may have is that I have been in the learning and discovery phase before. I know how to crack the code and figure things out. New guys in this scene may not (yet) have this capacity. However, they can read the analysis of more experienced guys. So I hope this will help.

I’ve written a few posts about dealing with the coronavirus, which I recommend you read:

Last week’s article about different levels of lockdown was particularly important. I broke down the three levels of lockdown and shared suggestions on how to approach the mating game.

There are three general phases of lockdown:

  • Hard lockdown: You can forget about the dating game, yet do not despair as this “closed” lockdown does not last forever.

  • Moderate lockdown: Day game, parks, bars, restaurants, hosting at home, and social circle management opportunities begin to open up. You can have F-buddies come over.

  • Light lockdown: Same as above, but you may have more options: bars with less social distancing and some clubs may be open with strict social distancing, sadly.

If you want more details, read my previous article.

What I did not cover last week was the way this affects female emotions. It could be helpful to discuss what is possible logistically. A woman’s mood and state also need to be considered.

I’ve noticed that women’s behavior differs depending on many factors. I have traveled to other countries with different lockdown policies, and have talked with girls abroad. Some visited me once the European Union opened its borders.

I’ve come to some conclusions about how COVID-19 and lockdown policies affect women’s moods. I will share these factors next.

Tourist Game – The Date: Set Good Frames and Escalate the Vibe

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Now that you’ve met up with your girl after the tour, it’s time to set ‘fast sex’ frames and escalate the vibe. As a guide, you’ve got some handy options for doing that.

Hey guys, welcome back!

Last week we looked at everything you should avoid doing when picking up girls on your tours as a tour guide so you don’t get fired. We went over how to text a girl from your tour to meet her later for a date. Finally, we mentioned the average duration and the typical number of venues for your first date before sex, provided you live close to the venues.

 

Your Ideal Mindset

Regardless of what unfolds, it is safe to assume that if a tourist from your tour agrees to come and meet you alone for a date to catch the sunset or after the sun has set, she wants to sleep with you. As you gain more experience, you will begin assuming her desire even when you meet her in the early afternoon.

If you have to guess a girl’s intentions — because girls will seldom make them clear in a forthright manner, though they may give you hints — it’s best to bet in your favor:

  1. Girls will feel compelled to sleep with you if you go through the motions of a traditional date while leading things forward. They won’t feel the need to make decisions if it seems like you’re in control and not doubting yourself.

  2. If she is still hesitant about sleeping with you, and you assume she’s out of your league, or make an excuse not to bring her home and escalate to sex, it will become a self-fulfilling prophecy. The girl won’t try to “convince” you that she wants to sleep with you if you don’t assume that that’s what she wants and operate with that goal in mind. You’ll end up frustrated because you will never find out what could have happened if you’d made the move.

Things That Consistently Boost Your Odds with Girls: Movement

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By: Cody Lyans

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How can one gain more control over how his interactions with women play out? How do you increase your odds of attracting women? Add meaning to your movement.

In my previous article, I described contextual mirroring. In this article, I will give another example of seduction, explaining how it exists as more than just a vague set of concepts and relationships between ideas.

It’s important to know that seduction has an end goal. There is nothing worse than spending time to get good at something only to realize your goal is too vague to improve, and you can’t change your results.

With seduction, it is almost inevitable that most will come to that conclusion. So today, I will reveal two concrete changes that will hopefully shake your world at its foundations. You’ll come away understanding seduction is not only real but excessively powerful, even though you may be unaware of this fact and have never truly understood what you are capable of.

How to Avoid Getting Attached Before You're Ready

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By: Tony Depp

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Most guys who learn pickup end up with a girlfriend, often very quickly. But what if you don’t want to settle just yet? These tips will help you avoid getting attached.

Finding that one girl you’d want to be your special unicorn and be with forever and ever is not easy.

I’ve dated hundreds of women in my life, and I still haven’t found “the perfect girl.” There’s no such thing as perfection. Even the most beautiful diamond is just a rock. And the closer you look at it, the more flaws you’ll find.

However, it’s my hope that every one of you finds your dream girl, and you travel to Southern France (or wherever) together and make a dozen babies.

Until then, I believe that every man should date a large variety of women. Otherwise, how will you know when you’ve found one you can tolerate, and even enjoy, for what may be the rest of your mortal life?

Name a Woman's Behavior If You Want Her to Change It

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By: Chase Amante

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Name a woman's behavior to alter it. Most people aren't conscious of what they're doing or why… when you make her conscious, you change her trajectory.

People do all sorts of things without being conscious they're doing them.

They engage in behaviors -- often behaviors they don't themselves feel good about -- driven by emotions they're barely aware of.

You, however, at the very least by reading this site, are a student of human behavior. You're more conscious of the things you do and why... and you are more conscious of what those around you do, and why.

And when you point out to someone what he is doing, and make him conscious of it, often that is going to affect whether and how much he continues to do that thing.

If what he's doing is something negative, that shows a trait like jealousy or insecurity, you pointing it out is going to tend to motivate him to assert control over that behavior.

You can use this 'behavior naming' with women to help nudge them into fixing or quitting bad behavior they engage in around you.

Dating Strategies for Different Levels of Lockdown

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By: Alek Rolstad

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COVID-19 restrictions vary in different parts of the world. In this article, I go over some possible dating solutions depending on your level of lockdown.

Hey guys. And welcome back.

Today I want to return to my posts on COVID-19 and how to deal with this challenging situation. Let’s not fool ourselves; this pandemic is one of the biggest cockblocks I have ever encountered. It has impaired me more than I would have believed. Things are NOT easy. It is hard for everyone.

It may negatively affect your social and sexual confidence. I get that. Usually, I would tell guys to man up, but I can only say that I sympathize. It has affected me and other seducers as well. Things are not great.

I may be repeating myself, but it’s important to note that we are all experiencing the lows of COVID-19, pros and beginners alike. So do not feel bad for experiencing negative emotions. Pros and beginners may experience things differently. Pros may feel the shock of not having superpowers anymore, which is very frustrating, and beginners may feel far less robust emotionally regarding sex and women.

Most of us, regardless of skill levels, will experience lows for different reasons. The way people cope with crises, given their natural predispositions, may play a significant role in how they react and how severely they are affected.

Today I want to get practical. My two last articles on seduction during the pandemic have been mostly in a negative tone. I’ve taken a negative slant about online dating and dating apps. I do not generally consider them good options for meeting women, and find them even less useful during the pandemic.

(I still have not heard from anyone racking up plenty of pulls from Tinder during the pandemic; wasn’t it supposed to be the perfect solution?)

So, what should one do instead? I feel bad for leaving readers without a replacement.

I will share some brief suggestions. It will be an overview. In future posts, I may share specific guides on dealing with these suggestions. I am not writing in-depth posts yet, because I still have not found the holy grail. I hope that the crisis will end before I get to that, so I don’t have to write these guides. But if the crisis continues, you will AT LEAST have some in-depth suggestions.