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Wingman Guide, Pt 1: Intro to Wingmanning – Basic Rules

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By: Alek Rolstad

wingmanning: introductionA wingman can be a great asset when you go out to meet girls. But the wrong wingman can play saboteur. Follow this guide & these rules to pick a GOOD one.

Hey, guys. In my last few posts on selecting nightlife companions, I’ve discussed going out with others versus going out solo, a subject discussed often. We’ve gone over selecting the number of people to go out with and choosing the right people to tag along with you.

We briefly mentioned wingmanning, and I decided not to delve too far into this discussion then. Those posts covered going out with people who may not desire to cooperate in your women-hunting endeavors because they are not wingmen but cool people who know many others, look good, and can increase your mood and value.

We concluded that it is best to:

  1. Go out solo.

  1. Go out in a larger group.

  1. Avoid going out in groups of three whenever possible.

  1. Avoid going out with one other unless he is your explicit wingman; otherwise, he will be in the way.

So, in this post, we will discuss the basics of wingmanning and the criteria for choosing the right wingmen, then go through different wingmanning rules. In the coming weeks, we will discuss more strategies and techniques to use with your wingman.

Last Chance to Be "Scaldingly Charismatic" in 2024

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By: Chase Amante

Charisma in a Bottle last chanceAt midnight tonight, the “Charisma In A Bottle” New Year’s special ends – and the discount + the limited edition “Sexual Charisma Manual” disappear. Get your copy NOW!

Today’s the final day to grab “Charisma In A Bottle” at $50 off and pick up my going-going-gone Sexual Charisma Manual. After today, our New Year’s special comes to an end – and with it, the price rises, and the Manual goes away.

In case you don’t know, “Charisma In A Bottle” (CIAB) is the breakthrough charisma program I released two years ago that turns an ordinary man into a magnetic powerhouse. It’s the only training on the planet that combines my 28 years of charisma experimentation and refinement with all the most piercing insights from scientific charisma research.

CIAB is both the most scientifically-accurate program ever put together on charisma – and the most actionable one, telling you exactly what to do, how to move, which ways to express yourself, and how to interact with others to build, maintain, and amplify your charisma.

Yet in under 24 hours, the chance to get this high-powered program, souped up and at a discount, draws to a close.

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Charisma Breakdown: Ryan Reynolds

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By: Chase Amante

Ryan Reynolds charisma breakdownRyan Reynolds wields a puckish, irrepressible charisma he uses to easily place himself at the top of any social pile. This Charisma Breakdown shows how.

I first saw Ryan Reynolds on primetime TV in the show Two Guys, a Girl and a Pizza Place. I was 15 years old, and instantly, I found myself hooked: Reynolds’s effusive, puckish charisma and his amazing humor sucked me in. “This guy is AWESOME!” I said. A few years later he starred in National Lampoon’s Van Wilder; he was hilarious in it and his charisma was off the charts. For years since I’ve described my seduction style (and this site) as “smooth, stylish, and irreverent; think Sean Connery mixed with a dash of Van Wilder.”

In 2002 (when Van Wilder came out) I fully expected Reynolds to become a humongous star… only to be disappointed as he landed B-movie role after B-movie role for over a decade. People Magazine naming him the Sexiest Man Alive in 2010 did little to help his career.

Of course, today, Reynolds is a bankable leading man; his star rose to the heights it’s still at after the 2016 hit movie Deadpool (based on a character described in the comics as “Ryan Renolds [sic] crossed with a Shar-Pei”… in 2004, five years before Reynolds ever played the character – the role was really just a match made in Heaven. Or in a comic book office by some writer as enamored with Reynolds’s charisma as I was. Take your pick). I feel vindicated Reynolds finally achieved the clout he clearly deserves – but almost like that was a given, given his rare and potent charisma, know what I mean?

Anyway, today, as part of our ongoing discussion of charisma – which is itself part of our ongoing New Year’s promotion of my course “Charisma In A Bottle”, which is pretty much the best training program you are going to find on charisma anywhere on the Earth (and you can pick it up at a discount + with a limited edition manual through this Saturday) – let’s break down what makes Ryan Reynolds’s charisma so good.

Charisma Breakdown: Brad Pitt

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By: Chase Amante

Brad Pitt: Charisma BreakdownWhat made Brad Pitt the Sexiest Man Alive – twice? It’s his charisma… and in this breakdown of what he does and why, you’ll discover just how he does it.

In light of our special on “Charisma In A Bottle” – the most complete charisma training course on the market – I’m adding another entry to our Charisma Breakdown series, which analyzes the charisma of famous leading men.

Today’s subject: People Magazine’s twice-awarded ‘Sexiest Man Alive’, Brad Pitt. A Charisma Breakdown on Brad Pitt is probably overdue; here in the men’s corner of the Internet, we’ve long used ‘Brad Pitt’ as a stand-in for ‘ridiculously handsome and/or sexy man’. While of course tastes vary and not every woman agrees he’s all that attractive, most can agree he’s a pretty charming guy.

For the purposes of this article, we’ll be looking at the charisma of young Brad Pitt. Many men get better with age (see: Sean Connery, John Wayne), but others decline (see: Errol Flynn). Pitt, unfortunately, is in the ‘decline’ camp (albeit still solidly charismatic; just not as much so as when younger).

So let’s do a review of young, sexiest Brad Pitt – and see just how he worked his charismatic appeal!

Tactics Tuesdays: Story-Based Charisma

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By: Chase Amante

story-based charismaYou can tell a story to amplify your charisma. Showcase charismatic qualities in your storytelling, and be amazed how people start treating you different.

In light of our New Year’s promotion of my charisma-generating course “Charisma in a Bottle” (and the new, limited release Sexual Charisma Manual that comes with it until January 7th), I wanted to share some pieces devoted to the theme of charisma.

For this Tactics Tuesdays, we’re going to discuss a simple type of charisma-building tactic that anyone can use, and that builds charisma even if a guy doesn’t have great charismatic fundamentals or advanced charisma game… yet.

I call it “Story-Based Charisma” and it revolves around telling stories that frame you in a charismatic light.

If you think that sounds like it couldn’t possibly work to generate charismatic attraction, you’d be very surprised.

This New Year, Let Me Help You Reach Your Charisma Goals

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By: Chase Amante

new year charismaTo help you achieve all your interpersonal goals this 2024, I’ve got something you’re sure to love: a nice discount on my charisma-generator… plus a brand new sexual charisma model.

Happy New Year! It’s the dawn of 2024.

You’ve probably set some goals…

If ANY of those goals touch ‘people’ in ANY way… such as…

  • Friendship goals, where you want to meet more cool people, make excellent/awesome friends, get yourself invited to more parties, events, dinners, and social gatherings…

  • Career goals, where you want to make more (and more connected) business contacts, have job opportunities fall into your lap, even get folks you know pursuing you to work with or for them…

  • Girl goals, where you want to get more approach invitations, dates, sex, relationships, and more from exactly the kinds of girls you want… even if they’ve been ‘out of reach’ in the past…

Then I want help.

Because this week, to aid you in reaching your 2024 goals, I’m dropping the price on my charisma-generating system “CHARISMA IN A BOTTLE”… PLUS adding in a never-before-seen (and fiendishly powerful) new charisma model inside my brand-new and LIMITED TIME Sexual Charisma Manual.

The Ideal Male/Female Ratio for Your Going Out Group

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By: Alek Rolstad

male-female ratio in going-out groupsWhen you go out to nightlife (especially if to pick up girls), you want a good male/female ratio in your group. And the truth is, there IS an ideal ratio!

Hey guys and welcome back.

Today, I will conclude my series on selecting your peers and who to allow in your group when attending social gatherings.

How many people should you head out with? In my first post, we concluded that you should:

  1. Go out solo

  1. Go out with larger groups

Groups of two and three are not ideal, though groups of three are usually okay, and groups of two are good IF and ONLY IF that person is your trusted wing. Going out with a girl (as a pair) is not a good idea. I’ve explained why in previous posts.

Last week, I shared factors to consider when selecting who to go out with. My criteria are:

  • People who know a lot of people
  • Socially savvy people
  • People with an edge
  • People with money
  • People with a good reputation
  • People who look good
  • People who dress well

Is Marriage Worth Doing Anymore If You're a Man?

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TEXTModern marriage seems to offer many pitfalls for men. Yet many men still marry anyway. So is marriage worth doing for men today – or not?

There’s an ongoing debate on our forum about whether marriage is worth it if you’re a man.

Marriage as an institution has undergone some extremely significant changes in the Western world over the past century. Indeed, it’s been changing for the past three centuries, but in particular over the past 70 years – since the first no-fault divorce law passed in Oklahoma in 1953 – there’s been a complete transformation in what marriage is, what it stands for – and even who marries and why.

In fact, marriage ALWAYS changes… and most of the ‘new’ changes to marriages have happened many times in history before – if not in recent history.

The changes marriage has undergone are argued to have improved it for many parties.

There’s one party marriage has not improved for, however: heterosexual men.

So, today, we’ll take a close look at what the changes to marriage have meant for men… and whether, as a man, marriage is something worth doing anymore.

Conversation Example: Repartee

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By: Chase Amante

conversation example: reparteeThis conversation example shows how to build flirtation, banter, and excitement in the initial Repartee Stage with a girl. Follow along & watch it unfold!

A short while back, a reader requested the following:

Chase, in HTMGC you say repartee is to be used after the opener and that it consists of push-pull, chase frames, intrigue and teasing.

Is it possible write an FR style article that shows these tools specifically being used at the outset during the repartee phase?

All the posts on these tactics only give mid or end-game illustrations of their use.

I've also read the conversation example article. It's awesome! Upon close observation, i notice that in the convo example post you skip the whole repartee aspect post opener and jump right into rapport hence why i'm requesting for an article where you specifically show how push-pull, chase frames, teasing and intrigue can be jumbled up together after delivery of the opener.

So all right; let me give you a conversation example with a fleshed out chunk of repartee.

If you have not read my prior Conversation Example, I’d suggest you check it out. That example takes you deeper into the conversation than this example will (we’re going to stop after repartee). If you want some real (verbatim) conversations and repartee between girls and me, plus the full chapter on repartee, check out that chapter and the two reports in the appendix of my book How to Make Girls Chase.

Keep in mind, repartee must be calibrated to the girl. If she’s responsive to it, laughing, into it, you can draw your repartee out a bit and have some real fun with her. If she’s the humorless type, though, you’re going to move through repartee pretty quick just to not waste time cracking jokes that flop / using tech that doesn’t ‘hit’. Some girls just respond better to bonding than they do playful banter.

For our example here, we’ll use a girl who’s responsive to repartee and gets into it – that way we can unfold a nice, fleshed out repartee sequence with a girl you’ve just met.

Why Are There So Many Single Men and Women?

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By: Chase Amante

so many single men and womenThere are 4x as many unmarried 40 y/os today than there were just 3 decades ago. What’s happened, and why are so many men and women single and alone?

In the same forum thread that inspired my last article about men who resent women, a separate forum member commented to ask:

Does this still apply when women reject all of their suitors to end up single? Many of the women who rejected me over a year ago are still single. This description could well apply to many single women above 33, say. Can we then declare that the woman's standards were unrealistic or that the criteria that she used to reject were unreasonable and harmful (to her own happiness)? Or would you still argue that she rejected all of those guys and ended up single because she has expectations for men based on her experiences with men the past and she didn't see comparable quality with any of her suitors? This could be a past chad boyfriend but even if she's a virgin it could be male figures in her family e.g. a woman might want a guy to be taller than her baby brother. In that case, would you make the argument that the suitors who got rejected failed to effectively compete with the guys/male figures of the past or would you concede that the women can be blamed here for their standards?

It's true; there are lots of single older women, and more all the time. There are also lots of single older men. There are lots of people in general who are not having committed long-term relationships, and even more of them (single and attached) who do not reproduce.

All this – people remaining single, even while older; people eschewing committed relationships; people remaining childless – are part of a broad sociological trend throughout modern societies. It is not just a Western phenomenon; the same phenomenon is occurring in East Asia, which has a very different society but the same exact issues.

If we want to understand the explosion of older single and childless people, we need to look beyond individual cases and examine broad civilizational trends to grasp what is really happening in human societies.