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Insights from the Mind of a Seducer

Do Not Compare Yourself to Women

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"Women have it easier." Well sure, in many ways they do. But YOU are not in competition with women.

There is a thing I have seen online (not so much in real life, but perhaps I'm not socializing with the right guys for it in real life) where guys complain about how easy women have it or how much XYZ thing favors women.

I'll give a few examples of this:

  • "Women don't know anything about how hard it is to approach guys. Men approach THEM! Why do men have to do all the work?"

  • "Dating is all about what the woman wants. Men have to do all the work of planning and wooing and courting a girl. The man has to make all the moves. Then if he messes up, the woman walks! How is any of that fair!"

  • "The law is completely stacked on women's side! If a woman wants to screw a man over, she totally can! As a man, you are a second class citizen!"

Are these things true?

Well yes, they are. Men do have to do all the work of the approach. Men do have to do all the work of the date. Men do get ditched if they mess up with a girl, often (but not always. Girls will cut you some slack if they like you). The law does often favor women (though not quite to the extent most men's rights activists seem to think).

I guess if you are arguing for a change to cultural norms, or the legal system, it might be worthwhile to complain about this stuff and get a movement going.

If you're on Girls Chase though, I assume your primary objective is more success in the world as it exists, and not so much becoming a political activist to try to change the world.

You might well be a political activist too. But that's not why you are here.

If you're here, it's because you want girls.

And if you want girls, stop comparing yourself with girls.

Pickup and Seduction Gambit: The Anti-Climax Routine

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By: Alek Rolstad

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The anti-climax gambit piques her interest and imagination but delivers comic disappointment. It helps you avoid potential resistance and leaves her wanting more.

Today I want to share a cool technique I have found that excites women. It’s a great tool to add juice to your conversations, stimulate her emotionally, and perhaps help set a sexual frame.

I've only tried this technique with night game. I am sure some of you can experiment with it and find other ways to implement it. For instance, you could apply a toned-down version of it for day game, or use something like this during a date (as you get further into it).

This post is suited for beginners who have learned the fundamentals of interesting and captivating conversation. However, intermediates will gain the most benefits from this technique.

That said, this technique is not hard to pull off.

I will share my example, but you are more than welcome to create your variations or use the concepts in this technique to create your own. This is the beauty of such posts. You may or may not like a technique, but you can always steal something from it, and that something can be an essential part of your repertoire.

If you are looking for sex talk gambits, you’ll be happy because the example I use here is one of them.

Even Nice, Sweet Girls Like to Be Touched

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Does it seem like nice, sweet girls exist outside of sexuality? They don't – they're sexual creatures too, even if it isn't always obvious at first.

Go through life as a man, and you will encounter different classes of women.

There is the flirtatious, outgoing girl it's easy to flirt with. She's a minx and you just know she wants you to touch her and hit on her. She loves the attention.

And there is the regular girl, who isn't so outgoing. She still flirts sometimes, and you feel like she 'can take it' if you get a little bit aggressive with her. You don't flirt with her or touch her as much as the aggressively flirtatious girl, yet you still do a bit.

Finally, there is the kind, sweet girl, who seems like such a nice person, completely not flirtatious at all. She is innocent; childlike. Even if she's a grown woman and very pretty, it feels somewhat wrong to you to flirt too much with this woman or touch her or be all that aggressive with her. It feels like she isn't about that; you're not sure she could 'handle that', and you certainly don't want to hurt such a sweet human being.

These perspectives on women have some truth in them, while still being flawed.

There's a reason many girls both of the ordinary regular girl variety and the innocent sweet girl variety end up with asshole bad boys, and part of the reason is these are the only guys who regularly ignore 'sweetness' or 'disinterest' signals.

What that means is that while assholes bother some women who aren't interested, they also make a lot more progress with those other girls whom more respectful men hesitate to flirt with, get sexual with, and touch.

Qualities That Propel You to Dating Success

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If you want learn how to become successful with women as quickly as possible, these particular traits and mindsets will accelerate your progress.

If you want to be amazing with women, there’s one mindset that will land you more success than any other:

The ability to deal with rejection.

When guys ask me what it takes to become amazing with women, I tell them the only thing that separates them from me, is that I’ll face rejection more in a week than they will in their entire life. It’s true. The best salesmen aren’t always the top closers; they just knock on more doors.

Guys also ask me how long it will take to learn and get good. I’ve written articles trying to explain and quantify something like this, but it’s really up to individual experience, work ethic, and the emotional fortitude to deal with a crapload of rejection.

That got me wondering... what qualities make a guy learn success with women quickly? Is there a certain mindset you can embody to become a champion in the shortest amount of time possible? What are the personality quirks and characteristics you can work on to master your transformation in this lifetime?

Liberate Female Sexuality – Orgasms Will COME (Video)

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It’s good when a man knows how to unleash female sexuality.

It’s good for her, for obvious reasons. And it’s good for you because you teach her how to be used for your pleasure (and that is, incidentally, the best way to give a woman pleasure in bed).

And even if you two don’t see each other again, you will have changed her life for the better, giving her a whole new confidence in her sexuality and freedom from self-judgment.

So here’s to liberating her orgasmic female sexuality.

What to Do When Women Titillate You

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Women will try to titillate you for fun, their own amusement, or to see what you'll do. But you can't respond by drooling, OR ignoring them...

When I was young, I always attempted not to react when women tried to titillate me. I knew they were trying to get a reaction out of me, and didn't want to give them the satisfaction of having got one over on me. I'd watched them do it to so many other guys: showing a little skin around a guy and having him flip out... grinding on his crotch on the dance floor and having him go nuts... mentioning something sexual around him and watching him chase.

But I also discovered that, past early high school or so, you also couldn't just ignore a girl's attempts to titillate you and hope for her to drop that and just openly pursue you, either. Instead, if you didn't respond at all to her titillation, she'd assume you weren't interested and move on.

Once I realized this, I had to figure out: how do you respond to a woman's titillation enough that she knows you're interested, but not so much she thinks she 'has' you and loses all interest?

Relentless Pragmatism Pt. 4: Influence Game and Optimization

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Now that we’ve covered Volume and Zen Game, let’s discuss how learning Influence techniques and optimization can turn you into a seduction savant.

Welcome back, students of the game.

In this series, we’ve been looking at the journey of learning pickup from the ground up. We’ve looked at:

  • Steps you can take to become more attractive

  • Different ways to screen for receptive girls you want to meet

  • Naturally attractive personas you can adopt to transform your results with women

As we've explored the schools of seduction, one recurring topic is the pragmatic implications of dating advice from each game class. We’ve also looked closely at polarization and maximization and the effects each have on your style and how women react to you.

Whether you’re searching for the perfect girlfriend, looking to build an impressive and varied roster of casual lovers, or reinventing yourself as Don Juan to carpe diem your way into scads of beautiful women, this series shows how relentless pragmatism can help you climb the ladder toward an improved sex life and amazing results with women.

Today, we’ll look at the Influence game class and start examining more advanced, cutting-edge applications of this mindset. I’ll break these down into simple, straightforward ideas that anyone can understand and use. These skills will help you ascend beyond plateaus and sticking points, all the way up to a penthouse of dating success, packed with sexy girls of your choosing. Experienced readers and ambitious students of the game may find today’s insights especially advantageous for gaining awareness of the criteria used by the best seducers to define progress and dating success.

We’ll also discuss specific tips (with a little help from Pete and Matthew) on how to optimize your girl-getting process according to specific parameters of mastery. Regardless of your current level of experience when it comes to picking up girls, by the end of this article, you will notice a deeper sense of familiarity with the process of making progress.

You might be content staying in one of the other two game classes, or you don’t feel quite ready to subscribe to the Influence game class just yet. The discussion topics today will be broad and multifaceted. You can easily cherry-pick a couple of useful techniques, innovative ideas, or insights into female psychology to bring more positive experiences as you meet and seduce women.

It’s essential for seducers who are subscribed to the Volume or Zen game class to learn and internalize the concepts of these classes. To succeed as a controller, you’ll need solid fundamentals and a decent amount of experience with cold approach. Rushing through game classes often leads to much bigger learning curves with other schools of seduction. But you might be a seducer who understands the game class you’ve subscribed to but wish to solve nagging sticking points. You want to start sleeping with women more often or take the quality of their lovers to the next level. It’s crucial to realize when you’ve reached your ceiling as a screener or natural. So if you are at a plateau, it might be time to move forward.

Don’t worry if you’re still getting the hang of Zen or Volume game. You’ll easily become proficient by learning alongside our protagonists, Matthew and Pete, and applying the concepts discussed in this series regarding previous schools of seduction. This article serves as an inspiring sneak peek at what’s possible when you inject your dating lifestyle with a double dose of relentless pragmatism.

Do Seducers Seek Women's Approval?

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If you go out to flirt and talk with women, and you set up dates, and have sex, does that mean what you’re really after is female approval? Well, yes and no.

There is this argument that resurfaces every so often from the MGTOW/MRA/incel crowd. The argument is that by approaching women, flirting with them, asking them out, and sleeping with them, you are engaged in approval-seeking behavior. A seducer is the ultimate 'approval seeker', by this logic, because he devotes even more time to seeking out women to date and bed than an ordinary guy.

It's an interesting argument.

At its core, there is truth. There's a fair bit of approval seeking among some chunks of dating men. And in general, any public activity you engage in to any extent involves at least a little approval seeking.

Speaking to another human is always going to be a form of approval speaking: you want this other human to acknowledge (and approve of) your thoughts, perspectives, point of view. (If you don't think that's the case, then find me one person who has no reaction when his thoughts or perspectives are rejected and mocked by another individual. Such a man is very rare.)

You want to feel (in the language of today's progressives) validated (approved of) by others.

The "Hover and Disqualify" Pickup Technique

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Girls crave attention and are prone to jealousy. The “hover and disqualify” technique uses those emotions to trigger the chase instinct in any girl you choose.

Hey, guys! Here’s a simple pickup technique you can add to your arsenal. At least try it out. Maybe it will be a technique that works well for you and becomes invaluable!

As far as pickup techniques go, which are the best? That’s a hard question to answer, for many reasons. A reason often disregarded is that some techniques fit certain people better than others.

What factors determine the best technique for you?

The last reason is that pickup must be fun, or it will burn you out. Personally, I can't relate to every good technique and gambit, and I don’t necessarily find them all fun to use.

The only way to truly find out is to try them. Many guys go out there with a bias of “this will not work for me” or “this is not juicy/fun/cool” without having any good reasons to believe so. Usually, their biases tend to be corrected once they try out the technique. So, don’t miss out on anything; try everything!

The technique I’m about to share is both easy to understand and pull off. It does not require a weird or funky personality. This technique is universal and suitable for players of all levels. Yes, beginners may have some success with it, too.

It’s only been used in night game locations like clubs and bars. I have not tried it out in other places yet. So feel free to experiment.

But one thing's for sure: it works crazy well on dance floors!

Let’s get into it.

How to Get Fast Sex and Pick Up Girls Quick

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fast sexIn my last article, I talked about putting in your practice to get good with girls.

Let's take a break from all this practice, and grinding, and gradual improvement. What if you just want to hook up with a girl... as soon as possible?

One of the things we discussed last article was going out in 'make it happen mode', and how if you know what you're doing you can actually pull this off.

On my article "I'm Doing Everything to Succeed with Women but It's Still Not Working!", Bizzy comments:

But I have a question: have you ever done an article about how to get sex the fastest way, without doing dates, online dating, chatting and all that stuff? I mean like, only cold approach a woman and then having sex immediately?! I used to do this in my early 20s and was actually successful a few times, but now I am older and don't feel like approaching 100 women to get a few lays. I want to approach just a few women that I think I have a shot with and then close the deal. I am just lazy now, I am sick of dating, talking, pretending and all that. Women notice me, they smile and look at me but I really don't like to take them out on dates, I just would like to take them home and have fun, like when I see a hot girl in a store.

This is sort of one of the Holy Grails of seduction, and it's not usually something you will consistently pull off. So just be aware of that going in.

However, it is indeed something you can do.

Today, we're going to talk about it.