Every man has flaws. However, with a little spin, you can turn ordinary flaws into attractive, Byronic flaws.
A commenter on my article “Don’t be So Afraid to Compliment Others” asks:
“How attractive is it when you say that “I’m terrible at getting into deep connections with people, there are always people I like, but I never get attached that much so that it was too hard to let people go or go away myself. Free choice always stays my priority.”.
Because it’s the trait I really have.”
If you tell her you’re someone who doesn’t connect well with others, usually that’s no good. It sounds like you have a flaw. Or you’re too hard to get. You’re likely to send her into auto-rejection or just turn her off.
Yet there’s a way to frame this. One that works well. All you do is say this:
“You know, I love people. But most girls can’t get past my armor. I don’t know what it is... And I don’t know why I can’t let them in. I so wish I could meet a girl I connect with. It just seems like the average girl is not connection material.”
Just like that, a flaw becomes an asset.
It becomes a Byronic trait. The kind of thing girls go nuts for in men.
And all it takes to do it? Just a little frame control.