Stillness
When I was in high school, I focused really hard on being very still and moving slowly. I thought it made me seem more dominant and powerful, so I put a lot of energy into mastering it.
Nowadays, paying more attention when I'm out and hanging with girls, I'm realizing this is a big thing, nonverbally. Women are very attuned to how still you are. Being still radiates power.
One of the ways I've come to understand this better is through taking a camera acting class. You can see it with someone who keeps moving -- legs, arms, body, head, whatever -- vs. someone who is still. Someone who keeps moving puts his energy out through his body. Someone who is still keeps that energy inside of him and just radiates it out of him.
This is one of the big things the entertainer guys are missing. They're moving around so much, spending so much energy, so busy being all over the place, that they never take the time to relax, direct their energy upon one person, really pull that person into their world, their vibe, their reality, and just be still.
Stillness, I think, is a big part of "charisma" or "magnetism" or whatever you call it. It makes someone seem imposing, confident, in-control, and unreactive. Other people are moving around all about him, and there he is, relaxed, unharried, and comfortable in his own space.
Chase
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I agree with this. I learned stillness through martial arts and meditation. An interesting thing that I've found is that you can be incredibly still, and if an opportunity arises to 'snap' with incredible speed before immediately returning to calm and still.
It shows that as you've said, you are calm and radiating power in your 'ground state' and then something happens and you can show your ability to react and move quickly w/o hesitation before bringing yourself down to immediate calmness again.
Here's an example of what happened to me. I was practicing some of your techniques out in the quad at my college. Casually talking with a couple of really cute girls I had cold approached. Being as suave, disinterested, and generally seductive as I could muster. The two were eating it up. I was mentally checking myself to talk slowly, to move slowly. To show really low effort in my physical and verbal action.
Then one of my pledge brothers surprised me by throwing a bullet football my direction from the right while yelling "Seth catch!"
In an instant I went from completely calm and slow to a fast snap of my hands catching the ball, tossing it back, giving the friend an acknowledging nod and returning to my calm and disinterested state.
And it was like MAGIC. Immediately I noticed that the two girls were FAR more interested/attracted then they were only moments before.
I'm not sure how you can cause these situations in an every day kind of thing. But it was a cool thing to notice.
The reason I feel that it upped the attraction was because the girls had been assuming by my action that I had a degree of control over myself and that I was calm. Then when I reacted quickly (when I had to) and immediately brought myself down from a state of 'excitement' to complete calm it shined my own personal control.
May be something to look into Chase!
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