Persist In Your Insistence

Getting investment from women is a crucial element of your success with them. Men who fail to get investment fail to move things forward with the women in their lives – it’s as simple as that. Investment is vital.

So what happens when you ask for compliance and get a “no”? What happens when you say, “Come with me,” and she just shakes her head and stays put?

A common response from a lot of guys is they back down; they retreat from their compliance requests or compliance demands, and forget about it. The following scenario is typical in a number of guys’ interactions:

Guy: “Come with me, let’s go hit the bar.”

Girl: “I don’t feel like it… I’d rather just stay here.”

Guy: “OK… we can stay.”

Then the guy stays there, by the girl’s side.

Just looking at that interaction, what would you guess was the effect on this woman’s level of interest in this cat following this exchange?

Think she became more interested… or less so?

Women respond powerfully to dominance. Anyone who’s ever dominated a woman in public and watched her swoon knows what I’m talking about. And anyone who’s dominated a woman in the bedroom and listened to her cum really fast knows too. Women find dominance incredibly attractive… incredibly sexy.

And just as they find dominance incredibly compelling, women find a lack of dominance incredibly disheartening. What could be a bigger damper on a woman’s attraction toward a man than recognizing he can’t make her want to follow him? Women want men they feel compelled to be with, to follow, and to give themselves to. They don’t want men they don’t feel that way toward. And if she detects herself rejecting a man’s efforts to make her follow, she’ll quickly decide he isn’t the kind of man she’s looking for.

So, yeah – the answer was less so. A man backing down is a big turn-off; it’s a surefire way to pull the rug out from underneath any degree of attraction a girl has for a guy.

What’s the solution to these tough situations, then? It’s the Hard Push – which, as you may recall from Don’t Let Her Go, is all about persistence. Persistence in refusing to let a woman refuse you. Persistence in insisting she join you in whatever feat of investment you ask her to make, no matter how big or small.

Part of this is your own level of calibration, of course – if you’re asking her to lend you $10,000 and you’ve just met an hour earlier, unless you’re one of the smoothest talkers on Earth there’s no way you’re going to pull that off. You’re asking for too much, too soon. So, like anything, calibration is key.

Beyond that though, you need to use the Hard Push. Insist that a woman comply with your request or demand. Do so in a nice way, in a way that is almost kind and polite and disarming – you don’t want to seem pushy, or you’ll cause people to recoil in defensiveness. Instead, be warm and caring and persistent. Persist because you know that if she complies, she will be benefiting her own life enormously – she’ll be getting closer to having you in it.

In that light, take a look at this example:

Guy: “Come with me, let’s go hit the bar.”

Girl: “I don’t feel like it… I’d rather just stay here.”

Guy: “Come, we’re going. Let’s go.”

Then, the girl protests a little more, but relents and goes with him.

Now how would you guess the woman’s interest level was affected? Down or up?

Dominance – or confidence – like that is for all intents and purposes an aphrodisiac for women. And it sets the right precedent – the precedent that the man gets what he asks for when it comes to investment. This will cause others to respect him vastly more, and will limit challenging by others (and women) down the road.

So when you encounter these trying situations where a woman resists giving you what you’ve asked for, don’t back down – instead, persist in insisting. It’s how you show a woman you’re interested, and you know what you want – and she’ll appreciate it very much.

Chase