Keep It Low Profile and Get the Girl
When you enter a club or a mall or a party and you see strangers that you don’t know, dressed well and talking to people, it is easy to assume that they know something or have something you do not. These people operating on that “high profile” aren’t very likely to come up and talk to you, so it can be a huge shock if and when they do.
Their arms may slung around you and you stutter in shock, wondering exactly what to do; you are tongue tied; you can’t even think about anything other than wearing a smile and quickly getting out of there. Once you do escape they are left wondering where you went, but then quickly forget about it and move on.
Think about women for a second in this exact same situation: does a woman really want to be a part of that all the time - do you? Or does she want her sex life to be under the radar and personally suited to her?
We do, of course, get used to that kind of behaviour and come back to the world of the living and make do with what we are given... but on the other hand, is it not true that during that experience we look for someone low profile? And is it not true that we notice these low profile individuals even if they are across the room? And isn’t it true that if we see that person during that drama looking right back at us that we look directly back at them.
Forget pretending to be like high profile guys all the time, and embrace your inner “low profile” approach. Be the kind of guy that appears confidently low profile because, the chances are higher that she will be receptive to your approach if she senses a “common ground”. And the secret to every woman is that she is secretly waiting for that time she can brush off her friends and walk over to a man that transfixes her and leave them playing catch up.
How to Get Started
The low profile man isn’t pushed out of the way by everyone; he has space and seems unflustered by the hustle and bustle.
How he interacts with women and his world around him
It seems like women warm up to him effortlessly, and the more that is true, the more desirable he becomes.
His body language and sub-communication
He knows something, but won’t intrude; he just gives you a little encouragement and support.
What Comes Next
She is going to start checking up on you through the night and use her powers of observation and intuition to sense more about you. She is going to be much more sensitive to subtle gestures, ways you signal other people or touch them; she is going to observe the way you move and ask the questions desire can only make her ask.
Now, there are two possible outcomes here: one where you take the high profile route to her, and one where you become even more low key.
Eventually you are going to notice her staring, or looking at you, and she will look away fast, and at that point you have to change lanes into a more active and chasing role.
You understand ahead of time that you will at some point catch her looking, and you slow yourself down, so that when you do catch eyes you aren’t flattering yourself, but instead connecting with her like she secretly desires.
You really have to say to yourself, “Okay, it’s natural that she is
to look at me; what I need to do is understand that, and like it in a
way that she won’t think is cocky”.
You need to forget being that “tough” guy who postures to show that “girls like him and he is a big deal”, and you need to show an open nature and an internal confidence that accepts her sexual desire.
How to manage yourself through the night
Much of improving your appearance will be about minimising the negative ways you interact with the world and about enhancing a fit with her, emotionally, and, dare I say, “melodically”, through how long it takes you to switch between tasks (fast switching is higher profile, switching that is predictable is boring; fresh and slow is the sweet spot).
If you worry too much, snap into uncontrolled bouts of melancholy, or generally hold a low opinion of yourself in social situations, people will tend to break free from your intrigue and go on with their night.
So in short, you need to balance tempo, freshness, and your own good mood, and this comes across as being graceful.
How to use your intuition
A person’s nonverbal reactions will tell you better how people perceive you than can a mirror or a video camera. If you can change how a person feels when around you, you will be changing how you look to them. If it seems like something might interest her, it’s probably good to assume it might make your appearance to her a little better.
Use this way of judging your actions; don’t get analytical, or feel
like “she might not like what she sees”. You don’t want to be the guy
doing up his hair in the mirror and dusting crumbs off his shirt
because he knows a girl is going to be looking at him - you want to pay
attention to what might fascinate her and make her feel that you are on
the same wavelength as her. Those are things like facial
expressions, body language, movement, and
other nonverbal signals before you get into verbal communication with
There are two options here: one where she pretends to be high profile and you recover (which likely involves you blowing off the fact that you were looking at her looking at you all night) and one where you keep low profile during the introduction with nothing but a fire in your relaxed gaze that tells her you may be interested in taking this further.
That first approach is pretty standard with what most guys do - go
be active and communicate and take the reins hard.
Here are some keys to that second approach - the man who stays low profile:
He doesn’t worry
He has thought a few moves ahead and will casually introduce some spice he prepared earlier when the time is best for her (he does this because he knows it is going to be amazing and he can wait).
This might be something like a very casually delivered, but very
incisive, compliment about her hair or
clothes or walk or voice; or it might be an unexpected but eloquent and
perfectly timed invitation for her to come sit with him, or join him
outside for a puff of fresh air.
He doesn’t change
He is adaptive to demands, but is so in a way that doesn’t change him; her girlfriend gets satisfied by his responses, but he remains unflustered and true to his original self.
Him: I see. You’re actually a bit of a dreamer then - like me.
Friend: Where are your friends?
Him: Back home, sleeping; they are reaching that age where going out happens less and less. But for me, the draw of the night, of good drinks and good music, is still there.
Friend: Oh... yeah, some of our friends have really stopped going out much too.
Him: There’s something vital in going out, drinking in the energy, meeting new people or not meeting new people, that you miss when you only stay at home all the time. I know it is for some people, growing old and staying in, but for me, there will always be the night.
Friend: So true! I need to go out and break free from work, eat, sleep, all the time. I'd go crazy staying inside so much!
He weathers the storm
Ultimately he is waiting for the right opportunity to verbalise his knowledge of her desire. And when he does, it will be excruciatingly slow and sensual and will strip her bare.
However, in the mean time he allows her to take a few things for granted whilst holding a subtle, knowing smirk inside.
He’s unshakeably honest
He doesn’t tell her he loves her; he doesn’t say something crude; he cuts to the point and takes it steady and slow so it doesn’t overwhelm her and so she can enjoy it.
“I want to get you alone” might work but be followed with lots of questions from her end, so instead he says it more like “Should we just get out of here now”, which is a similar message that jumps a step ahead of her frantic questioning.
He doesn’t have Tetris sex
He doesn’t bend her at a right angle and figure out where the block goes but instead twists her up like a vine around a tree. And that image flickers in his eyes and everything alludes to it from his tempo, to the way he doesn’t change.
These factors are keys to her predicting passionate sex and make the low key approach work.
This is probably the most common way people meet, so you don’t want to do it in a boring way. To do it really well it is important to allow the woman to gain perspective about you (to leave pauses but to then engage and disarm her after).
Have an attitude that, whilst you are some sparkly eyed piece of ripe fruit ready for the picking, that there is more to you than that.
It is all too easy to kiss a girl that stumbles over in a trance because you and her just managed to stumble into each other by fate, but it can be enhanced if you know how to tease her a bit, without completely pushing her away, and the best way to do it is to take the lead, and give her the space through what you are doing to get into a space of positive, cool, subtle and stable decision making.
What I mean by that is, push her a little bit and tease her, so that she can’t help but chase you a little. Keep it light, and addictive, and if kissing is involved, add playful little things to it, and frustrate her a little and laugh at her a little (but not so much that she commits to pouting).
Give her enough that she wants more, but stop before she stops, so
that she is not fully satisfied. Tease her with this; make her chase
after it; make her desire for it soar up into the sky.
Keep her relaxed, by making her not have to be perfect, or serious, or impressive. Accept her as she is, and signal that you like her like that with little rewards now and then, like a spontaneous hug, or stroking her under the table.
The Deadly Mistake
When you are being low key, never “take a backwards step”. If a girl is in a coffee shop and you walk into the place, do you run away to a corner to shut everyone out? Or do you pick a spot that is close enough to the action that she can initiate conversation or look at you without huge difficulty.
It is small decisions like that, that will determine if she likes you or if she turns off completely. So never commit to boring actions like that, and if really pushed, throw off the low-key attitude and be more upfront and show her you can mix it with her in a fresh new way.
Later you can be low key again, but you’ll need a signal of trust like a pout or a ready smile from her end.
Most guys do this naturally to some extent but get the details
wrong, but if you do manage to get the details right, it sets a great
relationships, and also for short flings. It can also set up a friend
with benefits scenario if she is like “you are so full of bullshit” and
reply “and yet you are still on for Saturday night ;)”, “of course”
because the sex is so casual, low key, and good.
Low-key seductions can really be a bread and butter move that helps you expand to other things later, however, they are enhanced by knowing how to change it up when necessary. They are really great for entering social circles and having girls “know you” in a special kind of way that might have them suggest you to friends.
Staying low key keeps high leverage on the results and has high impact if the sexual intent is displayed at that teasing level that girls like the most.
If you really want a great basic seduction style, look no further than low key because it really can turn the average into something very easy to work with and have a girl under your spell. Why be envious of people acting out their lives in a high profile way, when you have everything you need right there in front of you!
A low-key approach is a deeply confident approach, and it can really compete with the high-energy party style, so don’t be afraid to use it to its max potential - it rocks, and gets the girl.
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