How to Ask a Girl Out and (Almost) Always Get a “Yes!”

Hello chase. There's this girl that i work with, i know she likes me. and i plan to do so. But after reading this my plan doesn't seem to good. anyhow this is my plan. its simply just to pull her aside at the beginning of the day and ask her if she would like to have lunch with me sometime. and i mean by lunch is our 30 minute lunch break. so do you think this is a good approach or should i start up a conversation first?
also the reason i know she likes me is a mutual friend of ours told me.
i also work next to her and we talk and flirt throughout the day.
i would appreciate any comments or advice.
Thanks in advance

hey chase if i put a letter in a girls letter when should i ask her out

I saw this girl in civics class and just wanted her. It has been maybe 4 days or less and everything gets me to melt around her.

I want to talk to her but dont know what to talk about but I dont wana wait too long.

How can I approach her.

I am 15 years old btw.

Hi Chase,
Absolutely fantastic article, a lot of stuff in there I never thought of, but one bit is really troubling me:
The idea of being in the middle of a conversation and casually mentioning the idea of going down to the local cafe later sounds effective and easy, and I can see why you could easily get a yes, but how do you make it clear that it's a date and not 2 friends hanging out? Maybe you ask her out again, but she still doesn't realise that you're trying to build an intimate relationship rather than a friendship - how can I make it clear that I want her to be my girlfriend with this method? And how do things escalate from there? How do I get to the point where we're properly "going out" where where she officially acknowledges me as her boyfriend?
I'm 16 and never really had a proper girlfriend before, but there's this one girl that's stuck in my head and I want to get to know and then ask out - I want to have a conversation and make sure I like her and then during that conversation use this method of mentioning maybe getting coffee to ask her out, but as I say, how does she know it's a date?
Thanks so much!

Hey Chase,
Towards the end of the date, what would you do? Would you reach out to hold her hand, kiss her, just give her a kiss on the cheek goodbye or something completely different?

Thanx

I'm usually the shy type of person (cancer zodiac sign, personality type INFJ, which says a lot about me)
I started liking this girl that I have for my 2nd, 4th, 5th & 6th periods.
Not sure exactly if she feels the same way.. I've made her laugh and i think that she might consider me as a friend if i don't do anything soon enough.. She has talked to me about her life a bit and some of her personal life (like things you don't tell just anyone). Not sure what to do.. I was considering asking her to grab a bite at the local in-n-out (1 block away from my HS) but I'd like some direct advice on what should I really do.. Anything is appreciated :)

I like your advice on things to do. I know of parks and cafe's around my neighborhood but she lives in another neighborhood. There is also a mall about 15 minutes away. It's not like I can pick her up and take her anywhere. Is it rude to ask her to meet me somewhere? What do I do?

Ok, I need help. There is this girl that I share a class with, and I believe that she likes me. Because of the body language and staring. She also sometimes brings out a random question just to talk to me. (at least that's what I think that is). So, we don't talk much and she is kinda ignoring me on Facebook. She is always with friends and never alone. I want to ask her out on a date. I need tips. PLEASE.

I have already known this girl for about 5 weeks and we see eachother fairly often. Is it too late? I want to ask her to homecoming. Do you have any help for me? It would be much aprecciated!

Heyy... This girl was really into me last year and I used to like her and then I stopped liking her because I thought she didn't like me... So, she got all her friends to come and ask me if I liked her and I didn't at the time so I said no... And now, 5 months later, I REALL REALLY like her again and I don't know if she likes me... Plus, my best friend is going out with her, but that shouldn't last cause I don't think she really likes him... Anyways... I NEED HELP... FAST!! -JDS...2900

I am I 13 year old boy, I'm a little big for my age but I really like this 1 Irish girl named Katie. I'm super afraid she's gonna reject me, she might take all your advice as a total insult, I don't have her phone number, but I'm friends with her next door neighbor, she's very active and I'm active to. I see her 8th period at school and 3 times a week at another activity that I do. Idk if I really want to ask her out to a cafe, but something she'd like, I just don't know how to get her to like me and want to hang out with me, I just started liking her about a week an a half ago. Please I really need some help!

I am not the most handsome person in the world and this girl is really beautiful in my eyes. No other person thinks this. But I don't THINK she likes me????
HELP!!!

PS AMAZING ARTICLE.

So I asked a girl to lunch, I know she likes me because she flirts with me in class and recently invited me to go study for a test among her friends.. A couple days after the study session I sent her a cold text, might've been a little random but I didn't want the window to close.

"Hey I was wondering if you would like to have lunch with me sometime next week?" sent the text yesterday still haven't got a response... Do you think she's still thinking about lunch or not? I see her once a week so I plan on playing it off like nothing happened and play it cool.

Hi chase, it's Marco, so I've been talking a little with the Irish girl I like and things are going better. I might of accidentally ticked her off, I thaught she left the building and when I was about to leave she was sitting there and with a small pointed finger I said "how long you been there?" I don't know what to do in a 13 year old boy who needs info please help

Very helpful article.

Here is my scenario, if you have any advice I'd appreciate it:

There is a girl that I really like in one of my college classes. We dont have assigned seating, but we always seem to sit right next to eachother.

When would be a good time to ask her out? Before class when we are sitting there? Or would after class be better? I worry that before class may be weird considering that lots of others are around. And if she says no, would I worry that things could be awkward if she says no.

Any advice would be awesome. Thanks

Hi chase how would u leave when yif you get a yes?

I asked this girl in my ROTC class to go to homecoming with me. We just had it Saturday and we had a lot of fun. We slow danced ate a nice romantic dinner but I want to date her. We mentioned something about dating at dinner it was that every one of our friends think we are dating but I don't know if we really are. I want to go out with her she's really pretty and we have so much in common. I don't really know what to do I want to ask her out but I don't know If she thinks we're dating or if she doesn't. I don't want to ask and then she think we are or I assume we are and she doesn't. Our friends think we are and at dinner when we were talking about it, she seemed to have the look of kinda ya well aren't you or something like that. Any help would be great i find my self in a rut.

I have only read this one of your articles and i got to say that I think your a mad genius with this article. I'm a little younger than you when you asked that girl to the dance. But, I understood all of it and truthfully it has given me hope that my crush will say yes. Also this article has given me the inspiration to always ask out the girl I have a crush on. Even though it is a no I think a lot of guys out there are still scared so I think you should do and article about getting that fear out of people. I'm actually dreadfully afraid to ask out my crush because I have already asked out twice in the passed two months I think. Also it is hard for me to get a girl friend because I'm more on the nerd side than bad boy and I just have the worst acne you would ever see. You have given me hope that she will say yes. So it is a Sunday and there is school tomorrow and I'm going to ask her out using your method. Your brilliant method. You have given a young man a hope of love and inspiration.

Dear Chase,

I like this girl but I can't tell if she likes me so I just don't say anything. Is there anything I can do to tell if she likes me?

well i got a no from the girl i liked but these are still some pretty awsome tips and qudos to the author :)

I tried to ask or sort of ask a girl out we'll not really but she said this

hey ***, that's really sweet. You seem really nice too even though we don't really know each other well yet.

What do you do if you have seen a girl recently quite a few times and you want to ask her out but you won't see her for ages. I don't want to seem to clingy because I usually just txt her so how do I get a opportunity for a phone call?

What would you do if you liked a girl, and you hung out with her with other people and you really enjoy her company but you can't find a way to be able to talk to her cause you won't see her for like another 9 months. How do you get a call going with her

Ok, this is a mess. There is this girl. She is actually a really good friend of mine. She recently got out of a two year relationship. Lately, we have been hanging out a lot. I have always been interested in her, and now I feel like I may have a chance. I'm worried though that it might be too soon. She just got out of a relationship, how long should I wait to ask her out? Should I give her time to just be single for a while? I don't even know if she has any feelings for me? What should I do?

Hello so I just had a question about this girl
So I know this girl from my high school tennis team which I played for even tho I do an online public school so we never really talked but I found her attractive and interesting so both girls and boys went on a trip to play state and I'm not going to lie I beasted it up pretty good the boys team won and I'm pretty sure she watched a lot of my matches I was voted MVP when we were staying at the hotel during state we'd pass by each other every now and then we were friendly but nothing too much we are following each other on Instagram and she posted a pic of her an her friend in a bikini and I gave the emoti thumbs up and then she replied with a face blowing a kiss 3 times I was thinking about asking her out but it would have to be over Facebook since I don't go to her school if anyone could give me there thoughts I'd appreciate it thank
Sam

can you ask a girl out by asking them if they like you?

I need some help fast and badly. There is this girl I really like and we have been best friends for around 3-4 years. I honestly lost track but I'm leaving the school we went to together and I'm not sure if I should ask her out or what? (Were also really young. Probably far to young to even care about this stuff.) he dad is also the teacher at her school.. (Don't know if that matters but..) if anyone could help I would be grateful and one last thing. I noticed I liked her a few weeks after we met. I've been waiting a few years to ask her out because of how young we were/are. Could someone help? I won't be able to talk to her at all soon and I'm not sure if I'll ever see her again.

Your strategy on taking rejection worked beautifully.
I thank you for that, sir.

Ok, a guy just asked me out three days ago. I definitely believe you are right in what you are saying. I've never talked with this guy before. I was working at the dining hall in my school and he came and asked me for a coffee and he kept asking for stuff and the he said: "I'm just making time because I want to get to know you better." The moment he said that I felt how my face was turning red, and I couldn't stop smiling.Then after we talked a little bit more he asked me if we could get some lunch sometime this week. The first thing I said was "Idk, I don't know you" then he replied "Well, that's a good way to get to know each other". Honestly I felt like I just couldn't deny that, since it obviously makes sense. I didn't say yes at that moment. He said his phone died so he gave me his number instead and asked me to text him so we could set a day for our date. I never really said I was going to go out with him. However, the next day I text him with my name and I told him we met the night before at the dining hall. I didn't say anything about going out. So after a few text messages, he asked me again if we could eat something together but I was busy that night. So he asked me again for Wednesday night or Saturday at 2 pm. I have exams on those days so I said I couldn't do wed. nor sat. but I told him maybe Sunday. I really thought he was going to give up on me the moment I rejected him all these times before; but to my surprised he asked me "what time Sunday" so now it is official that we'll meet this Sunday for lunch. Of course I don't know if i like him. I've only talked to him for a few minutes. At first I felt a little scared thinking that he wants something else from this 1st date, and maybe he does, but the fact that he asked me for lunch makes me less nervous since I know he is not only thinking about meeting at night. However, what also scares me is that he obviously seems to have a lot of experience with girls because besides the fact that he is good looking, I noticed the moment he talked to me that he was saying exactly what he needed to say to get me to say yes. I don't have a lot of experience with guys. I've only had 1 boyfriend who I met when I was 16 and we dated for three years. he broke up with me a few months ago. So, the fact that I know this guy knows what he is doing makes me a little bit more nervous. Buy the way, I'm a serious girl. School is my priority right now. I don't really want a relationship right now, but I feel like I want to give this guy a chance, at least to see what he "has to offer," u know what I mean? but at the same time, I also feel I should be alert in case he wants to play with me. What do u think? Is it crazy that I'm going on a date with someone I've only talked for a few mins? by the way, he let me choose the place so I chose somewhere near campus so that I don't have to get in his car nor anything like that. he was cool with it. Is that a good sign that he is not expecting anything (u know what) to happen on Sunday?

i have liked this girl for some time now. We talk alot, but i dont think she likes me. She goes around saying "oh what a babe" or "cute!" to a ton of guys (almost like flirting). She does this to me like everyday, but i dont think she actually means it. One time my freind got ahold of my phone and texted her "wanna go out sometime" and she said "no, thats ok." i REALLY like her but im afraid if i ask her and she says no, that ill become the laughing stalk of the school.(that happens to every rejected guy). I just wanna know how to handle this situation before one of the "popular guys" takes her! Note: Shes somewhat one of those popular girls, and im kinda. and she loves it when i joke around. PLEASE HELP ME....

Thanks, That really helped

Hello to anyone that can help with my little situation. My name is Josh and I really like this girl in my class. When I approach her to ask her out, I always freeze up and never do it at the end. I'm 13 and want to go out with her. I never asked a girl out in person but I want her to be the first. Any tips or ideas in what I should do? I want to ask her out to the movies but not entirely sure what to do. If anyone could help please do so :) I also I have 1 period with her and I sit next to the her. Any ideas? I thanks - Josh

what is an OK age difference. I have a huge crush on my fitness instructor. She is 34 and I am 45. Is that too big of a difference. We get along well but I am client of hers so I also can't be sure if she is so nice to me because I am a client or because she likes me. I really like her what do I

There's this girl I really like but i don't know what to say. We are really good friends but I need advice about getting out of the friend zone.
Thanks Chase

I asked this girl to go ice skaten with me and a few other friends. She txt me that night and said she hurt her knee. Should i go for it again or what. We are really good friends and i dnt wana jeprotuse that.

Hiiiii!

So to start off, I am a 16 year old guy who looks pretty decent and has a good relationship with his "crush".
Im not too sure how close I am to the girl, but for the past few weeks, i've been chatting with her on skype EVERY SINGLE DAY. And this used to be me just randomly wanting to talk to her and i just hit her up... BUT! lately, she's been the one to start the conversation by either saying stuff like "ahhhh the test was soo harddd" something like that...
ANYWAYYY... I knew her for 4 years and I just started talking to her casually every day just a month ago, and i had this conversation with her once where she suddenly asked me if i used to like her. Well, this led to me saying yes, blablabla, then she says she liked me back at some point... but I don't really know if this is a sign for me to ask her out....
Both of us were kinda busy lately with the semester exams and stuff, but it ends in a couple of days and i found out that she's not going anywhere!!!!
PROBLEM: I have no idea what to say or what to ask her...
Everytime i have a conversation with her, it gets flirty at some point, but it suddenly changes back into a friendly chat...

Any advice on what to say to her?

EXTRA INFO ABOUT COMMON THINGS BETWEEN ME AND HER:
- we both play the clarinet (very well)
- from the same country, (asian BUT 100% international)
- we love eating~! yayyyy
- we pretty much hate the same people

EXTRA INFO ABOUT MEEEEE:
- people see me as the fun to talk to, funny guy
- i am a very good speaker, can change topics very smoothly
- ^ BUT I GET STUCK WHEN IM TALKING TO CRUSH T_T not that bad but still...

Today I asked this girl out, keep in mind i'm 14 and she's 15. But I asked her, "Hey do you wanna do anything over the weekend." She looked at me all surprised and after a short pause she said, "I don't care." I said, "Well would you maybe want my number, or could I get yours?" She said, "I don't care," once again. Than I said, "Well here I'll give you my number." She pulled out her phone and I think took my number. I'm not sure though because I don't know if she just put it in to the dial box to make it seem like she took my number or if she actually did take my number. I'm in 8th grade and she's in 9th, I know that's kind of wierd but I really like this girl, and up until now I was pretty sure she liked me in some way or another. This is my first time asking a girl out. And like your article said, I was pretty casual about it. We always get along pretty well and I really like her. I know I sound very paranoid but her reaction was less than what I wanted or even expected. My friends are what some could call studs and have had many girlfriends so they don't see this as a big deal, they think I'm only doing this as a dating experiment for my first time. But I truly like her and want us to be together, a reply would be incredible and much appreciated.

Hey Chase

I've really fallen for this girl over the last 8 months because I always send her cute messages on tumblr and such. I haven't properly met her yet and I want to know how to approach the situation of meeting her (and eventually going out with her. I small going to invite her to my o arty early next user, and hopefully become well acquainted with her. I want to ask her out really cheesily ( like the pizza box will you go out with me or is those too cheesy ones) Thanks Chase!

hey chase
all my friends are getting girls and right now i just really depressed and socially awks i fell the the third wheel everytime me and my friends decide to go out, because they always bring their girls wid them they. keep teasing me about being single since birth AND IM SICK OF IT ive asked 5 girls out in my life and each them ended with a harsh NO! i get the feeling that no one in my school likes me sigh highschool sucks ummmm.... i can sing, play guitar and im not hard to look at thats wut my friends say to me after my rejections sigh any helpful suggestions? im open to any really Q_Q

Heya chase,
i need tips & examples for excuses to ask out a girl ....
for a movie or so ??
can u send me ur ID plzz. ??

Hello chase i was wondiering as to the meaning of a girl who is a friend that you like but dont know if she likes you back made a wild asscertain out of the clear blue sky in the middle of french that i watch porn whitch of course i do but thats not the point. so can you please tell me what the reason was except mortail dread.

hello chase i need an interpreter to tell me why the girl i like (also my friend) made the asscertian that i watch porn? which of course i do but thats besides the point. why did she say that in the middle of class besides to instill a feeling of shear terror?
hope you can help.

if you need it im about an 8/10 attractiveness level and tall

I don't know why, but I feel like I love this girl and I am afraid to ask her because I can't stop thinking she might say no. Any help?

alright so i asked out a girl a couple of days ago n she said we dont really talk much and now i talk to her alot like she considers me as her bestfriend now so just wanna know if i should ask her out again n if i should when is the right time

Hey Chase,
There is this girl I like who is a year or two younger than me and we've known each other a long time. The last few times I've seen her I think we've been flirting a bit however I'm confused about the signals she's giving me. At times she says "you are so funny, anon!" and at other times we bicker and it becomes awkward. I've been thinking of asking her out but I'm not sure about these signals she's giving me...help?

yes we r young but

kyle: im really crushing on this girl but i only see her in my church. i take ur advice but i can never talk to her because shes always talking to someone else and when im shes free to talk she has to go!!! what should i do?

simon: i like this girl but if i go out with her she wont leave (trust me i know how she is) but i can tell if we get married her face is gonna change up and look.............howdoiputthis.....UGLY! what should i do

So, I've been working at this mall kiosk for about a month and I noticed this cute girl over at a nearby kiosk. Every once in a while I swear I see her looking over; I don't want to be over confident and assume its at me but it has become prettyy frequent that I see her looking over. The kiosk is shutting down soon and I don't want to miss my chance, butim unsure as to how I should best approach her. I was thinking going up, browsing the merchandise at her kiosk and trying to start a casual conversation, but I'm afraid it might not go so well enough to get me to that confident point to ask her out. On the other hand, I was thinking of just going up and saying something along the lines of "hey, I'm *name*, I work over at the *name of kiosk* kiosk and I was wondering if you wanted to go out sometime" or something along the lines of that....does that come across as too forward?