Do These Things Right and Be Insanely Attractive
Lately I’ve been thinking that getting girls is a lot easier than it used to seem. There are only a few things you really have to do to be very, very attractive to women and stand out among other men. Here’s what I currently think those things are.
#1) Ignore stuff you don’t like, or if it’s really rude tell her it’s not cool.
When girls do stuff that makes you uncomfortable… ignore it. When she shit tests you, asks you something you don’t feel like answering, says something challenging to you… just ignore it. Allow it to roll right over your shoulder, down off your back, and never even bother you.
What do you have to be that way? Why are you like that?
Girl: You’re so cocky.
What’s with XYZ?
You: [inquisitive look]
Girl: I mean, why do you do XYZ? I don’t understand.
You: You are a very funny girl. I think I like you.
Girl: Why am I funny?
You: [point to something or somebody] [girl looks] See that? I used to have a hat like that about 2 years ago…
If you totally ignore her frame, you obliterate it outright, and there’s nothing she can do except accept (tongue-twister alert) your frame or else stop talking to you. And if you’re smooth and cool in how you do it, she won’t want to stop talking to you, so she’ll just have to get used to doing things your way.
This ties in with “get some investment” below. Every time you ignore her frame and she buys into yours, she’s investing in your interaction / relationship.
#2) Bring the energy.
No matter where you are, if you are the guy who is making sure that everyone in the group / area is having a lot of fun and feeling good, you win. Exception is people who are lame / rude and have already blown themselves out of the group… those people are not really your responsibility.
When women see you including others, making sure that other people are engaged in the conversation, helping others enjoy themselves, introducing people, and socializing with strangers who come into your proximity… they realize you are a, or the, leader, and you are bringing a ton of energy to the group.
Chicks dig energy.
And if you bring the energy, chicks dig you.
If you’re in a group and someone looks “out of the conversation”, give them a little punch to the shoulder, some eye contact, and a smile. Recently I’ve noticed that when I do this with someone who is “out”, other socially calibrated people in the group will turn and start engaging this person to bring them back in. It’s like I noticed they are out, said, “Hey, cheer up! You’re part of this group too!” and other folks jumped on the bandwagon to reel them back in.
Not to mention that person, whomever he or she is, will think you are the absolute SHIT for breaking him or her out of that awkward place of being in a group but not really being in the conversation.
Small detail, but powerful.
#3) Be sexy and mysterious.
Sexy eye contact. Sexy smile. Lots of touch. Sexual innuendo and being mysterious. Letting women see that other women like you. Alluding to having to meet up with your friend but saying no more about that friend or the meetup or your friend’s gender if at all possible.
Sexy guys are interesting and welcoming while still somewhat aloof. If a girl feels like there are mysteries about you that she has to discover, she will be excited and want to know all about you. She will start probing, asking you questions, digging. Be a bit evasive and never answer her questions 100% satisfactorily.
Girl: What did you do this week?
You: Hmm… well, besides work, I hit the gym on Monday and Wednesday, and I went to a really cool happy hour on Tuesday and had the best taco of my life… it was steak and calamari and it was DELICIOUS! Oh, I met up with a friend of mine I haven’t seen in a while on Thursday, and we hung out for a while and did some catching up. It was nice. Hitting the gym again this afternoon; then afterwards, I dunno. I’ll figure something out. How about you, what kind of trouble did you get into this week?
#4) Be comfortable.
If you’re comfortable, it’s a lot easier to ignore stuff you don’t like. Ditto with being able to bring the energy and be sexy. Women can instinctively tell when you are comfortable and when you’re not.
I’ve had a couple of incidents recently where chicks called me out in some situation where I became momentarily flustered when I had been otherwise laid back. They saw my discomfort, even as I thought it was pretty well controlled, and started shit testing me more. Fortunately, it’s rare that happens (these days… used to happen a lot more!), but that made me realize recently how attuned to your level of comfort women are.
Similarly, I’ve had women comment on how chill, unaffected, etc. I am. If you’re a dominant guy, being able to bring the energy while still being chill is a huge turn on for women.
#5) Get some investment.
Have girls tell you some stuff about themselves. Move them around. Say, “Hey, come with me,” and lead them somewhere close by (or far away). Get them committing themselves to you by putting in work to be with you.
Get them accustomed to doing what you ask / tell them to.
Then when you want to lead them to sex later, it feels very natural for them to follow your lead to it.
* * * * *
And that’s it. Ignore stuff you don’t like… bring the energy… be sexy. Be laid back and get a little investment.
Of course, other stuff is good, like having a sense of humor and remembering to do some screening and qualifying. Do those five things above though, and women will be aching for you.
Get Your FREE eBook on Texting Girls
Sign up for our email insights series and get a copy of our popular ebook “How to Text Girls” FREE. Learn more ...
Trying to piece together a seduction strategy bit-by-bit, article-by-article, question-by-question? Stop killing yourself doing it the slow and difficult way - and get it all spelled out for you instead, in detail, in exactly the order you need to learn it... with homework, too.
With our complete mastery pick up package, you'll get our 406-page how-to eBook How to Make Girls Chase, our 63-minute long video Spellbinding: Get Her Talking, and 3 hours of audio training - all for less than the price of the book and video alone.
Quit banging your head against the wall - get it now, to speed your learning curve up dramatically... and start really getting the women you want to want you too. You can go right here to get started and be downloading your programs in minutes: How to Be a Pick Up Artist.